Wednesday, 30. September 2009, 09:52:40
Children! They fill our world from the day they where born and from that day, the rest of our lives!
We could easy give our hands, feet and our lives for them. They are our happines and joy, meaning of life and our great worries!
Can we give them all they need?
Will we be good enough parents?
Can we protect them from all evil and sorrows?
Will they blame us if we can´t?
From the day we hold our newborn child in our arms the questions Spins in our heads and hearts and we have so many doubts about oueselves as good parents.
And from the day they are born our greatest fear is to loose them!! I don´t think there are any human beeing in the world who can imagine to live without there child!
When I had my first child and looked at her in my arms I got panic and cried. Because how in heavens name could I have another child??? When I loved this little babygirl that I held in my arms so much, how could I ever love any other child as much as her?? Well, that problem was solved by itself. when I had my second and third I just realized that in a parents heart there are an endless river of love, enough for every child you have!! Thank God!!!
My daughters are now grown up and lives there own lives and I gave them all I could and it was enough they say, even if I did not always thought so.
I have had big doubdts as myself as a mother, but they say I did all right and they can´t think of any better!Bless them!!
I have not been able to protect them for every sad, evel, pain or sorrows no one can!
And they do not blame me! We have a wonderful relationship and love eachother and I am so greatful for them and there love love! And I am proud over the fantastic persons they have becomed!
I really mean that parents must earn there childrens love and respect by giving the love without any doubts and show them deep respect. A parent is obligated to love there child but not nessecery all things that the child do!We have chosen to have these children, they did not chose us!That is something to think about!
You know I love poetry and I have a lyric to a song from a Norwegien singer and songwriter, Åge Alexandersen, wich I have freely translated for you! It is a song about parenthood and it says so much. You can listen to it here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZtneNiMbbU&feature=relatedLight and warmth
When the darkness now have come,
I slowly walk true the room in silence
And the feelings that rips me apart
What will the future give you?
The inherrit we have given you
Can be a heavy burden
Will you ask us, will you blame us
will you think we let you down?
But the sun who went down this night
will shine for you my dearest
The birds wich is free will show you the way, and it will be
a lot of light and warmth
Believes and hopes you will get along with you
Many tears, many hard times, I am afraid you will have in your life
When the sun chases the night away
You lay down so near beside me
and I hide away all the dark thoughts wich where with me last night.
In life and laughter you ask me
about the rain and about the sunshine
And the answers that I give you
was not with me yesterday night
But the sun who went down this nigh
will shine for you my dearest
The free birds wich is free will show the way, and it will be
a lot of light and warmth
Believes and hopes you will get along with you
Many tears and many hard times, I am afraid you will have
One of my absolutley best friends, Wich I have gone true a lot with in life, recently had a daughter. A wonderful little child he came here with so I could get to know her!
I will dedicate this post to him and his 3 moth old wonder!
She will never need to have any doubdts of beeing loved or longed for! She will always be respected and have a fantastic father who will alway be there for her in good and bad days. She is a lucky child!
And my friend who is a amazing person who is a good man and friend and who have had his share of darkness in his life.He deserves all happiness in the world!
He agreed to be my model with his little girl and here are the results!
And yes, He is very very dear to me!!!!!