My OperaLove Is A Choice You Make Every Day Of Your Life
Thursday, July 2, 2009 11:38:17 AM
Life is all about making choices, all aspects of it, and that does not exclude love. Love is a choice you need to make everyday, consciously and continuously. You can choose to feel or not to feel something because your emotions is actually something you can control. If you choose to feel love, choosing rationally is important. Because it is not something you choose not to feel in the aftermath of a breakup. Love is a choice.
Many people confuse the feeling of being in love with love. But to those who have experienced to be loved and lost a love, can all attest, that you can never confuse those. Love is a choice. The novel Midwinter Turns to Spring has a great description on the subject love being a choice. Here's an excerpt: "Love is not just a feeling. Its a choice, a commitment, a way of behaving toward another. Love is not simply an event that happens to you. Rather, love is something you choose to do. The state of being in love is simply a prelude to love. But most people make the mistake of thinking they're one and the same thing. We are all given circumstances by which we can exercise the choice to love. That's the thunderbolt that God supplies. Its that instant attraction to another person, those warm, fuzzy feelings, that fever akin to drunkenness or madness that causes you to know that you're in love. But its what you choose to do after that thunderbolt has passed that matters. You choose whether you're going to continue loving the other person after the drunkenness has dissipated, after the frills of romance have fallen away. You choose whether you're going to continue to seek the best interests of the other person, and care about him or her through any and all circumstances -- and for how long. Love is a conscious choice."
Love is a choice. When you wake up in the morning and think about the one you love, you say to yourself "I choose to love this person today and every day of my life," regardless of his imperfections. In a relationship that isn't working, you choose to put an end to it. After that, given an ample time to recover, you also choose to get involved with someone who's like-minded. At the beginning of a potential great relationship you make a choice to spend time to that person to have a glimpse of what can develop. You celebrate the fact that once again, you get to love a person and get to be loved the same way in return.
I think many people, women and men alike, believe that love is something that just occurs from a feeling that suddenly comes over them. For anyone who has been married, we know love is a noun, the feeling, and a verb, the actions you take because you feel that way. The noun part is the feeling you have when you are in the same room with that person, when you touch or think about them. The verb part is actually work; successful love is only possible when both partners know that love as a verb is very action oriented. This is true in the beginning of a relationship or after many years together. If you aren't consistently action oriented with your love for someone, it will not be there.
Many people allows romantic love, or feelings, to become the basis for relationship and happiness. But this kind of foundation is more likely to be unstable because you or your partner will later on seek new emotional highs as time goes by. A relationship based on just feelings and emotions are fickle, more so the circumstances that give rise to them. Love is a choice, it isn't born but made.
A personal adage of mine that I live by is this: "True love is the ability to choose one person above all, and the ability to celebrate that choice for as long as you live." If both you and your partner are able to mutually live by this adage, then you're on your way to a fruitful and enduring relationship.
Love is a choice. Taking love being a choice is indeed more empowering way to love and and be loved. What if you met someone you think more compatible to you than the other? What if you feel you love him less now than before? What if you feel you are not getting the love you deserve anymore? Would you still love the person? The choice is all up to you.
Love is a choice. It's either you let that love happen or move on without even letting a feeling of love to occur. When making a choice, sometimes you feel you just have to grab it because after all you deserve it. Other times you feel you need to put other person's needs before your own. Love is a choice!... a choice to take action.
Many people confuse the feeling of being in love with love. But to those who have experienced to be loved and lost a love, can all attest, that you can never confuse those. Love is a choice. The novel Midwinter Turns to Spring has a great description on the subject love being a choice. Here's an excerpt: "Love is not just a feeling. Its a choice, a commitment, a way of behaving toward another. Love is not simply an event that happens to you. Rather, love is something you choose to do. The state of being in love is simply a prelude to love. But most people make the mistake of thinking they're one and the same thing. We are all given circumstances by which we can exercise the choice to love. That's the thunderbolt that God supplies. Its that instant attraction to another person, those warm, fuzzy feelings, that fever akin to drunkenness or madness that causes you to know that you're in love. But its what you choose to do after that thunderbolt has passed that matters. You choose whether you're going to continue loving the other person after the drunkenness has dissipated, after the frills of romance have fallen away. You choose whether you're going to continue to seek the best interests of the other person, and care about him or her through any and all circumstances -- and for how long. Love is a conscious choice."
Love is a choice. When you wake up in the morning and think about the one you love, you say to yourself "I choose to love this person today and every day of my life," regardless of his imperfections. In a relationship that isn't working, you choose to put an end to it. After that, given an ample time to recover, you also choose to get involved with someone who's like-minded. At the beginning of a potential great relationship you make a choice to spend time to that person to have a glimpse of what can develop. You celebrate the fact that once again, you get to love a person and get to be loved the same way in return.
I think many people, women and men alike, believe that love is something that just occurs from a feeling that suddenly comes over them. For anyone who has been married, we know love is a noun, the feeling, and a verb, the actions you take because you feel that way. The noun part is the feeling you have when you are in the same room with that person, when you touch or think about them. The verb part is actually work; successful love is only possible when both partners know that love as a verb is very action oriented. This is true in the beginning of a relationship or after many years together. If you aren't consistently action oriented with your love for someone, it will not be there.
Many people allows romantic love, or feelings, to become the basis for relationship and happiness. But this kind of foundation is more likely to be unstable because you or your partner will later on seek new emotional highs as time goes by. A relationship based on just feelings and emotions are fickle, more so the circumstances that give rise to them. Love is a choice, it isn't born but made.
A personal adage of mine that I live by is this: "True love is the ability to choose one person above all, and the ability to celebrate that choice for as long as you live." If both you and your partner are able to mutually live by this adage, then you're on your way to a fruitful and enduring relationship.
Love is a choice. Taking love being a choice is indeed more empowering way to love and and be loved. What if you met someone you think more compatible to you than the other? What if you feel you love him less now than before? What if you feel you are not getting the love you deserve anymore? Would you still love the person? The choice is all up to you.
Love is a choice. It's either you let that love happen or move on without even letting a feeling of love to occur. When making a choice, sometimes you feel you just have to grab it because after all you deserve it. Other times you feel you need to put other person's needs before your own. Love is a choice!... a choice to take action.
