Posts tagged with "viewpoints"
Tuesday, 9. January 2007, 09:24:43
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On this narrow planet, we have only the choice between two unknown
worlds. One of them tempts us - ah! what a dream, to live in that! -
the other stifles us at the first breath.
-- Sidonie Gabrielle Colette
I've learned that we cannot forget or throw away our past, But we must
not allow our past to control us either. We must learn and grow from
our past failures, Disappointments, pains and experiences. Reset our
goals and priorities.. . and move forward. Start today, by un-tying the
knots that limit you.
-- Ty Howard
All great masters are chiefly distinguished by the power of adding a
second, a third, and perhaps a fourth step in a continuous line. Many
a man had taken the first step. With every additional step you enhance
immensely the value of you first.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Is there some principal of nature which states that we never know the
quality of what we have until it is gone?
-- Herman Melville
For the very first time the young are seeing history being made before
it is censored by their elders.
-- Margaret Mead
Monday, 18. December 2006, 03:17:47
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Dispel fears and build initiative/ tongtong
I picked up some ideas from discussions with my friend, experiences build ability, that was his original thought. He examined the distinct ways to think, to deal with people, to handle problems, and to respond to situations between leaders and subordinates. Being leader, they are supposed to take the responsibilities, to command the whole situations by overlooking every aspects of work, to orchestrate the teamwork to work on the goals together, to coordinate from time to time to construct the balance and move on. Instead, being subordinate is exempted from taking more obligations, charging many duties, they simply comply with the plan set by leader, therefore, it is not hard to imagine subordinate is prone to be lazy, to be passive, to be deprived of the drive gradually. No doubt, it is damaging to his growth and development, though, not many chinese people realize it, instead, they take it at ease and take it for granted. I decried it's culture residue left by chinese long period of feudality, people got used to be ruled and governed.
It is davasting to maintain this passive state of mind in an increasingly competitive socity, which is becoming complicated with China's being deeply involved in WTO. Originality is unprecedentedly needed, individual or organization, otherwise it's hard to maintain safe and keep balance in the wave of competion. But how ? How to acquire such an ability to be original? The answer is experience, which entails will and wish. I know someone like me occasionally harbourS a wish, but it has never really brought to the action, or got aborted halfway for short of will. Anyhow, will comes next after a resolution.
When you are free from fear, you are able to resolve to take a try, to experience, and to improve and approach the goal.
It's fear which blocks the road ahead to a resolution. But the problem is still unanswered, fear what ? disappointment? being defeated? losing face? being laughed at ? this is typical symptom of any excuse the passive depends on, and this further reminds me of the discussions on passive students driven by teachers, who study because they are asked to study. Their motivation, if they have any, comes from someone else, exactly the way passive subordinate exhibits: they work, because they have to, if there is any motivation, they work for someone or they work hard because of someone. How resembling !
So I assume it is clear now to identify culprit behind the passive person: except fear, as demonstrated above; it is lack of initiative. When you truely want to do something within, it becomes your need, a driving force, you therefore get self-motivated and keep going till the goal being accomplished. Do you think so ?
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Friday, 15. December 2006, 01:53:46
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All we have is have is this very moment. If we have a burning desire
to change, there is always a way.
-- Elinko Pragnell
We seldom attribute common sense except to those who agree with us.
-- Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Compassion is the radicalism of our time.
-- The Dalai Lama
If we give up the notion that everybody's life but ours is perfect, we
would be a lot happier. Nobody's life is perfect.
-- Joy Browne
Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay,
not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is
something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and
being nothing.
-- Denis Waitley
Tuesday, 5. December 2006, 03:20:56
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Often the difference between a successful man and a failure is not
one's better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet
on his ideas, to take a calculated risk-and to act.
-- Maxwell Maltz
Silence is as full of potential wisdom and wit as the unshown marble
of great sculpture. The silent bear no witness against themselves.
-- Aldous Huxley
You cannot hope to learn if you give up when the going becomes hard.
-- Eileen Caddy
No mirror ever became iron again; No bread ever became wheat; No
ripened grape ever became sour fruit. Mature yourself and be secure
from a change for the worse. Become the light.
-- Jalal-Uddin Rumi
Changes are not only possible and predictable, but to deny them is to
be an accomplice to one's own unnecessary vegetation.
-- Gail Sheehy
Monday, 4. December 2006, 15:22:06
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Love is demon / tongtong
Rampant passion is lovely yet passion is demon essentially if you are in a love which is not protected legally, you will be put in an awkward situation till you feel yourself worn down, though, you may argue, there are still some sweetness, joy and excitement in it. Well, have you reckoned how much you lost when you indulge into the pleasure you've clawed--time, energy, the chance to acquire something, probably more meaningful, significant to your life. Anyway, different echelon you stand decide different needs in the short term, generally speaking, you can't expect a beggar in the street to have an affair with a lover, like you can't stop a well-off person from enjoying luxurious lifestyle.Anyway, as long as it is healthy, it is viable and pleasant.
Love without restraint likes a genie escaped out of a bottle, it releases its evil rampantly, imposing its whim to the recipient, potential victim. It wrecks havoc to the vulnerable with its overwhelming load of desires.
Love goes wildly without confinement, like a monster, it absorbs energy of the victim, disables his reasoning ability, diminishes his power to exercise discipline; It acts like ghost, spooky, sneaking into your life without your awareness, occupying your mind, clouds your life with a subsequent mess. When you lose grip of your mind, the ghost will take the rein, you therefore is liable to be a servant to do errands for the monster. Even worse, you may fall as a prey to the monster, who renders you disoriented, distraught, and even mad till you determines a wrestling to disentangle you from its trap. You may be pulled back and forth again and again in your endeavour to extricate you from its govern, for there is a lingering charm you feel like desiring again, the influence, being fragrant occassionally, hooks your return. It is invariably elusive, deceptive and tricky. Be aware that never look back if you are in a case like that. Anyway, it is acknowledged that it takes time to break the illusion, when the battle is over, you just find wounds are dotted all over your heart and soul.
There is a song named " wolf loves sheep", a bizarre love in current society. What a crazy world it is! My friend discussed with me of love in suck kind of by saying that the tender feeling between lovers are essentially sheep, and lovers are wolves. Bit by bit, the pleasant feeling is consumed by two voracious wolves. There is no unique love, nor formula of love, so there are dazzling displays of various love in this crazy world. Nevertheless, it turns out, more often than not, at least a similar result.
Both sides of love, like two hungry monsters glaring at each other, opening mouths wide, attmpting the triumphant bite toward another; or like two greedy animals in love, it is so intense that neither of them are conscious of the accompanying hurt, though not being numb, rather, being addicted to each other so much so that they take it as a pleasure, a bizarre state of mind, a distorted cognition, a weird logic, just to justify their desires. No wonder it is said people who are in love acts like a fool! How true! Even so, they lick each other to heal the wounds and motivates another and get incentived too, they ridiculously take the drive further till they are put to the edge of the cliff. They are either besieged by liabilities, responsibilities, or being cornered by families, public opinions and workload. Unreasonable desire begets evil, evil begets misfortune. In another perspective, returning the fold begets bright tomorrow!
Every thing has a process from the burgeoning bud, to the thriving luxury, to the falling end. What matters is how you view it and how you measure the gain against loss.
One of my friend said love is like salt we can't go without, it goes unsavory when it is heavy anyway, you risk ruining love when you attempt to add more of it. It is said of love legitimately though. To the otherwise, it is definitely demon.
Thursday, 30. November 2006, 01:45:29
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Good habit / tongtong
Good habit is beneficial to one's lifelong development. Yet, Good habit is hard to be developed and it is easy to be given up, so that keeping good habit is the basic good habit which is a guard to make sure other good habits are viable and to be of great use. Neverthelss, I have to add that good habit is quite relative, it requires revision as time goes on.
So far till recently, I cultivated several good habits which prove effective and in use in my eyes, they are: getting up to do morning exercise, to listen to bbc or voa broadcasting when I come back from morning exercise, to teach my daughter english after lunch, using internet resources to activate her strong interest in learning, to help her remember english words together after supper, by hugging her in my arms, a good way I discover to encourage her when she performs well.
Still I need more good habits to help me arrange my life, to facilitate my striving for my dream, to explore my potentials. Human is lazy sometimes,I can't control my mind and my body sometimes but drifting away by the unconscious ideas, idling.
It is ok to enjoy a short time idling, but it is definitely abnormal when an adult loses reign of his life and succumb to his unconsciousness, he is definitely a resigned loser otherwise if he can't dominate his mind with mature thought. Maybe I just exaggerate it, anyway, it is a sure thing to acknowledge that one who can balance his life well, with momentum from his achievement, he aspires to much more fancy dreams, is a person in good order of his life.
The core component of a good habit is to implement what is defined, to stick to the plan and make it roll. Yes, I do need cultivate a good habit to sort out my messy mind with determined distraction, positive, to block the savage intervention from messy mind. Well, this is far less adequate, the fundamental solution lies in a good charted schedule with well planned goals to map the road I am going to cover.
Sunday, 26. November 2006, 13:38:14
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Who will punish me? / tongtong
I feel sympathetic at seeing her trembling look, anyhow, I insist on my way to punish her when she repeats the mistakes more than thrice. It works well most of time when she feels compelled to memorize words she learnt in the class. In a sense, her concentration is doubled, she feel urged to commit herself fully to the handy study.
I allow her to revenge on me after my examining her study, she does let out her angry and grievance and feel balanced, I laugh heartily at her content and she laughs together with me. anyway, I maintain that punishment is a good way to manage a person's behavior, though it is not seen a reasonable way by current educational system. compared with reward, punishment serves as a reminder of uncomfortable consequence with unfulfilled task, it prompts basic awareness of shoulds in schedule without compromise, otherwise people is inclined to develop a creeping tendency to forgive oneself easily, it is a hotbed of laziness, procrastination and anxiety, a bad habits brews an undesirable result. I treat her strickly in light of the long term concern of her development.
Neverthelss, I still add one more element of managing her study, that is incentive, to motivate her with generous reward when she performs excellently.
Seeing her go to bed, I resume my work, unfinished one, I can't helping pondering what if someone punishs me when I fail my work. oh, gosh . This is a good question! I know a lot of adults trifling with their lives and time easily, I know a lot of adults put off their assignments till the last minutes, most of time with botched performance. Are there anyone there to punish them ? what will they feel ?
Yesterday I discussed this question with an old lady when I sent my daughter to english school, the lady, graceful and intelligent, smartly addressed with famous brand Nike shoes and Adidas sporting trousers, apprantly a wealthy family she comes from. She smiled to throw back question to me that whether I would feel comfortable to accept others' critism, let alone punishement? I smiled without answer. She added that you were mother of a girl, who dare punish you ? I confided that I hope, though, that someone can punish me indeed, and I felt reminiscent of the past time when my father punished me, and I was trained to be an excellent student and daughter.
Anyhow, it is, odd enough, to require a person to supervise one's life closely, it is unmature. yet what suggests here is that how can adult lives up to the name of being an adult, that is, to be responsible, to one's work, to family, to marriage and etc.. what should we adopt to correct our actions when we deflect tracks and fail the expectations? Somehow, in concern of not hurting pride, there are less direct critism and punishment to adults, to leave room for their self-esteems, in addition, maybe it is acknowledged that one's ability is not compromised, it is this point of view that someone views a good excuse to desert their responsibilities and take advantage of this. I did once feel so chagrined at my disappointing performance, will I expect to repeat it again? Should I grant me another excuse ?
It is a pitiful grant one seek for oneself, for it is meaningless in terms to lift one's self-esteem and pride, and to improve one's life quality, to make heart smile with content, rather than escaping, or being pushed by life. No escape ! I can't forgive me to put off the task at hand over tonight, no excuse, I can punish myself should I fail this this time! I must be serious at this issue, it is not a matter of one case of task, it is about attitude to life, a good habit in life, a panacea to many solutions.
Thinking of this, I realize that I must have good talk later with her, my daughter, to make her understand my perception and concern too.
Tuesday, 21. November 2006, 08:29:14
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On change
I was told that I would have lagged behand given I would not strive for advance in my study, it was old admonish from my father, it has been reinforced since then by different people in my life, including my teacher, my husband and myself.
learning is like rowing a boat against water, the boat will be pushed back if it failed to row ahead. there is no permanent certainty in this world, everything is changing, fast, be it predictable or not, they come up to you as a surprise, a shock. there is no stagnant world waiting for your confusion cleared, it is operating at its pace, if there is any pause and break, it is individual's mind, being dumb for awhile, to have a leisurable time or escaping time, nevertheless, it can not afford long escape anyway, for you will be unnerved to find that you are left alone somewhere you don't know, and you are completely unfamiliar with. so you have to and you must keep going, to pitch a new goal, and a new direction, after another task is accomplished. for this world is for those who can catch up with pace, to understand the principle beneath the dynamic performance of all businesses, to identify where one is positioned, to be able to fully engaged in the the swirl of the battle, like a hero, to achieve the desirable triumph.
yes, battle, what a splendid analogy, you have no choice but fight, till you win. there is no settled battle, no one can guarantee you are a permanent winner unless you keep practising your battle capabilities and improve the strategy, and update your weapons. today's winner is no guarantee of tomorrow's, it is of sure otherwise to the loser. the basic secrecy to win a battle is to have a ready heart to prepare for a triumphant battle, no matter what you were in the past.
Tuesday, 21. November 2006, 07:22:09
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I had been dreaming about a lighthouse. It is such a potent image;
practical, because lives depend on it, and at the same time, utterly
romantic, this lonely building on the cusp of land and sea, sending
out light into the darkness.
-- Jeanette Winterson
Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true
measure of our thanksgiving.
-- W.T. Purkiser
Don't reserve your best behavior for special occasions. You can't have
two sets of manners, two social codes -one for those you admire and
want to impress, another for those whom you consider unimportant. You
must be the same to all people.
-- Lillian Eichler Watson
Every single person has capabilities, abilities and gifts. Living a
good life depends on whether those capabilities can be used, abilities
expressed and gifts given. If they are, the person will be valued,
feel powerful and well-connected to the people around them.
-- John P. Kretzmann and John L. McKnight, "Building Communities
From the Inside Out: A Path Toward Finding and Mobilizing a
Community's Assets"
If we say it long enough eventually we're going to reap a harvest.
We're going to get exactly what we're saying.
-- Joel Osteen
Wednesday, 15. November 2006, 12:37:40
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It is well to remember that the entire population of the universe,
with one trifling exception, is composed of others.
-- John Andrew Holmes, Jr.
More important than talent, strength, or knowledge is the ability to
laugh at yourself and enjoy the pursuit of your dreams.
-- Amy Grant
I persist on praising not the life I lead, but that which I ought to
lead. I follow it at a mighty distance, crawling.
-- Lucius Annaeus Seneca
If you try to guard yourself against every unlikely danger, you'll
never stretch beyond your comfort zone. Don't let the 'what-ifs' run
your life. Follow your dreams and have at it.
-- Diane Conway, "What Would You Do If You Had No Fear?"
Science is organized knowledge. Wisdom is organized life.
-- Immanuel Kant
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