Unidad e Interioridad

Nowadays the media promotes on people the urge to satisfy needs in order to feel comfortable, happy, at peace.Satisfying needs is considered one of the main goals in life. Men have to provide themselves with food, clothing, and certain levels of affection, and as they get those needs satisfied they are supposed to experience a sense of completeness.Having the basic needs covered equals basic levels of satisfaction, accordingly basic levels of happiness or completeness. Thus one of the goals is to attack or reduce the uneasy feelings of not being satisfied. With this goal in mind we easily tend to look for what we must do or get in order to satisfy our needs. Then it turns out that as we satisfy more needs others emerge leaving us with that same uneasy feeling of not being complete, and we need more and more complicated things to satisfy our needs.

Lots who concentrate on doing and having, get lost at one point not really knowing why they have what they are looking for and why they do what they have wanted so much to do. Then we find the businessman who works hard to give the best to his/her family except; time, attention and company. We have the successful whatever you call it.....with a great position in a large multi-national company that doesn't have any time for friends, or family, not even a sport because the position demands more and more of him/her. This woman that is so determined to give the best to her children and husband that spends hours cooking, washing, cleaning, taking care of the children, taking yoga, playing the role of the "perfect know it all wife" that after some years of doing so much for the family and giving most of herself to those who do not even seem to value it feel more and more resentful and empty. We also find the man or woman who invests so much on their own appearance and "wellbeing" and in their way to look for the perfect being they end up lonely in their trip to happiness. I could continue describing how doing and having with the final goal of satisfying needs deviates our lives in the wrong direction.

There is no easy formula to live better, but most basically write a list of pending things to do in their life and/or to have in order to get a sense of completeness. You need to study, to get a good job, to marry, to become mother, to travel, to cook, to clean, to provide good education to your children, to have a house, a car, an insurance, etc. these are just a list of some of the satisfactors of basic needs for most regular people. Those who have them satisfied make these lists up with a certain type of car, certain type of house, specific school for your children etc. The list never ends, and it never simplifies.

We may be doing the exact same thing with a different point of view and that single thing would make a great difference in our lives. This is doing and having not as a goal but as a way of being more ourselves. The goal should be to become more a harmonious and peaceful living around the world, which fits together with the family, the society, the community, the school, the job etc. Then anything we do or have should be not to satisfy a specific need but to increase and strengthen our own being.

There are a number of disciplines that already promote oneness. The Gestalt theory which tries to deal with the lack of unity puts together the broken parts of beings. A being is seen as a whole. Putting yourself together helps you move on from being dependent to being independent. Not looking for external support, but relying on your inner self. Individuals like this can strengthen their personality without the need of external support like: a husband, a position at work, a bank account etc. Transactional Analysis describes three different states within a human: Parent, Child and Adult which must interact with each other and cohabit peacefully and cordially. We must make peace with our Parent and Child State in order to get the Adult emerge. Dr. Edward Bach describes illness as the result of "emotional dysfunction"; when your mind, your body, your soul pull in different directions and break you into different paths of life:faint:. He developed his Bach Flower system to recover harmony and unity within. It is not good to be divided, broken, and fragmented. It is not healthy to be in isolation without trying to become part of"something", part of a whole. Unity at all levels is what we absolutely need to recover ourselves. Anthony de Mello says "Men look for and escape from many things, and they do not understand that all they look for and all they are trying to escape from is within. So the first goal is to find oneness within and then look for the universal plan and take action. Of course this is not an easy task. We must work really hard in order to find out first what our soul, mind, and body really wants and needs so that we can take our place in the world. Here is when the insight takes a major role in the path to oneness.