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She Wants To Find Her Way Home For Christmas

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Do You Know Me? I belong to a little girl who now is all grown up I have held her tears for many many years You see one day she was taken from her family so dear And made to live with someone who anyone would fear When she first was kidnapped I helped her fall asleep But it was so hard every night to listen to her weep She is all grown up now But her Christmas wish remains For one more chance to be held close By those who loved her so Maybe they are searching for her too She has such beautiful eyes of blue She has a happy spirit that has never left her heart She believes she got this from her family who taught her how to love She is so determined To find her way back home And have a chance to say She always held them in her heart And wished they were never ripped apart
Please help me Findmywayhome@comcast.net
Known Details: Kidnapped in the early to mid 1960s Blue eyes Brown Hair Used to dream all the time of a brown house Flag staff walk way Swing set in the back yard The stuffed Kitten above may have been from before I was kidnapped Had glow in the dark eyes Had a bell in his tail My mom used to sing to me One song that I remember is Down in the Valley: Link to this song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GucC_Zbyw1o&feature=related DNA is in CODIS
If you recognize anything on this post, please leave a comment or contact information, if you like.
All she wants is to be reunited with her family for Christmas, it's been a long, long time.

NCMA Needs Help NOW!

One of missing persons national resources may have to shut it's doors because of funding cuts. I am appalled that our government can scrape up a quick $79 BILLION dollars for several bailouts, but has not renewed funding of a measly $1 million dollars a year to keep this agency doing it's work. All of us who purport to work for the missing adults and their families owe this organization immensely for working for change on a national level for missing adults. Please read the following article from the Phoenix News written about Kym Pasqualini and the organization that she now has to fight tooth and nail to keep afloat, let alone her own personal finances. And when you're done reading please go to the site NCMA and hit their donate button~every dollar counts.

The National Center for Missing Adults’ Funding Was Slashed by the Feds, but Volunteers Are Keeping It Alive

By Sarah Fenske

Published on January 13, 2009 at 4:19pm

Last year, Kym Pasqualini's nonprofit agency ran out of money.

For 15 years, the National Center for Missing Adults helped track the thousands of adults who go missing in this country every year — and did its best to reconnect them with their families. The agency operated on roughly $1 million annually, thanks to a federal grant.

But in 2005, the bipartisan bill that initially funded the grant expired. With no explanation, Congress failed to reauthorize it.

For two years, Pasqualini and her employees stayed alive by trimming operations, cutting services, taking pay cuts — and waiting for Congress to get its act together. By the fall of 2007, they were completely out of money.

I wrote a column about it at the time. I was touched by Pasqualini's story — a single mom from a hardscrabble background, she'd built the agency from nothing through hard work and a real passion for the people she was helping. So many people want to get involved when a cute child disappears, but Pasqualini had just as much passion for the cases that are ignored by law enforcement (and we media types, too). The mentally ill man whose family is worried sick. The troubled 20-something drifter.

Pasqualini knew, firsthand, how valuable her work was. She was obviously having trouble processing the fact that the government couldn't manage to cough up a lousy $1 million a year to keep the organization going.

After I wrote the column, I'd occasionally get updates about the status of Kristen's Act, the bill that would reauthorize funding for the center. (When it originally passed in 2000, the bill was named for Kristen Modafferi, a missing 18-year-old from North Carolina.) There was finally a hearing last summer, and I was pleased to see that the quality of the work done by the National Center for Missing Adults wasn't the issue. Pasqualini's work was praised. It's also been lauded in a recent report from the Congressional Research Service.

The House of Representatives finally approved reauthorization of Kristen's Act in September. But when it got to the Senate, it just . . . died. Four months later, it still hasn't gotten a hearing.

So I assumed Kym Pasqualini was moving on. She was broke 15 months ago. As a single mom, she surely had no choice; she'd have to give up the missing and go back to some form of gainful employment.

But last month, I met up with Pasqualini again, and I was absolutely floored by what she told me.

She's still doing the work.

No one has been paid in well over a year. But Pasqualini and three other volunteers have been spending dozens of hours each week trying to keep up the agency's database and deal with new missing-persons reports as they come in.

And, yes, the reports continue to come.

Tom Lauth, a private investigator in Indianapolis, has taken on the task of answering the phones and assisting families as they call in to report new disappearances. (His wife, Ratana, an engineer, also helps.) Pasqualini enters information about each new missing person into the agency's online database. Jason Smathers, an IT consultant in the Mohave Valley, donates technical support for the both the database and the phone system.

Pasqualini is, literally, broke. She faces liens from the IRS, personally and organizationally. But she just can't walk away.

"I don't want to stop this," Pasqualini says. "We do good. And we have friends out there we've worked with for 15 years. They still need us."

Honestly, I don't know whether to be impressed by her resiliency or horrified that things have come to this.

We all admire sacrifice. But this, I think, is a little bit crazy. No one would blame this agency for giving up.

No one, perhaps, except each and every one of us — if someone we loved went missing.


Last month, the National Center for Missing Adults received 500 phone calls. That's 500 families reporting a disappearance, needing help, and desperate to talk to a real, live person.

"That was something we always prided ourselves on," Kym Pasqualini tells me. "When a call came in, someone always answered the phone. Someone was there to help." These days, they're more likely to get voicemail. Although Lauth is quick to return calls, it's the best he can do. Some days, he'll handle as many as 30 calls.

This is the surreal part of the center's long, slow goodbye: Even as the agency has been stripped of funding, more and more law enforcement professionals are harnessing its services. Thanks to a push from families of missing adults, a growing number of states now require the police to tell people about the center when they file a missing-persons report. Just last year, Illinois became the sixth state, by my count, to do so.

It's an excellent idea. (The police seldom have the time to investigate all but the most suspicious disappearances.) But it means more and more work, and just a few harried volunteers to do it.

The agency's terrible finances have led to a near-unending series of crises. The center couldn't afford to keep its office suite in Peoria, so it moved to a much smaller office in Phoenix. Even that proved too much, so the agency moved the giant mainframe computer that houses its database to the Glendale Police Department. But, Lauth says, the department was nervous about keeping such a valuable piece of equipment without insurance — and the center couldn't afford insurance.

If not for a company in Michigan agreeing to house the equipment, it might have been the end.

And then there's the matter of the agency's files. For 15 years, Pasqualini has kept all hard copies in a set of seven lateral file cabinets, each of them six feet tall. They're now in her garage, but Pasqualini has fallen behind on her rent. She worries about finding a new place that's big enough for her family and the cabinets.

Over lunch, Pasqualini showed me a letter that her pre-teen daughter had written on the agency's behalf, begging for financial assistance. Her daughter had addressed it to the only person she could imagine stepping in and making things right: Hannah Montana's dad, Billy Ray Cyrus.

"Her birthday's coming up in nine days and we're about to be evicted," Pasqualini tells me, tears in her eyes. "And yet she keeps telling me, 'Mom, you can't stop. People depend on you.'"

It's unfathomable, talking to Pasqualini and Lauth and Smathers, that Congress hasn't been able to find the time, or the political will, to reauthorize Kristen's Act.

We're talking about $1 million a year. It took Congress so little time — barely two weeks — to scrape together $700 billion, with few strings attached, for the banking industry.

Yet legislators can't manage in four years to get their act together long enough to do the bare minimum for families who are missing someone they love? Appalling.

By now, of course, the agency is in such straits that Pasqualini doesn't think it would qualify, even if the Senate passes Kristen's Act. The grants are supposed to be competitive, and who's going to look twice at an agency with debt and unpaid taxes?

"Up to 2007, I have all our 990s, and it shows our financial stability," she says. "I had a strong agency. People said it was a well-oiled machine." But that's not true anymore, and Pasqualini knows it.

Tom Lauth, the private investigator, tells me that he's given up on Congress. He's waiting for an angel — someone to donate $500,000, enough to help the agency get back on its feet and start operating above the bare minimum again. "Then we'd have a base to go after bigger contributions," he says.

I wanted to laugh at him. A private donation of a half-million dollars in this economy?

But then again, Lauth has just spent a year working a near full-time job for nothing. So has Kym Pasqualini. And if they're willing to do that, to the point of near-financial ruin, who's to say there isn't really an angel out there, an angel with a big fat checkbook?

I'm not waiting for Billy Ray Cyrus to come through. But surely, somebody cares about this agency.

If not, this is definitely the end.

They're taking contributions right now at www.theyaremissed.org.

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Tommy Oeschlin, Monday4 the Missing


Ryan Knoedler disappeared from his family on October 15. For five long weeks his mother, Jacquie, sister, Kelly, and other family members did all they could to search for him and search for answers. They found support in their neighborhoods and online. You could feel in the writings of both Jacquie and Kelly that there was a desparation to find Ryan.

Their answers came on November 23 when police came to the home to tell them Ryan had been found. It wasn't the answer they were hoping for. Ryan had been in a terrible, fatal accident, and his car had just been found in a heavily wooded area and had gone undetected for five long weeks.

Today is the day the Knoedler family puts Ryan to rest. His memorial service will mark the end of the searching for Ryan, but a new beginning for his family. The beginning of healing, a long process of mending hearts broken and shattered.

KNOEDLER
RYAN M., Oct. 16, 2008. Beloved son of Jacqueline (nee Boyle) and George Knoedler, devoted brother of Kelly Fisher (Keith), loving uncle of Brianna Brinn. Relatives and friends may call Monday 11 A.M. at WACKERMAN FUNERAL HOME, 8060 Verree Rd., Fox Chase. followed by Prayer Service 1 P.M. In lieu of flowers donations in his name to Peace4missing.ning.com, 121 Lafayette Ave., Grand Haven, MI 49417 would be appreciated.


TOMMY "BEAN" OECHSLIN

Ryan's mother, Jaccquie, has pledged to help another family near her, also searching for a young man. His name is Tommy Oechslin. His sister, Crystal and Jacquie met as members of Peace4 the Missing when
Crystal posted this heartfelt plea:

PLEASE HELP!!! MY BROTHER TOMMY(BEAN) IS MISSING!!

MY BROTHER TOMMY OECHSLIN(BEAN) HAS BEEN MISSING SINCE SEPTEMBER 24,2008. WE ARE WORRIED ABOUT HIS SAFETY. IF YOU HAVE ANY INFORMATION OR KNOW OF HIS WHEREABOUTS WE URGE YOU TO CONTACT THE CHERRY HILL POLICE AT 856-665-1300 OR HIS FAMILY AT 609-233-5636. PLEASE!!! SOMEONE HAS TO KNOW SOMETHING!!! WE ARE SCARED AND WORRIED SICK!

THANK YOU,

CRYSTAL



Tommy has been missing longer than Ryan and, of course, his family is frantic for news of his whereabouts.
As Jacquie Knoedler memorializes her son today, and we all mourn with her and her family, we shall all band together to help Crystal find her brother, Tommy "Bean" Oechslin.

If you would like to be a part of this effort, or have skills and resources that would help the Oechslin family find Tommy, please consider joining Peace4 the Missing and uniting to support the families of all of our missing.

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Jeramy Burt, Monday4 the Missing

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Jeramy Burt (written by Peace4 Admin, Ange)

As I sit here this late sunday evening starring at my blank computer screen,I am wondering how to write this piece..There is not alot of information to report and so little to go on..

Jeramy Burt is a son, brother and father who is deeply sadly missed. On Febuary 11th 2007 Jeramy left his home in Boise Idaho at ten thirty in the morning to go visit a friend..He never made it to his destination. Shortly after he went missing his ex-wife recieved a text stating that Jeramy was leaving and starting a new life else where..The question then and still is, Would a loving, caring father just up and abandon his three year old daughter? I would not think so..His family says that he would never leave behind his daughter..He loved her with every fiber of his soul..Months later the car he was driving which belonged to his ex-wife was found burnt in a remote desert..After sifting through the vehichle it is obviouse that someone was trying to destroy evidence of some sort..What actually happened in that car? Or for that matter who else was in that car? Who wanted so badly to hide something? And who was so desperate to hide or destroy Jeramy Burt?

I can't even imagine what the family of Jeramy Burt have and are going through..To have your loved one torn from you and vanish without a trace..Not knowing if he is alive or not..


IF YOU HAVE ANY INFORMATION REGARDING JERAMY BURT OR HIS WHEREABOUTS

PLEASE CONTACT:
BOISE, IDAHO POLICE DEPARTMENT
(208) 373-5406 OR (208) 377-6500
OR
TEXASEQUUSEARCH.ORG
(281) 309-9500 OR
TOLL FREE (877) 270-9500

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Brandy Hanna, Monday4 the Missing

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As time ticks forward, Donna Parent wakes up November 16th knowing it is her daughter's birthday. It won't be a day of usual parties and celebrations for this event. Brandy Hanna has been missing without a trace for over three years.


Brandy had her share of life's ups and downs, but by all indications she was turning a bend in her life, living on her own, although struggling to make ends meet. The day she was reported missing it is stated everything in her apartment looked like she had just stepped out of the room. All her belongings, money, cell phone, even the glass of tea she was drinking was left as if she would be back in a second. It has been three long years and she has not come back to finish that glass of tea.


Each year's events are marked with vigils, candles, prayers, balloon releases, all in order to keep the awareness of Brandy Hanna in the public eye. Donna Parent works tirelessly with organizations to accomplish that goal, and this year she spent the evening paying honor to another missing woman, Alice Donovan. It is the united effort of all family members of missing persons that will keep these cases fresh.


Detectives have followed every lead provided them with no success in finding Brandy. Family and friends do not believe Brandy left her home on her own accord, she did not even own a car, and no one has been named a suspect yet questions still remain as to Brandy's whereabouts and what happened to her on May 20, 2005.


If you believe you have any information regarding this case that will be helpful in this investigation please contact:

North Charleston Police Department at (843) 745-1015


CUE Center for Missing persons along with Porchlight International have helped tremendously with searches and gathering information about Brandy's case.

November is National Runaway Prevention Month

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National Runaway Switchboard
What is National Runaway Prevention Month



November is National Runaway Prevention Month. It is a public education campaign spearheaded by the National Runaway Switchboard (NRS) and the National Network for Youth (NNY) to:

* Increase the awareness of the issues facing runaways, and
* Educate the public about the solutions and the role they can play in preventing youth from running away

National efforts put a voice to this national problem. In October 2002, President Bush hosted the landmark White House Conference on Exploited and Runaway Children. Leaders from across the country convened to discuss challenges related to runaway youth that our nation must face today. The responsibility to protect America's young people is shared by all members of our society, by government at every level, and by parents in every home.

In the 109th Congress, members have taken steps to commemorate Prevention Month. Representative Jon Porter (R-NV) introduced House Resolution 484 on October 6, 2005, with six co-sponsors; including Judy Biggert (R-IL) and Rubén Hinojosa (D-TX) to support goals and ideals of National Runaway Prevention Month. Congressman Hinojosa presented his most recent endorsement on the floor of the House on October 25th.

Also, in October 2005, England's Children's Society invited NRS to speak with members of the British Parliament. Spurred by the priority the United States has placed on the needs of runaway and homeless youth, the Children's Society is calling on the British Government to set up a national network of shelters for runaway children – similar to the hotline and referral model used by NRS in the US.

When a youth runs away, the impact is felt throughout the entire community. All of us – individuals, businesses, community groups, teachers, elected officials, and human service agencies – are encouraged to participate in National Runaway Prevention Month. Working together to identify resources and to help youth develop life skills can make the difference between a youth running away, or a youth finding needed resources.

Visit the How to Support National Runaway Prevention Month section to learn how you can participate and observe National Runaway Prevention Month in your school, business, and community.





This November, showing your support for

runaway youth is as easy as flipping a switch! Porch lights across the country will glow green during November to raise awareness and show support for runaway youth.

You can become a part of the Green Light Project by distributing Green Lights in your community. The National Runaway Switchboard has created light bulb labels and posters which are customizable for your organization.



How to start a Green Light Project in your community:

1. Purchase green light bulbs - these are available at most local hardware stores. If you're interested in distributing in bulk - over 120 bulbs - click here.

2. Label the Bulbs - There are general and customizable light bulb labels available to download. You need to purchase 2"x4" labels (for example, Avery 5163 / 8163 Template). You can print the labels on your color printer or have them printed at a copying shop.

3. Distribute the bulbs - There are general and customizable posters available for you to distribute with your light bulbs. You can partner with local businesses to distribute, advertise, and display green light bulbs for greater impact.

4. Tell NRS about your Project - We want to hear about your Green Light Project! Email the Outreach Coordinator to share your green light goals, successes, set-backs, and results.
http://www.1800runaway.org/rpm/whatis.html

Mothers are Vanishing

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I understand the family leaving it in the hands of God.
If He calls the stars by name, I know He knows
every name of every missing person ! And, will one day call their names.  ~Seeker~

... See my Tabblo>

http://mothersarevanishing.blogspot.com

Actively Aware: The Other Side of PAS,(Parental Alienation Syndrome)

Actively Aware

Wow...

I'm embarassed to admit that I finally got around to really researching PAS, Parental Alienation Syndrome. Upon reading about this "syndrome" initially, I was horrified to think of the "alienated" parents who are supposedly forced to endure these horrific ex-spouses...who for no reason seem hell bent on keeping their kids from them. I jumped on the PAS bandwagon and set forth to "righting" this incredibly distructive wrong.

Flash forward to a google search of PAS beyond the first page results...and thus the reason behind this post.

But, honestly...please don't just take my word for it, decide for yourselves, check out some of these links, be aware of the facts and make the best decision. Awareness is key towards making our world a better place.

"The PAS label "has lived a lot longer than the data that supports it". "I expect people to come up with crackpot theories. But then I expect scientists to do their jobs." Alan Scheflin, professor at Santa Clara University Law School

Editor's note: Some moms and their advocates have expressed the need to read father's rights materials on PAS. We have made a policy decision not to post any links to such information on this website. It is not surprising that you can type this topic into any search engine and find hundreds of father's rights sites promoting PAS as a legal defense or strategy for fathers in custody litigation. It is our position that if we were to link to father's rights sites promoting PAS, we would lend credence to those sources and enable them to advertise their products. We do not endorse in any way purchasing their materials. If you are curious or think it will help your understanding of the issues, we hope you will use you local library or the Internet to do so instead of furthering the father's rights agenda with your families income.
http://www.custodyprepformoms.org/pas.htm

The Truth About Parental Alienation Syndrome And The American Psychological Association

Richard Gardner, Inventor of PAS Idea

The so-called Parental Alienation Syndrome, touted by many in the Rhode Island Family Court, has been discredited by the American Psychological Association and, recently, by both the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges and the Children’s Legal Rights Journal.



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Christina Calayca, Monday4 the Missing

Christina Calayca has one of the widest, happiest smiles I have ever seen along with a twinkle in her eye that makes her whole face sparkle with life.

Christina was not a rugged outdoors type person according to family members and it is a mystery to them that she would be jogging at the Rainbow Falls Provincial Park in Canada. She had told family members that she was planning a trip to Montreal for a Christian retreat over a long weekend, and they feel if she went camping it would be somewhere that there was a semblance of civilization and amenities, not in a primitive, rugged area. Apparently Christina and her friends decided to ditch the Montreal plans and headed for the area near Thunder Bay.

It is reported that she was going for a jog with a fire fighter friend, got tired and said she was turning back. She never made it back to the rugged campsite and what happened next continues to be a mystery. The park is so rugged that searchers who were covering the are were injured and a search dog also went missing. There are several drop offs in the hilly, rough terrain and the family was kept back from the search area because of the dangers.

After 17 days of massive searching they turned up no clues as to what happened to Christina. They continue to go up and down the many trails that she could have taken and the authorities do not suspect foul play from any of her friends she travelled there with. Black bear attack has been ruled out, also.

A year after she went missing on August 6, 2007, her mother has peace within feeling that Christina is in heaven. Her friends live with the regrets of leaving her to jog alone, but no one has forgotten her and that beautiful smile.

By all accounts she was a vibrant 20 year old and loved by many. She is missed by her close knit family and friends. Her family is trying to raise $100,000 to renew extensive searching for her.

"The peace that I have after that," Rutledge (Christina's mother)breathes. "I said truly she is in heaven. She is really taken care of by God."

http://www.findchristinacalayca.com/index.htm

http://www.citynews.ca/news/news_25492.aspx

http://tbay.ok.bc.ca/stories.php?id=103856

http://www.cbc.ca/canada/toronto/story/2008/04/15/calayca-missing.html


http://monday4themissing.blogspot.com
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Viridiana Maldonado, Missing Mother

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Viridiana Maldonado was a young mother. She had her first child at age 15 or 16. She married and had another child four years later. Her husband, Jorge, was in the Army stationed at Ft. Lewis near Tacoma, WA.


According to news accounts they had trouble in their marriage which led "Viri" to take out an Order of Protection against Jorge. Apparently she had had enough and moved back to her family in North Charleston, SC with her 2 children, leaving Jorge in WA.

She lived with her mother and sister in an apartment on Dunbar Ave., along with her children. She held a postition with a local restaurant, La Nortena, and her boss was a friend of the family. From all accounts she was making a go of it with the support of her family.

On the evening of Oct. 11, 2007 she came home, changed her clothes and said she was going out with her sister in law, Vicky Roberts, for the evening. Nothing unusual was said to her family, nothing unusual about her demeanor that night. Just a night out with friends.

Her family reports that approximately 2am they received text messages from her cell phone. This was odd, because Viridiana did not usually text message them. One said she was in downtown Charleston, drinking with a man named Miguel. The next message said she was on her way home to Mexico. That was the last activity on her cell phone....ever.

Six days later her bank account, with a balance of about $1000, was closed by telephone and a cashiers check was sent to Tacoma, WA. It has not been reported who made that phone call, who closed that account, and who received the money.

There are a slew of strange circumstances surrounding this disappearance.

Vicky Roberts, her sister in law, says she was not with her and had not seen her for 2 weeks prior to Oct. 11.

Viridiana's estranged husband, Jorge, left the Army, moved back to North Charleston and claimed his child. He is reported to have been cooperative with police in the investigation.

Who is Miguel? Her family states they never heard Viri speak about any man named Miguel. Did she just meet him somewhere that night, or did she know him beforehand?

What is happening in this case now? Are these questions being answered for her mother and family? Apparently, they don't think enough is being put into the investigation and it looks like a lot of clues are getting cold as time goes by.

We have 2 small children who don't know what happened to their Mommy, a young, beautiful woman who was loved and cared for by her family in her times of trouble. Viridiana, just as so many others, is being forgotten. The longer we let these questions go unanswered, the colder the trail gets, and it happens all too often.

Another missing Mother vanishes in the night. Where do they go?