Sunday, 4. October 2009, 11:51:13
"What is life without trust?" he muses in his final blog post. He talks a lot about these intangible things we need in life recently. He has done ever since he found out about the cancer. He tells us how he could always trust his body to do what he wants, how he feels betrayed by it now as it rots from the inside out. He tells us how much we all mean to him, how he's trusted us to keep him strong through the illness, how much all our cards and gifts have meant. He types one final word, and is gone...
A little melodramatic, yes. A little derivative, of course. A load of bullshit, yes it is. What you've seen above is a prime example of Munchausen By Internet. Most people are already aware of Munchausen Syndrome in real life, the strange condition that causes people to fake or induce an illness or injury in themselves in order to gain a medical professionals attention. Related to that is Munchausen By Proxy, where the sufferer induces an illness or injury in a weaker third party (usually a child or other dependent) for the same reasons, and it is that particular form that is usually seen on television or in films making it the most well known. Munchausen By Internet is similar in the actions of the sufferer, but rather than seeking attention from a medical professional the sufferer aims at online communities. Like the fictional Baron who the disorder is named after, Munchausen sufferers tell vivid and fantastic tales of woe to anyone who will listen and, on the internet, the entire world can be your audience with only one click. Just like people who exhibit the symptoms of Munchausen in real life, those who practice this disorder over the internet will tell detailed tales of their descent (or that of someone close to them) into illness. They will have detailed information on the symptoms they say they're suffering from (something that people could only get from medical journals and encyclopedias before but now is available via a simple web search) and give enough of that detail in their postings that most people will believe them.
"They took him off the respirator, but I made them put him back on. I couldn't stand there and watch my baby die. MY GOD he is my baby. I can't do this."
It starts innocently enough, as someone new joins a community and starts to make friends and you may meet them by yourself or through another common friend. They become popular quickly, seeming in hindsight to have catered their personalities to suit those of the group they've chosen to infiltrate. They may even have a whole supporting cast of characters in their life - family and friends that they talk about on their posts - and some of these people may already be online (the most advanced forms of these create several personalities, build friendships and relationships between them and focus on whichever turns out to be the most popular one while keeping the others going) or may claim to have met each other in real life since becoming friends online or talk every night on the phone. They gain peoples trust, become part of their lives, and become cared about. Sometimes it can be years before the trouble begins.
"I have never felt more loved and cared for in my entire life. I suddenly craved for everyone's attention, love, care, concern and affection. People posted messages about how they were very concerned, they were keeping Sara in their thoughts and prayers, and so many things. It became very appealing to me. I decided to play with it more. I don't know how or why, I just did."
In most cases it starts slowly with the person posting about a strange recurring pain they've been having, and they eventually and unwillingly cave to peer pressure from their online friends to go see a doctor. They'll anxiously await test results, with their friends so drawn into the drama that they may as well be waiting for their own results. The test results come back and the charade is in full swing as the person tells everyone the terrible news about how long they have left to live. They'll be scared, but put on a brave face. Sometimes their bravery will even be inspiring to others. They'll talk openly about their fears, sharing secrets with other people, slowly coming to accept their illness, fighting the valiant fight (some have had cancer go into remission then repeatedly return) but ultimately losing. The death is a simple affair. The blog goes quiet for a short time then a relative comes on and posts about the death just to inform the friends of the person. Sometimes one of their supporting cast will announce it to others as they've found out from visiting/calling their friend.
Case Study 1 - The Knitting Monkey
Gigi Silva was part of an online knitting community under the name MommaMonkey and definitely not the sort of person you'd expect to pull this sort of trick. She'd been a helpful member for years, gained many friends and shared thousands of her knitting patterns online.
Read more...
), bounced off, said "Excuse me" in a tone that people only use when they've got witnesses and don't expect you to follow them home with a chainsaw, then kept running. No sorry or anything. People have no bloody manners these days.
(30%)
WIDGETIZE