Saturday, 20. June 2009, 12:14:47
I've been on quite a few dates this semester, and I've met some really nice guys, I must say. I won't mention names, that wouldn't be appropriate, but should any of you be reading this - you'd know I'd be talking about you.
The dates have always been really good, and I've always showed up with every pore of my being open concerning the person I was about to meet for the first time. And I've never been disappointed. It just seems we've connected in a not-falling-in-love kind of way.
I'm one who knows very soon whether or not something has potential for that kind of relationship - I'm all about the butterflies. I know they can sometimes show up very unexpected between friends, just like with AM and myself, but when you're doing the internet dating-thing, you can't hang around and hope that the right feelings will surface within a couple of years. So the guys I've met and I have always ended up calling it what it was - a very nice date, ending in not too much more. Don't think anyone has cried any tears over that.
Like I said, I've been very open on these dates, and it's always come up that my last long term relationship ended less than a year ago, and we've talked about the rebound-issue. In my mind, there was never ever going to be need for a rebound. What I've wanted, has been a relationship with potential. It turns out, though, that I might not have been ready for that just yet, I think. And that might be the reason for me not being able to see the dating continuing. Feels very obvious in hindsight, but I know for sure I was feeling ready as can be back when I decided to open up that channel.
It's strange how a date can go so well, and still there's nothing. Now I've sort of come down from the high I got from the dating-adventure, and took a break from it just before the exams started. In doing that, a vacuum seemed to build up, and what's-his-name was sucked back in. Big time.
So what do I do now? I guess just relax, take it easy, enjoy summer and let time pass. My profile won't be activated again till I've gotten that guy out of my system completely, so I know it won't be an interfering part in whatever next adventure I embark on. I truly thought I was at that point when I started this thing, I might have been, too - that I will never really know for sure. It could also be that when nothing else seems to work out, it's just natural to fall back on something you knew so well, somewhere you felt safe, something involving good feelings ('cause the bad ones and the insecurities you just can't remember).
And with that sort of conclusion, I'll amputate this already too long post that I (like with every other post of mine

) don't really know why I wrote, or how anyone would ever be interested in reading...