My OperaI LOVE YOU NOW WHAT?
Tuesday, October 2, 2007 4:11:05 PM
Love is beyond reason. Love is not measurable in words.
Love cannot be partial; it cannot have owners. Love is essentially beyond definition or concept.
We have spent days, years and centuries seeking the keys to open our own locks, the doors that we have used to shut out our own happiness. And we don’t realize that the only thing we have to do is open our hearts to LOVE.
Mabel Iam
One day we meet. Both of us feel an attraction, we kiss, we love each other. In due time a more committed relationship emerges, we “fall in love,” but… What happens after that?
At the beginning of the relationship we are infatuated, fascinated, and it is often difficult for us to keep our attention focused on our work or any other pastime; we think about him or her all day long. Although infatuation occurs in each of us for very different and specific reasons, all human beings vibrate similarly with similar feelings, or when we approach that one person, that fascinating being that captivates us thanks to a list of characteristics that we like and are attracted to: their mannerisms or behavior, the way they move, their beauty, intelligence, or whatever it is. In fact, sometimes we cannot even find a single objective reason to justify our feelings.
Extraordinary things happen to us when we fall in love. We want to spend as much time as possible with our beloved, and incorporate them into our world. We assume that this person possesses extraordinary qualities, that s/he is the best human being on earth, at least in most aspects.
It’s possible that the person we are idealizing doesn’t deserve to be boxed into in one extreme or the other – neither a sum of virtues nor a tally of flaws – but the frustration that we come to feel upon realizing our biased perceptions can cause us to feel depressed and lead us to the most extravagant and exaggerated conclusions. Once this occurs, frustration takes over and smashes the mirror into which we have projected our needs and, especially, our dependences.
It also happens that relationships often get off to a magnificent, luminous start. Everything happens in a free, flowing manner that is marvelously exciting.
The one day our beloved doesn’t call, or doesn’t show up for a date, and then, we stress ourselves thinking “What’s wrong? Doesn’t s/he love me any more? Has s/he found someone else? Is s/he deceiving me?” and so on.
Love cannot be partial; it cannot have owners. Love is essentially beyond definition or concept.
We have spent days, years and centuries seeking the keys to open our own locks, the doors that we have used to shut out our own happiness. And we don’t realize that the only thing we have to do is open our hearts to LOVE.
Mabel Iam
One day we meet. Both of us feel an attraction, we kiss, we love each other. In due time a more committed relationship emerges, we “fall in love,” but… What happens after that?
At the beginning of the relationship we are infatuated, fascinated, and it is often difficult for us to keep our attention focused on our work or any other pastime; we think about him or her all day long. Although infatuation occurs in each of us for very different and specific reasons, all human beings vibrate similarly with similar feelings, or when we approach that one person, that fascinating being that captivates us thanks to a list of characteristics that we like and are attracted to: their mannerisms or behavior, the way they move, their beauty, intelligence, or whatever it is. In fact, sometimes we cannot even find a single objective reason to justify our feelings.
Extraordinary things happen to us when we fall in love. We want to spend as much time as possible with our beloved, and incorporate them into our world. We assume that this person possesses extraordinary qualities, that s/he is the best human being on earth, at least in most aspects.
It’s possible that the person we are idealizing doesn’t deserve to be boxed into in one extreme or the other – neither a sum of virtues nor a tally of flaws – but the frustration that we come to feel upon realizing our biased perceptions can cause us to feel depressed and lead us to the most extravagant and exaggerated conclusions. Once this occurs, frustration takes over and smashes the mirror into which we have projected our needs and, especially, our dependences.
It also happens that relationships often get off to a magnificent, luminous start. Everything happens in a free, flowing manner that is marvelously exciting.
The one day our beloved doesn’t call, or doesn’t show up for a date, and then, we stress ourselves thinking “What’s wrong? Doesn’t s/he love me any more? Has s/he found someone else? Is s/he deceiving me?” and so on.
