SPIRITUALLY and TRUTHFULLY

Even though i walk through the valley of the shaddow of death, i will fear no evil, because he that has Messiah stands on a solid rock...... I shall not die.

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GODWIN ELIJAH - music history


Well, i'm Godwin Elijah but popularlly knonw as "Zion prophet" i was born on 14th of may 1988 in Obingwa local government, Abia state of Nigeria. My music career began at my age of ten, and i was inspired by Lucky Dube and Eric Donaldson's musics. Although we had no money because my father died at early age, but i was spiritually rich, most especially when i'm listening to reggae music, knowing that some day things could be better for our family. Our eldest and only sister "Linda Elijah" was a graduate but she didn't get a good job despite all her qualifications, so, things became hard and harder for us. I've written 10 tracks of reggae songs already and was struggling to get money for the production, but the struggle was long and hard. In the year 2010 after i have been deported from India, i was moving about with empty pocket. After some weeks i travelled to Port-harcourt city, when i got there i heard about this musical group of guys called "WITTY BOYS", but the three boys were all rappers and were seriously searching for a singer. I got acquainted with one of them without being aware he was among, we were friends, his name was "Udo raw", and he must have told his fellow men about me, i gues. After some time, i was sitting by the road side one evening when i received an invitation text message from the witty boys, they told me that my number was given to them by Udo raw my friend, and they asked me to join their group. Fine, i could not say no, i joined, but later on, one of us droped, and we became three ( Peter blinks, Udo raw, and myself Godwin Elijah ) then, after some time, we changed our group name to "MOON WALKERS".. I was a singer and was inspired by reggae music, therefore, each song we composed i will be appointed to sing the chorus and the last verse, while they will share the rest verses among themselves.. On 5th of may 2011, we released a mini album called "Business party" it was only 4 tracks and was recorded at M-kaze's studio in Port-harcourt, but our sound engineer was Dj lecture. The cd was sold poorly, i didn't burder much, why? Because i'm a Rasta-man, my interest wasn't in Hip hop style of music at all. The cd gave us only 17,000 naira each, while we spent 30,000 naira each for the racording, you can see the lost.. After seven months, i departed from Moon walkers, i stood alone and moved on with Reggae again. On 19th of august 2012, i went back to my home town Aba, and it was there i recorded my personal 10 tracks of Reggae songs at the "Platinum studio", the album is called "I SHALL NOT DIE". And 2 out of the 10 tracks were registered in Wazobia Fm, I SHALL NOT DIE and MAMA DON'T CRY.
Artist: Godwin Elijah
Label: Platinum studio
year: 2012
Album: I shall not die
Tracks: 10

1. I shall not die
2. Tomorrow on spec
3. Wayo master
4. Mama don't cry
5. Tell yourself the truth
6. Come back to me
7. Never make people cry
8. Only reggae music
9. Dube is gone
10. Praise da Jah


ABOMINATION


Some girls scramble to marry rich men
because of the status they aim to attain in
the society. You know, almost all young
ladies in Nigeria want to belong. They want
to be pace setters. Any man who can satisfy
their financial need is their dream man. So,
since it is only steady supply of money that
can guarantee targeted status, they just
grab any rich man that comes their way not
minding how he made his money.
The result is that soon after such marriage
is contracted, it heads for the rocks because
the lady finds out that money can’t buy
everything. She may attempt to use her
hubby’s money to buy love from another
man. Politicians, business men and top
government officials who always travel
from place to place for meeting and rallies,
only make more than enough money
available for their wives but they are hardly
there for them in person. Those who married to
poor men have access to whatever their
husbands have, including adequate love
and tenderness. Their husbands are always
available for them.

I HAD A DREAM LAST NIGHT


Last night, i had a dream. A dream
of people helping
people. A dream of
making a difference, A
dream where the poor
are no more. A dream of
all the children of the
world have food
to eat. A dream where
there is no such thing as
being poor. A dream where we help each
other reach our goals.
So my people, do not worry anymore, everything is gonna be alright...!

FRIENDSHIP BETRAYAL


True friends are hard to
find, most of the time,
people land up with
wrong people, who are
difficult to adjust with.
With the increasing
selfishness and cut throat
competition between
peers, it has become
more difficult to find a
person, who can be
blindly trusted and
looked upon in need. Also, with increasing
interest of people in gossip and cheap plots,
betrayal of friendship has become very
common. One more reason because of
which friendship these days do not bloom
is self- engrossed nature of most of the
people. Even worse are those cases, where
betrayal of friendship is done for
materialistic pleasures. Coping up with a
broken friendship is quite hard, more so if
you have no fault of yours. But, life goes on
and you make new friends. You push away
your hurtful past and learn a valuable
lesson from it.
1. Accept Reality.
When friends let you down and are not
there for you when you need them the
most, its very heart wrenching. Sometimes
the reason why friends betray you is just
not known, which leaves you with a feeling
of guilt that may be something went wrong
from your side. In case of betrayal, being at
the receiving end leaves you hurt, confused
and angry. You demand answers as to why
have you been betrayed for absolutely no
fault of yours. The talks end abruptly, phone
calls are not returned, letters remain
unanswered and there is no contact
whatsoever. Hate it as much as you want,
you will have to come to terms with reality
and accept that things were not meant to
be.
2. Do Not Drag Issues
.
Though it may seem like the end of the
world, there are ways to cope up with it. If
the friendship has been ended by you, then
there has to be reason concrete enough to
justify the action you have taken. There is
no point in dragging along a friendship
when you know you are not comfortable
with it. End it politely and quickly and most
importantly, don't regret your action. If you
start feeling sorry, you are putting yourself
in trouble. There is a reason for every
action you take and you must have thought
a lot about it before taking a decision. Learn
to trust your gut feelings and have
confidence in yourself. Make sure you don't
end the friendship (however short it may
be) with bitter feelings and make it a bitter
experience for yourself as well.
3. Cry Your Heart Out
.
If you have been at the receiving end and
feel that you have been betrayed for no
fault of yours, it can be very hurtful. Don't
be embarrassed to cry and scream. You
have been hurt and you have the right to
vent out your frustration and once you take
out all the frustrations, you will feel a lot
better after Seek out other friends, siblings
or your parents and talk to them. However,
also learn to cope on your own, take out
time and explore world again.
4. Take Lessons.
Once you overcome the depression phase,
you will be surprised to see that it was not
very difficult. All that you needed was to
make yourself understand that this friend
was not meant for you. Also, remember
these betrayals are experiences that taught
you valuable lessons in life especially about
your compatibility and your priorities in life.
Don't be exaggerate the issue on a vocal
level but analyze it within your heart.
However, make sure you do not become
xenophobic after all betrayals should not
stop you from trusting people and making
new friends.

MY FIRST WEEKEND IN SPAIN


Would you like going to a school on the
other side of the world? Well guess what, I
have to go to new school in Spain not
knowing a whole sentence of Spanish, its
gonna be hard and scary . Do I wanted to go,
no, do I have to go yes! My brother says its
good for me because i’m Hispanic and I will
be able to learn some Spanish and because
he got a new job out there. Moving away
from all my friends in Nigeria makes me
want to die, I will most defiantly be missing
the hot summers and cold winters in Lagos.
But back to school, my first week is going to
be horrid! I am afraid that the teachers are
going to speak Spanish too and I will have
no clue what they are saying. I will probably
be the only one who wears Justice. Yesterday was my second time of travelling through air, but was the first time of coming to Europe, I hope it will all
goes well for me. Wish me luck!.. Happy weekend to all opera members, and to all my friends and relatives there in Nigeria. I miss you all, i love SPAIN.

MY QUESTION


Too many Christians give to God and expect
Him to answer immediately! In other words
“I just tithed…now bless me!” Yet God
doesn’t work that way. First off, He typically
won’t bless you if you aren’t positioning
yourself for blessings. What I mean is He
won’t just send money from heaven. You
have to work for it and then He can bless
those efforts!
Secondly, it happens in His time, not ours!
Often He is doing us a favor by teaching us
powerful lessons that will transform our
minds and lives. Through pain there is gain
and growth. He uses our failures and
tribulations to strengthen our faith and
prepare us for the better days ahead.
Yeah…why are so many Christians broke?
I just spoke to my friend. He asked a
powerful question to me: “why are so
many Christians broke?” Wow! It hits you
right between the eyes! His question got me
thinking…
I mean if we serve the Creator of life, the
abundant provider of everything, the
original author of “hope and change” then
why are so many in the body of Christ:
Dead broke?
Deep in debt?
Have little or no savings?
Have no plans for the future?
God calls us to rise above mediocrity and
bring glory to Him. How can we help others
when we need help? How can we attract
others to Christ when we are a mess? It’s
not about perfection, but it is about
establishing habits and persevering for His
cause.
So I ask you:
What have you given up on?
What dream have you left behind?
What is holding you back from the success
God has in store for you?
I bet you know exactly what it is, but the
real question is what are you going to do
about it?

SPOIL NOT A CHILD


Many parents think spoiling or
overindulging their children won't have an
affect. However, spoiling children too much
can cause children to act out, be
disrespectful to others, act bossy and throw
fits when they do not get everything they
want. You can stop spoiling your child in a
few quick steps.

1. Commit to stopping the cycle of spoiling
your children. Prepare yourself to work
hard and not give up. The process is not
easy and you will probably feel like
giving in at some point, but don't.
2. Show your children the right way to act
by being a responsible adult and good
role model. Children watch their parents
and see how they represent themselves.
3. Sit your children down and have a
serious talk with them about what is
expected of them and how things are
going to work from here on out.
4. Avoid giving empty threats to your
children. Follow through with
punishments when rules are broken.
Take toys away and use time-outs as
punishments, and most importantly, do
not give in.
5. Cut back on the material things you give
your children if they don't appreciate the
material things you give them. Give your
children a chore list and start giving
them an allowance for completed chores.
Let your children use their allowance
money to purchase items they really
want. This teaches children the value of
hard work and makes them appreciate
things more.
6. Teach your children about sharing and
charity by helping them choose some of
their belongings to give away to those
who are less fortunate. Explain why
donating those items is important and
how much it helps those in need. Goodluck..!

WHAT WOMEN WANT


Women usually want a basic set of
characteristics in a mate.
Many men are confused about what women
want in a mate. Although not all women
want the same thing, more often than not,
you are going to find that women want a
basic set of characteristics in a mate.
Knowing what women want could help
bring more couples together.
1. Trustworthy
Being trustworthy can be a valuable
characteristic for a man to have. A
woman wants to know that her mate
can go out for a night and not do
anything that could cause problems in
the future.
2. Hygienic
Most women don't want to get close
to a man who is not hygienic and
does not take care of himself. This
includes showering, styling his hair
and wearing clean clothes; all are
simple tasks but not all men do them.
3. Ambitious
Ambition is important; it tells the
woman that the man can take care of
himself and is not planning to be
stagnant the rest of his life. A man
may appear more attractive if he has
goals and motivates himself to
achieve them.
4. Intelligent
Intelligence can be a big factor in
choosing a mate. Many women want
men they can have conversations
with, who will teach them something
new and be willing to learn in return.
A man who is intelligent,
knowledgeable and continues to learn
may appeal to more women.
5. Reliable
A woman wants a mate she can count
on. She does not want to worry if he
is going to be missing when she
needs him; she wants to know that he
is reliable and will be there for her
without fail.
6. Integrity
One of the main qualities women look
for in men is integrity. For example, if
a man says he is interested in a long-
term committed relationship that
could lead to marriage but does
nothing to show his seriousness, this
can be a turn-off.
7. Loyalty
Women are not interested in fair-
weather partners. They don't want
men who only stick around for the
benefits of the relationship but leave
when conflicts arise or when the
woman is experiencing personal
setbacks. They prefer men who will be
there no matter how hard times get.
8. Honesty
Women want men who will be honest
with them and not be afraid to share
their concerns. For example, when a
man is concerned about his wife's
money-managing habits but ignores it
rather than honestly communicate his
feelings, the problem gets worse and
it leads to a communication
breakdown.
9. Sense of Humor
Some women like men who have a
good sense of humor. When a man
can cheer his girlfriend or wife up
with funny statements, it adds fun to
the relationship and can keep the
relationship strong.
10. Financial Stability
Another important quality that some
women appreciate in men is the
ability to provide financially for his
future family. This provides security
for the woman, and it will also help of
there is ever a time in which the
woman is unable to work.

APOLOGY


Apologizing can't reverse a mistake, but
acknowledging it and asking for
forgiveness can help both parties to move
on
No one is perfect; we all make mistakes! An
apology acknowledges the mistake and
asks for forgiveness. Whether for small
oversights or major hurts, sincere apologies
make it possible for relationships to
continue.
. Before deciding the best way to make
the apology, think through exactly what
the mistake was, the impact on the other
person and what you learned from the
experience. How will you be different in
the future?
Consider in what way the other person
was hurt and what reparation needs to
be made. Was there physical damage or
were the other person’s feelings hurt?
Are others affected by the mistake? Is
this the first time such a thing has
happened or is it a repeat?
Speak directly to the person you hurt.
Find a time when he or she is willing to
listen. Explain that you are sorry for
what happened and that you understand
why he or she is angry/sad/
disappointed. Give him or her time to
express her feelings. Don’t interrupt! You
made the mistake and he or she
deserves to tell you the impact. Ask if he
or she can forgive you. Be prepared if
they can’t.
When speaking directly isn’t possible,
write a letter. Start by saying you are
sincerely sorry and go through the points
you developed above. Express what you
hope for the outcome of your apology.
Offer to speak to the person if he or she
would like.
When it seems a letter would take too
long, write an email. It’s less personal but
it’s fast.
After you apologize, reflect on what
happened. Learn from this mistake. A
truly sincere apology can be very
liberating; carrying around the regret for
having hurt someone weighs down your
soul. Sometimes the act of apologizing
opens the way for new possibilities that
would not have existed otherwise.
If there was physical damage, reimburse
it. If there is a dispute about how much
is owed, find a reliable third party whom
both people trust and agree to abide by
that decision. Then pay.
If you have hurt someone again and
again, realize that he may not be willing
to stay in relationship with you. At least
you can acknowledge that what you did
was wrong. If you are trying to get
control over the situation, say so, but
only if it’s true.
If the person is a relative or someone
you are close to, a hug is a good way to
finish the apology.
If you don’t feel sincerely sorry, your
apology will fall flat. See if there is some
part of what happened that you feel
really sorry for. The other person may
not accept it, but it’s a step in the right
direction.
If you’re the person receiving the
apology try to receive it in good faith.
You may not trust that the mistake won’t
happen again, but acknowledge the
effort that was made.

BE A GOOD LEADER


It's not always an easy task to be a good
leader. People's personality traits like anger,
desire to be like Napolean, or other issues
get in the way.
Following these steps should be easy, but I
know, it's likely hard to keep those feelings
of frustration in check.

These are the things You'll Need:
A desire to work with others instead of
against them
.
understanding that things can't go 100%
perfect at all times or likely most times.
realization that one who does the task is
better than one with a silver tongue
.
desire to actually lead and not spend half
your time whining about how hard it is.
ability to organize and delegate duties
appopriately
.
ability to motivate positively and make
people want to do stuff.
ability to think things through before
doing them.

1. First off, realize that you are in charge of
people and it is your job to be a leader.
You must work with people, not against
them for a successful leadership role.
2. All people have faults and abilities and
should be allowed to work or use their
skills in appropriate ways. A good and
winning team of workers or whatever
activity you are leader of works with
people's abilities and does not try to
make everyone do things not in their
skill set. People are unique individuals,
work with them or experience
disgruntled, unhappy, and disappointed
people who come and go frequently.
3. Offer rewards or incentives to get the
task or activity done. Don't be afraid to
lavish compliments or rewards on
someone who does an excellent job. This
gives others a person to look up to and
be like.
4. Treat people fairly, but always remember
there will be someone who stands out in
the crowd as a good person to uplift,
promote, or can provide excellent
leadership skills in your absence.
5. Listen to people. Don't accuse them of
talking back and yell at them when they
are only explaining what they did. Listen
to people's ideas and apply plausible
ones. Care about people's desires and
concerns and do what you can to help
make things better.
6. People are not children. They will react
badly when they feel they are treated
unfairly or are doing the best they can
and you keep demanding more. They will
be angry and frustrated. The best thing
to do at this point is apologize or accept
the person for who they are.
7. Do not yell at people in public and refrain
from yelling at them at all. Most people
do not deserve this treatment and it is
highly unprofessional and wrong. If
someone does something wrong, point it
out to them and do not be overly pushy
with what you want.
8. Rules are there for a general guideline,
not to pick out people for breaking them
and punishing them. People will do
something wrong that violates maybe a
safety issue or rule of conduct. If this
person is a hard worker or is compliant
most of the time and does not do it all
the time, this is not a reason to be on
their case or handing out strict
punishment. Explain to them what they
have done wrong and caution them not
to repeat it often. There is no sense in
losing a good person over silly mistakes
that are easily forgivable.
9. People are not always going to behave
seriously, but that is no reason to be curt
and consider them a goof off. Humor
relieves tension and can help people to
feel better about completing a task. Just
don't let it get out of hand.
0. Be concerned about your people. Care
about issues that bother them and help
them be able to get past them.
1. Provide good explanations of items or
issues. Don't just expect people to
automatically understand or read your
mind.
2. Most of all, put yourself in other people's
shoes. If you wouldn't like anything
done to you, don't do it to anyone else.

FEELINGS OF HATRED


Helping others will take the focus off of
your hate.
Losing dignity causes feelings of hatred,
according to Psychology Today. Many times
hate will start out as anger, move into
bitterness and then become hate. If you let
hate stay in your mind too long, it can lead
you to take negative action against the
object of your hatred. In order to avoid
hate taking over your life, you must make
the effort to work through it. Small steps
will eventually help you remove hate from
your mind entirely..
1. Find the root. In order to drive hate from
your mind, you need to understand
where it came from. If someone hurt
your pride, this may provide the cause
for the hate. Observing the root of the
hate will eventually help you work
through it.
2. Tell the truth. Many times lies that other
people tell you result in hate. Examine
what the person has said to you and
then ask yourself about the truth. Say
statements out loud that reflect the truth
about yourself. The more you believe the
truth about yourself, the less hate will
infiltrate your system when someone
says inaccurate and hurtful things about
you.
3. Help others. Hate can reflect selfishness.
By helping other people, you will remove
hate from your mind by changing your
focus. When you focus on what you can
do for others, hate towards people
begins to dissolve. Showing empathy for
people will help you control your
emotions.
4. Build self-esteem. What people say or do
can decimate your self-esteem. A person
with low self-esteem may automatically
respond to hurtful behavior with hate.
By building your self-esteem, what
people say or do will have less effect on
you. Find something you enjoy such as
sports, scrapbooking, music, etc. and
pour energy into those activities. This
will help you build self-esteem and keep
your mind occupied. A full mind has no
room for hate.

PROTECTION AGAINST SPIRIT AND GHOST


Some spirits hang out in old abandoned
houses.
If you have a strange sensation that
someone is watching you, even though you
are alone, it could be more than just an eerie
feeling. Signs that a spirit or ghost is nearby
include sudden changes in temperature,
odd smells, something brushing lightly
against your skin or things that seem to
move around on their own. Spirits or ghosts
may also make themselves present through
your dreams. Take measures to protect
yourself from unwelcome ghosts if such
encounters frighten you or make you
uneasy.
These are the things you'll need:
Horseshoe.
Garlic
.
Mezuzah
.
Rosemary.
Mirror
.
Wind Chimes
.
Obsidian, chalcedony or silver.
1. Hang a horseshoe facing either up or
down above your front door. According
to 16th century folklore, horseshoes
ward off witches and bring luck to those
who pass by. If you don't have a
horseshoe, hang garlic over the door, as
it also protects from evil spirits.
2. Practice daily meditation. Being in touch
with your inner self makes you stronger
spiritually.
3. Attach a mezuzah to your door. A
mezuzah is a piece of parchment that
contains verses from the Torah. When
attached to the outside door, it protects
those within.
4. Rosemary repels evil spirits.
Grow rosemary in your yard, keep a
sprig of it in your pocket or hang a
wreath on your door. In ancient Greece,
people burned rosemary at shrines to
repel evil spirits and keep illness at bay.
5. Place a flat mirror in each room facing
the doorway. The ghost sees its
reflection upon entering the room and
gets scared away.
6. Wear jewelry made from chalcedony,
obsidian or silver. All three have
protective properties to ward off ghosts.
7. Hang wind chimes outside. They will
ward off evil spirits and sooth your
body and soul.
8. Empower your mind and think positive
thoughts. People who constantly think
negative thoughts or live in a constant
state of fear make it easier for bad spirits
to control them. Ghosts are more likely to
avoid confident people who emit
positive energy.
What to Do If You Feel a Ghost Is Near
You
9. Envision a white light surrounding you
from head to toe. The white light is
protection against danger and harm.
0. Yell at the ghost and tell it to leave. Be
assertive and explain that you don't
want it to return, ever. If the feeling
persists, repeat several times until you
feel you are alone.
1. Go into a church, if there is one open that
is nearby.
2. Pray. Ask for protection against evil and
bad spirits. If you don't know any
prayers, you can make one up.

When you go to bed each night, put the
shoes you intend to wear the next day at
the foot of your bed. Face one shoe in
each direction. This confuses ghosts, and
they will leave you alone.

EXPRESS LOVE TO OTHERS


There are several different ways to show
love to the people around you because we
all experience love differently. But there are
a few basic techniques to showing love.
Try these helpful tips to start expressing
your love to others today!
Follow this Instructions.
1. Verbalize your feelings. Give
compliments, let them know how
important they are to you, make them
feel important and special through
words of encouragement, and of course,
say "I love you".
2. Give gifts. Some people feel very loved
whenever they receive a gift and this
can be a great way to express your love
because it takes time and thought and
lets them know that you take the time to
figure out what they like. The gifts do
not have to be expensive. Try giving a
coffee mug to your dad, a bean bag to a
kid, some flowers to your wife, or some
chocolate to your husband.
3. Give the gift of touch. Some people go
for years without being touched once by
another human being. Try giving a
friend a hug when they seem down or
make it a rule to hug your family when
you see them.
4. Give the gift of time. This only works if
you spend time with your attention
focused on your loved one. Try going
out to lunch and asking them what is
going on in their life. Or go sledding or
walking together. Just make sure they
know that you love them enough to pay
attention to them without getting
distracted.
5. Show your love through acts of service.
Next time your sister is stressed, offer to
help her with something, or take care of
the kids for your wife. Easing the burden
for others is a great way to show that
you appreciate all that they do and you
love them enough to make life a little
easier for them.

GODWIN ELIJAH - BIOGRAPHY


Godwin Okechukwu Elijah was born on
14th of may 1988 being on saturday
afternoon in a local village called
"Onichangwa" which is located at
"Obingwa Local Government Area in Aba,
Abia state of Nigeria". Godwin is the fifth
born out of the six children of his beloved
parents. The name Okechukwu was given
to him by his father Mr. Elijah Agharanya,
and Mrs. Catherine Elijah his mother name
him Godwin. In terms of respect, love and
happiness, his family was not comparable
with any other family around his village,
they were living in peace. His father Elijah
was a climber (a palm kernel cutter), he also
repairs damaged or broken bicycles. His
mother Catherine was a trader of
foodstuffs. So, they were earning enough
to take care of their family. Godwin
attended "Kingfredson Nursary and
Primary School" which was about 140 miles
away from his village. Since he was a child
he proved to be very intelligent, his
favorite books were considered
complicated for a child's mind, he likes
reading the bible as well. He was an
obedient and well-behaved child, he also
likes following his mama to the farm.
Godwin prefer listening than talking, he has
a great love and respect for people, and he
has lots of friends but most of them were
far beyond his age. Godwin's father Elijah
was the only son of Isaac Agharanya,
therefore, Elijah inherited lots of land from
his father after his death.. Godwin was only
4 years old when his father took a serious
illness, after some days Elijah died, the
doctor comfirmed that poison was
responsible for his death. His mother, sister
and elder brothers mourned so bitterly for
the death of their beloved one, while
Godwin and his younger one were just
children... Life goes on. His mother
Catherine was a very good and
hardworking woman, she was struggling
alot to feed her children. When Godwin was
7 years he had a little accident on his way
to the stream where they fetches water, he
was carried on a bicycle by one of his
neighbours "Nwaodochi" while they
somersaulted on the mountain, this
accident caused him a serious injury on his
nose, but as time went on he was fully
recovered. At the age of 9 Godwin droped
out from school for the result of poverty,
her only sister Adaku Elijah who is the
eldest among all was in secondary school
then, so, their efforts was at least to bring
her up to the university level. His eldest
brother Ekeledirichi Elijah was a musician
(pianist) but was not earning enough. His
two other brothers Chinwendu Elijah and
Osinachi Elijah was also in school, while his
younger one Chinazum Elijah was following
Mama all around. Godwin became
interested in music at the age of 10 after
he has droped out from school, he was
singing with his mother and the church
choir, he was also following his brother
who is a musician to parties. On 20th of
october 2002, Godwin travelled along with
his sister Adaku to the city called "Lagos" he
has became a 14 years old teenager then,
and it was there he continues his school at
"Livingstone Model College", but later was
changed to "Institute of Phonographic
Practional" at the age of 16.. Godwin loves
his mother so much despite the fact that he
was in the city with his sister, his mind was
also in the village where his mother stays.
His sister has tried enough for bringing him
up to the secondary level which he is
today. So, when he was 17 he went back to
village to know if his brothers could raise
money for him to take WAEC, but when he
got there he was disappointed. "Godwin, i
knew a man in the city, he's a very walthy
business man, he promised to settle you
after 5 years of serving him, will you go?
His brother Chinwendu asked godwin. "Yes
brother, i will go with him, it will be better
for me than staying here in the village
doing nothing" Godwin was convinced and
he replied. but when he was about to leave,
his mother cried telling him not to go, but
Godwin refused thinking it was going to be
so easy for him there. His last words was
"Mama don't worry, everything will be
alright" So, he left at the age of 18 with the
man to that same city "Lagos" that was in
2006. When he got there he became a
slave, he must work hard before he could
eat, he was the cleaner of all the things in
the house, cars, bathroom, toilet and so on.
He was also carrying heavy loads of goods
from one place to another on his head
without complaining. Along the line Godwin
met a friend called "Collins Igwe" who has
been a Rasta all his life, through him
Godwin got acquainted with the RASTAFARI
RELIGION, he became a reggae music lover
and started listening to Lucky Dube and Eric
Donaldson's music. He was convinced after
reading the book of "Leviticus 21:5" that it
is holy and fearful for a man to have a long
hair and beard than cutting them off, so, he
began to grow hairs.. One day at his age of
20, Godwin was coming back from the
market, unluckily the bus he entered was
full of the hypocrites, people who claimed
to be righteuos but were criminals, he was
robbed and threw out of the bus, but when
he landed on that motorway the first thing
that came out from his mouth
unconsciously was "I shall not die".. At his
age of 21 Godwin started composing some
songs through the experience he've got
from one of the most famous Reggae artist
"Lucky Dube". The first song he wrote was
called "I SHALL NOT DIE" which is reffering
to the strange incident that happened to
him in the past.. When Godwin became a
real Rastafarian he started smoking Indian
hemps which they calls "The Holy Herb or
Marijuana" And he started rejecting foods
that was prepared with unnatural
ingredients from his master's wife. "I and I
gotta live long and healthy with empty
stomach than to swallow any bread that is
against the law of Jah-Rastafari" that was
what Godwin normally tells his madam
each time she broght food to him. So,
because of this, his master became very
angry at Godwin, he swore that he will
never settle him after his slavery. But when
Godwin heard this, he started planning on
how to escape, on 15th of june 2010 being
on tuesday he ran away to Ghana with
some money, and he was declared wanted
immediately. The crime he commited
wasn't his intention, but was because of
what he has heard from his master that he
was going to be thrown away with
nothing after 6 years of suffering. When he
noticed that the forces are searching for
him all around, he decided to travell abroad,
without waisting time he applied for Indian
visa, and luckily his visa was approved
within a short time. On 25th of august
2010 he took off to India (Vadodara,
Gujarat). But sadly, after his two months
visa has expired, he has no money left for
renewal, so, he was deported on 11th of
december 2010.. He went back to his town
"Aba, Abia state of Nigeria" to start a life
again, while the forces are still searching
for him. During jenuary 2011 he became a
23 years fugitive, his relatives abandoned
him for such criminal act. He was going
from streets to streets, coming from no
place to nowhere searching for hard jobs.
And now, his going back to home or
relatives is at risk, so, he has finaly became
a homless fugitive, he is now living in the
bush, and who knows what may happen to
him next..?

JUDGEMENT


There is a large number of people in the
world, even Christians, today who say that
we shouldn't judge people. Thus, they
would go to say that we shouldn't criticize
others; saying that they are wrong or what
they believe is wrong. This is mainly due to
the influence of postmodernism, with its
idea of relativism and philosophical
pluralism.
In this article, I would first, for the benefit
of all, show that such an idea is
preposterous and is never practiced
anywhere, by deconstructing this notion. I
would then go on to show according to
Scripture what it teaches about judging
people.
When someone says that we shouldn't
judge people, what they often mean is that
we don't have the right to say someone is
right or wrong. I would answer this with
three lines of reasoning:
You are judging us when you say that.
Truth by nature is exclusive
I'm not judging you, God is
You are judging us when you say that
Judging people means that you pass a value
judgment on what others think or do or
say, of which judgment implies making a
decision whether something is right or
wrong. Thus, when someone say that we
should not judge others, they are in fact
passing a value judgment (that judging
people is wrong) and thus anyone who
does so (judging other) is doing something
that is wrong. Thus, those people who say
that we shouldn't judge other are in fact
doing exactly what they say they shouldn't
do; judging that people who they perceive
as judging others are wrong. Thus, this
sentence is self-defeating. In fact, because
this is so, those people who say that we
shouldn't judge others are in fact
hypocrites, because they practice the thing
they condemned in others.
Truth by nature is exclusive
As I have shown in this article on relativism,
truth by nature is exclusive. Most people,
when they say that we shouldn't judge
people, it is almost inadvertently related to
truth claims like those found in Christianity
(i.e. the claim that Jesus is the ONLY way, the
ONLY truth and the ONLY life — Jn. 14:6)
The fact of the matter is that something
which is true is non-negotiable. In that
article and the main article on relativism, I
have demolished the claims of relativism,
thus establishing the fact that there are
absolute truths. Therefore, if what I say is
true, you can't say that I am judging people.
I'm not judging you, God is
The Christian, whether he is presenting the
exclusivity of Christ in the Gospel or talking
about other truth claims in it, should be
basing his arguments on Scripture. Thus, for
example, when I say that Jesus is the ONLY
way, the ONLY truth and the ONLY life and
that apart from knowing Jesus as God, you
will not go to heaven, I am not passing
judgment on those who refuse to accept
Jesus as Lord and Savior, but God's Word in
the Bible is. This is because I am not saying
something new, but just reiterating what
God says through the Bible. Thus, all non-
believers' arguments are with God, not me.
Now, we will look at Scripture to see what
the Bible says about judging.
For many Christians, they would always
throw out these few Bible passages and say
that from there Jesus, and Paul condemns
judging people. However, is that really the
case? We shall see.
The passages that are quoted for saying
that we shouldn't judge people are as
follows:
Matthew 7:1-5 (NIV)
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For
in the same way you judge others, you will
be judged, and with the measure you use, it
will be measured to you.
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust
in your brother's eye and pay no attention
to the plank in your own eye? How can you
say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck
out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a
plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first
take the plank out of your own eye, and
then you will see clearly to remove the
speck from your brother's eye.
Rom. 2: 1-3 (NIV)
You, therefore, have no excuse, you who
pass judgment on someone else, for at
whatever point you judge the other, you
are condemning yourself, because you who
pass judgment do the same things. Now we
know that God's judgment against those
who do such things is based on truth. So
when you, a mere man, pass judgment on
them and yet do the same things, do you
think you will escape God's judgment?
Before we examine these passages in detail,
let us look at some passages in the Bible
that show Paul, Stephan and even Jesus
judging people, even scolding and shaming
them in public.
In what is probably Jesus' most acidic
judgment on the Pharisees in Luke
11:37-52, Jesus, the person who tells us to
love each other, pronounces six woes on
the Pharisees and the teachers of the Law.
The word woe used here is the Greek word
transliterated Ouai and denotes a primary
exclamation of grief. Used in this context,
Jesus was saying that they are in a very
bad and grievous state. Jesus here liken
these self-righteous religious leaders to
bowls which are clean on the outside and
dirty on the inside, unwashed tombstones
and the people who kill the prophets and
then decorate their tombstones later. In
other words, Jesus is pronouncing that he
has judged them and found them wanting,
they being hypocrites who do one thing
and exalting themselves in public on their
perceived righteousness while sinning in
private.
Some people may say that Jesus can do that
because he is God. However, let us not
forget that Jesus is modeling for us the life
we are to live as Christians, thus we can't
say that Jesus can judge because he is God,
especially since judging someone is an
attitude and action, not something special
that God alone can do. To prove this, we can
look at the case of Stephan and Paul.
Stephan was one of the early Christian and
the first Christian martyr, being stoned to
death by a Jewish lynch mob made up by
his accusers and the Sanhedrin ( Acts 7:57-
8:1a). The reason behind his death is found
in the passage immediately preceding this.
In Acts 7:1-56, Stephan was caught and
tried by the Sanhedrin on false charges by
people who oppose the Gospel. When asked
to present his defense, Stephan gave the
Sanhedrin a history lesson, finally closing
with a judgment and indictment of the Jews
present, especially of the Sanhedrin.
Stephan accuses the Sanhedrin and his
accusers as follows:
"You stiffnecked people, with
uncircumcised hearts and ears! You are just
like your fathers: You always resist the Holy
Spirit! Was there ever a prophet your
fathers did not persecute? They even killed
those who predicted the coming of the
Righteous One. And now you have betrayed
and murdered him – you who have
received the law that was put into effect
through angels but have not obeyed
it.” ( Acts 7:51-53 NIV)
If that is not judging and criticizing people,
then I don't know what it.
Paul, similarly, judge and criticize people. In
Gal. 2:11-14, the apostle Peter compromise
and was rebuked publicly by Paul.
In light of these examples, we must really
look very closely to the passages which
seem to support the idea that we are not to
judge people.
Let us look at the two passages, Mt. 7:1-5
and Rom. 2:1-3. In these two passages, the
Bible is not asking us not to judge; it is
against hypocritical judgments. In the
passage in the Sermon of the Mount (Mt.
7:1-5), Jesus didn't say that we shouldn't
remove the speck from another's eye. In
fact, we are asked to do that. However, we
are to remove the plank from our eye first,
then remove the speck from his eye. In
Rom. 2:3, it is saying that is is wrong to
judge someone when you are doing the
same thing. In fact, in Rom. 2:20-23, we are
told that if you want to judge or teach
others, you must apply the same standard
to yourself. In fact, God himself said that in
Mt. 7:1 and the whole of Rom. 2:1-3 that
God will judge us according to the standard
that we judge others.
So, therefore, what does the Bible teaches
about judging others? The Bible says it is OK
to judge others, as long as we apply the
same standards to ourselves and knowing
full well that God will use the same standard
on us. In fact, in light of the actions of Jesus,
Stephan and Paul, it would be strange if
judging people is wrong, for then they
would have done something wrong.

INTER-RACIAL RELATIONSHIP


niksmit
Posted 02/14/2011
I totally support interracial relationships. I
currently am married to a man of the same
race but prior to being married dated many
different races. To me it's about the
person, not the color. I would have no
problem raising a bi/multiracial child, I
would make sure they were connected to
all side of their heritage. This is now I was
raised and will raise my daughter the same
way.

lucyford
Posted 02/14/2011
I'm Causcasion and DH is Asian. I obviously
have no problems with interracial
relationships! I do not feel any more
connected to the Asian community now
that I'm married to an Asian. I've learned
more about the culture (but that would be
the case in any relationship I imagine) and I
no longer wear shoes in the house. That's
about it.

SoJudgmental
Posted 02/14/2011
"some of my best friends are black" is a
comment a lot of non-blacks use to confirm
their "blackness" or the fact that no way can
they be racist because they like a black
person. I personally would never engage in
an interracial relationship because i'm
already married and we're both the same
race. I do give a second look and make
comments to myself if i see a black man
with a white woman, or a white man with
an asian woman. I'm not racist
tho...because..you know, i have friends of all
races.

virginiaarmygal
Posted 02/14/2011
I don't have a problem with them. My DD is
mixed.
I don't feel more connected though. I'm not
even sure how you mean that. If you mean
do I understand white people
better because I've dated them a lot. No.
And I know I don't feel racial ambiguous
because of my DD. I'm black and I'm treated
as such.

tbaby900
Posted 02/14/2011
I am indifferent towards IR relationships in
general.

mrsromeo
Posted 02/14/2011
Doesn't bother me. If it were a different
species, that would bother me. Color is only
skin deep.

luvmysamz
Posted 02/14/2011
If you don't care, then why do you give a
second look?

tbaby900
Posted 02/14/2011
I do give a second look and make
comments to myself if i see a black man
with a white woman, or a white man
with an asian woman. I'm not racist
tho...because..you know, i have friends of
all races.
mamma516
Posted 02/14/2011
I don't have an opinion. I don't see skin
color or ethnicity when I look at someone. I
just see a person. Do you know what I
mean? I think there are so many issues
with race still because a lot of people put so
much extra emphasis on it... Same thing
with sexual orientation. Why can't people
just love who they love?
jessiernut
Posted 02/14/2011
You can be racist and still have friends of
they races. I have known people with black
friends with very racist views....
As little as 40 years ago, interracial dating
was illegal and viewed very negatively.
Sadly, closed minded individuals made
interracial dating and marriage very hard
for those that fell in love with someone of
another race.
Fortunately, interracial dating has
progressed quite a bit since that horrible
period. There are still groups of people that
find biracial relationships distasteful but it
really doesn’t make any difference in the
long run. People can love and marry
whomever they want even though there
are still some issues to deal with.
One of the biggest obstacles that interracial
couples must overcome is family
disapproval. It doesn’t happen as often as it
used to as people have become more
accepting of interracial relationships.
However, there’s still the chance that one or
both families won’t approve of the
relationship. This can be devastating to the
couple when it happens as love is
something that’s supposed to be wonderful
and happy. Of course, they want their
families to share in their excitement and
happiness. Instead, they feel hurt and
alone.
These family members can often be the
couples’ grandparents or parents that
disapprove because of the era they were
raised in. Grandparents, especially, may
have been brought up during the years
when biracial couples were looked down
on. If you’re in this sort of situation, try to
remember that you have to live your life
no
matter what your family thinks.
Should their close mindedness make you
too miserable, or if they decide that you
must choose between the family and your
love, you cannot feel bad if you decide to
choose happiness with your partner over
the selfishness of your family. They should
be supporting you. If they aren’t, you can
try family counseling if they’re willing but
most people suffering from racism can’t be
convinced that they’re wrong.
Something that many interracial couples do
is actively seek out the company of other
biracial couples or gay/lesbian couples.
Many of these couples have also
experienced rejection in some form or
another and know exactly what you’re
going through. This can help you to relax
and have fun while giving you a
completely
new group of friends to hang out with.
This
group will welcome you and be happy for
you and your relationship.
In fact, if you need it, these new friends
can
be a huge source of support for you if you
must deal with disapproval from your
family members or society in general. The
more you hang out with other interracial or
gay/lesbian couples, the more comfortable
you’ll feel in your own relationship and
what others say or think just won’t be
important to you any longer.
There are even online support groups for
interracial couples. This is often a great
way
to meet other couples near you. Finding
one
of these support groups and hearing how
others handle the different obstacles is a
really good way to deal with any problems
you might be facing.
While it can be hard to handle the views of
ignorant people, you still have to remain
strong and live your own life. Since
interracial relationships can be difficult due
to pressure from other people, there may
be various issues to deal with. However, try
to live your life and do what makes you
happy. You’ll be able to move past any of
these problems.

HELP THE POOR


According to the Food and Agriculture
Organization of the United Nations over one
billion people in the world are hungry. The
poor and hungry are in need of help from
those who have resources (including
money, items, food and time) to offer. If
you want to help the poor and hungry,
there are a number of ways that you can do
so both online and offline.
1. Visit TheHungerSite.com to donate food
to the hungry online at no cost to you.
This site will donate a cup of food to the
hungry whenever you click the "Click
Here to Give" link on the front page. Send
information about this site to your
friends, family and colleagues to
encourage them to click as well.
2. Donate your old clothing to charities like
the Salvation Army and clothing bins that
are run by charities. Keep in mind that
some of these bins are run by
businesses who profit from the sale of
the clothing.
3. Go to a soup kitchen in your area to help
serve food to the hungry and homeless.
These are usually conducted by local
churches, so visit the churches in your
area to inquire about the days and times
for soup kitchens. Ask how you can
donate food and supplies to the
organization as well.
4. Donate food to local pantries and food
banks. These organizations offer a free
or extremely cheap grocery shopping
experience to people in need.
5. Sign up for a newsletter that will notify
you of volunteer opportunities in your
area. You can start by signing up for
VolunteerMatch.com. Click the "Search"
tab to look for events and opportunities
in your town.
6. Donate money to community and
national organizations that specialize in
helping poor people find jobs and
establish their own businesses. Kiva.org
and TrickleUp.org are two such
organizations.
7. Use your skills and knowledge to provide
a service to the poor for free or at a
steep discount. For example if you are a
doctor, lawyer or entrepreneur you can
dedicate a portion of your time to use
your knowledge to treat or advise
people who are in need.

ANGER CAN DESTROY


Anger is a very common emotion that
usually materializes in response to a
frustrating or upsetting situation.
Individuals who get angry often, and who
can't control their anger, are often said to
have an anger management problem. An
anger management problem is common
among those who suffered an abusive or
unhealthy childhood, or it could be the
result of a mental issue or chemical
imbalance. Many anger management
problems are actually the result of mere
immaturity, where the individual is
perfectly capable, yet unwilling to control
their nonsensical outbursts. An anger
management problem that is attribute to
immaturity can result from feelings of
entitlement, jealousy, or even be caused by
the angry individual's lack of desire to grow
up and handle their emotions in an adult,
civilized fashion. If you believe you have an
anger management problem, but you don't
know how to manage it, read on to learn
how to control your anger problem:
1. Give Yourself a Mental Time-Out. An angry
response to a situation can often be
avoided by simply taking the time to
stop and think about what is really
happening. Instead of responding to the
situation immediately, give yourself five
minutes to assess the situation. When
you feel your blood pressure beginning
to boil, walk away. That five minutes
alone will give you some time to calm
down, relax, and think about how you
should really respond, or if it's even
worth responding at all. You can also
practice breathing techniques during this
time to help lower your blood pressure
and clear your mind, which will help you
approach the situation in a calm, mature
manner.
2. Think Through Your Response. Anger
doesn't just affect the person feeling and the
emotion; it affects everyone around
them who hears and sees their resulting
behavior. Your angry words or actions
can harm the people you care about
most, and there's nothing you can do to
take them back. Once you've stepped
away from the frustration, thoroughly
consider what your response will be. Just
thinking about what you should say can
significantly reduce the harm you cause
those around you. If you're still angry
when you're considering your response,
then give yourself another five minutes
alone, and approach the situation again.
Even better, don't offer a response: just
because something angers you, doesn't
mean you need to provide your opinion
on the topic. Responding can actually
worsen your anger problem, and you are
far more likely to lose control of yourself
and your words if you allow yourself to
be dragged into the situation. Exercise a
little maturity, keep your mouth shut, and
move on.
3. Get to the Root of Your Anger. Consider
exactly what could be causing your
anger. Is it someone else's actions that
annoys you? Is it the expression of
another emotion you may be feeling, like
jealousy? Whatever it is, if you can
pinpoint what causes your anger
problem, you can likely put a stop to it.
For instance, if your child continuously
pulls the cat's tail, and you lash out in
anger as a response, try keeping the
child and the cat in separate rooms to
prevent it from happening again. Or, if
you feel jealousy over your co-worker's
raise and continued success, and you
respond by ignoring your co-worker and
spreading nasty rumors about them, try
focusing on your job instead of
worrying what those around you are
doing. If you can get rid of the source of
your anger, there's a good chance your
anger will go right along with it.
4. Seek Professional Help Sometimes, an
anger problem is the outward reaction to
a much deeper emotional problem.
Depression is one of the major culprits
that often manifests as anger. Talking to
your doctor or seeking the help of a
psychiatrist can not only help you find
what underlying issue is responsible for
your anger problems, but can also give
you new techniques to control it.
Medication is often given to individuals
with more complicated anger problems,
which can help relieve the symptoms of
their depression and allow them to
control their anger problem. Seeing a
therapist on a regular basis can also give
you a safe, healthy outlet to discuss your
anger issues, while sparing your friends
and family from the harm you could be
causing them.
5. Grow Up and Get Over It. Anger problems
in younger people are largely due in part
to immaturity. Teenagers and individuals
in their early twenties are the two age
groups that have the largest problem
with anger and immaturity. If you fit this
age group, then it may be time to do
some serious thinking. Perhaps you feel
like you are owed something, and that's
why you lash out in anger; or, maybe
you feel life is unfair, because someone
has something that you want, but can't
seem to have. Understand that these are
not valid reasons to get angry at anyone,
and get over your immaturity. If you
think you need help with these feelings,
you also may want to consider seeking
the help of a therapist, who can give you
a neutral point of view, and help you
work through your anger and
immaturity problems.

GAMBLING IS A BAD HABBIT


Gambling is as addictive as any other
compulsive behavior. It can also be just as
destructive to your finances, your work and
your relationships. Stopping means
breaking the habit, and there are a few
ways to make it easier.
Instructions on How To Stop Gambling
. 1. Admit that you have a serious problem
and that you are unable to stop yourself.
Ask for help from friends, family
members and counseling services.
2. Remove yourself from situations where
you feel tempted to gamble. Don’t hang
out with people who encourage you to
gamble or attend events where gambling
is allowed.
3. Turn over your finances to a trusted
third party, and have them receive
monies and pay bills on your behalf.
Make them promise not to give you
money you can use for gambling.
4. Take away anything that makes it
possible for you to gamble. If you have
lines of credit, cancel them. Have your
computer disconnected from the internet
if you have fallen into online gambling.
5. Attend a class for people with gambling
problems. Support groups can help
immensely; try to make a pact to call a
friend if you feel the urge to begin
gambling again.
Make a list of all the money you have
lost, and post it where you have to look
at it daily. This will remind you how bad
gambling can be for you, and deter you
from returning to your old habits.
Don’t fool yourself that you can just
place one bet. If you have a gambling
addiction, one slip can open the door to
repeating your past behavior.

RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT TRUST IS EQUALS TO GAME


The basis of most good relationships is
trust. If you cannot trust the other person,
then the relationship is never going to run
very deep. Building trust takes time,
especially when one or both parties have
been hurt in the past.

1. Be trustworthy in the little things. The
other person needs to be able to trust
you in the little things before he is going
to trust you with the big things. If a
person cannot trust you to show up on
time or remember to do something that
you promised to do, why should she
trust you with something more
important?
2. Keep the other person's confidence.
What a person tells you in a relationship
needs to stay in that relationship. If you
are a gossip, then you are going to have
a hard time building trust.
3. Share personal information about
yourself. Relationships need to be two-
way streets. Why should another person
confide in you if you will not share
personal information about yourself? If
you want to build trust in a relationship,
then you need to become vulnerable
yourself.
4. Do things that are in the best interest of
the other person. If you want to build
trust, you need to make choices that are
beneficial to the other person and the
relationship. Although the other person's
needs should not always come before
your own, you should recognize and
meet them as frequently as possible,
while balancing them out with your own
needs.
5. Spend time with the other person. In this
era of text messaging and email, it can
be easy to spend very little time with the
people you love. If you want to build
trust in a relationship, you need to spend
time together. There is no replacement
for spending face-to-face time on a
regular basis.
6. Apologize when you make a mistake.
Nothing shatters trust faster than hurting
the other person and then refusing to
take responsibility for a bad choice. Be
willing to say "I'm sorry" when you
make a bad choice that hurts the other
person.
Trust is a two-way street. Each person in
a relationship needs to invest in the
relationship in order to build trust.
Some people are not trustworthy. No
matter how much you love another
person, you might not be able to build
trust if that person is not willing to make
the same investment you are.

BE LOYAL


In our society today it is common to see
infidelity, backstabbing and broken vows in
our everyday lives. The news covers stories
of broken relationships, and it has given
our society a jaded view of the world. Break
the mold and remain faithful to those
around you. Here are suggestions how.

1. Seek truth in the world and in yourself.
To be faithful to your friends, family and
partner, you must be fully conscious of
what drives you to maintain these
relationships. In order to love and be
loved, you have to know yourself
enough to love yourself.
2. Keep every promise you make. Maintain
your vows to yourself and all of the
people you love. Never make a promise
you can't keep, and once you have made
a vow, do everything in your power to
hold on to the trust that was bestowed
upon you.
3. Show your love and affection. Keep in
touch with friends, even when you are
busy, and extend your feelings of
warmth and kindness whenever
possible. Send notes, make loving phone
calls and always let those you love know
it.
4. Remain steadfast in your beliefs and
convictions. Stay true to your moral
compass no matter what is thrown at
you in any situation.
5. Stand by those you love. Even if you
don't agree with their actions, have faith
in your friends and family, and show
them that you are loyal to them by being
there for them always.

SAY NO TO ALCOHOL


Alcohol has a number of effects on the
human body that can make routine tasks
seem difficult. After you drink, it is
especially dangerous to drive a car, as
drinking and driving leads to a high number
of fatal accidents. Alcohol use can also
negatively affect your education. The
minimum legal drinking age in the United
States is 21. If you are younger than this or
concerned about a minor, be sure to open a
discussion about alcohol use.

According to KidsHealth.org, alcohol
acts as a depressant, meaning it slows
the activity of the brain. The way
alcohol interacts with the brain may
cause the drinker to act confused and
prevent her from seeing and thinking
normally. People who drink can have
mood swings, and their sense of
balance may be thrown off due to
alcohol consumption.
In the United States, the minimum age
to purchase alcohol is 21. This is also
the minimum age to publicly possess
an alcoholic beverage. According to
the Underage Drinking Prevention
Project, the only exceptions to this
federal law are if you are in a private
establishment, need alcohol for
medical purposes, use it for religious
reasons or possess it in the course of
lawful employment. Beyond this, the
laws can vary from state to state, so
be sure to look up local restrictions.

Consuming alcohol and getting behind
the wheel is a deadly combination,
especially for teenagers who are new
to driving. According to the U.S.
Department of Health and Human
Services, teens are involved in 14
percent of motor vehicle deaths, even
though they make up only 10 percent
of the U.S. population. Due to their
inexperience behind the wheel, they
are more likely to make a dangerous
mistake.

Drinking alcohol also encourages poor
academic performance. The U.S.
Department of Health and Human
Services points out that high school
students who consume alcohol are
more than five times more likely to
drop out of school than students who
do not use the substance.

Underage alcohol use may also give
rise to dangerous sexual behaviors.
Since drinking lowers inhibitions,
young individuals may be more prone
to engage in unprotected sexual
intercourse. This can lead to
unplanned pregnancy and the
transmission of sexually transmitted
diseases.

Drinking at a young age can also lead
to alcohol addiction, a chronic
problem that's treated as a medical
issue. According to the Department of
Health and Human Services, up to 5.8
percent of young adults aged 12 to
17 sought treatment for a problem
with alcohol use. According to the
National Institutes of Health, those
who begin drinking in their teens
have a much higher chance of
developing a life-long problem with
alcohol use.

If you have questions about alcohol
and its effects, ask an adult or a loved
one. If you are an adult who is
concerned about your child and
drinking, be sure to establish a
dialogue. Talking to your child about
alcohol will help them know the risks
and avoid the perils of drinking when
the first encounter alcoholic
beverages.

SMOKING


According to Drugs.com, smoking cigarettes
is the number one preventable cause of
illness and death in the United States. More
than one million Americans start smoking
cigarettes every year, endangering their
lives and those around them. Cigarette
smoke has been linked to several life-
threatening side effects and health risks, the
most common being cancer.

The most common side effect of
smoking cigarettes is cancer. While
tobacco increases a person's risk of
developing various types of cancers,
the most common is lung cancer.
Cigarette smoke also significantly
increases a person's risk of
developing cancer of the mouth, lips,
throat or voice box. According to
Drugs.com, cigarette smokers are also
at an increased risk of developing
cancer in the stomach, kidney,
esophagus, pancreas, cervix and
bladder.

People who smoke cigarettes are also
at a grave risk of heart attack and
stroke. The carbon monoxide that
lives in cigarette smoke has been
associated with hardening of arteries,
which can lead to stroke caused by
blood clots in the brain. Nicotine in
cigarettes also causes the arteries in
the legs and arms to tighten, which
increases a risk of blood clots and
damaged arteries surrounding the
heart.

Lung disease is one of the most
serious side effects of smoking
cigarettes. The chemicals in smoke can
damage the cilia, or the little hairs that
protect the lungs from dirt and other
waste. Over time, dirt will begin to
collect on the lungs, leading to lung
disease.

Another side effect of cigarette smoke
is chronic bronchitis. Chronic
bronchitis is a chronic inflammatory
condition in the lungs characterized
by excessive coughing and difficulty
breathing. The severity of the
condition depends on how long (and
how much) a person has been
smoking.
The long-term lung disease
emphysema is also associated with
smoking. The first sign of emphysema
is shortness of breath during exercise
or other exerting activities. Over time,
however, as the condition worsens,
the patient may even start to
experience shortness of breath while
at rest. In the later stages, patients will
also experience symptoms such as
uncontrollable coughing, excess
mucus production, a blue tint in the
eyes and wheezing.

In addition to the life-threatening
conditions mentioned, other side
effects of smoking cigarettes include:
• Yellowing of the teeth •
Development of wrinkles at an early
age • Higher risk of bone fractures in
the wrist, hip or spine • Difficulty
sleeping • Soar throat • Bad smell in
clothes, skin and hair • Bad breath. Please quit from smoking now, that's the only advice that i have for you. Be real...

FEAR OF REJECTION


Fear of rejection can cause you to be
uncomfortable meeting new people, taking
risks or being honest. This fear is based on
the idea that someone else has the ability to
decide how you feel about you.
Overcoming this fear involves accepting
yourself.
1. Believe that you can take care of
yourself. Being too dependent on what
others think can cause fear of rejection.
If you know that you can provide the
things in your life that you value, you
won't fear rejection. You need to set
yourself up to succeed in life and to be
able to provide the things you want by
yourself.
2. Define your self-image in terms that are
based on interpersonal qualities rather
than external opinion. Focus on qualities
like being honest, treating people with
kindness or being generous. Overcoming
fear of rejection requires that you're
secure with who you are. When you
know that your self-image is unaffected
by other people you don't fear their
rejection.
3. View rejection as opportunity. You can
control certain aspects of your
appearance, your behavior and your
intelligence. Look at rejection as
constructive criticism and incorporate
the cause of the rejection into a plan to
evolve.
4. Reward yourself for trying. The more
you handle rejection, the easier it gets to
approach a situation where you may be
rejected and the closer you are to
overcoming this fear. Set a goal to get
five rejections. You may get a positive
response or you may gain experience in
surviving a rejection. You need to
reward yourself for the effort and focus
on the fact that you tried rather than the
actual results.

L O V E


Down through the ages love has been
immortalized in songs, poetry, plays, movies
and more. Love has been the topic of many
inspirational and uplifting quotes. It has
been the inspiration and motivation that
keeps us going. Love has been lost and love
has been found. But what is love? Love is
an emotion that has many descriptions but
true love is completely selfless. Love is
nurturing, caring, compassionate, uplifting
and more.
When most people think of love they
imagine romantic love. Romantic love
is the kind of love that develops
between two people who form a
relationship and commit themselves
to each other. People often confuse
romantic love with infatuation. How
do you know if you truly love
someone? If you really love someone
your love is unconditional which
means that you accept him as he is
with all the faults he has. You make
sacrifices willingly and you put the
needs of the one you love before
your own.

A good example of unconditional love
is the love between a parent and child.
There is not only love between the
two but there is also trust,
forgiveness, understanding and
acceptance. Those qualities are what
makes the bond of love so strong. There are many other types of love
such as the love between siblings and
other family members. People who
have been friends for a long period of
time often grow to love each other
like family members. Many people
love their pets as if they were
members of the family and they are
often considered to be just that.
Love encompasses just about every
aspect of life in one way or another.
Love has served as the inspiration for
many beautiful works of art and
wonderful pieces of literature.
Without love, life would be pretty dull.
But many have also fought and died
for love. Not all that has been said and
done in the name of love has been
pleasurable and beautiful.
Love is often unrequited. Many have
loved and lost and felt the pain of
rejection pierce their hearts. Love is a
double-edged sword, being both
painful and glorious. Love can be both
our greatest achievement and our
biggest disappointment. It can be our
greatest pleasure and our greatest
pain. Volumes of great literature have
been written about the joy and agony
of love. In the end, after we have
completed our journey through life
what will be remembered the most is
how we lived and loved. So love with
passion and love well. You may only
love once but true love found once is
enough to last a lifetime.
Love serves in a great capacity. There
is no greater feeling in the world than
to love and be loved. Love is a teacher
that teaches us how to give of
ourselves, how to put others before
ourselves, how to realize and
understand the greater good. Without
love we would not learn and mature.

LOVE YOUR WIFE


When you are married, you truly do become
one. If you do not act as one, then that is
against the nature of marriage and it will be
painful. The following is logical deduction of
the husband's part of the equation, the
equation being 100% + 100% = 100%.
Please read all the way to the bottom and I
am sure you will count yourself blessed.
. There is
Love, the emotion, and there is Love, the
action. "He who loves his wife loves
himself". Most do
not have to choose to love themselves,
rather they have just grown quite
attached to themselves and sincerely do
not wish to do harm to themselves. In
fact, they would do anything to avoid it.
In every
situation you should desire that no harm
befall your wife.
Here is the action, the command. "Love
your wives"; give yourself up for her.
The command to love means to do love.
What would make others see love in
what you do, that would make your wife
feel love, is how you do love. In simplest
form, bring her flowers and tell her, "I
love you." That's just a start though. You
are also commanded to give yourself up
for her. The obvious implication is that
you should be willing to die for her. This
is actually common. What is more
difficult than dying? Give your life for
her. In all you do, do it with the interests
of your wife in mind. (1) Ephesians 5:28
(2) Ephesians 5:25
. Forgiveness and Radiance: Have a heart
for your wife. This again is the emotion
of love. "Make her holy, cleansing her".
"Present her...without stain or
wrinkle". When your wife is in need of
it, cleanse her; forgive her, when she acts
against you. For example, you ask your
wife to get you steak at the store and
you get mad because she says that you
eat too much red meat. Forgive and
forget. Don't allow yourself to harbor
any bitterness and you will feel the love
for your wife. (3) Ephesians 5:26 (4)
Ephesians 5:27
. Many people read this section
first and stop. "Wives submit to your
husbands". And then they stop there.
There is a whole other study for the
wives. The implication in this passage is
that if the man truly loves his wife (that's
the action and the emotion), the wife will
gladly submit to the man. (5) Ephesians
5:22
. Don't harbor bitterness
and you will be happier. 2) Consider your
wife's best interests throughout the day
and your wife will be happier. 3) A
happy wife really is a happy husband.

STOP TELLING LIES


Recognizing our flaws is not easy, but
admitting them to others can be difficult.
Lying about our weaknesses may allow you
to save face. Some lies may seem harmless
to one person but others may have a
different perception. Though it may not
always be easier to tell the truth, it is almost
always the right thing in the end. The
reasons people lie are endless but are
generally selfish.
People lie to benefit or protect
themselves in some way. For example,
individuals may lie by enhancing their
qualifications to get a job or
exaggerate their characteristics to
make new friends. Presidential
candidates may lie about their
intentions to change the country in
order to get votes. Children may lie to
avoid being punished or in hopes of
receiving a reward.
Popular types of lies are white lies,
bold-faced lies and lies of omission.
White lies are considered insignificant
or harmless. People may tell a white lie
to hide a secret or prevent someone
from knowing something
prematurely, like a surprise party.
Bold-faced lies are outright denials of
the truth despite evidence proving
otherwise. People may tell bold faced
lies when the consequences of telling
the truth can be disastrous such as
being arrested. Lies of omission occur
when someone is led to believe a
falsehood by withholding important
facts. People may make lies of
omission by not confessing they did
something for which someone else is
taking the blame.
Lies are often told when people are
put on the spot to answer
uncomfortable or personal questions
such as "How much money do you
make?" or "How many people have
you slept with?" Lies may be told
instead of the truth in hopes of
obtaining the acceptance of others by
telling them what you think they want
to hear. People also lie to manipulate
or control others by turning people
against each other. For example, they
may lie to start a rumor in hopes of
damaging someone else's reputation
or bolstering their own. Another reason why people lie is to
avoid problems within their
relationships. Telling unflattering or
uncomfortable truths can sometimes
diminish the trust and confidence
others have in you. However, telling
one lie can lead to another and then
another, thus allowing the truth to get
lost somewhere along the way.

Sometimes people lie to protect the
feelings of others. Certainly, you do
not want to insult the host at a party
by telling him or her that the food
was terrible or that you had an
unpleasant time. Friends might keep
upsetting information from other
friends. Therefore, people do not
always lie out of malice. Sometimes it
is to protect others from learning
something that would upset them.

THINK ABOUT THE CHILDREN


I was sitting by the door one morning
looking at the children going to school,
then i thought about the ones in the streets,
moving around on barefoot with empty stomachs.
Hmm! Then i asked myself, if these children
really have parents, then why are they
suffering this much? Now, the question also goes to
you the parents, You calls yourself a father with
family but you spends your whole money
in the BAR drinking and smoking, coming
back drunk everyday. While you the so
called mother goes around the town
sleeping with different men every blessed-
day. Now tell me, what do you expects
your children to do after you must have
joined the ancestors, or better still alive?
And again, what do you think that could be
the result of all? DIVORCE, whether you like
it or not.. I know when I write
something I make it sound
easy, but it takes a lot of effort, strength
and willpower to effect positive change.
It's
the easiest thing in the world to be
negative, mean and short sighted. It is the
most common practice between couples to
use kids as pawns in a game of emotional
chess and to hurt each other with power
struggles and attempting to justify their
actions by vilifying the other parent. Stop it
right now!
Getting divorced was a mature, adult
decision you made to better your lives.
Why
should your children suffer your
immaturities? You brought them onto the
planet, it was not their choice. You ended
the fairytale family unit, it was not their
choice. But as parents you have always had
a choice and still have one. You can make
their reality confused, traumatic,
distressing
or positive, supportive and nurturing.
With time your scars will heal and you will
move on with your lives and onto other
partners. But children carry the trauma of
being manipulated and torn apart
emotionally all their lives. I suggest you
both see the bigger picture and keep your
hostilities to yourselves.
Children must never be subjected to
choosing between parents, denied the love
of a parent or hear parents badmouth each
other. Their lifelong emotional stability is
paramount and for that, they must grow
up
to respect and love both parents. It is bad
parenting to stay together "for the sake of
children" and constantly fight with and
disrespect each other. A child is a blessing given by God, if you don't care for them, who will..??

GOD BLESS THE MOTHERS


In a lot of situations it seems to be
the mother who really cares about a
child more than a father and the
father just walks away or sits in
front of television or goes to bar,
prostitutes, etc and doesn't show
any interest in his kids.
I mean for married or divorced
parents, like if two people are
married with kids or in a
relationship it will usually be the
mother who cares about raising the
kids and the dad doesn't really care
much and when the parents are
divorced the dad will not bother to
see his kids unless the mother
chases him up.
I'm not saying all fathers are like
that but i mean why is it more often
fathers who don't want their
children around more than mothers?
Fathers and
mothers should take equal
responsibly in doing things with
their children. Looking after
children should not be thought of as
just a mothers job. A lot of people don't
realize the work
that goes into being a mother. Only a
mother knows what a mother really
does, and only a mother can tell the
story. I've wrote this little tidbit that
will hopefully give the rest of the
world just a tiny bit of insight on just
how hard us mothers actually work! Being
a mother is not easy. You carry the
baby inside your womb for nine months,
not to mention the difficulty in labor and
delivery. Mothers have their own strategies
in raising their child so that they will grow
well with discipline. Some choose foods
that
are nutritious and some prefer to educate
their children in private and highly
reputable schools. Mothers deserve honour
because no one
experiences the pain and hurts that life
brings longer or more deeply than those
who bring us into this world and who
sometimes experience the heartbreak of
having to see us leave as well during their
own lifetimes. - Children, honour your
father and mother indeed for this is right in
the Lord because:
- Giving birth is difficult
- Being a wife is humbling
- Seeing you suffer is painful.

JEALOUSY


Most women (and men, too) occasionally
experience some feelings of jealousy,
whether triggered by a significant other
flirting with an attractive stranger or
feelings of inadequacy compared to a
successful peer. Although a small amount of
jealousy can often be normal, in excess, it
can be absolutely destructive and
detrimental to your life. Learn how to
control the green-eyed monster in you -- or
better yet, eliminate it completely.
. Work on your confidence. Jealousy is
rooted in feelings of insecurity and low
self-confidence. The better you feel
about yourself, the less you will worry
about how you compare to other people.
Focus on your strong points, and think
about how to accentuate those. Then,
analyze all of your weaknesses and
figure out how to work with them.
Remember that even people you envy
have flaws, including some that you
might not have yourself.
Determine whether your feelings of
jealousy are warranted. Jealousy can
make people think irrational thoughts. If
you are jealous of a woman whom your
boyfriend is talking to, take a moment to
step back and analyze the situation
objectively. Ask yourself if you are
simply jealous of the fact that she is a
woman, or if you truly believe that your
boyfriend is engaging in deceitful and
dishonest behaviors behind your back.
Determine whether or not you have a
valid reason to feel the way that you do.
Face your biggest fears. A lot of jealousy
is triggered by fears in life. If you do not
identify what scares you the most, you
will not be able to stop feeling jealousy.
Some examples of common fears include
fear of abandonment, fear of
humiliation, fear of being alone and fear
of feeling stupid. The better you
understand your mind, the easier it will
be for you to plow forward.
Be your own person. If you are in a
relationship with someone and find that
you are always jealous of his
interactions with other women, it could
be due to the fact that all of your life is
invested in the relationship. In order for
a relationship to thrive, it is important for
both parties to not suffocate each other
and to have individual interests. Work on
your own life, and be independent. Your
entire life doesn't have to be 100 percent
about your relationship. Meet new
friends. Start new hobbies. Participate in
fulfilling activities, and enrich yourself as
a person.
Talk to others. Keeping big emotions
bottled up inside is unhealthy and can
lead to feelings intensifying. Whether
you need to vent to your closest friends
about how you feel or open up to your
boyfriend about your concerns and
worries, do it. Jealousy will not go away
on its own. Confide in others. When you
vocalize your worries and fears, it may
become more and more apparent to you
that they are simply that -- worries and
fears -- rather than anything tangible
and truly problematic.

Remember that everyone occasionally
feels insecure. No one feels 100 percent
perfect all of the time, so there is no
reason to be jealous of anyone.
Everyone is different and has their own
set of problems.

TALK TO GOD


God is an amazing being that can help guide
you through life to many joyous things.
However, you must have faith in God and
believe that he loves you and is always
watching over you. This can be tough to do
when there is no tangible sight of God to
hold onto. It's here that faith in God comes
in and we must believe with all our mights
that he truly exists and is helping us
through all the good and bad times in our
life. Here are some tips for finding faith in
God, even if you never believed before.. Read the Bible to understand God's ways.
God's words, support, and love come
through in the Bible and can help people,
even those who do not have faith in
God, to learn how he exists in our daily
lives. The Bible is full of scriptures that
offer piece of mind in our daily rituals
and relationships. Just about anything in
the Bible can be related to your own life
if you pay attention to the goodness you
read. For example, in the passage of
Leviticus 19:17-19 (New International
Version), God says, 'Do not seek revenge
or bear a grudge against one of your
people, but love your neighbor as
yourself. I am the LORD'. He explains that
loving others as you love yourself is the
way to be a good Christian. You can take
this anyway you like, but ultimately, you
can use it in your life to treat people as
you would want to be treated and your
life will be great, as will the life of others
you encounter. See resource list for
online Bible scriptures.
Attend church on a weekly basis. God
helps those who enter his home, the
church, and pray with him. Many
ministers, preachers, priests,...etc., will tell
you this and many people who believe in
God feel the same way. Not only are you
serving God the best way possible by
attending church and hearing his words,
but you will also gain a sense of peace in
your own life. Scriptures written in the
Bible and heard at church services have
a way of comparing things in our life to
God's words. It's amazing how much you
will learn about yourself, your life, and
your relationships by listening to God's
words during church service. Many
people go to church to find a way to
increase their faith by letting God into
their lives on a consistent basis. When
you let God in and obtain faith by
attending church, you will find that your
life becomes better and more well
rounded. You will also surround yourself
with others who are well rounded and
can help you keep your faith.
Talk to others who have faith in God.
Surrounding yourself with people who
wholly believe in God is a wonderful way
to find faith in him as well. You don't
have to be a 'born again Christian' or
become heavily obsessed with the Lord
in order to live a good life. Having faith
in God means believing that he is
working to make your life better and is
helping you to find a purpose that works
best for you. Talking to others such as
family, friends, or coworkers who have
faith in God can help you to gain a sense
of faith as well. Ask people you know to
share stories about God, tell you what
church services are like, or relay events
in their life that became better because
of their faith in God. You'll be amazed at
what you hear and how God's love and
their faith have affected all aspects of
their life.
Pray to God often. Try to say prayers to
God every night before going to bed as a
way to find faith in that which you can't
see. God can hear everything you say,
your concerns, your thoughts, and your
fears. Talk to God on a consistent basis.
Even if you have trouble believing in
God, tell him this. God does not condemn
or have any feelings of anger toward us.
He loves us and wants us to have faith in
him. He can help you to believe if you let
him. Tell God that you have trouble
believing in him and would like help
doing so. You can ask God for anything
and he will provide, although it won't
always be exactly as you wish, because
he has a plan for us. But, God will provide
you with faith if you ask him to. Saying
prayers can be easy. Just talk to God as
you would a friend. Tell him that you
have doubts and need help with faith. He
will listen and help you have faith.

PEACE


Life is not going as you expected. You're
stressed by work or grieving the loss of a
loved one. All you want is peace. Despite
your difficulties. Now, these are the things
that i want you to do. 1. Accept things the
way they are. Feeling
peaceful doesn't mean your life is
perfect. Peace is a state of mind. Instead
of feeling trapped in your life, accept
where you are and appreciate what you
have.
2. Want inner peace more than you've ever
wanted anything. Believe you can have
it. Be open-minded. Don't be skeptical.
Imagine having peace until you actually
begin to feel it.
3. Look at the big picture. Your life includes
a lot of different things. Let go of the
little things and be content. Be grateful
for what you have and stop wishing for
the things you don't have.
4. Release anger and guilt. They are wasted
emotions that make you feel negative.
Focus on the positive. Notice the people
who are there for you and the people
who love you. Even when you are
grieving, you can find inner peace if you
let go of negative thoughts.
5. Believe in yourself. Let go of self-doubt
and what-if. Follow your dreams and
have hope. You can do it-you know you
can.
6. Feel the positive energy around you. Feel
the presence of those you've lost. Be
open-minded and believe your loved
ones are still here. Recognize the love of
those currently in your life. People who
love you send you positive energy all the
time. You just have to notice it.
7. Live in the moment. If you are
overwhelmed, don't worry about the
next hour or the next minute. Just focus
on this moment in time. Look around,
concentrate on something and let your
senses come alive.
8. Explore your spiritual or religious beliefs.
Visit a church, synagogue or mosque.
Many religious leaders preach because
they have already found inner peace and
want to share their beliefs with you
. Find people who think like you want to
think. Join a chat group.
Never give up.
Don't let negative thinking discourage
you.

LISTEN TO ME


Do you have opinions? Are you a good
listener? Why do people hate people? What
are the things you like the most and you
hate the most?
Most people aim of perfection like having
perfect physical personality with shiny hair,
long nose, and smooth skin, tall and sexy
but, is it really important to be like this? If
you think you are one of being
perfectionist you will like this, afraid to
face with many people, you always
encounter trouble and not contented of
things that you are doing although these
opinions produces a lot of problems in our
lives, but there are types of people like this
a perfectionist so the important things to
do is accept them and try to help these
people to wake up of what is right. We are
all here to think about others not for your
own self.
On the other way, a person made a wrong
decision it is because of the influence of
his/her relationship to other with the family
and friends. You have to do something
good for those who are misguided in their
way. Don’t make it a habit to make gossip,
make negative comments and looking
down. If you do this, you are loser because
you are one of that person to whom you
judged, it means those words you said to
others that’s defines about who you are
too!
"God made us two ears the left side is for
meaning and the other side is for feeling".
Be a good listener to someone who express
about what they feel. Use your all senses
the touch, smell, sight and taste because
these will be the best way to understand
well the opinions and feelings of others.
Touch is the most powerful means of
communication even though you will not
speak and you just touch the person who
felt sad, he/she will feel delightful.
People hate each other because of
insecurities and ranking of class. Materials
things are the temptation and evil that had
poisoned the minds of everyone like to
wish of having their own Cars, House and
Lot, Money, Television, Computers, Cell
phones and etc. If you force yourself to
have all these things due to jealousy, you
will be suffering a lot debt in your entire
life. However, if you have analyzed of what
you only need so chose the simple life and
live peacefully. That does all depend of your
decision either you live with lot of debt or
live simple and peaceful. We all know in the
world that debt is a big problem but why do
people chose to be like that? Well in fairness
to those who owe money with a good
purpose there’s no problem with that. But
how about today there’s high percentage
today that they’re happy to owe money but
when it’s time to pay they escape. So, for
those who do business in lending or any
kinds of debts opportunity please be careful
to lend your money with a good purpose
like to use for spending of looking for job
going abroad, make small and big business.
The lending company or banks must be
watchful, aware and thoughtful to give an
important advice of what is right and
wrong for the people who wish to owe
money.
There are things you like the most and
hate the most write down all the things that
you always do in everyday life and you
can’t feel bored with it. Like cooking,
gardening, blogging, singing, jogging,
reading, spend time with families and watch
television. Try to ask yourself if these things
that you like are important to you?
Sometimes you hate to do a thing that is
actually a very important to your life like,
responsibility in household chores, develop
your talents to the fullest, have regular
study, refuse to cooperate and help your
parents. It advisable to give value to those
things that you hate for because these
things might be the way through your
success. And it is true that it is difficult to
love what you hate and also it’s not easy to
forgive and forget. But if you try to change
the way you think before, you will change
everything inside and out. So, in relations
to don’t judge a person with regards to
image, of what he chose and the words he
said the most important in life is how real
are you as a person? Always follow and
obey the truth because the truth will lead
you the way for a perfect life by live
simply and peaceful. Try to feel perfect in
good moral values.

WATCH YOUR TONGUE


One woman spread a rumor about a man. She
later felt regret, and went to the man to ask
how to make amends. "Go to the store and
buy a bag of seeds," said the man, "then go
to a big open field and scatter the seeds
into the wind. Do so and report back to me
in a week."
The woman did as she was told, and came back
the next week to find out what to do next.
"Now," said the man, "go back to the field
and pick up all the seeds."
"But," protested the woman, "those seeds have
scattered far and wide! I’ll never find them
all. Many have even already taken root!"
"Exactly," explained the man. "Now you
understand. When we speak badly about
another person, the effect is far and wide.
And it is damage that can never be fully
undone.. Now, let me tell you the reader. We all know the hurt and damage and fear
and pain that gossiping can cause. Who has
not been hurt by gossip? Who has not been
pained by having a confidence broken?
Who has not had falsehoods and
misinformation spread about them by
people whom they once trusted? Gossip has
a powerful and destructive influence on
relationships; it can destroy families,
friendships, and even the community of
faith. When we break apart into groups and
talk about each other, or when we speak
aloud about topics or individuals or
conversations that were private, we
damage not only those about whom we
speak, but the whole community and,
indeed, ourselves... Let's say as an example, you have a piece of wood, a nail,
and a hammer. Pretend the wood is a
person, and the nail is a nasty rumor about
that person. If you hammer in the nail,
you're obviously hurting him or her. If you
then pull out the nail-well, there's still a hole
in the wood, and the damage has been
done.. Yes, we need to be able to trust our friends, and
gossiping and rumors can break this trust.
If you tell a personal secret to a friend, and
he turns around and blabs it to someone
else, you might feel like you'll get killed if
you ever get close to him/her again.. Now, my advice for everyone of us is to watch our tongues, and also be sure of the type of friends we go out with, because it's not everything that glitters is gold, trust nobody, not even yourself..

LET US PRAY


Father, I thank you that nothing is too big
for You. Nothing can compare with Your
power and wisdom. Today I lift my voice to
You, that You would be exalted in this
nation. I pray that the leaders of this nation
would honour and exalt Your Name, and
that Your righteousness would be
manifested in the market places of this
great land. In Jesus’ Name we stand against
the foolish dark powers that think they will
triumph over You! Nothing, absolutely
nothing, can stand against You Oh God, for
You are mighty to deliver Your people. Our
prayer oh Lord is that You would indeed
make haste to deliver, and shine upon this
land with Your glory. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.. Father, I pray for those in authority in our
land, and particular today for those who
bear Your name unashamedly. Father,
remind them that there is NOTHING to
prevent You from saving by many or by
few. Bolster and build their spirits today to
trust in You with all their heart. Let them call
upon Your Name before every committee
meeting and directive they must act upon.
Let them choose the fear of God and not the
fear of man. And Lord, let them see the
reward of their Godly actions, lest they faint
in their minds. Strengthen them, encourage
them, and bless their families and homes in
a mighty way, in Jesus’ Name, Amen.. O God, you are the source of life and peace.
Praised be your name forever.
We know it is you who turn our minds to
thoughts of peace.
Hear our prayer in this time of crisis.
Your power changes hearts.
Rastafari, Muslims, Christians and Jews remember, and
profoundly affirm,
that they are followers of the one God,
Children of Abraham, brothers and sisters;
enemies begin to speak to one another;
those who were estranged join hands in
friendship;
nations seek the way of peace together.
Strengthen our resolve to give witness to
these
truths by the way we live.
Give to us:
overstanding that puts an end to strife;
Mercy that quenches hatred, and
Forgiveness that overcomes vengeance.
Empower all people to live in your law of
love
Amen.. Show us your mercy, O Lord;
And grant us your salvation.
Clothe your ministers with righteousness;
Let your people sing with joy.
Give peace, O Lord, in all the world;
For only in you can we live in safety.
Lord, keep this nation under your care;
And guide us in the way of justice and
truth.
Let your way be known upon earth;
Your saving health among all nations.
Let not the needy, O Lord, be forgotten;
Nor the hope of the poor be taken away.
Create in us clean hearts, O God;
And sustain us by your Holy Spirit. IN JESUS NAME I PRAY, AMEN.

LONELINESS


being alone. Sometimes, you can feel lonely
in a crowd and at other times you busy
with yourself even while you are alone.
Loneliness is a state of mind. Loneliness
mean different for different people. Some
people fall into a depression because of
loneliness while some nurture their
creativity through it. To look at it
constructively, loneliness is the path to
oneself, a means of self discovery. This is all
fine when loneliness is voluntary and there
are options from breaking away from it.
However when people are forced to
loneliness they experience extreme
emptiness and unworthiness. One of the
main reasons for people staying lonely is
that they don’t have the strength or the
inclination to move away from it. It
becomes a part of their lives. So, if you are
one of those people who consider
loneliness a burden then this
is how overcome and to cure loneliness.. The best way to cure loneliness is to keep
yourself busy. To constantly dwell on the
fact that you are lonely won’t help you in
curing it. Try to stay near people as much as
possible. Even if you are unacquainted with
any of the people, being near them will lift
your spirits up. You can join a club or
volunteer for some non-profit organization.
If you are working then lose yourself in the
work. Your work will be the best antidote to
medicine. Find something that interests you
so that it keeps your mind away from your
loneliness. Just go out and do something.
Get involved in your neighborhood
activities. In order for you to get involved it
would require some time and a lot more
attention from your part. Try to organize
neighborhood get together and charity
events. In this way you can be more active
and also get to meet other people.
There are many people who are lonely and
trying to cope with it. If you can, strike a
friendship with them . Help people who feel
lonely and you would cure yourself of
loneliness.
Remember that loneliness is a choice and
you always have the option of choosing
otherwise. Don’t withdraw yourself when
you can go out and have fun. Being happy
and cheerful is the sure shot way of driving
away loneliness.
Sometimes the environment around you
can drive you to loneliness, like a cramped
house or an unhealthy neighborhood. Take
a house that is airy and full of light. If your
house is bright your mood will be light. Go
for a peaceful neighborhood where you will
have more chance of making friends.
Cultivate a hobby. Boredom breeds
loneliness. Indulge in sports or go gyming.
Cultivate the habit of reading as it is the
best solution against boredom. Try P.G
Wodehouse and you will see time flying by.
Don’t fall into the drug or alcohol trap. These
are no solution for loneliness; instead they
make you even lonelier.
Don’t do things that make you feel lonely
like reading depressing books and watching
sad movies. Read books and watch movies
that lighten up your mood.

BE A GOOD WIFE


Oh! I remember those days ago when a man has the final words in the house, but nowadays, women has finaly became men themselves. Abormination..! I over heard my neighbours last night having exchange of words, the husband said one word, the wife said five words, the husband said ten words, the wife said hundred words. Hmm! I was shocked to see my fellow man been insulted by a woman just because the man was under the roof of his wife, he has no money, the wife feeds... And so now, it is time for us to be real, because if we don't watch out we will be destroyed by women. Mark my word..! We need to treat others the way we want
ourselves to be treated. Treat your husband
the way you want him to treat you. Avoid
being boorish to your husband. Be kind,
passionate, positive, and understanding.
It takes two to argue. Before you react to
any situation, step back and imagine if the
situation were reversed. Avoid arguments,
let go of grudge, accept the apology,
apologize if necessary, and just move on.
It is assumed that by nature men are
problem solvers. Hence, women enjoy
expressing their feelings when men listen
and try to find solutions. Avoid complaining
about things, which your husband cannot
help and fix. Be realistic and don’t expect
too much.
To maintain a happy marriage it is acutely
important for a wife to make his hubby feel
loved and appreciated often. Like a hug
when your husband is feeling down or a
warm greeting and a pleasant smile when
he returns back home are something that
will make him feel loved and valued.
Every individual is growing, aren’t we?
Allow him to grow in the direction he
chooses and accept him as he is and give
him the space to be himself. Never belittle
and criticize him.
Surprise him with a night date or anything
that makes him happy. Men like surprises
too. The surprises need not be expensive,
they can be simple; it is just a way to let him
know how much you care and think of him.
Leave special notes around and make him
feel how special he is to you.
Food plays an essential role in marriage.
Good homemade meals are always
appreciated by men. Prepare a delicious
meal for your hubby and enjoy it together.
It also makes time for the two of you to
reconnect and provides an opportunity to
talk about the happenings of the day.
Keep your love life alive. Never let love
diminish from your lives. No relationship
will ever stand without physical intimacy.
Take the initiative and remind him that you
still find him attractive.
With family, job, children, to take care of, it
is difficult to find time for taking care of
appearance. However, remember these
small things can have a lot of impact on
your relationship. Live your courtship days
by wearing his favorite dress and wooing
him by wearing his favorite perfume and
so on. Add up exercises or yoga in your
daily timetable not only to look attractive to
him but also for your general well-being.
There is a saying ‘A wife can make a man or
break a man’. You need to support your
husband especially in times of troubles.
Understand his problems and be a brick wall
of support he can fall back on. Provide
assurance to your husband in all the stages
of his life. Treat him with respect, do not
downgrade him, and never hurt his feelings, be a good wife.

FORGIVENESS


A wise woman and her young disciple
were
walking down the street. Suddenly, out of
nowhere, an angry man with a
wheelbarrow
insensitively
pushed the woman out of his way. She
landed in a ditch filled with muddy water.
The woman yelled after the man, "May you
have everything you
want!" The disciple got surprised by the
wise
woman's response, and said: "I'm
confused.
Why did you say that to a man with such
horrible behavior?" The woman replied,
"Because a happy man wouldn't have
thoughtlessly pushed a woman into a
ditch... Jesus told a story about forgiving
people:
“Then Peter came to Jesus. ‘Lord, if my
brother keeps on hurting me, how many
times should I forgive him?’ he asked.
‘Should I forgive him seven times?’
‘No, not just seven times, but forgive him
seventy times seven times’, Jesus said.
‘Where God rules is like a king. The king
wanted to collect all the money that his
servants owed him. So he began to do this.
Then they brought a man to him who
owed
him millions of silver coins. The man was
not able to pay. So the master ordered
them
to sell the man, his wife, his children and all
his possessions. The master would receive
that money to pay the servant’s debt. Then
the servant kneeled in front of the king.
“Be
patient with me”, he said. “I will pay back
everything that I owe you.” And the master
pitied him. So he forgave the servant for all
that he owed. And he let the servant leave
free.
That servant went out then. But he found
one of the other servants who owed him
just a few silver coins. The first servant
held
the second servant firmly. He began to
squeeze the second servant’s neck. “Pay
back what you owe me!” he demanded.
The second servant kneeled down in front
of him. “Be patient with me and I will pay
you back”, he said.
But the first servant refused. Instead, he
caused the authorities to throw the other
servant into prison. And he had to stay
there until he could pay back the debt. The
rest of the servants saw what had
happened. And they were very upset about
it. So they told their master everything that
had happened.
Then the master called the first servant to
come back to him. “You wicked servant”,
he
said, “I forgave all your debt to me because
you asked me to. You should have pitied
the other servant, just as I pitied you!” His
master was very angry. So he handed the
servant over to the prison officers for
punishment. He must stay in prison until he
paid everything back to his master.
You must forgive your brothers. My Father
who is in heaven will act like this king
towards each of you. So you must forgive
them from deep inside yourselves.. Learn
to be friends with other people.
Forgive anyone who does something
wrong to you. Christ forgave you, so you
must forgive other people, You must not
hold on to any bitter hurts,
rage or anger. You must not fight each
other or say bad things about each other.
You must not think or act because of spite.
You should be friends and you should be
kind to each other. You must forgive each
other, just as God forgave you. God
forgave
you because of Christ. Forgive people when
they do wrong things
to you. If you forgive them, your Father in
heaven will also forgive you. But if you do
not forgive them, your Father will not
forgive you..

RESPECT


Respect can be shown through behavior
and it can also be felt. We can act in ways
which are considered respectful, yet we
can
also feel respect for someone and feel
respected by someone. Because it is
possible to act in ways that do not reflect
how we really feel, the feeling of respect is
more important than the behavior without
the feeling. When the feeling is there, the
behavior will naturally follow. Nowadays it
seems much more possible to
survive without being respected. Someone
could, for example, inherit a large sum of
money, have many servants and
employees
and have salesmen constantly calling on
him and catering to him, yet not be
respected in the least. Someone could also
make a lot of money through having a
particular talent which is valued, such as
being able to dunk a basketball yet not
really be respected, perhaps because of the
way he treats others.
Still, there is a value to respect which
money
can't buy. Though someone's life might not
depend on it, there are times, many times
in
fact, when another person has the chance
to make a personal decision - a judgment
call. When that person feels sincere respect
for someone else, they will make a
different
decision than if they feel no respect, even
if
they have customarily shown a false
respect to the person.
We can all sense whether we are respected
or not. This holds true for those with
money
and power as well. Moreover, it is quite
possible that those who pursue money and
power are actually trying to gain a type of
respect that they never have truly felt.
When we are respected we gain the
voluntary cooperation of people. We don't
have to use as much of our energy and
resources trying to get our needs met.
When people respect one another there are
fewer conflicts. In summary, it is for both
evolutionary and practical reasons that
respect is important, and also why we
simply feel better when we are respected.
It doesn't make sense to think of
respecting
a baby in the same way that we say we
respect an adult. Yet on some level the two
concepts are similar. This similarity has to
do with our voluntarily helping that person
with their needs. In either case, we must
first accept the needs. For example, if a
baby needs to be fed at three in the
morning we don't do it begrudgingly if we
respect his natural needs; we simply accept
that the infant has a natural need to eat at
that particular moment. Likewise, if an
adolescent or an adult needs to talk, we
accept this need and we show respect by
listening voluntarily. 1. Each person must
be aware of their own
feelings; i.e. know how they feel.
2. They must be able to express their
feelings.
3. They must know how to listen non-
judgmentally & non-defensively.
4. They must know how to validate
feelings.
5. They must believe that feelings have
value.
6. They must believe that feelings matter.
If respecting someone means respecting
their feelings and their survival needs, then
if a person does not respect your feelings,
they don't respect you. If those in positions
of power and authority do not respect
your
needs and feelings, they will not earn your
respect.

HYPOCRISY


Don't blame me because i will say it. When
the deception of a hypocrite is
exposed, many people are hurt,
disappointed, and disheartened. There are
large number of people in the world who
want nothing to do with God, Jesus, or the
church because they have been deceived
or
misled by Christians. A hypocrite not only
can cause the loss of his own
trustworthiness but the integrity of others
he associates himself with is at stake (that
is
church).. They goes to church every
sunday, going around telling people that
they are born-again christians, but deep
down in their hearts they knows that they
are bad news. Their eyes shines like torch,
their hearts are made of stones, they can
even kill with only their eye lids, but their
tongues are sweet like sugar. They talks like
a president, telling people what they will do
for them. But they have made the bible
their best friend, they can even write down
the old and the new testaments on a black
board with chalk. So because they are well
known in the church, you will trut them
with all your heart, knowing not that they
are nothing but witches and wizards. They
will be your friends during the day, but
when the night falls they will be no friends
of yours anymore, hahahaha! I'm telling
you now to stay away from them.
Remember, it is not eveything that glitters
is gold, don't trust anybody, not even
yourself.......

PROSTITUTION


Prostitution effects our society in many
ways. Prostitutions is more then just a
sexual related crime and can actually lead
to
more crimes and violence on the streets.
Prostitution began many centuries ago as a
way for women to earn money. Saloons
used to be known for their beautiful
women and liquor. Over the years
prostitution has become a threat to our
society.
Prostitutes are seen for the ability to give
men and women a good time by offering
sexual favors for money or gifts.
Prostitutes
used to be women selling their bodies for
money. Today there are men and women
prostitutes. And they sell their bodies for
many reasons other then money. Drugs are
becoming a common currency for
prostitutes.
Unfortunately, when purchasing a
prostitute, many buyers don't think about
the serious consequences that come with
street sex. Sexually transmitted disease,
infidelity, violence, thefts and many crimes
take place with the average prostitute
exchange.
Many men and women have received have
passed along sexually transmitted diseases
without knowing and some without even
caring. It's not always the prostitute that
does that passing of the STD either. Many
people with and STD feel that they can't
have a sexual relationship with the partner
in fear of passing the disease to them.
However, they find it acceptable to find a
prostitute on the corner who they will
never have to meet again, and pass the STD
along in order to relieve sexual frustration.
In return he or she will sleep with several
other people before even knowing they
have an STD. Then the STD gets passed on
by those people as well. Wives, husbands
and innocent sexual partners become
victim
to the STD. Many of which are severe and
even life threatening... In addition to
passing on diseases, many
men and women pick up prostitutes not
caring about how their wife or husband at
home may feel if they ever found out.
Today, society is dealing with a higher
divorce average then ever before. Having
the ability to go out and pickup a prostitute
for sexual favors will only encourage that
number to continue to rise.
Society is threatened by much more then
diseases and divorce related to
prostitution.
Violent crimes are one of the most severe
effects on society. Many prostitutes have
been raped, beaten and killed over many
decades and the number continues to
grow.
Prostitutes are seen as week, vulnerable,
and an easy target for men to get their
sexual favors and then to kill and dispose
of. Since the prostitute is in a bad enough
situation to need to sell their selves then
chances are that there is no one close
enough to help or reach out to them. This,
making them less likely to be missed and be
reported missing.
Men aren't the only culprit in violent,
prostitution related crimes. Many
prostitutes
have beaten and killed their buyers as well.
Many prostitutes will rob their clients
during
or after the sexual acts while the client is
not expecting it. After all, they can't call the
police and tell them they were robbed by a
prostitute as prostitution is illegal.
Prostitution is slowly taking over streets
and many cities. After a few prostitutes set
up and stalk a corner, before long that
whole street is nothing more then a
prostitution ring and is filled with crimes to
include violence, rape, thefts and many
more heinous crimes.
Law enforcement needs to step up the
regulations and penalties for prostitution in
order to bring the numbers down. While no
town allows prostitutes some do over look
the obvious so it will then continue until it's
merely uncontrollable. Which, will intern
leave society in a hard place with busy
street corners filled with drugs, violent
crimes, theft and much more dangerous
crimes.

ABORTION


Oh my God..! What shall we do to be saved?
Future leaders goes down the drain day by
day through abortion, and they are crying
out so bitterly seeking for help, but the
world are not listening. I'm tired of hearing
these little voices saying, "mummy why did
you destroy me? What have i done wrong
to deserve this? If your own mother had
aborted you, where would you have been
today? Still, after theses crys, our women
went ahead slashing and killing innocent
unborn children, why...?? Abortion
seemingly “gets rid
of the problem” immediately, but there are
some serious things to consider. That
“problem” is your baby, a human being.
You may have heard it said that once you
become pregnant you already are a parent.
It’s true. If you end the life of your child,
that doesn’t mean that you weren’t ever
pregnant. It means that you were pregnant
and chose to end the life of your baby. It
would be a tragedy that you would have to
deal with for the rest of your life. And there
is no undoing it. Once it’s done, it’s done.
You should also be aware of the physical
and mental damage that receiving an
abortion can have on you. Many women
experience major emotional trauma and
some experience immediate problems with
things like hemorrhaging; and long-term
problems with things such as infertility and
worse, some types of cancer. If you feel
you cannot raise
your child, or simply don’t want to,
adoption is a very loving option. It would
be a gift to your child to choose to give her
to a loving couple who will care for her
deeply. Instead of aborting your child in
hopes that the problem will disappear, and
later dealing with the repercussions of that
decision, adoption is a decision that you
and your child can live with. You can hold
your head up high knowing that you gave
your child life. There are even open
adoptions now, where you can stay in
touch with your child on a regular basis
and
still be part of her life as she grows. How
much better can it get than that? Even
though your
situation may not be ideal, many women/
girls can still parent their children. Often
times you can find the help you need from
your family, whether it be for housing or
simply finding a babysitter. In other cases,
you might need to look elsewhere for the
help you need. There is more help out there
for you today than ever. There are
pregnancy resource centers that provide
free clothing for you and your baby,
diapers, formula, etc. They will help you get
the financial assistance you need, and
some
of them even provide a home/place you
can stay throughout your entire
pregnancy. If you are considering an
abortion, please understand that it will
affect you for the rest of your life, it will
not bring an ends to your problems or
your difficult situations, it will leave you
feeling empty, guilty and full of shame.

A GOOD FRIEND


These are the things that makes a good friend.. (1) Complete Acceptance
.. The first and foremost quality that
distinguishes a good friend is his/her ability
to accept you as you are, without seeking
to change you in any way. He/she does not
make you feel wretched when you make
mistakes, and neither does he/she gloss
over the fact that you have erred. Even
though you may not be at your best, he/
she will treat you the way you want to be
treated.
(2) Honesty And Sincerity
.. A good friend does not feel the need to
pretend with you. S/he will be in his/her
element when you are around. This is
because there is no reason to impress you
or others for personal gain or objectives.
Friendship cannot be fortified if the key
elements of sincerity and honesty are
found lacking.
(3) No Scores To Settle
.. If your friend is one who keeps track of
who called last, or who spent more money,
or who forgot whose birthday, rest assured
s/he can never be a good friend. A true
friend will not care two hoots for keeping
score cards. All that s/he will want is to care
for you in the least conspicuous way.
(4)Support
.. Fair-weather friends will come asking for
your help when they need your help and
support, but will never be around when you
want their help. On the other hand, a friend
who is genuine will support you through
thick and thin and will never leave your
side. S/he will lend all possible support to
you and will see to it that you attain your
goals.
(5) Togetherness
.. The desire to be together comes naturally
for good friends and they will always be
with you if you are experiencing the dullest
of days, or having some problems in life, or
having momentous occasions such as your
graduation or birthday to attend.
(6) No Criticism
.. If your friend comments on all that you do
or say and judges you at the drop of a hat,
s/he can never be good friend material. The
cornerstone of good friendship is complete
acceptance which negates criticism. If you
criticize, you cannot be a good friend, and
vice versa. Hence, friendship has no place
for scornfulness or grudges. Good friends
can disagree with you, but they can never
make you look inferior for that.
(7) Happy To See You Happy
.. Your happiness is a source of her/his
happiness too. If you have a friend who
finds joy in your success and never gets
jealous, you indeed have a good friend.
They can gauge when you are happy, sad,
excited, shocked or upset. If you are down
in the dumps for some reason, your friend
will know how to make you happy and
wipe away your blues.
Hope this article on what makes a good
friend gave you an insight into their
identifying traits. Even though you have
your family to look after you, good friends
make your days a lot more fun that too
with no strings attached. Blessed are you if
you have at least one such friend!

BREAK UP ADVICE


Dealing with a breakup is always hard
and painful. The end of a relationship
means you go through a phase of
mourning and grieving. Nevertheless,
it should be kept in mind that a
breakup doesn’t mean the end of the
world. In fact, a breakup gives you
another chance to find someone more
suitable. Feelings of bewilderment and
anger are common reactions to a
breakup. Give yourself plenty of time to
heal and build up your strength. Remember
that time heals all wounds. Keep away all
keepsakes, photographs, and other
souvenirs that will bring back the memory
of your previous love. Knowing what to do
while recovering from a breakup will help
you move on with your life in a positive
way. If you have just gone through a
breakup, read through this article to learn
what to do after a break up so that you can
move on with life. (1) IT'S OKAY TO GRIEVE.
If you have just ended a serious
relationship you should give yourself some
time to grieve. It’s absolutely okay to let
your emotions flow out through tears.
Crying will help you to cope with the pain
and frustration. Tears are ways of releasing
anxiety and frustration that built up. Cry
out
loud and comfort yourself. (2) ACCEPT
THINGS AS THEY ARE.
Don’t try to win back your ex lover. Let go
of your ex lover, instead of waiting for his/
her phone call. Accepting the situation will
help you to move forward in life. The faster
you accept things as they are, the quicker
your heartbreak will heal, thus helping you
get over the breakup.
(3) ENGAGE IN NEW ACTIVITIES.
Get out of the house and engage yourself
in
some new and interesting activities. Join a
book club or attend a French cooking class.
Indulge yourself in activities that you have
always wanted to do, but haven’t had the
time for. Going out and mingling with
people and acquaintances will help you to
forget the past and deal with your
heartbreak faster.
(4) PRACTICE HEALTHY LIFESTYLE.
People who fall into unhealthy eating and
sleeping patterns after a breakup might
end
up feeling worse about themselves, thus
gaining weight and becoming depressed.
Even if you have just gone through a
breakup and life looks hopeless and dreary,
try to eat healthy food and maintain a
healthy lifestyle. Get good sleep and also
exercise regularly to keep yourself fit.
Doing
so will make you feel better. GOODLUCK..!!
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