My OperaLife Coaching, Mindset and Goals
Sunday, December 26, 2010 4:44:12 AM
This either-or mindset is junk -- it's something we definitely have to discard in order to live more consciously. It just isn't well aligned with truth, love, and power. It says that in order to make money, you must sacrifice truth and love to get power. It also says that if you pursue truth and love, you'll be powerless. Both approaches are suboptimal.
It's much better to adopt models that allow you to pursue truth, love, and power simultaneously -- without compromising or sacrificing. It's true these models are more rare (especially in the USA), but they're definitely possible in the real world.
The model I use for my business is a like a self-funding non-profit. It has a clear mission where having a positive impact is a higher priority than making money, so I can justify doing unprofitable things that help people (such as hosting these forums). However, the business also creates and delivers social value in order to generate income so that it can be profitably self-sustaining and fuel its continued growth.
Making lots of money and genuinely helping people aren't incompatible. If you adopt an intelligent business model, these two activities become mutually supportive.
Is it cheating to get help to solve a problem?
The truth is that most of us are incredibly bad at solving problems solo. We usually can't even feed ourselves without massive help from others. Even buying food is paying for help. We're very socially interconnected creatures and can't do much at all without relying on the contributions of others.
Did you build your own car or home? Did you invent the language you speak? Did you create the Internet you're currently using?
Cheater!
Go ahead and try to live without leaning on the solutions of other people. You will die.
I think it's more noble to openly request and receive help instead of trying to barrel through life under the illusion of self-power.
One of the best ways to solve a problem is to connect with someone who's already solved a similar one. Being able to identify and connect with the right social resources is a valid problem-solving tool in its own right. A fast way to solve a problem is to talk to someone who has a piece of the answer.
Sometimes just being around the right people is all you need... even a mindset can be a solution.
This is the downstream version of the problem. Attacking the problem at that level merely attempts to treat the symptoms. The problem remains unsolved because it's not being addressed at the source level.
It's part of human nature to want to increase our power, which is our ability to fulfill our desires. For some this means being able to satisfy the desire for a luxury car. That part of our nature isn't going away anytime soon. To deny our desires is to work against our own nature. Historically we have already tried this approach, and it's a proven failure.
The solution is to accept and embrace our power... but to bring it into alignment with truth and love. This means fulfilling your desires while holding others responsibility for doing the same -- in a more harmonious way than we're doing now. Use your desires to inspire you to greater heights of service. If you want the luxury car, if you find it motivating, then go ahead and work for it by creating genuine value for others to earn it. This is better than doing without the car and shunning the service you'd have to provide to get it.
What we really need is a shift in consciousness, whereby we learn to fulfill our desires in alignment with truth and love. In order to do this, we have to create a tipping point to break the non-aligned patterns, such as power w/o truth and love (abusive capitalism) or love and truth w/o power (lightworker syndrome).
We need an and solution here, not either/or. There isn't a conflict between fulfilling our desires and helping others except to the degree we create that conflict.
This article was written by Steve Pavlina as a forum post. I'm just sharing his wisdom while putting up my links below to get link juice. You can find him on StevePavlina.com
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Given enough time and a clear direction, the impossible has a way of becoming possible.
If I went back to my 19-year old self and told him what I was doing now, he probably wouldn't believe me.
It doesn't matter if a goal is possible if it's fun, interesting, empowering, and inspiring to pursue. Goals that are too small are boring and demotivating.
Life coaching is generally not what I'll be doing. I probably shouldn't use the word coaching because it's a bad metaphor, and I won't be using the same strategies that other coaches use. You could hire a life coach for 1/10th the price. That would normally involve multiple sessions over a long period of time -- often months.
My intention is to assist people who want help achieving a breakthrough in some area, meaning that I'm helping to devise practical solutions and in some cases even assist in the implementation details.
The idea here is to pick a problem, get it solved, and move on, not to create a long-term dependency relationship.
We all need help solving problems from time to time, and we can consult with others without giving away our power. I hired a raw food coach to help me transition to a raw food diet. It was only one phone call, not a long-term coaching relationship. He gave me some practical insights and solutions that proved very helpful. It was worthwhile to have the benefit of his years of experience as a raw foodist to guide me past the pitfalls.
It's much better to adopt models that allow you to pursue truth, love, and power simultaneously -- without compromising or sacrificing. It's true these models are more rare (especially in the USA), but they're definitely possible in the real world.
The model I use for my business is a like a self-funding non-profit. It has a clear mission where having a positive impact is a higher priority than making money, so I can justify doing unprofitable things that help people (such as hosting these forums). However, the business also creates and delivers social value in order to generate income so that it can be profitably self-sustaining and fuel its continued growth.
Making lots of money and genuinely helping people aren't incompatible. If you adopt an intelligent business model, these two activities become mutually supportive.
Is it cheating to get help to solve a problem?
The truth is that most of us are incredibly bad at solving problems solo. We usually can't even feed ourselves without massive help from others. Even buying food is paying for help. We're very socially interconnected creatures and can't do much at all without relying on the contributions of others.
Did you build your own car or home? Did you invent the language you speak? Did you create the Internet you're currently using?
Cheater!
Go ahead and try to live without leaning on the solutions of other people. You will die.
I think it's more noble to openly request and receive help instead of trying to barrel through life under the illusion of self-power.
One of the best ways to solve a problem is to connect with someone who's already solved a similar one. Being able to identify and connect with the right social resources is a valid problem-solving tool in its own right. A fast way to solve a problem is to talk to someone who has a piece of the answer.
Sometimes just being around the right people is all you need... even a mindset can be a solution.
This is the downstream version of the problem. Attacking the problem at that level merely attempts to treat the symptoms. The problem remains unsolved because it's not being addressed at the source level.
It's part of human nature to want to increase our power, which is our ability to fulfill our desires. For some this means being able to satisfy the desire for a luxury car. That part of our nature isn't going away anytime soon. To deny our desires is to work against our own nature. Historically we have already tried this approach, and it's a proven failure.
The solution is to accept and embrace our power... but to bring it into alignment with truth and love. This means fulfilling your desires while holding others responsibility for doing the same -- in a more harmonious way than we're doing now. Use your desires to inspire you to greater heights of service. If you want the luxury car, if you find it motivating, then go ahead and work for it by creating genuine value for others to earn it. This is better than doing without the car and shunning the service you'd have to provide to get it.
What we really need is a shift in consciousness, whereby we learn to fulfill our desires in alignment with truth and love. In order to do this, we have to create a tipping point to break the non-aligned patterns, such as power w/o truth and love (abusive capitalism) or love and truth w/o power (lightworker syndrome).
We need an and solution here, not either/or. There isn't a conflict between fulfilling our desires and helping others except to the degree we create that conflict.
This article was written by Steve Pavlina as a forum post. I'm just sharing his wisdom while putting up my links below to get link juice. You can find him on StevePavlina.com
Tapping Barcelona
Hipnosis Barcelona
Buy Diamonds Online
HostGator
Blood Oranges
Reiki Barcelona
Meditacion Barcelona
Yoga Barcelona
Shiatsu Barcelona
Hipnosis Barcelona
Coaching Barcelona
Tai Chi Barcelona
Tantra Barcelona
Given enough time and a clear direction, the impossible has a way of becoming possible.
If I went back to my 19-year old self and told him what I was doing now, he probably wouldn't believe me.
It doesn't matter if a goal is possible if it's fun, interesting, empowering, and inspiring to pursue. Goals that are too small are boring and demotivating.
Life coaching is generally not what I'll be doing. I probably shouldn't use the word coaching because it's a bad metaphor, and I won't be using the same strategies that other coaches use. You could hire a life coach for 1/10th the price. That would normally involve multiple sessions over a long period of time -- often months.
My intention is to assist people who want help achieving a breakthrough in some area, meaning that I'm helping to devise practical solutions and in some cases even assist in the implementation details.
The idea here is to pick a problem, get it solved, and move on, not to create a long-term dependency relationship.
We all need help solving problems from time to time, and we can consult with others without giving away our power. I hired a raw food coach to help me transition to a raw food diet. It was only one phone call, not a long-term coaching relationship. He gave me some practical insights and solutions that proved very helpful. It was worthwhile to have the benefit of his years of experience as a raw foodist to guide me past the pitfalls.
