My OperaJobs, Quitting, Tolerance and Love
Sunday, December 26, 2010 4:34:48 AM
Someone asked on the StevePavlina.com forums that quitting their job would be completely irresponsible.
To which Steve replied:
Are you sure about that?
Is it truly more responsible to neglect/delay all the people you could be serving in your new line of work just so you can comfort yourself with extra money from a job you aren't putting your heart into?
To me it seems irresponsible not to quit. You're denying reponsibility for all the people you're failing to help. You're also refusing to assume total responsibility for creating enough value in that new line of work to sustain yourself financially. And lastly, you're denying responsibility for your inability to give your very best at your current job. You're being unfair to everyone by holding back, including yourself.
What's your deadline for quitting?
You see... if you don't put some kind of pressure on yourself to get out -- to make it absolutely mandatory that you figure out what to do instead of what you already know you dislike -- then you can very easily lose another decade of your life to this path. I wouldn't wish that upon anyone.
If there's no shard of a commitment to quitting in your present, then there's no quitting in your future either.
When you take a step in the direction of courage, the universe will step with you. Don't be surprised to see a positive synchronicity happen as soon as you take that first step.
"Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom." - Marilyn Ferguson
All the stuff you're clinging to because you think you need it to feel secure... isn't even worth having considering what you're sacrificing for it.
Whatever you fear, you must face. That's the only way you'll grow. If you run from your fears (such as the fear you won't be able to support yourself doing what you love), then you'll never know what freedom feels like.
Did you really come here just to learn how to pay your bills? Or did you come here to learn what courage feels like?
Actually right here you are asking for more of what you don't want.
"Not office politics," "people are afraid," "trip me up," and "weren't threatened by my talent" aren't statements about what you truly, deeply want. They're reactions to what you don't want. Consequently, you're in a state where you'll simply attract even more of what you don't want because that's where your focus is.
What do you really want? Try stating it without using any negative words (i.e. not, aren't, don't, etc).
Chapter 5 (Authority) in PDSP goes into great detail on this. Authority is the combination of truth + power. Your challenge is to determine whether or not your exercise of power over your life is aligned with truth.
Are you assuming total authority over your life (making your own decisions and setting your own goals), or are you giving your power away to someone else? Did you consult with your sister and then use your own authority to decide, or did you let her make the decision for you because you trusted her judgment more than your own?
If you let others make important life decisions for you, you lose even if they're right. You deny yourself the golden opportunity to make mistakes and learn from them. It's very important to be free to make your own mistakes. That's how you build self-confidence and self-trust in the long run. If you avoid this process, you'll always give your power away, and you'll never become the authority of your own life.
Did you truly make both decisions? Or did you trust me to make the first one and your sister the second? People who are aligned with truth and power don't normally make decisions and then quickly reverse them.
The key to figuring out the truth of your situation is to pay attention to your honest predictions about where your current path is headed. Where do you expect it will lead over the next one year, five years, ten years, etc?
You'll want to do this when you're clear-headed and rational, not overly emotional.
You can also ask people who know you to predict where your path will lead. See if you agree or disagree with their predictions for your future.
People typically base their opinions about what is the correct choice on where they predict it will lead. The "truth" portion of authority means that you want to make your predictions as accurate as you reasonably can. If they seem unreasonably optimisitic or pessimistic, they need to be adjusted.
It would probably be great to talk with your sis about where she predicts each of your options will take you. Then see if you agree or disagree with her.
This article was written by Steve Pavlina as a forum post. I'm just sharing his wisdom while putting up my links below to get link juice. You can find him on StevePavlina.com
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To which Steve replied:
Are you sure about that?
Is it truly more responsible to neglect/delay all the people you could be serving in your new line of work just so you can comfort yourself with extra money from a job you aren't putting your heart into?
To me it seems irresponsible not to quit. You're denying reponsibility for all the people you're failing to help. You're also refusing to assume total responsibility for creating enough value in that new line of work to sustain yourself financially. And lastly, you're denying responsibility for your inability to give your very best at your current job. You're being unfair to everyone by holding back, including yourself.
What's your deadline for quitting?
You see... if you don't put some kind of pressure on yourself to get out -- to make it absolutely mandatory that you figure out what to do instead of what you already know you dislike -- then you can very easily lose another decade of your life to this path. I wouldn't wish that upon anyone.
If there's no shard of a commitment to quitting in your present, then there's no quitting in your future either.
When you take a step in the direction of courage, the universe will step with you. Don't be surprised to see a positive synchronicity happen as soon as you take that first step.
"Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom." - Marilyn Ferguson
All the stuff you're clinging to because you think you need it to feel secure... isn't even worth having considering what you're sacrificing for it.
Whatever you fear, you must face. That's the only way you'll grow. If you run from your fears (such as the fear you won't be able to support yourself doing what you love), then you'll never know what freedom feels like.
Did you really come here just to learn how to pay your bills? Or did you come here to learn what courage feels like?
Actually right here you are asking for more of what you don't want.
"Not office politics," "people are afraid," "trip me up," and "weren't threatened by my talent" aren't statements about what you truly, deeply want. They're reactions to what you don't want. Consequently, you're in a state where you'll simply attract even more of what you don't want because that's where your focus is.
What do you really want? Try stating it without using any negative words (i.e. not, aren't, don't, etc).
Chapter 5 (Authority) in PDSP goes into great detail on this. Authority is the combination of truth + power. Your challenge is to determine whether or not your exercise of power over your life is aligned with truth.
Are you assuming total authority over your life (making your own decisions and setting your own goals), or are you giving your power away to someone else? Did you consult with your sister and then use your own authority to decide, or did you let her make the decision for you because you trusted her judgment more than your own?
If you let others make important life decisions for you, you lose even if they're right. You deny yourself the golden opportunity to make mistakes and learn from them. It's very important to be free to make your own mistakes. That's how you build self-confidence and self-trust in the long run. If you avoid this process, you'll always give your power away, and you'll never become the authority of your own life.
Did you truly make both decisions? Or did you trust me to make the first one and your sister the second? People who are aligned with truth and power don't normally make decisions and then quickly reverse them.
The key to figuring out the truth of your situation is to pay attention to your honest predictions about where your current path is headed. Where do you expect it will lead over the next one year, five years, ten years, etc?
You'll want to do this when you're clear-headed and rational, not overly emotional.
You can also ask people who know you to predict where your path will lead. See if you agree or disagree with their predictions for your future.
People typically base their opinions about what is the correct choice on where they predict it will lead. The "truth" portion of authority means that you want to make your predictions as accurate as you reasonably can. If they seem unreasonably optimisitic or pessimistic, they need to be adjusted.
It would probably be great to talk with your sis about where she predicts each of your options will take you. Then see if you agree or disagree with her.
This article was written by Steve Pavlina as a forum post. I'm just sharing his wisdom while putting up my links below to get link juice. You can find him on StevePavlina.com
Tapping Barcelona
Hipnosis Barcelona
Buy Diamonds Online
HostGator
Blood Oranges
Reiki Barcelona
Meditacion Barcelona
Yoga Barcelona
Shiatsu Barcelona
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