Please Bless me Father for I Have Sinned.....
Saturday, February 7, 2009 10:38:08 PM
And what better time than the present to use this forum, to let down this bag of bricks by opening my heart...bearing my soul would be a more appropriate description for detailing my "Truths" I really need to shed, if just for the sake of shedding them.
Hi, my name is Jill. And, I'm a compulsive spender! (yeah, I know, you thought it was going to be juicier than this..LOL)(It WAS, but I chickened out and wrote this, instead...maybe next post)
I wanted to know if I really did have a serious problem or if I just felt guilty for spending too much money. (Nope, I never feel guilty...another truth)
So, I did some research and found this article.
Are You a Compulsive Spender?
Everyone deals with stress in different ways. Some people exercise or turn to food, while others spend money. The shiny bags filled with new clothes, fancy electronics and luxurious toiletries can temporarily fill a void, but that rush soon turns to guilt, especially after the bills arrive. Like eating or gambling, shopping can become a compulsion—even an addiction. Are your spending habits are out of control? Take this assessment and find out. Quiz
Results of the Assessment:
You Know When to Save and When to Splurge
Based on your answers to this assessment, it sounds like you do overspend from time to time, but still know how to (and are able to) control yourself. If you need a bit more help, consider creating and sticking with a budget if you don't already.
Needless to say, I don't agree with their assessment results. But then, who am I but just a compulsive spender and who feels no guilt in whatever I buy and I know why I'm buying it, other than for the obvious reasons; I either need it or want to have it.
I even went to see someone who deals in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders and he didn't think I had a problem with spending too much money, it was the reason WHY I was spending it.He said that I did not meet the criteria, which includes low self-esteem and a multitude of other problems.
He believes that when I am under stress and feel trapped by a situation, I shop to feel better. And, you know what? He's right! It works! He also believes it is much better to buy something, even if I don't need it at the time and it is costly, than to turn to alcohol or drugs. He does think I have an addictive personality and the reason my business is probably going so well.
All in All I got a clean bill-of-health!
I also got a dinner date, if I agreed to "buy him a gift"!!!!