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Relationships and break ups.

Thursday, May 7, 2009 1:20:58 PM

Relationships and break ups

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“IT’S IRONIC THAT EVERY MAN WANTS TO MARRY A VIRGIN, YET HE SLEEPS AROUND.”]

Thursday, February 16, 2012 12:10:02 PM

anger, hate, romance, love ...

[2012]

[Private]

LORRAINE GOKUL

MOCKING AND SHOCKING REALITY

INTRODUCTION

The vastness of the world, sees people in different places, permeate the same typical behavior, irrespective of gender, race, culture or nationality. They are all carbon copied to react in the same way. Although the media contributed too much blame, linking patterned crimes, its human nature to act rational or irrational. Let us omit crimes and concentrate on emotional, physical and psychological behavior. How and why it results in a situation that leads to family crisis. Who suffers and what are the contributions to such behaviors. I have set up scenes to elaborate on each, some may seem comical, but it will reflect on the reality of each situation, giving the reader a glimpse of something, that they can relate to, or perhaps seen it happen to someone at some point and time. When you meet someone for the first time, first impressions are a lasting factor. With first impressions comes a certain delivery message, from the brain, example wow! Yuk, Baby you light my fire, he is nice, she’s hot, etc. Whatever the brain tells you that will be your reaction. That can be damaging, problematic or even good.

“The Man” becomes “The Mouse”
Scenario
When Jeremy saw Annie for the first time, she was a woman of flawless beauty, which captivated him. His brain could have sent him messages example,
 Get into her pants
 Marry her and have kids
 She could be nice for a one night stand
 Sleep with her because she was the hottest chick.
 Love her because he was lonely.
Well, whatever motive he had, the instant he had seen her he plotted, whether he had good or bad intentions.
Let us say that he tries, get into her pants. He is obviously not going to tell her that, so he plays pretend and acts like a true gentleman. He speaks in the most appropriate way, and shows her a caring attitude. She is impressed and before you know, he wins his goal. Their day out ended in a romantic outing, he was the perfect person and she was in love with him over night. Why not, she thinks, he is so wonderful and gives into him. He did not ask her to, but she was under his charm or spell and she submits to him. The beautiful night skies, was the perfect setting. Her moment of long term memories that she wants to build with him. Therefore, do it in the back seat of his car, or do it under the stars. He cannot wait who cares where it happens, but he’s Mr. nice guy, so he waits for her signal. He serenades her with adorable words, telling her how beautiful she is. That’s the key to a door for any woman. Their night ends with bliss. She could hear herself telling him how much she loves him. Finally, he reaches his reigning moment; he got exactly what he wanted. “Wham bam thank you mam.” The next day she tries to contact him, he gives her the third degree. She feels betrayed and angry by his behavior. She sees the other side of him when he tells her. “I’m seeing someone else.” On the other hand, “I’m not ready for a relationship.” Annie feels used her self-esteem is low, she did not know that he was a fast food eater. If she had known that then she would not have slept with him. She thought that sleeping with him would make him see more of her, or love her. He was Mr. nice guy when she first met him. He is so happy he scored with a chic, so he tells his friends, and that is how the dirty laundry and gossip spreads. How does Annie feel? He has led everyone to think that she was easy; she is labeled and tagged, trash, whore, etc. His label and promotion is, “The Man.”
Reality check: Jeremy is not the man he cheated, lied and that narrows it down to a mouse, in recognition a mouse will keep stealing the cheese.
Reality check: Annie goes in pursuit of clearing her name. However, that is in vain, even though the mouse stole her cheese, she cannot defend it. She was responsible for her actions.
Tips:
Never sleep with a guy/girl until you know them well enough. Not only guys do that to girls, for many reasons girls do the same to guys.
People tend to behave in certain ways because they may come from a broken background, they have a self-esteem problem, they do it to be popular, they have been open to that kind of atmosphere, they watch their parents fight anger, resentment and the need to feel loved, will make them hop from person to person.