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Speaking the Truth in Love

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After hearing several people recently (and in the past) talking about this reference in the Bible, I wanted to throw in my 2 cents.

Often in my experience, I have heard this dichotomy brought up in the context of a tension, the desire to try to balance two opposing goals. Some people speak truthfully. Others speak lovingly. The goal is to attempt to do both at once. Often, when there is tension between the two, people speak of 'erring' on the side of one virtue or the other.

But after at least a year of percolating this idea in the back of my mind, I think that view is inherently flawed. You cannot see Truth and Love as being opposed or even disconnected. Since both Truth and Love are virtues, you cannot 'err' toward a virtue, but rather you have to err away from a virtue. So when someone speaks of 'erring on the side of love,' what he really means is 'erring on the side of falsehood', and likewise when one speaks of 'erring on the side of truth,' he really means erring on the side of spite.

So what does this tell us about our views of this strange tension? Allow me to illustrate. Here is a graph (I'm a nerd) that shows how I think most people would view the Truth/Love relationship:



Note that in this diagram Truth and Love are unrelated to each other. You can have either Truth or Love or both or neither, and neither has any bearing on the other. The lines or axes of the graph are straight, and imply that you can speak absolute Truth with no attention to Love whatsoever. But again, both virtues are just that: virtues. I think that any virtue we practise will necesitate the excercise of all other virtues to some degree or other, so assuming that we can pick one over the other is fallacious.

I think, rather, that the following diagram illustrates how these two interact a little better:



Note a few things:
1) The axes on this graph are not straight. Both bend toward each other, meeting at the height.
2) In order to be completely Truthful, one has to be completely Loving, and vice-versa. If you are completely lacking in Love, you will - of necessity - be completely lacking in Truth.

Also see that there are several points on this graph where you can increase or decrease the 'value' of one virtue without affecting the value of the other. However that will only take you so far. Eventually you will run into a wall, and either you will decrease both values, or you will increase both values. Thus, you cannot 'err' on the side of one or the other, but rather you are forced to either sacrifice both or to maintain both.

Finally, note that in this diagram there is a definite end point. This graph does not extend toward infinite. Rather, the most Loving and Truthful you can hope to be is the exact amount you should be. Most of us hover around being half as loving as we ought to be, or 1/3 as Truthful as we ought to be, etc. There is a point of perfection, but it is very seldom reached even in a single interaction.

Not so Felix Culpa

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This week's reading from the Old Testament (this Sunday was Temptation Sunday) was the account of the first temptation in the Garden of Eden, and something occured to me. The serpent's great temptation of Eve is that if she eats the fruit, she will not only not die, but she will be like God, knowing good and evil.

The first part of this is a lie laced with truth: She didn't die, at least not right away - but she did die eventually. It would be like someone saying, "You're not going to die from jumping off of a cliff!" with the subtext of, "You'll die from hitting the ground below."

But the second part is what really struck me. The serpent says that Eve will be like God, knowing good and evil. But how great a lie this was, for when Eve ate the fruit, she not only gained understanding of evil, but she became intimate with it. She did not allow God to teach her about good and evil, but she took evil into her body and made it part of herself, coming to know it so well that she can never forget what she learned. I do not believe that God's intention was to leave Adam and Eve naive about evil, because I do not believe that the first temptation would have been the last temptation. But I believe that God intended to give them knowledge and discernment without allowing them to become evil themselves.

Thus, we have the New Testament reading from this week: the temptation of Jesus in the wilderness. Jesus resists the temptation of the Devil not by simply ignoring him, but by knowing enough about good and evil to not allow it to enter him. He knows evil, but He is not intimate with it. He is as shrewd as the serpent, but also, as Paul would later say, like a child concerning evil.

Two follow-up links

A couple of things today for two previous topics:

First, see these thoughts on capital punishment.

Secondly, for more insight on what I was trying to say regarding the unsaved dead, read Romans chapter 9. I was listening to it on audiobook today on the way in to work and realized that it is summed up fairly well there.

Punishment and Discipline

I have been percolating thoughts of parenting for the past several weeks, and have come across a couple of key problems that I think most parents encounter at one time or another. The first of these is the problem of discipline.

You are in trouble as a parent when you begin to replace discipline with punishment. Punishment is purely negative: don't do this, don't do that; if you do this or that you will get punished. This has its place as part of discipline, however there is more. Discipline is not merely instruction on what not to do. It is also instruction on how to live. Now punishment can also be used in encouraging children to do the right thing, but even still it is used negatively: You didn't do this, and you should have. Punishment does not provide reason.

The immediate effect of this approach is that you break the relationship between yourself and your children. Instead of raising them up to know and love you (and God as an extension) they grow up to know only rules. The extension to this (hinted at in the previous set of parentheses) is that you present a more incomplete picture of God, our Heavenly Father. No, no earthly father can give a full and perfect image of God; we are just not capable. But if we raise our children to respect rules instead of us, we damage that relationship with God, and either they grow up to fear a vengeful God they can never please, or they give up on God the Just in favor of the equally incomplete 'buddy-Jesus'.

So, how do we discipline instead of just punishing? Well, we still must have rules, and those rules still must have consequences. But we must work to maintain the relationship. With my daughter, any time punishment is impending there is a conversation: "You are going to get a time-out. Do you know why? Okay, let me tell you: you did this. Now, why are you getting a time-out?" After the punishment has been measured out, another conversation follows: "Okay, why did you get a time-out?" and we make her say what it is that she did. She is only three, but we work on they deeper why's too: "When you do this, [you could get hurt / you could hurt someone else / it makes it hard for us to trust you / etc.]"

The point is not just for the child to not hit her little brother. The point is for her to learn to love God, and to love her neighbor as herself.

Righteous Pagans follow-up

Originally posted by Rikeshar:

Here's a question for you, what do you think will happen to the Jewish people and the truely dedicated Muslims (as opposed to the minority fanatics), both who profess to worship the same God as Christians?


It depends somewhat on the situation. The previous post on this topic dealt with those who had never heard the Gospel of Christ, and thus had 'no chance' to respond to it. If the devout Muslim or Jew falls into this category, then I would put them in the same category as the devout Hindu, Buddhist, Animist, etc. who had never heard the Gospel: a resounding "I don't know, but I trust that God will have mercy (however that looks)."

If, on the other hand, the person has been presented with the Gospel of Christ and has rejected it, then they have no excuse; they have made choice against Christ. I'll offend at least one person by saying it, but while we may worship the same God in 'name', we do not worship the same God in spirit. The Jews still look to the coming of the Messiah, and as such reject Christ's redemptive work in the crucifixion. The Muslims believe (to the best of my understanding) in a more works-based faith, again denying the redemption of Christ. As Christ said, He is the way, and no man comes to the Father but through Him. Unless the Jew or Muslim acknowledges Christ as the Son of God who saves us from our sins, they are rejecting His redemption and choosing instead a way that does not lead to salvation. And I also believe that any Jew or Muslim who acknowledges Christ as such can be called a Christian, even if he is not one 'culturally'.

I think that a Jews, Muslims and Christians who claim that we all worship the same God do not fully understand the very real and important differences between the gods they worship. In other words, we may all be calling on the same name, but I believe that they are wrong about who it is they are calling to. Just as if I worshipped a man named Jesus who lived down the street. Or even another Jew, born around the time of Christ, who was named Jesus, but who instead of dying on a cross for our sins, he lived out a full, righteous life in the sight of all. In this case, the name is only part of the person.

The Righteous Pagans

I have been thinking lately (spurred no doubt by something that I read somewhere) about the topic of the righteous pagan. It is that eternal question of what happens to those who have never heard of Jesus Christ, and have never had the opportunity to trust Him for their salvation. I expect that my statement on this subject will leave many disappointed with its brevity.

There are a few key starting points that I believe to be vital to an orthodox Christian understanding of this issue:
1) God loves us. The Bible is pretty clear on this fact, and I think as Christians we can take it for granted, but we must understand that this does not mean the same thing that you might mean when you say, "I love you," to a friend, a child, a parent, or even a lover. While we are given those relationships to help us learn what it means to love, none of them allows us to fully grasp the extent of God's love.
2) Jesus is the ONLY way to God. The Bible is pretty clear on this. Jesus said that He is the way, truth and life, and no one comes to the Father except through Him. The entire Old Testament looks forward to the coming of the Messiah who will save His people. Orthodoxy would not allow us to quibble on this point.
3) All men have sinned, and were born broken and evil. That any are allowed to be made whole is a great and wonderous mystery, especially considering the price at which our wholeness comes.

So where does that leave us? How does a just God allow some to live in radiance with Him - through no deed of their own - while others spend eternity in some form of Hell - through no apparent choice of their own?

First, we must trust that since God loves us - and loves us truly and completely - He will always do for us what is best. However, this may not always (or even usually) look like what we think is best for us. Perhaps it is not best for some people to spend eternity in the presence of God, especially if they are so sure of the way the world should work that they scorn and despise Him.

Second, we must disillusion ourselves of our own worth. We are not some great prize, some badge or medal that will enhance God's ensemble. We may have been at one point, and we may be again, but only through His redemptive work. We are merely broken tools, things which were created for a purpose, but have become useless and can only serve Him through His willingness to repair us and use us. Thus, in allowing us to join Him in heaven, God is not granting us something we deserve or have earned; rather He is bestowing a gift apon us, something which we could never hope for, but which He freely gives us. As such, can you judge it unfair that He does not give the same gift to all people? Can you stand in the face of the Almighty and ask, "How dare you?"

So to answer the question, I don't know what happens to those who die without ever hearing of Christ, whether they be from a different time and place, before His message went out, or whether they be the prematurely dead who never had a chance to understand it. But I trust that God will do what is best for them, even if I do not understand what that means, and would not recognize it as such if I saw it. I expect there will be many in heaven who I would not have recognized on earth, and many in hell who I would have. And I'm okay with that, because I will feel blessed and amazed just to be included.

Life and Death follow-up

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Thanks for your comment and question on the previous post. I'll try to answer your questions:

There is still an issue that (I think) you haven't clarified for me. The death penalty would seem to go against the teachings of Jesus. Did you quote, an eye for an eye? Didn't Jesus effectively overrule the OT? I feel you are on sticky ground, which ever way you turn.


I don't think Jesus was speaking to the law, the legal system or the rulers. He was speaking to the individual, the common man on the street, the person who was appealing to the law. Thus, in speaking against the 'eye for an eye' rule He was not saying that the law should not carry out punishment against people - He wasn't an anarchist - but rather that the individual should not seek revenge against those who harm him. So no, Jesus did not seek to overrule the Old Testament Law, but rather to show people that the Law is not enough, that the Law cannot bring about spiritual renewal of your heart and mind, that the Law alone would not suffice for sanctification.

To give a simplistic analogy: If I were to hold a seminar exhorting businessmen not to sue people who infringe on their copyrights I would not be saying that copyright law should not exist. Rather I would be telling the businessmen that there are bigger issues. It's an analogy that falls flat on its face in many respects, but hopefully it is helpful.

Whenever we see Jesus interacting with the Law - notably His interactions with the scribes and the Pharisees - we see that He proves His innocence. We never see Him condeming or trying to change the law. Rather, we see Him condemning those people who follow the Law and rely solely on it for their status. But the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5ff) was given to a bunch of people on a hillside. It was a pastoral speech, not a political one - a set of spiritual guidelines, not legal ones.

I'm interested in your mentioning suicide and assisted suicide and being against them. This makes your position even harder to justify in my opinion. If a christian cannot bring himself to kill himself on religious grounds, why not just go through Singapore airport with a kilo of coke?


When I speak of killing yourself, I do not necessarily mean that you are the one pulling the trigger. Taking the example above, carrying the cocaine through customs in and of itself would be an act of suicide, unless you are particularly stupid.

I don't think that there is ever an excuse to kill yourself on religious grounds, but that is not the same thing as dying for religious reasons. We Christians have a long history of being killed for our beliefs, and I believe those people who have been martyred for their convictions deserve a special place in heaven. But again, this does not mean that you should allow someone to kill you for just any off-hand reason. If someone intends to kill me for the purposes of taking my wallet, I intend to make every effort to resist him. This is not what is meant by "Do not resist the evil man." However if I were to be hauled before a court and tried for being a Christian with the penalty being death, I hope to have the courage to stand tall, look the judge in the eye and plead "Guilty."

It's a petty starting point for my next argument, but I'm sure you'll get the idea! How specific is the bibel on motive versus actions exactly?


To my knowledge, the Bible only addresses motives in the negative sense. It never says, "Well, you did your best, good job." The saying is, "Well done, good and faithful servant," not, "Well meant, good and faithful servant." This sounds harsh, but then we also believe that God gives us the means to accomplish His goals.

I believe it is in Hosea where it says - and this is speaking to Jews who held to the Law and all its sacrifices - that God desires mercy, not sacrifice, The implication here is that sacrifice is only meaningful when the motive is correct, that being to restore a relationship to God, and not just to 'keep the law'. It might be similar to saying "I want you to live your life well, not just let it be dragged out in a hospital bed, becoming old and embittered." But that's me trying to put words in God's mouth, which is never a good idea.

Life and Death

I had another user recently state that he failed to see the coherence of someone claiming to be both Pro-Life and not opposed to the death penalty, and I can say that I see his point, as they seem to be supporting two contradictory sides of the same argument. So after what I hope is some careful thought, I've decided to try to put my position into words.

Pro-Life
I believe that children are the direct work of God's hands, and that every life is sacred, whether that of a child who will not be born for 9 more months, an old stroke victim who is confined to a bed, a person with severe mental retardation, or a perfectly healthy individual in the prime of life. All people have been created in the image of God and as such deserve* the right** to a full, healthy life.

That being said, the implied corollary is that I do not believe in any kind of suicide, physician assisted or otherwise. I do not believe that it is a person's right** to choose to end their own life. My reasoning behind this is that the individual is judging whether there is anything to be gained from his life, whether it is 'worth living'.

Pro-death?
While I believe that every person is created on equal footing, I do believe that there are actions that deserve death. I would include in here murder - the pre-meditated kind for sure; I'm not sure about man slaughter - certain 'style's of rape, assault, etc. Those exact laws should be written by lawmakers who have more time to think through the exact ramifications of each type of offense.

Resolution
So where do the two meet? It's that same, age-old addage of loving the sinner and hatint the sin. Every person has a dignity imbued by God which denies any other person - or even himself - from arbitrarily ending his life. But every person is responsible for his actions, and actions have consequences, some of which are death. It is a matter of judging the act, not the person. I judge you as being created by God, with an immortal soul that cannot be replaced. But I judge your action as deserving of death. As a bearer of God, I must pray for and with you for your redemption. As a bearer of the law, I must carry out justice to the best of my ability.


*deserve inasmuch as we 'deserve' anything from God.
**our 'rights' apply only as far as we have any 'right' to anything, creatures and not creators.