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Sex and the Perfect Lover

Thursday, December 1, 2005 3:38:41 PM

The keys to sexual magic

1)Space. Look for a room in your house that is quiet, not necessarily your room. It must be a place where you feel comfortable
It Is important to Cut yourself off from any interference, the telephone etc.
Cool down or heat up the room to a pleasant temperature and generate a soft, sweet smell by burning myrrh or sandal incense
Turn the lights off and light the place with a candle .

2) you and your partner should take off the clothes. This way, bodily inhibitions will also be released.

2)Go through the protection ritual. The first magical exercise you can try is this simple protection ritual. All you need to do is visualize a circle of light over your head, slowly descending through your whole body. Picture the light as a white powerful light. Imagine a white circle around you and your partner.
3)Now if you are alone , feel your partner as if he or she were there, sitting right opposite and picture the circle of light. Expand the circle till it surrounds the whole room, the whole house, the whole world, the whole planet with a white brilliant light.

4) Focus and deepen. Imagine the circle is protecting you and that as a result, nothing can go wrong in your life, for the world is harmonious and whole. Try to feel the ecstasy of this inside you, the peace and security that a world lighted with your white light produce. If you’re still having trouble visualizing things, think of the concept of daydreaming, only that this time, you are consciously controlling your fantasies. It’s something like being alert as to what happens around you but at the same time dreaming with your lover or partner, or with the whole of the universe, surrounded by beauty and love.
With time and a bit of practice, you’ll be able to visualize whatever you want. Your meditations will become increasingly related to your wishes, but you don’t have to be so skillful when you start. Try to keep your state of ecstasy, control your breathing and check your state of permanent relaxation.

5) Erogenous points. Now that you’re relaxed, at least, more relaxed, focus on your heart, and imagine your partner lying down. Visualize your partner or yourself as if you were the god or goddess of love, and let that incomparable sensation flow within you. Imagine you caress your lover’s body. Let your intuition tell you what places are more pleasurable to your lover. Don’t anticipate and just use your imagination to make the caresses. Don’t go over those parts of his or her body you like, but the parts of his or her body he or she likes.

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Sex and the Erotic Lover: The dream to be loved

Thursday, December 1, 2005 3:38:40 PM

Sex and the Erotic Lover: The dream to be loved
by Mabel Iam

How many times have you had erotic dreams you have been unable to understand, let alone put into practice? How many times have you daydreamed about a better sex life?
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When lights are turned off and sheets tucked in and you drift into deep sleep, everything seems to be suspended. This is the time when your innermost desires and fears – those which you won’t recognize in your waking life – are unleashed.

Do you know what your true wishes and needs are? How do you make up for not being able to meet your goals and fill your voids? Your dreams have something to say about these things.

Dreaming is creating. Otherwise, how would you explain all those perfectly constucted scenes and images from the most hidden and unknown corners of consciousness, the very depth of your being? It is your soul showing, through these psychological pictures, your innermost desires, your secret hopes, your hidden fears, and your unmet yearning for affection, security, or solace. Dreams free all these for you.

Impossible things come to life in your dreams. Your thoughts and wishes become reality and for the length of the dream. For the moment, they are real facts, sometimes seeming even more real than the things you experience in your waking life.

Eroticism and dreams

The language of dreams is comprised of symbolic representations produced by the unconscious mind, and fueled by the energy of the emotional and mental experiences of our waking lives. These symbols and emotions, translated by our minds into images, reflect our current reality with all of its ups and downs. The symbolic expressions in our dreams do not necessarily fit our waking experiences. This is especially true of erotic dreams, where we can generate infinite unexpected representations.

As stated above, erotic dreams can be quite different from our sexual and social waking behavior. They are the product of very intimate sexual conflicts and emotional needs hidden in the remotest nooks of our unconscious mind. Erotic dreams can be frightening, joyful, or frustrating. The content of the dream will indicate the degree of repression of the dreamer, the latent violence – real or denied – that can’t be channeled into social life. And the meaning of the dream points to the wide range of possibilities the dreamer has available and could enjoy.

Women and erotic dreams

A survey conducted in the States revealed that around 70% of the women surveyed had had erotic dreams some time in their lives, of which a major percentage confessed to having experienced orgasms during those dreams. The report also showed that erotic dreams in women tend to increase in number in the time right before menstruation and ovulation and during pregnancy. Women who experience these dreams usually lead a more restricted sexual life.

Many times, women’s erotic dreams are frightening, painful, or frustrating – indicating the degree of latent violence being denied by the woman and which clearly cannot be channeled through her social life. It is also typical for women with a very inhibited sexual attitude to have dreams of rape or harassment by strangers. On the flip side, women with a good sexual attitude and a satisfying sexual life, but feeling frustrated in that respect for some reason, might dream of having gratifying sex with somebody they know, or somebody they are having fantasies about.

Men and erotic dreams
Men usually fantasize about and have erotic dreams of fiery, uninhibited women who want them more than anything in the world and are therefore ready to make all their hard-core fantasies come true. Men also dream of collective acts of love-making, or orgies. If a man is acquainted with a woman who won’t pay attention to him, his dreams may show a reality where he dominates her completely. Sometimes, men also have homosexual erotic dreams. In most cases, and especially for adolescent males, men will experience ejaculation during or at the end of an erotic dream.

Whatever the case, dream analysis is always an effective tool for self-knowledge. In the specific case of erotic dreams, analysis can be a useful tool for learning to handle sexuality with more freedom. Talking about erotic dreams can help turn fantasies into reality.

Sexual magic explores the content of a dream with a view to increasing self-knowledge, to achieving erotic ecstasy, and to a deep communication with the magical partner.
Is it possible to connect to someone sexually in a dream?

Erotic connection exercise

During the first stage of a dream, our bodies are in a state of quiet vigil and we tend to daydream. This is the stage at the very beginning of a dream, or when we are about to wake up. It signals the midway point between consciousness and dreaming. It’s important that we get in touch with the unconscious self at this time so that we can access the information and the knowledge it possesses during our dreams.

We can learn to transmit messages and help solve conflicts through dreams.

It would be a great idea to do some creative visualization before going to sleep (see Sex and the erotic lover). For this purpose, you first need to breathe deeply and then relax, either with your partner or on your own.

If you are doing this exercise with your partner, you both should focus on the reason or the issue your partner needs to express or observe in his or her dreams. Both of you should be clear about what you’re trying to subtly put through to the other through the erotic dream.

If you are doing this on your own, remember to write down all the results you get from this experience.

After having achieved the state of complete relaxation, try to focus on reveal ing the sexual or emotional conflicts that you two are undergoing, or to understand why you can’t connect in your waking lives.

After this, repeat the following affirmation:

I (your name) want to connect with the superior self of (the name of the other person –someone you’re interested in or your magical partner) during my dream and I will understand and remember the dream. When I wake up tomorrow, I will write it down clearly.

You connect with the superior self of the other person so that you do not telepathically disturb your partner during his or her dream.

Once the reason for your conflict (or the information you needed) has been revealed, you’ll be able to understand the problems you’re having. Your relationship will be more open, depending on what you’re after.

You might be now wondering: have I had an astral flight to connect with my partner?

The answer is no, you have simply searched through your unconscious files for all the knowledge that the superior self can transmit to your conscious mind.

If you delve into the analysis of your dreams, you’ll be able to understand all the barriers sexual impulse sets on our consciousness.

Illuminating our inner beings has to do with consciously handling our lives as a unique and eternal entity that transcends all conscious or unconscious actions. Remembering our dreams allows us to make spiritual allowances for ourselves. When this precious work is done with our partners, we are in a position to experience a magical initiation of opening ourselves to the other. Then we can shed the light of love on the darkest side of our hearts.

Dreams reveal our true functioning, what is going on below the surface of our conscious lives. If you wish to have a real knowledge of yourself, follow your dreams.

© Copyright Mabel Iam ® 2005. All Rights Reserved / Todos los derechos reservados.

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Sex and the magic fingers

Sunday, August 23, 2009 8:22:20 PM

Sex, love, amazing, fingers ...

There are ten golden rules to performing more effective massages that will make our magical partner explode with passion:

by Mabel Iam

1. Turn this massage technique into a routine. Explore your partner's body for about ten minutes before intercourse. Relax while freeing yourself from all the worries of the day. Use the relaxation ritual technique.

2. When you are done with your relaxation, softly caress your partner's body using some relaxing oil or invigorating cream.

3. Connect with your partner using your hands, voice, and eyes, saying affectionate words that stimulate an emotional reaction or singing a mantra.
4. Synchronize your breathing, especially if you massage each other at the same time so that your circulation works in unison.

5. Start to massage the soles of your partner's feet, and slowly, with a smooth pressure on the sides of the legs, work toward the center of the legs. Always use an ascending movement.

6. For the man, use a slight friction while working your way up the legs through the thighs till you get to the pelvis, and . massage essential oils on and around the testicles. This is an invigorating act that should be done very gently. For the woman, it is important to touch the clitoris and the lips of the vagina. The stimulus with the fingers may be soft but direct.

7. Our hands must work like energetic radar, focusing on the feeling of pleasure that the partner shows with each movement. When the partner shows signs of enjoyment, focus on that area of the body. It is possible that that point needs to be touched more often during each sexual encounter.

8. Let your fingers advance over the abdomen. Stroke your partner's body in a spiral manner till you reach the pectorals. This is a highly erotic area for both men and women alike. Continue with circular movements on the pectorals, advancing toward the nipples, till they are stimulated directly.

9. If you have not started your sexual foreplay, continue with the erotic massages following the line of the spine, with smooth pressure along each vertebra, till you get to the neck.
10. Activate the area of the ears with a light friction from inside toward the outside, since that is the area where the organs are reflected. Finish with a light massage on the head to tone the scalp.

Use pure essential oils, derived from the trunk of trees, roots, stems, flowers and resins, for this massage. To inhale their delightful scents, the oils may be placed in a pressure cooker or a container with boiling water. The vapor will spread the perfume throughout the whole house and create a pleasing environment. You can also heat the oil in a special burner.

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The magic Universe that You are"

Saturday, February 21, 2009 7:25:57 PM

"Divine love flows from the heart of Light:

Because we are one Universal heart.

You are part of me and together we are the Universe.

I plead, from now and forever, for the one encounter".

By Mabel Iam

After researching thousands of astrological charts that often reflect the soul and its purpose in every individual being, I arrived at the conclusion that the individual is the author of his or her own life story. And s/he is a free author, accepting that freedom is being within the laws of the Universal

Totality. Just as stars are free in their orbits as they rotate, yet they remain within the Universe that is infinitely creating, in a permanent and constant interdependence.

The Universe we inhabit is also a product of the actions, thoughts, desires and feelings of every being in the cosmos. This is because these actions or movements produce consequences not only in the environment in which they originate - in other words, within our lives – but also beyond our consciousness.

This idea is part of what we know as Karma. This concept of oriental origin explains universal laws and principles quite well.

The law of Karma is the law of cause and effect by which every individual shapes his or her own destiny. Very simply put: We attract the things that happen to us. This is a central
theme in almost every philosophy and religion. Karma is not in any way related to the concept of sin - although westerners often mistakenly associate the two. The word sin is of Greek origin and means “to err in one’s goal”. Oriental philosophies don’t apply that code of judgment.

In principle, Karma is based on thoughts. How simple it would be for us to change our destiny in life by merely changing our thoughts! There is one essential esoteric law which explains that energy follows thought. Wherever your energy goes is where you will find yourself (even if it’s a thousand miles from the place where your physical body is). This is why our thoughts are not always in sync with our physical or emotional state. Still no single thought is an island unto itself. One thought always leads to another and yet another, indefinitely.

The concrete presence of someone is not necessarily the physical place where that person is; the true location of that person’s consciousness is wherever their feelings, thoughts and emotions are present. Hence, as years go by, we inevitably become the product of all that we have thought.

Through the energy generated by thoughts and feelings, each individual materializes even the smallest detail that they may have imagined at some point. It is interesting to note that the longer one follows a particular train of thought, the more one’s life draws the support and presence of others whose thoughts multiply that original idea.

This is very important in the types of relationships that we choose. By means of sharing thoughts and feelings with others, each of us reinforces the ideas contained within the thoughts or the identity that each of us has thought out for ourselves. We must observe – and in some instances, change – our beliefs and thought patterns. The transformation of our own lives is the most sublime and genuine possibility and potential that we possess in order to live each day more happily and serve others as part of serving ourselves.

The only entertainment that we will gain from infinite abundance is that we will learn to know and appreciate ourselves as Creative Beings, in order to harvest all the fruits of the miraculous tree that grows in our inner landscape.

© Copyright Mabel Iam ® 2009. All Rights Reserved / Todos los derechos reservados.

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I love you: Now is the only time

Saturday, February 7, 2009 10:38:45 PM

i love you, . Love, reason, words ...

True sexual liberation is spiritual and consists of a deep understand of the fact that the human being is an entity composed of body, mind and spirit, and these cannot act independently of each other. Sexual union is the means by which whole beings can merge their energies and flow within the energy that animates the entire universe.
In my other books, my dear reader and friend may find other points of view regarding spirituality, love and sexuality. Sex and the Perfect Lover: Tao, Tantra, and the Kama Sutra
My intention is to encourage you to journey through love knowing that each moment is the final destination. The only time and space that is important when you’re in love is the eternal present. Because I now understand this reality at every level of my present life, I can say with total certainly and without doubts: I love you.
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Love is beyond reason. Love is not measurable in words.
Love cannot be partial; it cannot have owners. Love is essentially beyond definition or concept.
We have spent days, years and centuries seeking the keys to open our own locks, the doors that we have used to shut out our own happiness. And we don’t realize that the only thing we have to do is open our hearts to LOVE.
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TWO QUOTES FROM ME TO U

Friday, April 6, 2007 3:07:35 PM

simply, Iam, always, quotes ...

"There is a love so great that it simply happens.
It’s so vast that it penetrates us and moves through us. It is not the love for another.
Not is it the love for one’s self. It is a love beyond the mind.
It is love for creation, love for life, love itself."
The Love Diet
by Mabel Iam.

"Humor is the closest feeling to love, because it allows for many different levels of communication.
It always starts with a smile.
Afterwards, the soul sees the beauty of that which made it smile.
In this game of humor, you manage to inject joy into areas that you would have never thought."
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Rekindle the pleasure like the first time

Saturday, June 24, 2006 3:34:24 PM

Rekindle, the pleasure, like, the ...

By Mabel Iam
That special place
To rekindle your love, and lust, you need to have a date. Look for a special place where you both feel comfortable and choose a special day, some day that may have a special meaning for both of you. A weekend getaway would be more than suitable, or you might want to check into a hotel...but you can just stay home and take advantage of those times when the kids are not around, or when it’s past their bedtime.. IF YOU WANT MORE...

A romantic environment
Flowers, oil scents, and candles create the perfect romantic environment to get you going.

Recall past experiences together
For a unique state of romance and harmony, look back on those times when the chemistry was there and you could actually touch the passion. Celebrate them. Take a look at those old snapshots of your love, or watch yet again that video you did together on a trip or some other important occasion. Love and more...
The forbidden fantasy
Do what your mate loves you to do. You must really try hard at this. You might whisper erotica to their ears or dress up as something they’ve always dreamed of. You may also tempt them into making love in forbidden places, where you can both reach high levels of arousal....To give us pleasure, and let us feel free

Caressing for tenderness
When you are spending some quality time with your mate, you should always caress them to remind them how much you love them.
Bath rituals
Water scented with flowers, like jasmine or roses, is great to massage your mate, especially on the erogenous zones or relaxation points until they are completely mesmerized. Change the scent at pleasure, or even actually go into the water and have a beautiful bath together. Magical ....

The food that feels
Bring food into the bedroom to enhance the taste of your lovemaking: choose stimulating flavors like honey, cream, chocolate or sparkling wine. What to do with them: just taste them and listen to them being tasted , watch them as you gently rub them over your mate’s body and enjoy your mate’s funny sense of arousal.
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ASK MEN.COM: Celebrity Authors: Mabel Iam.

Saturday, June 24, 2006 3:33:27 PM

seeler, best, FRIENDS, author ...

This week, I'd like to share with you all this great article Ask MeN published about my book and highlighted in their celebrity authors section, (TAKE A LOOK) The Sensual Hug
In this excerpt from The Love Diet, Mabel Iam discusses the importance of hugs in any relationship, and gives a few tips on how to make this platonic gesture a little more intimate.
Each of our Celebrity Authors comes from a different area of expertise, but they all share one thing in common: They've conquered the best-seller lists of the print world with their ability to communicate a unique insight into a topic of relevance to all men. Now, they'll be passing on that same knowledge directly to AskMen.com readers.
THANKS ASK MEN

Also, I just want to say thank you to all of my friends for the beautiful and warm regards I received from them.

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