Married Young

Ever wish you had an extra day in the week to do everything you were supposed to do the other 7 days?

Yeah, me too.

Wow, it has been quite a while since I have written anything.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!
not all in that order of course!

I guess that's how relationships work: Sometimes you have excitement, and sometimes you have downtime.

So, to keep you up to speed. I am now working as a Substitute teacher for a private school, and I am working at a restaurant in a really nice resort in Miami Beach. So, I am bringing in the bucks.
We were tight on cash and I needed to work to take the load off my husband.
Speaking of husband, he broke his leg about a month and a half ago at work, and couldn't go back until he was fully recovered. Two days before Christmas break, they told him he could work again.

Besides that, nothing much has been going on. The parties slowed down because of work and school, so it's been quiet.

Oh, and we got a dog. More on that later!

It’s hard for me to talk about my personal problems, and I know this happens to a lot of people. I am not perfect, though I wish I were. I have a serious problem: I spend money like if it grew on trees, then I max out my credit cards, and hide it from my husband. I am not trying to make this a humorous problem, this is the truth. I don’t know why I spend money like I do.
Could it be boredom?
Could it be that I have no control?
Could it be that deep down I am depressed, anxious, or uncaring?
It hurts my husband a lot when I lie to him about money. This is the third time that I max out my credit card, and don’t tell him. I don’t know how to tell him. I don’t even spend the money on outrageous things. I buy groceries, gas, and random stuff for my pets. It makes me feel horrible when I do this to my husband, and like I said, I don’t even know why I hide these things from him.
I went looking online to see if I could find any information on this, and I found out that money is the biggest thing argued about in a marriage. I honestly never knew that. There are a lot of sites dedicated to married couples on how they can fix these problems or work through them.

I found this, which I believe it quite helpful.

How to Cope With Financial Arguments:
First, the main way to keep financial harmony is communication, communication, communication!
•Couples need to take the time to get to know and understand their partner. What experiences did they have with money growing up? How did their parents value money? Note what similarities and differences there are.
•Discuss future goals and dreams. How can both partners work together to achieve them?
•Know what kind of lifestyle the other is expecting to enjoy.
•When discussing money, only talk about money. Do not use it as an excuse to segue into other, unrelated arguments.
•Find a place or an activity that keeps everyone calm during money discussions, like during a hike, listening to music, or when the kids are asleep.
•Fight on behalf of each other. If there is something the other truly wants, work together to plan a way to make it possible. Otherwise, resentment festers.
•Neither spouse should be afraid to say what they are really thinking.
•Instead of focusing on past debts or issues, look forward. Couples should make a game plan targeting how they will work together as a team to resolve debt and save for the future.
•Couples should agree that they must both agree on major purchases before making them.
•Lastly, get outside, objective help. People are more likely to calmly represent their situation to a financial planner than they will be toward their own spouse.
(Found here: http://familyfinances.suite101.com/article.cfm/fighting_over_money)

Does this happen to you?????

It's a hot day. You go to the fridge, open up the door and reach in for a nice, cold, refreshing..........
"Where the heck is the last (place drink name here) I was saving??????????"

You huff and puff, and look behind the ketchup bottle and the milk.

"This is Bull Poop! He drank the last (place drink name here)!!"

I am so happy!

My husband and I leave to Orlando this friday, until next Wednesday! I am so excited and ready to get out of Miami! I am a Sagittarius, and my sign is known to have itchy feet.( No, not literally.) We just like to be on the move, and travel anywhere. My husband can’t stay in one place long, either.

We will be hitting up Epcot Food & Wine Festival, which is our favorite. We love to drink wine (I didn’t get a dishwater when we redid our kitchen because we HAD to get a wine fridge installed, lol) and we love food, so it works well in our favor.

If you and your significant other are not busy this weekend, take them somewhere.

Pack lunch and go have a picnic at your local park. If you have a ton of land for a backyard, do it there! I bet that if you surprise them with something special like that, they would be shocked and amazed!