Married Young

The other day, my mother was at my house to have lunch since it was my day off. She noticed that I had not made the bed, and asked, “Doesn’t your hubby get mad if you don’t make the bed?” I stopped at looked at her, thinking it was a joke, but she was serious. I answered this too quickly I guess, “Uhhhh, nooooooo??????. ” And my answer seemed to puzzle her.

My mother is a 48 year old woman. She is not old. She has been divorced before, and had 4 children who are mostly all grown.

It puzzled me that she even asked me that. My husband and I are lazy don’t really mind the bed being undone, especially since I leave before him in the mornings. I make the bed every other day, if I remember.. but by the time I get home, the bed is only made for three hours.
We started talking about different household chores, and how our generations are quite different. Our roles as husband and wife have shifted through the years. This is no news to you, I am guessing. But to stop and really thinking about those things is quite interesting.

I could never imagine my husband yelling at me over a bed not made. Ok, I understand if I didn't do the huge pile of dishes in the sink, that's dirty stuff that might stink after a while.

I don't know what it is, but some men are just professional procrastinators. My husband has been telling me (for the past 2 years) that he is going to clean out his "Star Wars Museum" (aka the closet he converted into a display case for all his Star Wars memorabilia.) He tells me every summer he will take out all the things from inside it and detail each piece and wipe down all the glass shelves, ect.

Still waiting....

Well, I want to have my own project this summer. I am going to caulk all the cracks in my travertine tiles in my kitchen and dining room. Shouldn't the man be doing all the household stuff? Or is that society telling us that the husband should be the handyman?

How does it work in your relationship? Who does the housework and who does the fixing?

So, I wrote once on here that I had a bad spending habit, and didn’t know how to control my money. Well, I haven’t completely overcome that yet, but it is getting better. I only over drafted on my bank account once or twice this past year, which was a HUGE improvement. I have been paying off one of my credit cards, which is another HUGE improvement because I have never paid off any of my credit cards before, lol. I will get to why I haven’t paid them off in the next blog.

I have also noticed that my husband and I have been great. We’ve always been great, in all honesty, but the money issues were always a problem. I guess money management can help balance a relationship.

Ever wish you had an extra day in the week to do everything you were supposed to do the other 7 days?

Yeah, me too.

Wow, it has been quite a while since I have written anything.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!
not all in that order of course!

I guess that's how relationships work: Sometimes you have excitement, and sometimes you have downtime.

So, to keep you up to speed. I am now working as a Substitute teacher for a private school, and I am working at a restaurant in a really nice resort in Miami Beach. So, I am bringing in the bucks.
We were tight on cash and I needed to work to take the load off my husband.
Speaking of husband, he broke his leg about a month and a half ago at work, and couldn't go back until he was fully recovered. Two days before Christmas break, they told him he could work again.

Besides that, nothing much has been going on. The parties slowed down because of work and school, so it's been quiet.

Oh, and we got a dog. More on that later!