Married Young

I think communication is a very important key in having a healthy relationship. I hear of couples who don't say much to each other when they get home from work, besides the traditional, "How was your day, Honey?" Do you and your partner sit down and talk on a regular basis? Just because you are married or have been with the person for a long time, doesn't mean you know everything about each other. As time goes on, interests change.
As I mentioned in earlier posts, my husband teaches during the day, and then teaches at night as well. He also is a gamer, and if you are a gamer, or ever dated a gamer, you know how that goes. Once those headsets are in place, the world around them disappears and the only thing that matters is the MMORPG. I myself am a gamer too, so imagine how quiet our house must be.
So, after spending all day at work, and then coming home to play World of Warcraft or Age of Conan (both are MMORPG, or Massive Multiplayer Online Roleplaying Games), me and my husband aren't left with much time to sit down and talk. So, we do the next best thing. Hit the bed!
Yes, we do other things in bed besides sleep and have sex!
We actually spend hours talking to each other, side by side. It is a relaxing environment, where we say what we feel, and if one of us doesn't like what is being said, we playfight. Of course, that leads to sex. Sex is another very important key to a healthly relationship.
That subject will be left for another post.
I was Google-ing different topics that were related with communication in the relationship, and questions to ask your significant other. What I found was a mix between "Questions to ask your future spouse" or "Things to discuss before you marry."
What about after you're married?????
I did find a few webpages with questions to ask your spouse that would be great conversation starters. I came across this page:
Family Dynamics Institute - Getting to know your husband or wife better.


Complete the following statements:

In our marriage, I feel loved when you …
In our marriage, I feel appreciated when you …
In our marriage, I am happiest when …
In our marriage, I am saddest when …
In our marriage, I am angriest when …
In our marriage, I would like more …
In our marriage, I would like less …
In our marriage, I feel awkward when …
In our marriage, I feel uneasy when …
In our marriage, I feel excited when …
In our marriage, I feel close to you when …
In our marriage, I feel distant from you when …
In our marriage, I feel most afraid when …
My greatest concern/fear about our marriage is …
What I like most about myself is …
What I dislike most about myself is …
The feelings that I have the most difficulty sharing with you are …
The feelings that I can share most easily with you are …
Our marriage could be greatly improved with just a little effort if we …
The one thing in our marriage that needs the most immediate attention is …
The best thing about our marriage is …

It was fun sharing this with my husband, and I was super excited when he told me he thought it was a great idea. I love how he's up for anything.
Now, go ask these things to your significant other. Or even print two copies out and you guys can fill them out and give them to each other to read and discuss! Have fun with it!

I took my nieces to their ballet/jazz class today because their mother was busy. I am sitting here waiting for them and listening to the conversations of the moms around me, and I am left speechless....
There is a girl that looks to be about 8 years old. She turns to her mother and says, "Mom, I don't like wearing these shorts cause they make my thighs look fat."
..............WTF????????............
That wasn't what shocked me the most. It was what the mother replied. She goes, "Yes, and you can see all your cellulite."
What kind of mother says that to their 8 year old that she has cellulite???
My nieces are so innocent compared to the girls in their dance class. My sister-in-law raises them like little girls, not like the little sluts-to-be that they unfortunately are surrounded by here.
...I will write more later, I'm typing this from my crackberry phone.

Now that I got the first awkward blog entry out of the way, I'd like to tell you a bit about myself.
I am 24 years old, and my husband is 25. We have been living together 6 1/2 years, and 2 1/2 of those years we have been married. We were friends before we were anything else, and I think that is why we are so close.
We own our own home in a busy city, and have no children as of yet. My husband is a teacher, and I am still in school. We were both born and raised in the same city, and we are both children of cuban parents. I was raised by my grandmother and my mother, and he was raised by his mother and his grandparents.
We have lots in common: food, music, enjoying wine, parties, and anything else that makes us a social couple. We met at a party actually, so it's in our nature to go out and have a great time as much as possible. Of course, there are the responsibilities that keep us grounded, so now we don't party as much as we'd like.
..More details later!