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Little things do matter

Wednesday, September 19, 2007 6:21:13 PM

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I've came to the conclusion that small details of everyday's life situations take a key role in the quality of our lives and success we achive. How is this possible?
For example; we all know how important is the first impression a new guy makes on us when we first meet. Imagine two different situations; in first he's a smiling and open charachter and in second he is a timid and closed person. Maybe the real person behind is the same and he just had an extremly good or a bad day. In first case you might decide to continue a relationship with that person and you shall gain a fantastic new friendship, but in second, you missed that chance. And it is all because that bustard didn't have the guts to gather some strength and simply be nice for a minute.

So I think it is extremely important that we take a conscious part in order to control such details. Smile, when you meet new pepople, think carefuly what to wear not just on important occasions, but all the time, write adress on envelope with special care (you will impress the reciver), look confident when you enter the room... Of course this takes effort (a lot of it, sometimes), but which good thing doesn't!?

I believe your everyday life experience will then be a lot more powerful. You will have more of life and I think this kind of thinking leads to better business as well.

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vivalamuerte Wednesday, September 19, 2007 10:53:05 PM

Smile, when you meet new pepople, think carefuly what to wear not just on important occasions, (...), of course this takes effort (a lot of it, sometimes), but which good thing doesn't!?



Well, I don't really care about the effort - but don't you think to behave like this isn't a bit too hypocritical? I'd prefer honesty instead... I'm not the one who is about to smile every day (in fact it often is quite the other way round) but I haven't been in trouble with it yet. Okay, some trouble bigsmile but I don't care about it... I cannot smile when I don't feel like smiling. I recognise this a lot in other people... and I know that I'm much a lot more friendly to those of whom I know that they can be sad sometimes - but I know that their honest smile is no fake smile

Nikio Thursday, September 20, 2007 5:24:15 AM

Hm, you are right and I would agree with you, but you are missing the point. It is not about honesty, it is about choice!

For example; you've had a bad day and at the end of it, you are meeting an old friend who introduces you a gorgeus new girl. Now; you have but two choices:
- first, you stay depressed and you put your friends in a bad mood as well. At the end of the evening, you go home even worse.
- second, you can say "OK, it's been bad, but now it is over. I'm here with friend and a new girl, why not make the best of it?" And you make an effort. You won't be feeling better the very first second, but at the end of the evening, i think you will. And you'll admit, that even though you had a shitty day, at least the evening was nice. The girl might start to like you and the chances for that are far better.

Well, in an other situation you are meeting your good old friend only. Again, you should list your options:
- first, you can talk to him about your problems. He's an old friend, he'll undestand and share your pain.
- second, you can put a happy mask and smile.
Needles to say, in this case it is better for you to pick the first one.


My point is that in every situation it is good to list your options and pick the one that is better. I believe Glasser talks about this in the book called "The Choice theory" or somethink like that (I don't have the book yet). It is also true that our physical state, psyhological mood and our actions are connected. Bad physical state means also bad bood and bad behaveour. But you can reverse that. By taking proper action you can improve your mental mood and physical condition. How many times you were depressed, then you went out with a dog and came home a lot better? wink I think this thinking can be applied to many situations, and then little things start work for you p

KarolineSkisse Friday, September 21, 2007 3:23:01 PM

I agree with you, but there are times that are so bad that even the thought of smiling is too hard.

KarolineSkisse Friday, September 21, 2007 7:35:28 PM

Oh, and congrats on the best-blog award!up

Nikio Friday, September 21, 2007 7:56:11 PM

Thanks wink It's crazy bigsmile
But I'm not saying you should be smiling all the time, but that you pick the option that is the best for you at the time.

khushikhushi1811 Monday, October 8, 2007 5:39:00 PM

oh,i am agree with ur words.i understand wht u wanna say through this post and i really appreciate it.i too believe tht "first impression is our last impression!" its really matter more that what you are talking than how you are talking,how you behaving,how you introduce yourself with people.....

ur post approaching a psychological view and i like it:up:
but to give a honest smile in pain is really seems hard sometimes but whatever,if our beloved person is infront of us then no difficulty in smiling befor her/him though getting pain in heart,tht time ur beloved smile will be more important than ur tears and thts not bad(a fake smile) as i think but ya,hard somehow because sometime such pain we can't bear anymore but..we try to bear.

little things really matter a lot,so we should never leave little things to do for anyone because that little things u do can gives u more positive and kind result inreturn.

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