I spent a New Year evening in a small group together with a person, who has some emotional problems, who likes to blame the others (in this case myself...) for unreal expectations about life... What is actually wrong with this kind of people? They are living in a kind of a dreamworld, where everything, what they might have in mind, is possible; and the worst of all: other people are here just to satisfy their needs, to meet their expectations... They do not respect the freedom of the others, but at the other hand they call such attitude or behaviour an "unconditioned love", "friendship", and the like. Usually such people are full of attachments, jelausy, low self - confidence... What a pity.
I was listening mentioned person for more than two hours (serious and with all respect and compassion...) telling me some conclusions about our friendship. OK, I accepted peacefully the fact, that our friendship is over, because this person wanted so (out of personal reasons) - telling me this directly and in complete sober state of mind. I always respect the feelings and wishes of the others, so I said goodbye without any anger and similar feelings, just with some trace of sorrow.
But the same person invited me a few days later to have a dinner together because of a birthday, like the mentioned dialogue never happened, like it was "just a joke". My God! I said to that person, that I'm honoured because of this invitation, but - no, thanks (not out of any kind of anger or revenge, not to be mistaken; after all I'm a buddhist). To forgive is a virtue, I have nothing against this person, and I do not blame this person at all! But when something is over, then (for me) it is over. From my point of view, adult people are responsible for their words and actions, aren't they?
But few days later I've found on the blog of this person some harsh, ugly and childish words about myself, that I'm a kind of a fool (it's hard to translate all the words in English, sorry), that I do not appreciate "unconditioned love and friendship". It sounded like I'm the one, who has finished the friendship! I hardly believe this. Do such persons think, that they can play games with the others? Do they really believe, that they can do anything they want without to pay the price for such childish behaviour?
I've just accepted the wish of that person to finished our friendship (serious and with all respect), and that's all! And because of this - I'm a fool.
But yes, maybe I am. To mess around with people who are without responsibility and respect...