Musings

I had to laugh today about an article that appeared in the Times Online (U.K.) discussing women that are opting for ‘Hymenoplasty’, the restoration of their physical virginity, in the hope of pleasing or fooling their Man. Trust me, ladies, most men dread that first encounter with a woman sexually, and men that demand virginity in the woman of their dreams are setting themselves up for long-term failure in the relationship.

It seems to me that many people confuse sex with love or assign it an importance much greater than it deserves. Don’t misunderstand my views as being prudish. It is simply that I have come to learn from having several truly loving relationships with women, that sex adds a wonderful dimension to the intimacy of love that develops between a man and a women, but it is only a minor adjunct to something more beautiful and fulfilling: The escape from the lonely prison of the ‘Self’. To be able to share one’s innermost thoughts and feelings without fear of censure or judgmental reaction. To have an encouraging and sympathetic partner in life’s struggle and to join in the miracle of creating new life (and new love). These are the things that are truly fulfilling. Sex for the sake of having sex is fun, no doubt, but it is a little like eating Chinese food. Your hunger soon returns undiminished.

I have always been put off sexually by women that engage in boob enhancement, facial reconstruction, and the other disguises afforded by plastic surgery. I doubt that it really helps their self-esteem, and in my case, it makes me wonder if the lady in question can be trusted in the other matters important to a long-term relationship. What else is she masking??? In these things, love is blind (as it should be). I don’t care if you get lumpy and dumpy as we get older. The love constantly grows and that is enough. Besides, I’m glad that she doesn’t notice that as time goes by I get hairier, droopy and lower to the ground!

Oh, well. On a brighter note, I’m gaining new friends here on Opera, and I’m glad that I started this blog. It’s amazing how many really beautiful people are out there and exchanging thoughts and feelings with total strangers. It demonstrates another powerful aspect of the Internet: The dispelling of fear and hatred through sharing information and experiences. It makes us truly a ‘Global Village’.