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I’ve been thinking all day.
I’ve been walking in the streets and saw a pretty familiar face – one of my ex-ex-ex-ex-ex teacher from elementary school. Didn’t see her in like 5 months – so I greeted her – and for my biggest surprise she just moved over and didn’t react.
I was like: -excuse me?
You know she’s been a really good teacher and she was the only one who at least had a really small idea about things what normally nobody would have known of me.
My appearance didn’t change in the last 12 years (except my hair coz a lot of it fell out – LOL) mostly because for me it is kinda impossible – And she was like my best friend – and now she just walks away?
You know this offended me to a really deep level. Even though I know that probably we wouldn’t of talked for more than 5 minutes would it be so fucking hard to at least greet me?
Sigh.
This is funny you know – because everybody who knows me knows that I’m allergic to this kind of behavior.
You know even if I don’t like somebody – or somebody doesn’t like me – have to “use” the very basic thing called respect – which is greeting the other.
Probably there are a lot of ppl who are like: “Why should I even look at somebody who I hate?”
Because if you don’t you aren’t different than the person you hate.
“Love your friends, respect your enemies” – words which lost their meaning in these modern times.
We are not animals for God sakes!
Or are we?
Can’t you just stop behaving like some kind of weird animals?
Why it is so hard to understand that it is totally pointless to behave that way?
Even if you hate somebody, even if that person pushed you into serious trouble you SHOULD respect him/her to at least the basic level.
I don’t say that you have to be friends – you have to R E S P E C T each other.
Why is it so hard to ppl to give their seats to the elder? Or to the pregnant?
Is it so fucking hard to a 19 year old “kid” to at least offer his/her seat? And why are ppl looking at me like I’d be a fucking alien when I do so? Even when I stood in the fucking line for 5 hours – even when I felt that if I more my legs will brake into 2 parts I gave my seat to an elder.
Why?
Because we MUST respect each other and we have to understand that there are always ppl who have greater needs than we do.
Just think about it? How would you feel if you would be over 60 and a 20 year old wouldn’t even think about that he/she SHOULD give their seats? How would you feel when a bus driver would have to use motor-brake and you’d land on the windscreen?
(Apparently I was the witness of that and had a really had time grabbing a “pipe” – but at least we didn’t have an accident and there were ppl who could grab each other-the poor old lady was ok too – thank God)
But of course everybody thinks that he/she is the king/queen – as long as their stupidity and ignorance doesn’t lead to somebody’s death.
There is only a really really really small exception – but will they save the world? I doubt – and that is why the world exists in its current way…

Where are we going? worried

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Spaggyj Friday, September 26, 2008 10:54:58 PM

The quick answer - to the dump. The state of the world is decay and corrupt. It ain't gonna change.

Suntana Saturday, September 27, 2008 12:20:10 AM

Okay, I'll address the first part first. Are you absolutely, positively 100% SURE that it was HER, your elementary school teacher? Just like it is possible for someone to mistake us for someone else ... it is likewise possible for us to mistake someone for someone else. It happens all the time. Another thing ... both parties / sides won't always have the same recollection level. Recently I came across someone whom I hadn't seen in probably at least 10 years. I had heard he worked at this particular Post Office. When I went there, there was only 1 guy there. I quickly surmised that it wasn't him because this one guy was not familiar-looking at all. As I got closer to the window, I read the name tag, "Tony." I was like, "Whoa! It IS him! But, he looks NOTHING like what I vaguely recall ... ZERO!" Yet, when I got up to the window, without any name tag myself ... the guy just casually, without any straining to recall, goes, "Carlossssss. How's it going?"

Okay, so he had the advantage. I'm the same weight, same hair color as way back before. Still look a lot as 10 years ago, or so I'm told. He on the other hand, changed a LOT! The last I saw him, he was skinny, darker complexion and had dark hair. Now he was more heavy set, seemed to have a lighter complexion and had almost solid white hair.

Nevertheless, Stomyr, my point is you have to consider the possibility that it could have possibly NOT been your elementary teacher. Did you greet her by NAME? Cuz if you just went, "Hi" or "Good Morning," Etc., if she didn't recognize you, that might be why she opted to ignore your greeting. Sure, on the surface that might come across as rude or not friendly. But, she had her reasons for having some trepidation.

Suntana Saturday, September 27, 2008 1:28:07 AM

Regarding respecting someone you don't particularly like or even HATE? Nnnnggg, I don't know if I could call it RESPECT someone I don't particularly like or hate. But, I can work with them and tolerate them. Heck, in my "Double-crossed at the Wedding" post, I even talk about my "Friend," whom I didn't per se particularly like. I tolerated him. bigsmile

Now ... moving on to the subject of respecting our ENEMIES. Stomyr, I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with you here. I definitely will NOT respect anyone whom I consider my enemy. In my "Destruction of a Friendship" post on my Blog, I talk about a Message Board Poster whom I consider my enemy. As I type this, I do not hesitate to say that I do NOT respect him one bit. Okay, Stomyr, put yourself in my situation. Among other preemptive insults dished out by my enemy ... there was the usage of a RACIAL slur ... NOT Once ... NOT Twice, but many times right there on the Message Board. He got a kick out of calling me this racial slur and he and his Sidekick harmonized in calling me this much to their delight. Would YOU in this situation RESPECT, greet, acknowledge, associate with people like these who would entertain themselves by ... get a rush out of tossing racial slurs at you? I certainly wouldn't.

Suntana Saturday, September 27, 2008 1:32:36 AM

On the 3rd part of your post ... I'll agree with you. smile I don't have a beef with giving your seat on a bus or wherever to an elderly person or to a pregnant woman.

Stomyr Saturday, September 27, 2008 10:48:44 AM

Yes I'm deadly sure - I usually meet her kinda sooner than 6 months - since she lives near the train station - and I'm travelling an awful lot these days. She didn't change not even a little bit.
The root of the problem lies in what you just said. Racism - one of the things what nobody will ever be able to wipe out.
Why?
Because there will be always somebody - or a group who will hate other ppl to an extreme level.
I always try to seek both sides in every single matter – I know it is hard and I’m pretty sure that you’ll still disagree – but you should ignore them and just smile a them.
I don’t blame you if you disagree.
Don’t worry I had my 18 years of torture as a kid and as a teen – and even now days - and I always smiled to my enemies faces - which made them kinda afraid of me.
Since you are a kinda new visitor you probably don’t know that I had a really weird accident in my very early childhood – and even though doctors did the best what they could at that time – I have to wear the consequences – and it is something what I wouldn’t wish even to my worst enemies.
Believe it when I say that probably most ppl would rather beg for death – There is no pat of my body where I didn’t have a surgery so far -I have parts which had more than 12 surgeries – and it kinda seems that it didn’t even worth it. Funny thing is that the moths I spent in hospital – or at least to what I remember is that everybody kept telling me – doctors, parents who were there that there will be always ppl who suffer from worse consequences than you – and at that time I was like : F*k that – I don’t care about others – but as years passed I learned to live with it and understand that yes they were right – and that is what gives me strength when ppl look at me totally shocked or even being afraid every time I step out to the streets – and there is NO way and probably NEVER will what can change it.
And I still smile at them – because I know what they don’t.
It is “funny” that ppl who were “on the other side of the river” and came back always have a different view on anything – especially who used to be a kinda “regular visitor” “over there” – like me.

Dacotah Saturday, September 27, 2008 1:55:36 PM

BIG HUGZ
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CynthiaCynthia23 Saturday, September 27, 2008 4:50:12 PM

Don't think about this person Stomyr! You ROCK!

Stomyr Saturday, September 27, 2008 5:47:10 PM

I'm waiting for his reply smile

I love to talk / meet with ppl and discuss things smile

If everybody would have the same opinion this would be a really boring world smile

Stomyr Saturday, September 27, 2008 5:47:49 PM

*HUGZ* Carol smile

CynthiaCynthia23 Saturday, September 27, 2008 5:51:20 PM

I am talking about this person on the street! Dialogue is good with people. I did not read everyones comments here - only yours. smile

Stomyr Saturday, September 27, 2008 5:52:05 PM

oh, k smile

Suntana Saturday, September 27, 2008 7:39:18 PM

Originally posted by Cynthia23:

I am talking about this person on the street! Dialogue is good with people. I did not read everyones comments here - only yours.



Originally posted by Stomyr:

oh, k



Whew! Upon setting eyes on Cynthia's comment, for a couple of seconds there, I too thought she was referring to me. yikes I was like, "But, but why is Stomyr being told to ignore me? What did I do? I didn't get out of line." awww I read her comment a couple more times and then concluded that almost assuredly, Cynthia was referring to your elementary school teach who ignored you. I wasn't 100% sure, but almost sure. bigsmile

I'll go comment on your reply, Stomyr.

Suntana Saturday, September 27, 2008 7:52:32 PM

Okay, then, Stomyr, then I guess it WAS your elementary school teacher. When you greeted her, did she at least look in your direction? I wonder if didn't acquire a hearing problem since the last time you saw her? I know my dad can't hear with his left ear. If you talk rather softly, he won't hear you at all. So, maybe your ole teacher didn't hear you? The next time you see her, leave no room for doubt. Make sure she KNOWS who's greeting her. If she again ignores you, then she REALLY has some weird reason for avoiding you. If you did nothing wrong, I'd concur with Cynthia, don't worry about it. There's probably a logic explanation.

Stomyr Saturday, September 27, 2008 8:02:12 PM

Nope she looked at me - also I have a really hard time speaking low - simply i can't - LOL When I try to do so I lose my voice - or it changes to something what nobody could describe smile

I got over this whole thing by now smile happy

Suntana Saturday, September 27, 2008 8:20:51 PM

You're right, Stomyr. I'm new to your Blog and to reading your Posts and Comments. Thus, you're right; I hadn't heard about your major accident back in your childhood. It sounds like whatever happened, did shape your outlook on life and all things / situations.

Just because we have different outlooks on this "Respecting Enemies" topic, doesn't mean either of us has to be wrong. As you said, just different opinions. Whatever outlook on whatever situation works for us, we go with it.

Hey, an interesting thing happened with that guy who tossed the racial slurs at me. In his haste to try and tear me apart with gratuitous Mexican racial slurs, he didn't think his actions through. My Best Cyber Buddy there on that Message Board, was also a long time friend of this enemy of mine. She has a son who is half Mexican. So, when my enemy went on with his Mexican racial slur fest against me, he didn't realize he was also insulting his long time friend's son! My Cyber Buddy didn't even catch it at first herself. I brought it to her attention. I told her, "You do realize that if this guy thinks like this of ME ... then he has to think it of your Son as well. And that is supposed to be your friend." So, my Cyber Buddy tore him a new one, gave him a Cyber Beatdown and Kicked him to the Curb! yes You should have seen the guy backpeddling ... trying to explain how he could possibly NOT be insulting his friend's son with those slurs. I THINK he was claiming that it was all just a joke, just razzing me. Joking? Razzing me? In the middle of an official Cyber Rumble? People joke and razz when they're on GOOD terms ... NOT in the middle of a fight.

Anyway, Stomyr ... Good to meet you! Good to see we could have a civil discussion while having different opinions on a topic. up

Stomyr Saturday, September 27, 2008 8:50:22 PM

Nice to meet you too smile

I was about to write that I wonder how come they didn't kick them out smile

CynthiaCynthia23 Sunday, September 28, 2008 12:26:35 PM

Wonderful dialogue guys! Sorry I am so busy. Often times, I just do not have the time to read everything in comments. Today I did and what beautiful exchange of ideas you are having. up

Suntana Sunday, September 28, 2008 12:42:59 PM

left right Ohhh, Ohhhhhh! Stomyr and I. Since there are no other guys here, I'm going to assume by process of thorough scientific analysis and elimination that it is us of whom you speak. lol Thanks, Cynthia! smile

Stomyr Sunday, September 28, 2008 3:39:28 PM

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+1 smile

Dacotah Tuesday, September 30, 2008 1:48:14 PM

Thank you for the HUGZ. love you heart

Stomyr Tuesday, September 30, 2008 3:56:21 PM

love you Carol heart

Dacotah Tuesday, September 30, 2008 4:05:31 PM

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