I can remember when the wind was shy. Timidly and gently, careful not to knock anything over he would whisper silently his secrets into our ears and caress our bodies so delicately. Was it fear of damage, of his own strength, or was it lack of confidence, or doubt that others could handle him, love and accept him as he was that made him so aware of the way he moved? He seemed to hold back even when the clouds built up around him, suffocating him, and on days when the searing hot sun burnt the land and the trees he sat in the shade and desperately hoped that he would not be seen.
He would slink away stealthily, sigh a breath of relief and collapse.
I've seen him crazy and all stirred up sometimes. And on the odd occasion, he'll sit still and watch the young and old interact. But the most moving times is when he is full of love and emotion and he knows this too. Far beyond having any control over his feelings he delights in this love, and spends his time wondering and musing in the night. And as he ponders on the wonders of this mysterious feeling he whistles to the creatures of the night and hums sweet melodies to the lonesome solitary she-spirit. He is drawn toward her shiny light and waits patiently until she is standing, so still and so silent, so that he is certain of her full attention without any distraction. And in return, she bows into his arms.
My hands are still numb from the cold air. What a day! What a build up to this moment! First air, then water, earth, fire to space. Infinite space! We flew over to Enderby over the hills to Huncote and back down again to Narborough. The air was cold, the wind bracing, the tree full of fire, the ground soft and moist with water and the smell of silage from the neighboring farms to bring us back down to earth.
Today we touched, we felt our way around the room. With the eyes closed I could feel my skin tingling. With minds at rest, we let our fingers, our toes, our skin connect with all that is other. Finally in contact with something so solid, so strong, so reliable. I smile, breathe, relax and dig my fingers into the cool dark earth to grab hold of the spiritual bones offered by Amida.
It's back again. I tried very hard to get it back last year but the keys didn't work. It was always me who went out there and came back empty handed. I was determined to get it back - it was mine afterall. There was a time when I knew it inside out. I knew what to push to get it going, I didn't need a key back then. I would sneak in and remove the screw and slide inside an even smaller passage way where it would be sitting, very still and very small, and I knew exactly what to do to turn it on. That was enough for me at the time. I was so pleased and proud that I could do that and everyone saw how different I was afterward.
The first time I tried and failed was something else. I had disbelief running through my veins but also hope that the next time would be different in my bones. Had I tried too hard? Or maybe I didn't try hard enough? I spent so much time trying to figure out how to get it back. I would even wake up in the middle of the night to see if things might have been different in the dark. A whole year went by with me feeling like I was making progress, I had so much hope, so many wonderful dreams about how different things would be again while the bloody truth coarsed through my heart.
It was a year spent in vain.
And now it's back and I'm not even sure if I want it anymore.
After sitting for some minutes in front of the wall, I look out the window. Right next to the Kino is a Flamenco bar. I know there are other shops on the other side of the Kino but so far I've managed to avoid facing the bright flourescent soft pink flashing sign and flutey music by directing my eyes to look right.
It's Wednesday again. I am never hungry until 6.35pm. The rumbling begins and the pangs of hunger pinch away inside. The dancers are stretching on stage, and their moves are so elegant and refined. I try to stetch my neck by releasing my hunched shoulders, looking straight ahead, I need food to fuel this fired up feeling burning everything I know or thought I knew. Something unseen and unsaid has got out of control demanding to be fed milk and honey from the royal hive.
The smell of spicy salsa wafting into the room makes me drool. My teeth, my tongue, my tonsils, my throat eagerly await the enchillada so tempting and tasty with a dash of tobasco sauce. The two second meal and all my pain, all my longing, all my hunger, all my thirst is gone out the window leaving me staring out the window.
I sit here quietly sometimes. I face the wall and just sit. It's better than the bars. And all I do is notice just how broken I am. I see how shattered I am. I play with the tiny slivers of glass that lay scattered on the floor and count the number of stained views that reflect and enlarge all the crude and cruel convictions that I carry in this unfit mishapen mind.
The libation I sought to wash my tainted mind leaving me in bliss continues to leak out through the cracks in my skin and what little liquid remains curdles and crumbles as I sit here facing the wall so smooth and unblemished. I suck in all that I can but I can feel it draining and depleting me. I heave a sigh and spit out the sticky saliva and stare at my mess. This is what I see sometimes.
The shiny light that lives within the walls suddenly jerks me awake. I am shrouded in a warm cloak and feel a sharp knife entering through the gaps in my thoughts. I open my eyes and think of the wall that I need to fix.
And then I look at the wall. There is nothing wrong with the wall.
the face looks slow the hands seem dead the clock on the wall has nowhere to go when time is taken then mine is wasted and the spirit thrives in eternity
in time it grows in space it mends the clock on the wall has seen all the shows when life stands still and time is tasted the spirit lives in prosperity
through grace you love through freedom you head to take the clock down from the wall when the feelings flow and tears are shed the spirit takes no time at all
Order - what a funny word that becomes when you say it over and over and over again. I am part of an order. What order? Whose order?
The Order is composed of 16 bright shiny people and it is Amida Buddha's order. Amida's order is, however, not an order while at the same time is very much an order, and I myself find it hard to create order in this said order.
One way to understand why we are here is to take the view that one's project in this lifetime is to find love or perhaps merely to love. Too often though the quest to acquire love is hijacked or ambushed by other subversive elements/feelings such as jealousy, frustration, betrayal that comes with the object of love. Other times, love itself is met by one's own failure to do so fully and completely leaving a sense of shame or guilt in its wake.
The suggestion that I am presenting here is that we are born simply to learn how to give and receive love. For many people, the learning that comes from any attempt to love is that it is not clean, easy, nor successfully acheived without layers of other feelings. The feelings that so often crop up in any attempt or striving to love are the opposite, confused, and heavy.
And one way to get a grip on love is through exploring guilt. In Caroline Brazier's new book on guilt we see that the subject is complex. To continue with the project of life one must be able to find courage to go deeper into one's own culpability and shameful feelings. To love is a creative and messy endeavour and to be able to find a place to honour and respect the place that guilt and shame deserve in this life is what this book helps us to do.
She'll be doing a book reading at Borders, Leiester, on Thursday 26th March in the evening.
I had a dream that you yawned and I couldn't help but jump into your mouth.
For a while now I've been wanting to know what you are like on the inside. We'd been talking and talking and doing some things together and everytime you yawned I could see that there was more to you. I went in and down a hole only to find myself in a world so different from anything that I've experienced in my short and limited life.
I saw up close a big yawn held by your great lips in that wonderful mouth full of well grinded teeth, perfectly straight and perfectly blunt. Like all your words that came out, perfectly rounded and polished, but I was caught down a dark hole and I wanted to go deeper into the mysterious world but you dragged me out and held me in your perfectly perfect mouth - not wanting to spit me out and not wanting to swallow me but instead holding me inside your yawn. I didn't get tired as you thought I might and so you closed your eyes and yawned an even greater yawn which finally exhausted me and I slipped into the worst nightmare I could ever imagine.
You were talking to a crowd of people about love and I couldn't help but feel hatred. You talked about the need for connection and open communication but before that you refused to talk to me and instead tied me up in one big knot. I shrank to the size of a fly and you swatted and batted your hand at me until finally I flew into your mouth.
There was a time when peace was felt by the inhabitants of this tropical Island. There was a time when the earth was worked by loving hands and food was accessible and available to everyone who lived there. There was a time when the Carib Indians had to contend with volcanoes and hurricanes but the French settlers took care of that by wiping them out in the 17th century.
Now, there are angry protesters and riot police. Now, there is not enough money to pay for the basic necessities of life for those who live there. Now, there are barricades, stones thrown, cars burnt, and one man dead.
Now there are people whose patience and money has run out.
There are times when we are led to believe that protesting (and in the union leader's case) risking one's life is worth it if it leads to freedom and new hope for the next generation. But this is the French Carribean run by France. This is an Island that uses the Euro as it's currency. This is not a country run by a military regime and so are lives to be risked?
When once tourists used to go to Guadeloupe now 4 police units have been deployed - paradise has become a war zone.
Take a country with a sad and powerful story, sprinkle in subtle shots to engage the heart and mind, add a few graphics and background music and the product is this creative motion info-video "Iran: A Nation of Bloggers explores how the digital world allows many Iranians access to ideas and freedom of expression they haven’t had for close to thirty years."
The time of birth and death of Siddartha Gautama is uncertain and different traditions will celebrate the anniversary of the Buddha's death on different days. This year many people will observe and celebrate Parinibbana today i.e. 15 February.
In sutta 16 in the Diggha-nikaya there are many gems to be found. The journey from The Vulture Peak to Kusinara is dotted with encounters from old friends and wanderers until he finally reaches his destination to pass into Nirvana. From these encounters, we see and learn that the form is the message and the message the form. The relationship between the Buddha and close friend Ananda, and the way the questions and comments are handled reveal that the Buddha is grounded in the dharma or eternal love.
I suppose I resonate strongly with Ananda, who was not a fully enlighened arahant, but who was the Buddha's close friend, cousin, and personal attendant. One gets the impression that he was very sincere and full of devotion while not lacking in character or strength.
And when the Buddha passed away, some cried, some wept, some remained mindful and aware, some were not sad at all but glad, and others were not affected at all.
As for myself - I simply don't remember where I was.
Buddhist psychology web page for Amida Trust training courses in Buddhist psychotherapy, Buddhist approaches to counselling, Engaged Buddhism, Applied Buddhist Psychology: course leaders David & Caroline Brazier and Sundari Gina Clayton