Sunday, April 4, 2010 3:31:55 AM
Trust is a vital element of relationship sans trust can not give you peace, happiness, satisfaction and security. When your beloved hurts your setiments causing damage to your trust, it takes some time to restore the broken relationship. Relationship between husband and wife, mainly turns sour due to infedelity which can not only damage the marriage but can also result in divorce or separation. However, it is possible to restore the relationship and rebuild atmosphere for mutual trust through persistent and relentless efforts. So, follow some steps mentioned herewith to create an atmosphere which is conducive for rebuilding of mutual trust. (1) FORGIVE AND FORGET: Though it can be difficult to forget what happened, it is necessary to make a try for making a fresh start in case both you and your partner are interested in rebuilding trust and restoring relationship. (2) DO NOT SHIFT BLAME ON EACH OTHER: Instead of shifting blame on each other for the crisis, both of you MUST admit mistakes. The willingness to admit flaw creates an opportunity for self reflection besides showing a commitment for improvement in the relationship. (3) DO NOT BE SECRETIVE: Nothing can be frustrating for your partner than to know that there is something fishy. Make sure that your motive and approach are not dubious enough to confuse your partner. Rather be honest. Remember that secrecy can only result in odd behaviours. So, avoid keeping secrets as they kill the trust resulting in break up. (4) PLEDGE NOT TO REPEAT MISTAKE: If you are an offender you MUST make a promise for not repeating the problem . It is very essential to recognize bad behaviour as wrong so that it can be avoided in future . (5) AVOID SHOWING ILL WILL: Do not show your ill will or grudge. Do not gossip either. All such activities can only display drawback in your character and can only fill mind's of others with doubts about your motives. (6) MAKE YOUR INTENTION CLEAR: Be prompt to say and show your regrets for wrongdoing even though your intention was fair. This shows positive aspect of your character and your maturity to deal with the situation. (7) SPARE TIME FOR EACH OTHER: If you and your spouse are interested to rebuild trust, both of you MUST spare maximum time for each other. (8) SHOW HONESTY: Honesty is the most important element of relationship of a couple. If you are concerned about your relationship with your spouse, you MUST be honest so as to create an atmosphere for intimacy. (9) JOIN FUN-FILLED ACTIVITY TOGETHER: Spare time for taking part in fun-filled activity together, setting aside your mutual differences for some time. This joyous moment will bring both of you closer. (10) TAKE RESPONSIBILITY: Do not try to shirk off your family responsibility as it may affect your relationship with your partner besides making him or her to lose confidence on you.
Saturday, March 27, 2010 11:56:52 AM
Good Mom, what does it takes?
'Mom' is a word which in all languages is understood easily because it generally starts with pronounciation of the letter "M", like Mom, Mother, Mummy, Mamma. In human species, it is as 'Mom' that a woman is respected and loved the most. No wonder then that every woman has the ultimate dream of being a Mom one day. But to enjoy being a Mom has certain responsibilities. Some tips to be a good Mom. (1) You have to be away from bad habits like smoking and drinking to avoid their adverse effects on your child's health. (2) Your food habits have to be good. You don't have to be over weight. You should have standard weight as your height in centimeters minus 100, e.g with 165 centimeters of height, you should have 65 kilograms of weight. (3) You have to follow all precautions as advised by the doctor during pregnancy as to which food to eat, which life style to adopt, how much sleep to have, how to remain healthy and hygienic. Above all you have to ensure timely pre-natal and post-natal vaccinations which are must. (4) During pregnancy don't make it an excuse to avoid work. Rather continue doing work resulting in occasional sits and stands, which may help you as a sort of exercise, to help normal delivery avoiding caesarian one. (5) Post delivery you have to deliberate a lot to ensure proper care of yourself and the baby. Ensure cleanliness and hygiene for self and the baby. Take help and assistance from all concerned doctors, nurses, family members. (6) Later in the child's life, offer all the love and parenting which is the child's birth right! Listen to the child and fulfil the genuine demands. Try not to dictate terms but convince the child if you want to say 'no' for something. Inculcate in the child from the childhood itself good manners and discipline as may be applicable when he/she is toddler, child, adolescent, boy so that he grows up as a good boy and brings name and fame to the family. If you follow the above, i am sure you will feel like being 'prideful Mom'!
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