Wednesday, September 15, 2010 6:47:56 PM
education, meaning of learning, good student, elementary learner
...
Last night, we had this conversation at dinner:
-Honey, i'm so glad you did all homework and enjoy it, i'm very proud of you and happy that you enjoy school.
-Yeah mom ( half smile)
-and don't forget honey, you suppose to have fun withy your learning, learning about things is fun, its not for test, not for correct answers, right or wrong, but it is for you to discover and to learn about the world around you. You go to school, and they teach you that....
Interrupting:
-Mom, no, its not true. In school, they all teach us how to do test, its all about the test mom !!!
-Oh, sorry to hear that, i don't think so, maybe some but not all people teach only for test.
-Well, we do test and test all the time,...
-Hummm,... ( sigh...) Anyway, honey I'm glad you enjoy learning with me, now time's for bed, have a sweet dream, close your eyes, dream of yellow sun flower, and dream about flying...
-What if I fall ?
- No worry, don't be scared even if you fall, just keep on flying....
----Another beautiful evening we had, and I am so glad I've learned to be a better mentor, guardian, teacher, ...care-taker to my little angel. Kids need discipline with patience, respect and LOVE. No matter what, I believe kids deserve to be happy and be a kid, curious about the world and have a lot of joy in learning about it. How can we make it happen in our public school? Its a good question for all: parents, educators, and all people who care about education !
Thursday, January 28, 2010 8:42:23 AM
divorce, break up, children going through divorce, dating single mom
Divorce and break up are emotional for adults, yet, it has huge impact on kids. Sometimes we think kids are fine, seeing them running, smiling, playing, we think they are coping it well. But deep inside, they are so hurt. I have just experienced it lately and the obvious break out today from my girl.
I had found some pictures that my girl draw. There are her dad, or someone she called dad, with mom, a dog and she, all are in a happy family. She was trying to hide the pictures from me when I was just having a peck into those.
I sensed something is going on in her head so finally i sit down and talk with her about her feeling how she feels now. She bursts into tears and tells me how much she wants her dad, how much she wants a family, how much she wants someone to care about her like a dad.
Its just because she has learned that I won't be able to find a dad for her any time soon because it was not possible at this time. Then she requests I could make peace and come back with her dad, that she wishes all of us together.
It breaks my heart seeing her crying so hard, and I am trying to explain to her how things have changed, how much I love her, yet, I could not do things that do not make me happy anymore. She seems understand but keeps crying and looking very sad.
I have realized that I had a huge mistake with my beloved girl. i was painting a picture of a man whom I love and who said love me as well with her, we'll be a family. I wasn't aware of my girl vulnerability and her ability to cope with the uncertainty of my relationship. This is a devastating experience for me and her. Although she does understand a special man who is kind, generous and loving, who is in love with me and who loves her like a dad is very difficult to find in this world, this new change, this new transition broke her heart, and that is killing me !
I love my child with all my heart, and I know I just can't give up, I have to move on with my life and show my girl that our family is different, that even we don't have a dad now, we can still enjoy our life and happy together. I have to do something for my girl, to talk with her counselor, her teachers and seek professional help for us, as well as spend more valuable time with her.
I hope anyone out there could learn from my mistake just like I do, never ever get any man involved in your child's life unless that man is ready for a committed, loving relationship and ready to make a new home with you and your child. It is not worthwhile of the hurt and the pain that we are going through now. I know there is a long road to go to make positive impacts on my daughter's life, but I'm committed to find ways to help her go through this difficult time of our life.
I know Its hard but I can do it. it takes time, actions and love for my girl. I wish every one is thinking twice about alienating your child. No child deserves to be growing up without a daddy. It is never worthwhile to revenge your ex over an innocent child. And for those who are dating single mom, do your research about them and learn about them before you are going to a relationship with a single mom. Because the loss you could end up is immeasurable, it could impact a life of a child. So if you are not sure about your commitment and your love to the wonderful young woman who has a child, then just do not get involved. This relationship is for a special mature man who knows what he wants and who knows if he's committed.
A great love involves great risk, dating a single mom is not for you if you are the one who is seeking an easy fun no string path ...
For men who are going through break up or divorce with your child's mom, please remember it is YOUR child who needs your love and support and care. Your child deserves to be loved and to be cared for. No reason for you to abandon him/her. Build good karma and you'll receive peace and happiness. Do not miss out your child's life because you never know what you lost until you are near your deathbed. There are small innocent human beings NEED you and WANT you in their life !
Thanks you for reading !
May The Universe Bless You for Your Good Heart !
Tuesday, January 12, 2010 8:22:12 AM
No matter how big the world is, if we are meant to be together, love will lead us to be together.
by Jane Camarillo
True love is like a teardrop in a rainstorm; you're lucky enough to find it once, but you will never find it again.
by William Louie
You know you truly love somebody when they hurt you so badly, but all you can think about it is the times when they made you smile.
by Tana
I love you because you bring out the best in me, and holding on to that thought, I sincerely believe that just by being with you shall bring out the best life I ever could live.
by Ian Duque
I never knew what love was until I met you, then when distance pulled us apart, I found out what true love is.
by Megan
Never leave the one you LOVE for the ONE you LIKE because the one you LIKE will one day LEAVE you for the one they LOVE!!
by Gabrielle
I love you not because of anything you have, but because of something that I feel when I'm near you.
by Unknown
True love is not being with someone because you think you can be happy with that person, but because without that person you know you can never be.
by Jaymz
True love comes once in a lifetime ... open your eyes and your heart and see the miracle in front of you.
by Unknown
Where there is love, there is life
~ Mahatma Gandhi
Wednesday, January 6, 2010 9:43:39 AM
In my dream
you come
a knight in shining amor
taking me to far away
filled with peace and love
In my dream
I see
our faces lit with joy
our soul dances
a happy dance
that lasts for a life time
In my dream
my soul
sharing with yours
my world
In my dream
I found
me and you
the two
in one
and the one in two
oh for the heaven's sake
for the universe's merit
let us
have this dream
I rather be
in a thousand years
dream
about you
and the far away land
where
peace and love
thrive and survive
strong like
a knight
with the shining amor
Wednesday, January 6, 2010 3:54:16 AM
Sometimes on our life journey, when the hardship and depression obstruct our way, it is often time we think of the death. It seems the solution of all the problems we have to face: the broken heart, the painful experiences, the disappointment. When "it rains it pours", we feel so helpless and devastated by the sadness and overwhelmed by our feelings that we think of death, like the relief to our burdened soul.
How we long for that peaceful sleep, never wake up, escaping to the far away land, where there is no pain, no hurt, no sadness. Yet, reality is different, we do not just live for ourselves, we human beings since billion years ago have tried our best to survive, to adapt to new challenges and hardship. Its too hard to try, though, because we cant accept the fact: the man we love dearly can't be there for us, the parents we loved dishonor us, the friends we thought understand us, never actually understands us.
Love is cruel because it creates illusion to people's mind: that love could conquer all. Sadly, it is not the case in the practical world. People have so many things to conquer: cultural differences, different expectation, beliefs and wishes. Things seems drawn people together now drive people apart.
It is hard to accept one day, the dear lover, the dear sweetheart gonna leave us, yet, saying their love remain for us.
Oh this agony continues in life, till death helps us all. The paradox of life is so ironic. When a couple says we're in our true love, till death has us parted, but you know, whoever might read this post tonight, it is not death, but it's our will, our deeds that will make our love parted.
We should always belive that we make our destiny, that no one else make our dream come true. We have to work for it and make it happen. The only way is to be strong together. If not, it is never true love.
It is never true love if the couple parts, just because they can't have faith in each other.
Sadly, death can't help to cure all.
It's the journey of life, where sadness compliments happiness, when tears go with joy, and when a broken heart thrives to life.
We dont know how it would do, but strong hearts survive and thrive on love.
Thursday, October 15, 2009 11:43:20 AM
how can it trust any one else when its faith shattered into pieces
how can it heals the past
with the broken promises
neglect and abuse
how can it feel love
when it doubts every single word it hears
how can it gives its faith
when its faith was shattered by the darkness
days of silent betrayal and masked love
how can it thrives
when all the long golden days went by
the bridge was burned
how can it forgive
the man who said "when you gone its all empty and sad"
yet, the next day he moved on with
another woman in his arms and
then
telling the heart
you no longer loved
how can it forget
the man
who burned down your hope and faith
who masked all the year
with the faked love
how can it forget
the cruel who abused its heart
the coward that made him lied to
it
lied to his heart and his mind
made him masked the feeling as love
and
broke the heart into pieces
how can it forget the days
it fell and no one there to help
How can it find
itself
the past
can it be healed and be forgotten???
this haunting darkness
this haunting past
the anger, the hatred, the lie, the betrayal, the coward, the immature
the sweet talker loser
forgiving yourself dear heart
you will find peace
and love
at the end
you do not have to forget
forgiving yourself
and forgive the cruel, the coward, the betrayal, the immature,
the sweet loser talker
to prepare for you, dear heart
the courage, the conscious, the companion heart
someday, yes, somewhere, waiting for you
to be loved
again
T.T
Honolulu, HI
Oct 1, 2009
Thursday, July 30, 2009 9:19:06 AM
On a warm summers evenin on a train bound for nowhere,
I met up with the gambler; we were both too tired to sleep.
So we took turns a starin out the window at the darkness
til boredom overtook us, and he began to speak.
He said, son, Ive made a life out of readin peoples faces,
And knowin what their cards were by the way they held their eyes.
So if you dont mind my sayin, I can see youre out of aces.
For a taste of your whiskey Ill give you some advice.
So I handed him my bottle and he drank down my last swallow.
Then he bummed a cigarette and asked me for a light.
And the night got deathly quiet, and his face lost all expression.
Said, if youre gonna play the game, boy, ya gotta learn to play it right.
You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count your money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.
Now evry gambler knows that the secret to survivin
Is knowin what to throw away and knowing what to keep.
cause evry hands a winner and evry hands a loser,
And the best that you can hope for is to die in your sleep.
So when hed finished speakin, he turned back towards the window,
Crushed out his cigarette and faded off to sleep.
And somewhere in the darkness the gambler, he broke even.
But in his final words I found an ace that I could keep.
You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count your money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.
You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count you r money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.
This is a beautiful song, it reminds me that sometimes life is cruel and unfair, but you have to make the most of it. Human survives !
Tuesday, June 30, 2009 6:51:35 AM
Bỗng một ngày dông bão tràn qua
Dòng sông chết và cánh đồng xơ xác
Gió lạc loài theo mãi chốn hư không
Chuyện cổ tích có bao giờ hoá thực
Sao nhói lòng những cơn gió chia xa
Thời gian hỡi trôi về đâu nỗi nhớ
Xin ngủ yên cho trọn giấc mơ này
T.T
Honolulu
Saturday, June 20, 2009 7:55:39 PM
Từ Bi Hỷ Xả Là Cơ Bản Tu Đạo
Người tu hành nhất định là phải bồi dưỡng Tứ Vô Lượng Tâm. Mình có Tứ Vô Lượng Tâm rồi, thì mới có thể giáo hóa chúng sanh và khiến cho chúng sanh lìa khổ được vui. Nếu người tu đạo mà không có Tứ Vô Lượng Tâm, tức là làm ngược lại với đạo và dù có tu đến tám vạn đại kiếp, người nầy vẫn còn xa Phật đạo đến cả tám vạn bốn ngàn cây số.
Tứ Vô Lượng Tâm là điều kiện cơ bản mà người tu nên có. Sao gọi là Tứ Vô Lượng Tâm? Tức là từ, bi, hỷ, xả. Vô lượng là không có hạn lượng, có nghĩa là không bỏ dở nửa chừng, không đến giữa đường rồi tự vạch mức giới hạn cho mình, mới được chút đỉnh thì lấy làm đủ và nghĩ là xong rồi. Thật ra, Từ Bi Hỷ Xả không có lúc nào là đủ cả, có được càng nhiều thì càng tốt. Chúng ta nên mở rộng, tăng cường chúng cho đến khi đạt được cảnh giới hoàn toàn chí thiện mới thôi.
1. Từ có thể cho niềm vui. Chúng ta có cho chúng sanh niềm vui không? Nếu như không có, thì đó tức là chúng ta không dùng hết lòng từ của mình. Chúng ta nên tiến đến mục tiêu “vô duyên đại từ”, là dùng lòng từ bi đối xử với những người không có duyên với mình. Chúng ta không những thông cảm với người cùng trong hoàn cảnh khó khăn, mà chúng ta cũng nên thông cảm với cả loài động vật trong cảnh hoạn nạn nữa. Nếu có chuyện không may xảy ra, chúng ta nên ra tay tiếp đỡ chúng sanh, giúp người thoát vòng khổ hải. Đấy là công việc mà Phật tử nên làm. Chúng ta đừng nên có thái độ dửng dưng, chỉ biết đứng nhìn chớ không chịu giúp, vì như thế là đánh mất tinh thần cứu thế của Phật Giáo rồi. Phật Giáo lấy từ bi làm hoài bảo, là dùng cửa phương tiện của đạo Phật để tiếp nhận chúng sanh.
2. Bi có thể bạt trừ khổ. Chúng ta có thể bạt trừ sự đau khổ của chúng sanh không? Nếu không thể, thì đó là vì chúng ta chưa dùng hết lòng bi của mìmh. Chúng ta nên có tư tưởng “đồng thể đại bi”, cũng tức là thấy người chết chìm như chính mình bị chết đắm, thấy người đói như chính mình bị đói. Phật giáo lấy bi làm tông chỉ, vì bi là lòng lân mẫn, thương xót. Trong khi các nhà Nho nói rằng “bi thiên mẫn nhân” lại cũng phù hợp với ý nghĩa trên. Do đó mà biết rằng tư tưởng của thánh nhân trong thiên hạ đều giống nhau, như cùng xuất phát theo vết bánh xe, là không tách rời lòng trắc ẩn xót thương. Phật giáo chủ trương từ bi, Nho giáo đề xướng trung thành và tha thứ. Tâm tâm tương đồng, đấy là cốt tủy của tôn giáo, nếu không thì là dị thuyết của ngoại đạo.
3. Hỷ là tâm vui vẻ. Chúng ta có hoan hỷ vui thích học Phật pháp không? Chúng ta có phát ưu sầu, sanh phiền não, hoặc là tâm tư bực dọc không? Nếu quả là có, chúng ta hãy mau sửa đổi, đừng để tánh tình như thế phát triển. Nếu chúng ta hơi còn chút ít tập khí, là từ thất tình lục dục mà dụng công phu, thì đó là quan niệm sai lầm. Nên hiểu là chúng ta không được tiếp tục có thứ quan niệm sai lầm như thế, nếu không, hậu quả không thể nào tưởng tượng nổi đâu.
4. Xả là tâm buông xả. Chúng ta có tâm buông xả không? Nếu có, thì là lớn hay nhỏ? Là nhất thời hay là vĩnh viễn? Xả cái gì? Là phát tâm cho chúng sanh sự vui vẻ, bạt trừ cái khổ của chúng sanh và giúp người trong cảnh nguy khốn. Làm được như thế, chúng ta sẽ sanh lòng hoan hỷ đến mức vô hạn, nhưng chúng ta đừng nên chấp vào đó. Làm xong việc rồi là quên hết tất cả, chớ đừng lưu giữ trong tâm thức. Nếu chúng ta chấp mà không quên được, thì đó không phải là hạnh nguyện của Bồ Tát. Chúng ta nên có tinh thần thi ân bất cầu báo, như vậy thì mới được xem là người Phật tử chân chánh.
Trich:
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Monday, May 11, 2009 10:26:25 PM
mẹ, thơ tặng mẹ, ngày lễ các bà mẹ
Tình Yêu Bốn Mùa
Kính tặng mẹ nhân ngày Lễ các bà mẹ
Con đi suốt cả cuộc đời, mùa xuân để lại trên vai mẹ hiền
Con đi suốt cả cuộc đời, mùa hè bỏng cháy
Trên lưng mẹ già,
Con đi suốt cả cuộc đời, mùa thu để lại trên vai mẹ gầy
Con đi suốt cả cuộc đời, mùa đông in dấu
Trong đôi mắt mẹ buồn
Mẹ ơi suốt cả cuộc đời
Gom mùa xuân mới, cho môi con cười
Mẹ ơi, suốt cả cuộc đời
Xua tan nắng gió
Cho hè con vui.
Mùa thu rồi lại mùa đông
Mẹ là lá chắn những cơn gió lùa
Yêu thương theo suốt bốn mùa
Tình mẹ ghi dấu
Trong tim con muôn đời
Honolulu
T. T
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