The Daughter I'll Never Have
Sunday, 11. February 2007, 23:39:09
It happened years ago when she used to run around like a crazed demon child. She'd throw her hands up in the air and yell "Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh" and giggle and run around in large circles around the room.
Her mom would have to grab her and calm her down. Seriously pick her up off the ground and say soothing things to her and hold her tight so she didn't squirm too much. It was so cute but I felt guilty. Why?
Because I was the apparent cause of this fever. I'm really not sure how much I believe that but her family was convinced. I didn't have to do anything, just come over and she'd go Will-crazy. At first it was really just very funny. This little 5-year-old girl, adorable as can be, just running around crazed. Unfortunately, it soon became embarassing, I'd come over and just say Hi and boom, she'd go crazy. Lo found it entirely too funny, she didn't get what was up with her little sister.
I suspect that the little princess might have felt a little jealousy and wanted some attention. Whatever it was, she was too cute and I just wanted to make sure she never cried for anything.
She was the little sister of the girl I was in love with. How could I not adore her? Well, I guess easily if she had been a little bitchy brat but she was the furtherest from. If anything, she's just the smartest little person I've met. She understood so much more than anyone that young she be allowed to get, kinda sad. When her parents fought, when Lauren and I fought, when someone would get in trouble, she totally got it. It was almost scary.
Now she's 10 and it's that age before she turns into a stupid tweenager and has to go through those years of her life that are some of the most difficult any of us ever face and for the people around her, it isn't easy either.
Oh, now out of time to continue writing this.... Have to actually go see the little gator, she has waterballoons she tells me, I can't wait. Finish this later.
And a few hours later.....
The water-balloons were fun! Half the fun of waterballoons is trying to fill the suckers up. Then we tried to nail eachother with them. It was hilarious, we both totally missed, the balloons would bounce off eachother or we'd have bad aim. We got wetter trying to fill the balloons up!
She has a dance recital this Thursday that I'm going to have miss, which made her so sad. I looked into her small little freckled face and her dark straight hair and say, "Sorry, I can't make it, my flight leaves before your show."
"But no body is coming, my mom has to work, my dad doesn't want to come, my friends can't come."
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Lo and I used to take her out to the mall, mini-golf, get food to eat, etc, etc. I should be clear, we could only take the little devil-angel in small doses. We could always take her home to her mom, but when we actually gave her attention but didn't let her take over, she totally behaved.
Over the course of 4 years this little child came to change my perception of children as little terrible burdens that were necessary evils to being a true blessing.
If I ever had the chance to be a dad, Allison became the kind of child I would want.
The curse? She her sister's sister. She's becoming her own person but still so many similarities to her big sister, things that only I would notice. That's harder to deal with than I thought. She's always been the little Alligator and I just don't want her to have to go through the stupid pain of growing up. She still hasn't had that realization of the world, that terrible realization when we realize how large the world is and that try as we might, we can't change some things.
I mostly want to see her happy, like most of Lo's family, I feel like I adopted them as they adopted me. Even the little one is aware of it, in her email to me today,
NO YOU CANT GO!!!!! I NEED YOU TO BE THERE ITS LIKE IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE SCHOOL AND FREINDS AND TEACHERS I NEED YOU TO BE THERE OR I WILL DIE!!! PLUS I LIKE THE FLOWERS YOU BRING ME MY MOM WONT BUY ME FLOWERS !!! WHERE ARE YOU GOING THAT COULD BE MORE IMPORTANT THAN MY LIFE !!! COME ON!!!! IM LIKE THE LITTLE SISTER YOU NEVER HAD PLEASE!!!!ITS SO COOL YOU HAVE TO BE THERE!!! AND YOU HAVE TO COME TO DINNER SUNDAY NIGHT !!! YOU HAVE TO!!! WHY ARE YOU GOING ANYWAY!!! OK WELL IF YOU REALLY CANT MAKE IT THEN YOU CAN COME SEE MY REHERSAL ON TUESDAY AT 4:10!!! EMAIL ME BACK AND CALL ME !!!
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Last night I was talking with a Professor of mine about wanting to find someone. She said it wasn't a goal of her's but I had to admit, that it kinda was for me. Not right now, not the overriding goal but something I couldn't pass up if the right girl came along.
So...
I had this secret dream where Lauren and I would have a perfect boy and girl child that would be as sweet, beautiful, strong, smart, and wonderful as little Allison. Life wouldn't be perfect, it'd be hard sometimes but wow, it would have been pretty amazing.
Will I ever find that girl? The one that makes me feel that way?
I hope so.
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