BDSM Lifestyle. Submission or Terror?
Thursday, 25. October 2007, 22:24:19
Okay, so I have recently gone into a BDSM forum because I was rather curious and did not like much that I read. There was a post asking if anybody liked choking during sex, and most of the people commented saying they did! That is just crazy to me. I mean, I understand that it is a form of submitting to the man, giving him complete control, but I would classify choking as violence.
I also noticed that everybody in there referred to their partner as either "master" or "sub". Am I the only one that thinks that should be sayd only in the bedroom, and not as a form of everyday greeting? When I think of "master" and "sub" in the form of a lifestyle, I think of a woman in chains in a dungeon somewhere being forced to do things. This may or may not happen, but that is what it makes me think of and be afraid of.
I have know for a while that I do not want the white picket fence brady bunch family lifestyle, that I want more than that, but BDSM is so extreme, I cannot see myself ever trying such things, altho I do understand some of them. If anybody in the BDSM lifestyle reads this blog entry, please help me understand why you are in that lifestyle and if you were ever afraid of it like I.
I also noticed that everybody in there referred to their partner as either "master" or "sub". Am I the only one that thinks that should be sayd only in the bedroom, and not as a form of everyday greeting? When I think of "master" and "sub" in the form of a lifestyle, I think of a woman in chains in a dungeon somewhere being forced to do things. This may or may not happen, but that is what it makes me think of and be afraid of.
I have know for a while that I do not want the white picket fence brady bunch family lifestyle, that I want more than that, but BDSM is so extreme, I cannot see myself ever trying such things, altho I do understand some of them. If anybody in the BDSM lifestyle reads this blog entry, please help me understand why you are in that lifestyle and if you were ever afraid of it like I.
WIDGETIZE
thelevellers # 26. January 2008, 05:12
NARUTO9TF # 27. February 2008, 19:07
pink-mist # 17. August 2009, 01:59
just like any other relations ship one between a master/mistress and thier sub/slave/pet is first and foremost loving and trusting.
if you do not trust the other then it wont work.
and as for the "choking" i for one enjoy being choked during role play and or rough sex and if it is going to far or becomes to hurt i say our safe word and He stops.
Bdsm is more than just kinky sex, its giving someone the complete power over you your mind your body and your rights.
we have a list of what we do and dont do and things we work on
blindfolding is one of the common practices
not only does it hieghten the other senses but the one who is blindfolded has lost thier right to see, so even if someone isnt into the lifestyle it is still a common practice and ost actual dont know they are doing so.
and has for chains and dungeons it only deoends on the players forte and if they have the room for it,
and even your everyday household objects can be used,my Master for one likes to have clothing pegs attatched to my nipples and then places them on my clit and labias untill i either use our safe word to stop, or he see''s it fit to remove them.
its not the you are afraid its that you dont understand, everyone has thier kinks and most of us like to push the limits on our bodies.