Kitty's Corner

I have received PM's from people, who have added me as friends, asking why I haven't added them back. Also from people who I added a while ago, and that I have deleted from the friends list.

It seems I need to clear some things out.

I am not interested in having 2,000+ friends. The persons on my friends list are friends, not just people who happened to come across my blog at some point.

What do I expect from my friends, and what can they expect from me?

I expect my friends to be loyal. That means that they do not talk about me behind my back, and they do not spread rumours about me.
I expect them to be discrete about my friends only posts. They are friends only for a reason.
I expect them to visit my blog on a regular basis, friendships need to be maintained. I will of course visit their blogs also. I do not expect them to comment on every single post I make, like I will probably not comment on everything they write. I will read it all, though.
To me, a friendship grows out of something, like respect does. I respect all the persons on my friends list, and none of the persons on my list are added out of the blue. I value each and every one of them highly.

Will you be on my friends list forever if I add you?

Not automatically. As I wrote before, friendships need to be maintained. If you stop coming here and/or if we stop communicating for some reason, I will delete you from my list after a while. It doesn't mean that I am angry with you or disappointed in you, it just means that we aren't on each others friends lists right now. It doesn't mean you can't be added back if we start acting like friends again though.

Can you come here and comment on the posts without being on my friends list?

Of course. Just like I visit many blogs every day without even considering adding the blog owners as friends. Hang out and have fun - and see if a friendship grows from that.


If it upsets you that I haven't added you back, or if you try to push me into being your friend, then you probably aren't a good friend in the first place. Good friends are patient and respectful.

I hope this was clear enough!

Happy blogging!