HAVE STABILITY IN LIFE Conjunction With Positivity

You could never know about light if you don't know about darkness.
You could never know about good if you don't know about bad.
You could never know about happiness if you don't know about sadness.

Life is a matter of learning from both sides of a neverending stream of opossites. I hope you can learn a lot from this experience... and take it as it is, an experience.

Yeah,you got to taste everything in life,there's no fun without sadness to,but as a matter of fact its easy for everyone to say big,but actually quite difficult to go through it,in those times.I guess you got to have some self control over yourself.So anyways ,how are you Andres?its been long since i last spoke to you?

It's more difficult to share sadness than happiness ,this last one give reconfort to people and they forget sadness for a moment ; but sadness and happiness are feelings ,they are variable when we take the time to understand our feelings ' and when others give us some keys see you

No one would ever want to share sadness than happiness but there are time's when you find happiness in sadness...thats a rare case.

You are right , sadness learn to be more strong and perhaps we have the strength to us , and give a vision of essential things:)

You don't tend to learn every possible thing through each and every experience in life whether its sadness or happiness.But life teaches you many things as you grow old.Happiness and Sadness are just two faces of a coin.

Do you mean to not listen ours feelings ? And to put the coin in a pocket?

Life gives you an opportunity for letting our emotions out and also capacity of dealing with these severe desires.You'll listen to your feelings as and when you come across things in life.And Happiness and Sadness is just a mere factor of letting these emotions out.

Are we born with these feelings ?at least with the faculty of express and to control,but this one is not the same for all people , is there an unconscious sadness and happiness, subjected to past lives or simply related to past moments .. it's a good subject Afreen , thanks for answers and sorry for my bad english i hope you understand

Zindagi ke har pal ko khusi se jeena chahiye.Har din ek naye khushi man kar jeena chahiye.Pata nahi " KAL HO NAHO ,,

Yes,we are born with every desire but there are some people who express there feelings openly and some who don't.I don't really want to criticize any of them,because its there way of dealings things with.But i feel being a bit open is good sometimes because it lets your frustration out,which is good rather than being pissed for certain issues which makes you more sick about it.Yeah sadness and happiness are subconsciously are part of us.I do very well understand what you meant Thery,so there is no question of language barrier(i don't mind if you've mentioned that in french it's a joke,i really don't know french).

And for Atiqulalam,
Sahi kaha,kabhi kabhi apne gham bhulakar zindagi ko khushi khushi jeeni chahiye.And filmy dialogue but sahi hai "Kal Ho Na Ho"!!!

Filmo me jo dikhaye jata hai wo jamane ke hisab se hi hota hai.Film 100% jhuth nahi hoti.Isme kuch haqeeqat bhi chupi rahti hai.Bas dekhne ke liye nazar honi chahiye.

Yes,thats true too but still to some extent not all films are real,you know what?life seems serious and kinda getting real stressful,so to avoid that i would have watched something funny.We see all reality in our life,so there should be something funny thats makes you happy,i don't say that life isn't funny,it is.But as you say "dekhne ke liye nazar honi chahiye" so it depends on how you seem to be seeing things.

Yes that point is correct.

hello Afreen how are you? sadness and happiness are the veils of physical defense to the understanding of the things , right? front unexpected things or variable, or and front the things who doesn't change too what do you think about? see you

I am good thank you,Hope you're doing good too.And Wow!!! told a good point,"sadness and happiness are the veils of physical defense" actually one thing is covering up the other, so its a state of balance.You know these 2 things(happiness and sadness) are variably linked with your moods too.So at one time the thing which makes you feel sad,the next moment its makes you happy.Well again that differ from person to person and we all are very different from one another,but there are things which makes us common that's dealing with these emotions(Happiness and Sadness).How are your kids Thery?

I'll see my kids next month for holidays,they are too much..Ok we deal with these emotions ,so that create exchange between people , i like yours answers , as i draw a circle and you put a color inside ,thank

Well i just let my thoughts act according to the way i am,And yes according to my mood too,And thank you for always commenting politely.So,are you drawing something?

Well what do you think about indifference ?Perhaps a way to escape to sadness? Or the way to control? do we see sa and ha as rain and sun? If I go out by rainy day,iknow i will take a raincoat to protect,i'm taking the rain as a brake , but i remember a day where i've met a girl because it was raining ,(thank to rain) so rain is just" a face of i coin " ...

Hey my sweet Afreen, so you've actually started a new blog although I will never forget the infamous record first I am sorry it has been a while since I have visited, but only a week* ANYHOW You sure opened a can of worms with this topic~Happy=Sad~I believe there are many levels and circumstances to "happiness and sadness" You can and in *life* be happy and sad at the same time! Oh I have much more to say of course You know me: That was a warm up first thought on the perception of "your way blog" Your so funny* Missed ya my dear friend, Lyn

HMMM Does "Two peas in a pod" ring a bell Remember the title of my last poem??? SEE Lyn

Ok i'm back now
Hey Thery,
Well comparing sadness and happiness to rain and sun...will depend on person to person because some like getting wet in rain rather taking an umbrella out when its raining and some like taking an umbrella with them when its sunny to be safe against the scorching heat.So overall it depends on your resistance and also how you deal with situations.

And Lyn
I'm glad you read my blog,and yes the most important thing is,circumstances does stand a barrier for sadness and happiness.I know,I know you got to say a lot to me,do send me a message about everything .And yes bells always ring when you and me start blogging .No i don't remember the title of your poem?

No no silly, I was just referring to the irony of your blog and mine And yes I will pm you for I have much to tell ya* Great analogy with the umbrella by the way

P.S.I am referring to my "Happy And Sad" Poem

Oh ok,i forgot that...

Ok ,i just said that we make decision according to rain or sun or sadness,take an unbrella against the sun ,why not? so with happiness i think , we seem more open , so how are you? bye

HMMMM OOK, I forgive ya*

Hmm we make decisons on circumstances.It might be anything.And i'm fine.
Ah you forgive me Lyn thanku
I don't see any pm from you,so hope to talking to you soon.

hmmmmm........hope u dont get angry....but it is philosophical AFREEN.

not again.
Anyways its your point of view.Well blogging is another way of letting your frustration out(according to me).

Afreen. Your update on this blog with the photos is incredible I totally relate and agree with your comments, all the way** Yes people are extremely different when it comes to dealing with "Emotions"; although some people are very similar, and it also ddpends on your life! Sooo many variables, from your upbringing~rich or poor~health~support system in your life~ Of course it goes on!!! I also agree that I would much rather share my happiness than sadness, and it is good to "vent" if you will. And your depiction Afreen is so perfect because it's not like your blogging specifically as to what your personal business is; you are simply showing you are "HUMAN", and making for a life issue of the heart and mind that ALL can relate to whether they ever express them openely or not and thats "EMOTIONS" Better to release now and then rather than keep it bottled up to "Eruption" We have a better chance of *Gaining Some Controling/Coping Skills* I love "The Afreenian Philosophy" Lyn

Oh well the pic's took a really long time to get uploaded or may be i just forgot the way.And again i say,i really don't know what blogging is all about,but i just write what i want to without any kinda hesitation or something(You know it very well.).And damn these emotions are never ending,it only ends when we die. .You know why do you relate and agree with my comments because "We are 2 peas in a pod".Back to old saying. .And there are times,where you share sadness too,not with everyone,but some people.why do you do it? To find sympathy? or just know there views and make our selves realize that our pain is very less compare to others.I know Lyn,you can answer this well,so Go ahead.Even little things can makes us happy and sad at the same time.And now for gaining some controlling/coping skills,for that you should get well soon and start commenting here,forget everything and just be happy.Damn again philosophy, you know its just me who write all these stuff,i really don't know what philosophy is all about.
I love the way you comment on my blogs{}( just 2 i know).

Well my little pea First of all I never share intimate/personal things to get sympathy or anything like that And trust me I know a lot of people have it way worse than me* Sometimes a little objective input is good to hear from a friend and it is ~As you said *a way to vent~ As far as my blogs; they are just poems, thoughts on different issues (In my Archives my first 4 I believe are political), and quoting or relating to the Bible, they are not about whatz going on in my life. There is one about "Why are people so rude" or something like that; now that one was to just get points of views, thinking it would make for a good moral topic! As far as philosophy all it really is, *Is one's perception and points of view on all aspects of life; and some have become very famous! I just happen to respect the way you speak and think it's intillent, to the point, and with a lot of common sense. As far as forgetting about everything and just concentrating on your blog Your so funny, ("And Yes it is a blog" A blog is what ever you feel like writing, whether it be about your feelings or a specific issue in life, whatever ") Any waaay, you know I like to comment on your blogs and ya I NEED A VACATION If only it were that easy to have no emotions for a while but as you said "not til we die". In the meantime, I do have control to a certain degree but *We All have times that are not so good* but as they say "This to shall pass". Besides my last pm to you I talked about something really happy too so there* Now quit telling me I'm always talking sad HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY No, I already determined to do just that "Forget about everything for a while", so was my answer sufficient enough? I'll be appearing daily, thank you thank you Lyn

Damn,i didn't mean to point you,i was being general here,well i've told couple of things too,so anyways.There are many who try do it,so.
You know,i like the way you said "a lot of people have it way worse than me".Believing something that,makes you moving in life and makes you get stronger too.Analyzing someone else problem makes you forget your own.This is what i've done.Well i feel in everyone's life,there is atleast one point wherein they think that they have too much of burden to carry on,and they give up,but when you meet people who've seen much more than what you actually saw ,then you realize,that what you are going through is just a little thing.
And yeah,there are good things happening in life too,so HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY

UH UM ~I quote you~ "Lyn I know you can answer this well" You NUT I love ya my dear friend I didn't take that as a general question Oh well, at least you have my point of view now on the issue! Now as far as people looking for sympathy; OH YES, I have know a few in my day and am dealing with that first hand once again right now and I must say that when people do that and when they overexagerate on top of it; it truly makes it difficult to keep compassionate because you are being used/taken for granted and *That is truly a test of your patience* And if you don't learn how to DE-STRESS, it will drag you down: Physically and Mentally will drive you insane That's one of those times it's good to have ~A support system outside yourself~ That is why I was like `when I thought you were talking to me` regarding "trying to get sympathy" I would never do that; *I am just not like that*, and truly don't understand how people who do inflict that upon others can live with their conscience~~I suppose some people just don't have much of one* OK, that's my visit and comment of the day but I'll be back* Happy Thought's All, Lyn

Well why i said that you could answer that question well because you are wiser and also you've gone through life experience a lot and also seen a lot of people.It was not a personal attack on you,may be i should have said,whats your take on people who gain sympathy?.Anyways you've answered this.And when you loose patience you vent like that of the volcano.Sometimes its better to vent than just keeping things with your self,because that makes you more sick and stressful.So at times vent takes the place of DE-STRESS.And yes there are people whose conscience have already died.*Afreen*

You are tooo funny* Do you honestly think that I would ever think that you would "personally attack me"!?! I simply answered my thoughts on the question and then was a smart *** I am ~As Usual~ agree that "Vocanoing" once in a while definitely is a DE-STRESSOR!!! I also thank you for your words of me; ALTHOUGH, maybe you just wanted me to "VENT" on a whim* You sure do have that philisophical brain :

No,i'm dead sure,you can never think that way.Oh well you are smart,you are funny too..Ok,well Lyn,even you say that i have a philosophical brain .Anyways,as you say..And about the blog,i would say happiness and sadness depends on how a person deal with things,and how he/she keep it cool in handling things.I realized now that the key to all these things is just be "Cool Headed" Always.

Sadness when i read ur blog about sadness my sad mood came down because i thought that ,when people shares there sad events they feel free ,and there feeling of sadness decreases. And vice versa of this is happiness when some one shares hapiness with others feelings of happiness increases so thank u for making a decrease of sadness nd for meaningful blog . Keep it up all the best

No I was being a "smarty pants" Putting it politely with THE *** But I'll take being just "Smart" Thank you I do my best to stay~ calm always~ BUT: Every once in a while your head goes "SNAP CRACKLE POP" But it is very rare and never in public Lyn

Well the views of you'll is making a meaningful blog.And thank you Wasim.
Dear Lyn,
You've made it public by saying that my head goes "SNAP CRACKLE POP".And yes,you are smart,smarter than me atleast..

How do you think about the blog and u r too gud in writing these blogs , you are just creating a picture in my mind with ur beautiful words nd a gentle toucg to my heart . Keep it up

Actually I was talking about my head But it's good to know I am not alone I also admire your words of thought, and as I always tell you: You are wise beyond your years my dear friend Lyn

I have been giving more thought to "Actually being sad" and realized I have been speaking more of keeping calm; which is a totally different emotion reaction~When I start getting really sad, I like to put on a movie that I know will make me cry: and it is a great release to 'LET IT ALL OUT'~Just a thought***P.S. Sometimes music does the same thing Lyn

Well everyone's head does goes "SNAP CRACKLE POP".It depends on how you encounter a situation and yes like you said Lyn,by keeping calm too,But i feel calmness is not the solution to this,we got to make ourselves understand and realize that we have this extra edge of being strong emotionally no matter what situation you're into.Now look,for all these you need to be calm enough so that you can tackle the matter's smoothly.So everything is linked.And yes,crying is the best way to let the frustration out again,instead of just verbally hurting people,just cry and let that off.And you know Lyn,you've given a very good idea to me to make a movie lol,its really awesome,you know the next time when i'm sad i'll think about this and i'm sure i'll laugh .Again i say,thought was very good.You know Lyn,these kinda thoughts just cross our minds thats(you and me,because lol 2 peas in a pod).Music also does the same,Well actually speaking music does wonders,but again when you're sad,i personally will never want to listen to a really soft song so that it just keeps touching my heart and making me sad(well this sadness is a happy one).So i'll listen to this very fast number or something funny that just deviates my mind.I just love your words of thought . .

To Wasim,
How do I think about the blog?.Well its just by experience and basic thing is that it just comes straight from my heart,nothing planned.

Thank you once again Afreen* To add to the saddness thinking, here is something that truly hits me: I just awoke from such a horrible dream that I am still sad and crying ~Even though it was just a dream~ Have you ever had a dream\nightmare that seems so real that even after waking and know you were dreaming, yet you just can't shake it? I wonder if that is your subconscience releasing for you if you have been holding it in to long: I do wonder*** Talk to ya soon my dear friend~, Lyn

Actually Thank you Lyn,for always sharing some really great thoughts.About the dreams,yeah i do get some horrified dreams and yes it does seems very real and makes me sad(in the dream,sometimes in real too ,or may be i don't realize because as already we have lot of problems in reality that we just forgo about dreams),but that sadness last for some time.I would like to add one more thing here,well i don't know if its true or not,but people say that "whatever you think for the whole of the day that just repeats in you're dream too,well we know that we're in the half dead state,we're sleeping but still our brain never stops working".About me now,well i do had this nightmares and all that,but for me reality and dreams go hand in hand ,there are times where i wake up real happy,or may be i don't want to wake up because i was held there in really good dream.There are sometimes where i just want to wake up or just try to avoid that situation in dream.Well now i've answered about how reality and dreams go hand in hand for me so there is no holding on for a long time,we humans react to what we are going through.I'm waiting to hear from you.

Many members of opera r using celebrity images as their profile photo. Some others r using even their sex organs as photo. Example- browse members from india. The authority should know, many facebook users r rejecting to come in opera only for this reason. Can we inform that to opera authority? I don't know how to inform them. Do u know? If u know, will u plz inform them?

2nd news, My many friends r newly coming to opera community. They're anxious to be ur friend too. But now it's a zigzag way to do so. So, i've started a new group named 'NET FRIENDS'. If u and ur friends become members of it, it'll be easy to get all our friends in one group. Then, when i'll add a new friend in opera i'll tell him to find all my friend from that group, EASY. Same to u also.

But only, if u like it.

Well,well well..You know,you're just pin pointing india,well i'm an indian too,so anyways i've not seen any such vulgar things out here in opera,and also i'm not the one who goes through everyone's things in detail and also,if they have it too,then that's there page and i personally will never bother anyone,let them do whatever they want(honestly i don't know about the complain thing,its better if we mind our business,if still that thing is holding you back then just don't go to there page).And also,i'm not a frequent visitor out here,well whenever my mood or time permits i'm here.And Thank you.

SORRY. i had no such object to abuse indians. But that's real, and i'll send u their address.

If u've browsed my photo album, u must have seen indians there. I send the example just to prove my speech true, not to pin point indians.

But after all, i'm sorry.