sarah's Arty Dreams

HI Sarah,

I don't know the deal on this guy. so I can't comment ..

Idolizing anyone is wrong.. loving is the only proper way
of showing how you feel towards anyone not IDOLIZING.

Love
Fati

Hi Sarah,

For me, to idolize someone is to see character and virtue in a person that inspires me to be a better me.

It is one thing to idolize someone, and another finding them attractive. My only true idols are people I know and love....like my mom, some teachers I had over the years or people who inspire me by giving of themselves to try to change our world and make it a better place.

As for celebrities, they are just people like you and I who are rather easy on the eyes!

For example, I love Trace Adkins as an entertainer, but as a person he is the most negative depressed individual. He said in an interview that he can honestly say he has never felt "happiness" in his life. And this is a man who has five children! How can something as amazing as being a parent not bring happiness and joy?

So he is nice to look at, but do I idolize him? Not even close! Actually I feel sorry for the chap.

But there are people in life that I definitely idolize.

We all need a hero.

Hi Sarah,

In Greek “idolo” is the reflection. Idol and idolizing comes from that Greek word. So you understand that when you idolizing something, a person or an idea, you idolize a reflection, an artificial image of the reality, according to your needs.

To fill the emptiness you feel you mirror everything that you miss to that person or idea, living with empty fantasies in the dream world that you created in your mind.

PS: What’s the story with Richard Grieco? He was a TV star of the 90’s I believe…

Ivy writes: I can't remember how many idols I have had since my junior school, it is a normal thing for me. Actually I have got a roommate, who is almost crazy about a pop star from Honglong, Nicolas Xie. She went to his singing concert every time, and everytime he comes to Shanghai, she goes to visit with a group of Fans. I do have lots of idols, but till now, no one could drive me as crazy as my roommate does:)

Hi Sarah
I think that Fati is right. It is possible to love somebody with all its heart and they are strangling. But to adore? In my opinion to adore belongs of God or some "Being of the Higher Class".

Not offended here! On the contrary, great topic for a post.

Veronica

Well...
I do know to "idolize" is wrong for me. But I have to admit..I've done it. (especially when I was a teen)
But I caught myself recently doing it...and had to give myself a slap in the face...(not really)..and shake my head. It's funny how, speaking from my own experience, we look at someone and they could have a gazillion faults, but you overlook them anyhow, making them out to be greater in your mind than they actually really are.
I guess I am somewhat of a dreamer. Probably not the best quality.
Another good post!

Idolizing is the wrong word for me. I love to look at the pretty ones who grace our screen. I have recently begun to totally appreciate the talent involved in being an actor/actress... a friend suggested to me that I was some fan fiction films and the acting in a couple of them was SO bad it was pathetic and not very entertaining, even though the sory itself was a good one.

Actors have a specific talent and I enjoy that taltent just as I enjoy a great musician, a great writer, a great poet. It is admiration, not idolatry.

And that is simply my two cents.


K4

Hi Sarah, personally I dont idolize anyone. I can tell that I just admire. I admire someone who is a correct person, or who is always helping others.

Even if this person is famous or not.

Idolizing is not a good thing, cos when you discover the right way this person is, you can frustrate yourself...

love,
Bea.

Hello Sarah!
I think idolizing is a result of hope in something, more than anything. Hope in what could be, maybe what we could be...

When we realize that our idol is only human, like us, is when we begin our search for another idol. Then that idol "falls" to human status, and the search begins again.

It is only when we find the truly Divine that the search is no longer necessary.

Just my humble opinion.

Great post.

Stardancer

Im going to get engaged, so i guess, since then i shall idolize my future husband, no?

I certainly have idolized in my time, particularly rock stars when I was younger. I do think age works against it; when enough water has passed under the bridge you tend to see the plain reality hiding under the glitter.

Great and thought provoking post, Sarah. There are some people (I believe they are called fan girls/boys nowadays; in my day, they were called "groupies"), fans (and that actually is the shortened form of the word "fanatic") who take things to an extreme level.

When I was much younger I adored (had a crush on?) Tom Jones. There were many after that; mostly they were just "easy on the eye," nothing more or less. And the thing that fantasies were made of. And of course, everyone knows to keep fantasy separate from reality, right?

As far as idolizing someone, Fatimah got it right. You LOVE those who are worthy of it; you idolize no one.

I'm not sure what your angle is because in one of your first paragraphs you say that once you get to know someone's deep dark secrets, the relationship can progress to love. I am focusing my comments more on the worshiping from afar of celebrities.

About love and idolization and not seeing the other person's faults and imperfections, you know the old saying about love being blind. It's not that love is blind, it's that love sees the faults .. and goes on ahead and loves anyway. In spite of -- or maybe because of -- those faults.