sarah's Arty Dreams

okay.. I EXPECT you to visit my blog.. cause I visited yours hehehe

i was just thinking the same thing. but it is a kind of a trap for me to think like that. it separates me from others.
my motto is just give give give and dont get anything.

True.
Here's alittle something I wrote that I think you might like Sarah.
One must be happy with oneself before one can bring happiness to others, for if one is unhappy woth oneself, one only brings unhappiness to others.
Dacotah 4/28/00

urrr eww ..I like the other purple background better.... this silk one is too much.

Thank you Sarah. I don't think it should be confusing. You said it simple enough. I mean easy enough to understand what you mean. At least to me.

because expectation leads to disappointment leads to resentments leads to anger and depression.

karma
"whatever joy there is in this world
all comes from desiring others to be happy
and whatever suffering there is in this world
all comes from desiring myself to be happy."

You are welcome Sarah.

Originally posted by Sarah:

but you could have told me in a pm

..sorry... squeaky cat is rubbing off on me .. she tells me just so sorry

This is a very interesting post.
Makes a body think..way too early in the morning for this kind of thinking!
Though I am not watching him as much right now...Dr Phil says it well.."You teach a person how to treat you."
And you know something? It is very VERY true!
If you accept that you get nothing from someone you give too...then it's always going to be that way.

I remember a situation...
There was this friend that pretty much invited themselves over to my place to see the farm.
I even baked a cake for them & everything.
They never showed up. Not a call..nothing..until the next day when I got an e-mail.
I replied that I was extremely disappointed that they didn't even call, and that the children were disappointed too.

They tried to invite themselves out a few more times-(I ignored the first few requests)...finally I accepted. And you know what? They came...they came late, but they called that they would be late. They were very gracious and happy to be here.
Now..these people know..that I expect courtesy from them. I am pretty much like that with everyone.
I know this is a little different than what you were trying to convey Sarah...but it kind of lines up.

I think it is important that we don't lose heart, and stop 'expecting' good things from people.

People always expect more from others than what they give.. some peoples human nature I guess.. But I believed give and you shall receive.. but this thought is not always reciprocated..

I am very similar in my expectations of others...I think that there is a lot of truth to the statement, "people will only give as much as you expect from them"...not in the sense that you're expecting things back from them, but in the quality of friend you expect them to be, or quality of person/character that you expect them to be...I don't know, take it for what it's worth...

Also, it's only natural to expect more from others when you are giving more...I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with those expectations...but if they are the driving force for your giving to others, than it becomes a little warped...

i think it's a little like a good piece of advice a wise lady gave me once about raising children. she said, "you must demand something from them.". i think, these days, people are afraid to do that.

cheryl's comment. "I know this is a little different than what you were trying to convey Sarah...but it kind of lines up."...

"I think it is important that we don't lose heart, and stop 'expecting' good things from people."

it's kind of like... be kind and generous, to a fault. but be anonymous about it. as noel pointed out there is a trap... call it natural cunning of self interest, if you will. it is there. we are human.

i say, as long as we see... observe what is true, all will be as it should be.

i'm off to "granny camp", this morning, to give what i can to seven grandchildren of a good friend. i will be giving a demonstration of watercolor techniques this afternoon. granny has bought each of them a journal like sketchpad i previously recommended for the project.
she has a different 'specialist' scheduled for each day. i am the only one who is bringing his tent.

it's a cool spot near los angeles, on the coast. i'm very excited... full of expectations... brushed up on a few stories for the campfire.... fully prepared to entertain the young ones.

see, giving itself is the reward.

Sorry, deleted it by mistake. I said, my mother always said according to the Bible, "Unto whom much is given, much is expected"