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sarah's Arty Dreams

everyday life of a stay at home mom/artist

The things they do...

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Thursday December 13, 2007

Well, yesterday I was in the kitchen finishing up the chicken and dumplings that I had started earlier in the day, the kids were home already from school and settled. For about 45 minutes I could smell wood burning, yet I hadn’t lit the fireplace, so I was really confused as to the smell. Opening the front door and walking outside, I was determined to find the chimney that the smoke was coming from because it was soooo strong, it smelled like it was coming directly from next door or my own. (neither of my neighbors has a chimney) So I was so curious!

I went back into the kitchen and could still smell the burning ….distinctly wood burning. I walked into the bathroom because one of my daughters has shown signs of being a bit of a pyromaniac so I was anticipating a small burn beginning somewhere. The bathroom wasn’t on fire….hummm…still hunting, hunting and sniffing like a dog around the house.

Making the chicken and dumplings, I used a whole cut up chicken and extra chicken breast, so that I only had minimal de-boning work to do…I hate that… plus little bones ALWAYS seem to get left in the pot…anyway, I took all the skin and bones and asked my artist daughter to put them in the bowl for the stray mother cat of the neighborhood. I started to unlock the back door and got a glimpse of a fire on the cement about 5 feet in width with flames almost reaching the top of the patio cover…that is wood by the way. irked The only way to describe is to show a picture. I couldn’t think, couldn’t speak.. I could only imagine my house going up in flames, I was in panic mode, and I was in ‘put out the fire’ call 911 mode!

I ran outside and turned on the back water, thinking the water hose was still there, but no..so I grabbed a bucket and yelled for the artist daughter to help me, we begun dousing the fire ….but it strangely spread out like a grease fire. All I could think is….who tried to burn my house down? We threw water on over and over…finally it began to smother… we took the water hose and soaked the hell out of the card board box that was on fire. Guess what box???!!!! The one that my husband plasma TV came in! irked *sigh

I found out the truth about the fire after drilling the kids as to who was playing with fire…as if I had to, I knew who it was. rolleyes It was the pyromaniac that I had suspected. (RS for the record)

Just a week before I found a burn mark in my bathroom carpet and we had a huge talk about it, I guess it didn’t work so well. Again, she had lit a toilet paper roll…and thinking that it was out, she UNLOCKED the backdoor, TOSSED it out and RELOCKED the door. bigeyes The fire was spreading because we had fire wood stored in a plastic container at the back door. The plastic had melted and when the water hit it, it spread like grease. I am going to start looking for fire hazards around the house but needless to say, it was preventable.

Roof of back patio...


Melted disgusting mess.....I told my husband he should have torn that cardboard up and threw it away and he denied all charges....rolleyes

Another angle at the mess...jeez.

Uncle Sammy comes to visit....Breaking all the Rules....New Photo Album

Comments

dɹɐzılpǝkɔıw ɐʞɐ ɹǝɥgɐllɐg lǝbɐsıwickedlizard Thursday, December 13, 2007 5:12:43 PM

yikes

what are you going to do??? worried

Stardancer Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:04:28 PM

My son was (is) a pyromaniac. One cold winter night when he was about 8 years old, I had put him to bed. Shortly thereafter, I smelled something burning. I looked all over the house, finally going into his bedroom. There, on the carpet, was a pile of Reader's Digest magazines, one of which was on fire.

His excuse? He was cold. He probably was, but sheeeesh. yikes

He's now 26 years old. And he still plays with fire. worried

lol

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:13:56 PM

Issy,

I don't know yet. I see a bigger picture here. I see that this is going down in our big book of 'family happenings' but my husband doesn't see it that way. I am a little more relaxed about it, thinking that I am just happy that we are all safe and alive, blah blah. But HUBBY...uh no. He was royally pissed.

He wants to do this and that and whatever...I respect that he is upset, but I don't think he should punish her for the rest of the school year for it. I mean, after all...we are all ok. Whatever...I am so over it. So, I am numb about it all....I know how kids are in my heart...and yes she did get 'grounded' she can't be on the phone, computer, no friends for 2 weeks. So yeah...I am sad for her getting grounded. Sometimes I have such a soft heart towards the kids. sad



Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:19:36 PM

Star,
It is good that you can laugh about it now. bigsmile I find it funny to, the things that kids do. That was actually a really cute (but scary) story! p Growing up, I would have never heard the end of it...sad....If I did something like that....I have a whole theory about this, but won't go into it now. smile

Is he a fire fighter? I heard that many pyromaniacs are fire fighters. smile I used to work for the city where I processed fire department applications, lol, each one of them I would think what they have burned in their lifetime! lol

Great job, though. smile

JDjrd2498 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:23:58 PM

Wow, that is pretty scary to go through. But thank god, you found it, and stop it before it spread. p

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:25:10 PM

Jose, that's what I say! up I would hate to be blogging from a hotel right now. yikes

JDjrd2498 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:31:45 PM

I would also, expectially with the bed bug crisis. p

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:40:54 PM

I know, right? yuck

JDjrd2498 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:43:21 PM

Yep, makes me wonder were to stay, when i am out of town. Most likely i am going to take a cleany kit. p I like keeping a clean place p

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:47:47 PM

or coat everything in plastic and then put your own sheet and pillow case on! bigsmile

JDjrd2498 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:51:40 PM

yep, sounds good p

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Thursday, December 13, 2007 6:53:46 PM

lol kill the :bug:s !!!!

CherylDuckyChickenLady Thursday, December 13, 2007 7:26:41 PM

Wow! Thank God you didn't give up on locating the source of the smell! bigeyes
It's good that she got a punishment...there definitely does have to be consequences to those kinds of actions...
It makes them think many times before contemplating stuff like that again.
We have a STRICT rule about fire here. It can turn deadly in seconds...it needs to be respected immensely.
We almost burned our house & farm down about 5 years ago...just by burning some garbage outside. It costed us about $3,000 in fines...thank God that was it.
So...we got a financial spanking! p Anyhow...May that be the last of the heart stopping moments for you guys for now! smile heart

JDjrd2498 Thursday, December 13, 2007 7:51:13 PM

Knowing kids, it will probably not the end of it. Thank god i dont have any kids. But see moments like this makes you love them even more, and later you will be able to laugh at them, or make fun of them when thier friends are around p

Stardancer Thursday, December 13, 2007 9:23:56 PM

He's not a firefighter, except for the fires he starts. lol Fortunately, he's never done anything criminal. He just likes building fires.

He also has a tendency to get spray cans, like hair spray and stuff like that, and lighters, and make "blow torches". He found a spiders' nest up under the eaves of the house one day, ran in and grabbed a can and a lighter, aimed and WHOOSHHHH!!!!!! Flames shot out, up, and over the roof! Almost set the roof on fire! yikes

He looked at the can, and it turned out that it was carburetor cleaner, containing ether. (He had thought it was Lysol.)

All he said was, "COOL!"

lol

KarenNerak Thursday, December 13, 2007 9:28:50 PM

OH MY GOD! yikes I'm so happy that you found it before it got any bigger! Wow...I bet you were SO pissed off! I hope she learned her lesson this time! up

KimberlySqueakeyCat Friday, December 14, 2007 12:25:00 AM

star, ur son sounds like mine, he would have said the same thing.

sarah, i totally agree with karen, but i also agree that she should b punished for what she did. u never know what will happen with something like that. and the next time, u may not know where it is, until its too late to b able to do something about it. i would definitely get her into counseling b4 it gets any further out of control.

JDjrd2498 Friday, December 14, 2007 2:23:06 AM

Well Shara if you dont punish her, you know she always has a carrer with disney, as the fire works administrator smile

KarenNerak Friday, December 14, 2007 2:29:26 AM

Sarah's a wonderful Mom - I'm sure she took care of it properly. up

JDjrd2498 Friday, December 14, 2007 3:35:11 AM

True, just for this little time i nown her, i can tell she is good, kind, and loving person p

KimberlySqueakeyCat Friday, December 14, 2007 3:36:42 AM

i hope so. i know she has to be better than ur neighbor lady, karen...lol

Bad WolfCois Friday, December 14, 2007 10:18:37 AM

Just be glad you caught it on time.. it could've been worse..bigeyes

Unregistered user Friday, December 14, 2007 10:39:51 AM

JoniMueller writes: My mother would have ripped my arm off and beat me to death with it. :|

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Friday, December 14, 2007 11:24:57 AM

Ok, let's get this straight, she did get (is getting) punished and I do 'remind' her of it every chance I get. (devil) So I want to know ONE thing from those who think I need to punish her more...

Were you punished as a child? And how is that working for you now? For some of you, you wouldn't know what it would be like to have it differently, so it is difficult posing the question to you. If you have not experienced it from both sides, (loving and strict discipline like myself), then it will be hard and maybe impossible for you to answer that question.

This child should know better, I am royally pissed about it because she is so 'book smart', you would think she had some sort of common sense. I am not going to spank her, she is almost taller than I am. But I am sure her dad would have no problem doing that. You know, I was punished A LOT as a child, and I remember rebelling against it...I don't know if it was because it was my step father punishing me or what, but I know that I respond better to someone calmly talking to me than someone losing their ever loving mind and going off on me. I know that she is the same way. I don't think it is right to cut a child *especially girls* from their friends. Socially communication is very important...but she 'done did it' this time! An after thought...when parents are out of control, I remember looking at them when I was younger thinking, "I hope I am never like that one day" Sorry to say, but my step father looked like a complete IDIOT when he was going off on us.

Joni, I am sorry to hear that. I would rather hear that she punished you out of love and protection.

Star, wow, that sounds just like my girl! bigeyes The more I add up the accounts...I am starting to see a dangerous pattern here. Maybe counseling would be the right thing for me to do! hahaha


Bad WolfCois Friday, December 14, 2007 11:39:10 AM

I was punished severely as a child.. today as I reflect on it then I can say those beatings were justified.. Trouble was my middle name and causing sh*t was my daily job..
Still today I wouldn't punish a kid as I was..

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Friday, December 14, 2007 11:41:44 AM

You didn't deserve it! I think that people can do the punishment thing in a civilized manner! It irks me to hear this...I DON'T think that punishing a child works for the world.

Bad WolfCois Friday, December 14, 2007 4:29:54 PM

The thing is.. yesteryears people believed.. spare the rod, spoil the child.. or something to that effect..
Today by even whipping a kid is considered abuse..

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Friday, December 14, 2007 4:32:00 PM

Yep, they are the same way here. Well, we still spank the kids, but use it VERY sparingly. It isn't effective if a child is getting hit left and right for everything.

KarenNerak Friday, December 14, 2007 4:59:23 PM

I totally agree with you, Sarah. I only recall one time when I spanked either of my kids - and it was when my son was about two years old and getting into something he totally knew better than to get into - I popped him on the butt. It didn't even phase him, but it killed me. I haven't laid a finger on either of them since then - other than a loving finger, of course. love

I agree that punishing kids by physical means is not the best way to go about it. Don't get me wrong - there are some really good parents out there who spank their kids for punishments...I'm just not one of them. (My son's almost 6' tall, so if I were to spank him now, he'd pile-drive my ass! lol ) I always talk to my kids and explain things out like you do rather than freaking out and going ballistic on their asses. In my way of thinking all that does is make them fear me, and instead of not doing things that are wrong simply because they are wrong, they would not be doing them out of fear of my wrath.

You're a wonderful Mom, Sarah...one of the best I've seen in a very, very long time. Don't ever doubt your methods. Although we make mistakes sometimes, our kids will always know that we love and respect them more than anything. up heart

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Friday, December 14, 2007 5:10:06 PM

YES! You explained it so well. You are so incredibly talented at getting a point across Karen!

This is what I live and believe in.....(you said)

I always talk to my kids and explain things out like you do rather than freaking out and going ballistic on their asses. In my way of thinking all that does is make them fear me, and instead of not doing things that are wrong simply because they are wrong, they would not be doing them out of fear of my wrath.



Exactly! Now who's the good mom? Karen's the good mom! (said in one of those encouraging type voices.) Speaking of voices, I think I will do a voice post whilst the stew is stewing. love

KarenNerak Friday, December 14, 2007 5:11:19 PM

Hooray! party I finally got my point across without offending anyone! lol

Bad WolfCois Friday, December 14, 2007 6:11:53 PM

Err.........bigsmile

Stardancer Friday, December 14, 2007 7:02:59 PM

I think you're on the right track with your daughter, Sarah. I didn't use corporal punishment very often with my son--very sparingly, as you said. I used reason more than anything else, and deprivation of privileges when appropriate, and he turned out pretty well. He's a happy husband, a great father, steadily employed in the computer field, and only starts fires as a hobby now. lol (Just had to throw that in there.)

Seriously, she'll probably learn from this the things she needs to learn. And, eventually, she'll learn to channel that enormous streak of creativity she's gotten from "somewhere" whistle into areas that won't get her into so much trouble.

You are a good mom!

smile

JDjrd2498 Friday, December 14, 2007 11:12:53 PM

But see, the only thing is that, you can punish your kids and all but some are different. See i was spanked as a little kid, but if it wasnt for those spankings, i would have not turned out, the way i did. See I was way to strong mentally for crowndings to actually affect. But i can see your alls point, because their are parents out thier that go over board about hitting thier kids. But know in the time period we live in, it is mostly hapeing in the minorities. p

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Saturday, December 15, 2007 12:36:27 AM

Karen, I can't remember if you ever offended me...sherlock But I am thinking no. bigsmile You always do so great at getting your point across! smile

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Saturday, December 15, 2007 12:37:37 AM

Star, that is very good to know that he is doing well in his life. lol @ starting fires as a hobby! lol Thanks so much for your encouragement. heart

KarenNerak Saturday, December 15, 2007 12:37:57 AM

Thanks, Sarah! o I'm happy to know I haven't offended you...and if I ever do, tell me! wink

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Saturday, December 15, 2007 12:38:27 AM

Cois....yes? lol

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Saturday, December 15, 2007 12:39:17 AM

Jose, you think so? Get to know all races and you will think differently. smile heart

SIRAN M. YATESsiran11 Saturday, December 15, 2007 2:21:55 AM

this may be a bit harsh, u could take her to a hospital burn unit to see the devastating effects of fire, or u could take her to a local firefighter house and have some firefighters talk to her

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Saturday, December 15, 2007 2:23:00 AM

Best idea yet! Thanks Siran!

SIRAN M. YATESsiran11 Saturday, December 15, 2007 2:27:05 AM

hey, no problem. sometimes hitting a child may solve a problem, sometimes it's just not the solution.

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Saturday, December 15, 2007 2:35:19 AM

i just told her the idea, and she said, "I DON'T WANNA SEE THAT!"
I informed her that she wouldn't want to see us burned up either...well of course she agreed but said, "you guys act like I really have a problem, like I need to be in the State Hospital or something."

rolleyes

SIRAN M. YATESsiran11 Saturday, December 15, 2007 2:38:17 AM

tell her u want to stop it before it becomes a problem

JDjrd2498 Saturday, December 15, 2007 3:50:03 AM

Hey sarah i do see it from most races. But the stuff i say because i saw that it happen mostly in hispanic comminities. I lived in the bad side of town, were most people do not really know what happens. See and those neighbors hoods, most of the people that get in trouble are the minorities. But i never realized why they acted this way, why did they go out do drugs, drink, steal, and i will probably never know. But what i do know is that those people who do stuff like that almost never are educated, so if we can get more people to have an education it might change. But pushing people to get one is the hard part. p

Bojanrolling_thunder Saturday, December 15, 2007 2:58:59 PM

I was seven or so, when I set a minor fire in the bathroom - by accident, actually. It never happened again. I think I've always thought that burning the house down will take too much responsibility, lol.

However, yeah, I almost lit the major fire by burning some garbage. It was autumn and the grass was dry and dead, so the fire spread a little bit quicker than anyone expected... O_o

MarcusFXM256 Saturday, December 15, 2007 3:51:40 PM

Thank God that you had the feeling to look on the back deck and found that fire, and were able to put it out! yes From now on, she should realize the seriousness of what could have, but thankfully didn't, happen.

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Saturday, December 15, 2007 5:03:22 PM

Jose.....because it is flippin depressing to be poor.

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Saturday, December 15, 2007 5:04:24 PM

Bojan...wow..so you are another fire starter? bigsmile

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Saturday, December 15, 2007 5:05:05 PM

Marcus..........up

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