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Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:07:03 PM

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I HAVE to get something off my chest!!! I have this friend, that I have been friends with for years..I mean YEARS...like...20 years now. But anyway...I am sick of it...every time she calls me it is about HER HER HER! sad She never asks how I am EVER! I am sick of giving giving and giving without any return. What the heck should I do?

Write her?
Tell her in a phone call?
Ignore her?

I just don't know. It hurts so much because she is like a sister to me. Ya know? sad

PS.-When I say she only talks about her, I mean it. I am not exaggerating in anyway. 90 to nothing she is all about her and her situation/drama/family.

Reminds me...how are all of you friends doing? (not that I don't read your blog) love

For My Husband...Cuteness

Comments

Casey²dragonharrower Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:15:40 PM

awww That's awful Sarah. :hugs:

KarenNerak Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:27:24 PM

If it were me, I would write her a letter. That way you can take your time and really think out what you want to say.

I'm really sorry you're being mistreated AKA used like that. sad You're so much more important than that crap! downlove

Dacotah Wednesday, November 12, 2008 12:13:35 AM

I agree with Karen Sarah.
*HUGS*

maddysman2003 Wednesday, November 12, 2008 12:37:34 AM

My wife has the same problem. Her friends call her with their problems but rarely ask if she has any.

I would nicely say "while I do care about your life, there were a few things that happened to me today also"

If that doesn't work, spam her email and block the phone calls. wink

Mad Scientist (عادل)qlue Wednesday, November 12, 2008 8:27:28 AM

I tend to encourage 'friends' like that. It helps me to forget my own problems. The best way to resolve this situation is to come right out and say it, preferably to her face. Any other action would be passive-aggressive and not conducive to a resolution of the problem. This direct approach is the most difficult but it is also the only path to true healing. The nearest alternative would be; Next time she phones you to discuss her problems, but her off mid sentence and tell her, "I don't have time for your problems today, I have my own to deal with." Then proceed to rant about your most pressing difficulties without giving her a chance to get a word in. (Tip: A love whiney voice helps in this example.) Put all your emotions and frustrations into your rant and when you've nothing more to rant about, apologise and ask her how she's doing. awww

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Wednesday, November 12, 2008 4:32:46 PM

Hi Casey, thanks :hugs: smile

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Wednesday, November 12, 2008 4:37:00 PM

Karen, I thought of that as well. She is a passive aggressive person herself so she would act negatively about getting a letter. People have done that to her before, I have seen her open them and read the letters getting so pissed. I think that I will just tell her face to face or on the phone, she seems to deal with that much better. smile Not to say I don't WANT to write her, I certainly do! It's so much easier...awww love

Casey²dragonharrower Wednesday, November 12, 2008 4:40:05 PM

smile

KarenNerak Wednesday, November 12, 2008 4:58:54 PM

Maybe you could write your thoughts out and then read it to her? That way it's all organized and you won't forget anything. smile

Good luck with whatever you do! I love you and want you to be treated like the Goddess you are! o love

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Wednesday, November 12, 2008 5:08:07 PM

Brian,
I see you can relate! I am sure she tells you all about it, just like I do my husband. smile Then he is surprised when I talk to her again. *sigh* I like your answer...lol

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Wednesday, November 12, 2008 5:12:37 PM

Karen, thanks love Good idea to write them out. I am a little scatter brained...even this morning I am making appointments for the kids, getting bills together, thinking about Christmas. I watched your video by the way. smile 14:46 cracked me up! smile heart

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Wednesday, November 12, 2008 5:16:18 PM

Aadil,
Great idea. Easier said than done. sad But I will try my best. I just tried to call her and AGAIN no answer from her. This is what happened yesterday, I call her 2 times (with no answer) and 7 hours later she calls me back. I let the answering machine pick it up because I am feeling resentment...sort of like "why should I answer now that it is convenient for HER to talk" sort of thing. Awww well....guess she will try to call back when all life has stopped motion and she is able to call me. rolleyes

Rippripp2002 Thursday, November 13, 2008 5:15:11 AM

doh I wrote this really long funny message for you to tell her but in all honesty chances are that it will not matter to her one bit. She is obviously selfish and doesnt see the larger picture. i would say force her to understand the larger picture...

Meaning tell her staight out that friendships are two ways streets. If she isnt willing to understand there is more to the friendship than her problems then you will simply not bother with the friendship at all.

Esther-Sugar Winxsugarwinx Thursday, November 13, 2008 7:18:39 AM

Ouch... U wanna be there for her but why is always about her ALL the time, huh? I get u, iMom... I have some friends like that too... It's called selfish... sad

Lightly and sensitively bring it up to her one of these days... Life's not always about her... It's about u too, iMom!! smile

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Thursday, November 13, 2008 1:48:46 PM

LC, when we talked yesterday, I just talked about myself for a bit and how bored I have been and what my plans are and she listened... (and then it was onto what she was thinking about) rolleyes

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Thursday, November 13, 2008 1:49:26 PM

Esther, Where have you been missy?

heart

Jenny LuTearx Thursday, November 13, 2008 2:34:38 PM

if I were you...I'll tell her that if she call just to tell her problem then she can record it and send to email later. lol I'll answer then.
If someone doesnt even care about you...why should you get upset for that person?

Rippripp2002 Thursday, November 13, 2008 3:41:45 PM

lol

KarenNerak Friday, November 14, 2008 3:51:27 AM

bigsmile I'm glad you enjoyed the video! Best of luck with you-know-who. Even if it doesn't work out...is it that big of a loss? I mean, yeah...you've known each other for a long time, but who would be losing out the most? sad

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Friday, November 14, 2008 2:38:42 PM

Thanks Karen heart

Bojanrolling_thunder Friday, November 14, 2008 4:49:46 PM

What is her zodiac sign? wink

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Friday, November 14, 2008 4:56:23 PM

Aries or Taurus..smile Isn't that terrible I am not sure of the exact date? yikes

Bojanrolling_thunder Friday, November 14, 2008 5:28:21 PM

Well, once you've mentioned it...

Oo

KarenNerak Friday, November 14, 2008 8:01:47 PM

You're welcome. love

Esther-Sugar Winxsugarwinx Friday, November 14, 2008 10:39:56 PM

I've been tied down, that's all... iMom...

smile

So, how are u gonna handle this friend of yrs?

KarenNerak Friday, November 14, 2008 11:07:06 PM

I wish I have been tied down, too. devil

Esther-Sugar Winxsugarwinx Saturday, November 15, 2008 8:12:56 AM

eek Karen!!!!!! o

Naughty u! Not THAT kinda tied down, ok?!?! lol

Hugz! U're so crazy! I love u!

KarenNerak Saturday, November 15, 2008 1:25:20 PM

lol I'm just a tiny bit on the crazy side! scared

Hugs and love right back at'cha! love

funzfunz81 Saturday, November 15, 2008 2:57:29 PM

Ok, next time she comes to you, slap her hard and just simply say STFU left
Really, I think you put up with her for like 20years, wow! bigeyes
You've gotta do something, honey. You're worth a whole lot better friends heart

KarenNerak Saturday, November 15, 2008 2:59:41 PM

I LOVE Fanny's idea! Do that! yes

Esther-Sugar Winxsugarwinx Monday, November 17, 2008 3:04:05 AM

My biological Mom has a friend just like yrs iMom... Mom is tied to her by a past friendship bond... Still best of friends even though she's selfish...

Sigh, I am of no help here...

It's a streeful friendship, iMom, u decide... I pray for the best for u! MUAX!! heart

And Karen, BEHAVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! p

KarenNerak Monday, November 17, 2008 3:28:43 AM

As if! devil

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Wednesday, November 19, 2008 9:19:36 PM

I wanna be tied down too...(by Karen) bigsmile


idaughter, you are of enough help...I mean...it is not like you are the expert in friendship. You are doing what you can...I can't even give good advice, that is why I ask for it.p love


Fanny, you ladies have really helped me. I am starting to overtalk her now. When she babbles too much about herself, I just get in there and start talking.

love

KarenNerak Wednesday, November 19, 2008 10:00:11 PM

I happen to have some rope around here somewhere! p

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Wednesday, November 19, 2008 10:05:34 PM

wooo hooo!

funzfunz81 Wednesday, November 19, 2008 10:11:45 PM

If you need some handcuffs and whips, just ask me bigsmile


Glad to hear that, Sarah! yes and soooooo glad to have you back love

KarenNerak Wednesday, November 19, 2008 10:13:35 PM

I'll make sure to use fluffy rope stuff so as not to injur your beautiful skin. o

funzfunz81 Wednesday, November 19, 2008 10:16:43 PM

awww I wish i'd thought of that *looks at her bruises*

KarenNerak Wednesday, November 19, 2008 10:18:32 PM

doh

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 Thursday, November 20, 2008 1:26:33 AM

*kisses Fanny's bruises* awww

*kisses Karen for being so sweet* bigsmile

funzfunz81 Thursday, November 20, 2008 3:19:46 AM

o o o

*shows Sarah all the bruises...* better add some more left bigsmile

KarenNerak Thursday, November 20, 2008 7:49:37 AM

*smooches Sarah just for the fun of it*

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