Sarah Dreams

Cleaning my Blog...

Thursday, November 12, 2009 3:53:44 PM

opera community, blogging, friends, personal

Oh wow...yesterday evening I started to delete people from my friend list that didn't have a user pic. (with the exception of H82typ aka Dennis, he has proven his validity and is a pretty cool guy) Deleting became addicting to me because I figured out a way to do with without leaving the edit page.

Instead of left clicking on "remove" IN EDIT PAGE I right clicked and chose 'open in background tab'. I went through each page (a total of 30 pages 39 people per page) and removed everyone that
a) I didn't know.
b) didn't comment on my page.
c) left My.Opera

I kept those that
a) I know visit but infrequently
b) visit frequently
c) are no longer active but have special meaning to me

So...after deleting those 'unfriends' I headed over to my Inbox. Oh Lord...I had messages from 2006 in there...over 5,000. Because of Opera allowing a check all feature, deleting was time consuming but worth it. I took a trip down memory lane.

All those messages!!

Some of you should know that yes, I still had your emails.

Alllll the bad and alllllll the good.

Anyway, they are all gone now. I thought I needed a fresh start...and it's sort of nice!

Now I am able to keep it up and I don't regret losing all those old letters. I am at a different place in my life now and I don't miss the old me...I've changed over the past 5 years and seeing the old me in the inbox was scary.

One last thing...if I accidentally removed you, please write me and let me know.

-Sarah aka Cupcake

We Need.............Happy Birthday Mariah

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TabTabmartel # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:08:17 PM

I did the very same thing last week.

It's so amazing to be in a place where you can just accept who you are and love yourself.

I don't add anyone who doesn't participate on my blog..guess that makes me an Opera snob huh!

Heading out for coffee..wish you and Karen lived closer..coffeing alone just ain't right!

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:09:23 PM

Have fun getting your coffee Tab.

Have a cup for me as well, I can't taste it right now.

Magsintothedeep # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:19:22 PM

I did the same thing a few months ago, but now, I regret deleting my old messages. Sigh. Oh well, not much to be done about it now.

Is that your handwriting, Sarah?

TabTabmartel # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:25:07 PM

I will Sarah...

Robert Jacobsenrobertj # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:26:36 PM

I visit frequently. At least from your last post (which was the first to come after I subscribed to your blog

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:30:28 PM

Originally posted by intothedeep:

I did the same thing a few months ago, but now, I regret deleting my old messages. Sigh. Oh well, not much to be done about it now.

Is that your handwriting, Sarah?

Why do you regret deleting the old messages? Or am I being too nosy? lol Well, I am moving forward asking God that I don't regret it. It was all trash...

No, not my handwriting...it's a font...a cute font. Mmm I'll post my handwriting one day.

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:31:11 PM

Tab...oh...your far from an Opera snob.

Just being careful and there isn't anything wrong with that.

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:31:51 PM

Originally posted by Amnith:

I visit frequently. At least from your last post (which was the first to come after I subscribed to your blog

Awesome! I am going to visit your blog and see about you.

KarenNerak # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:45:36 PM

How dare you remove me?!

Just teasin'.

I love the little graphic thingy you made, Cupcake! It's awesome.

I'm a freak about my Inbox. I only has one message in there and that's from Jon - the Opera creator.

I just couldn't believe he wrote to me, so I saved it!

:sst:Amnith AKA Robert is a really awesome guy! You most definitely should add him.

TabTabmartel # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:51:06 PM

Thanks Sarah....
It's true I am careful, I post a lot about my kids and these are often friends only. I just don't want stuff about my kids being public.

Magsintothedeep # Thursday, November 12, 2009 5:52:21 PM

My frame of mind at that moment convinced me that alot of my messages were trash too. I think I was just reacting to a guilty conscience or a battle that was taking place in my head.

I guess my point is that God loves us and meets us exactly where we're at at any given moment. We don't have to hide, or pretend to be something that we're not. I know at the time I was trying to erase a part of me. Silly when I think of it.

Moving forward though, I don't have to get involved in the same kind of talks. I still love those friends very much!!! They are very special to me and have helped me to become who I am today. For that, I am so very grateful!!!

Tamil # Thursday, November 12, 2009 6:03:16 PM

*Checks friends page*

KarenNerak # Thursday, November 12, 2009 6:05:11 PM

Mrs. HermitessHermitess # Thursday, November 12, 2009 6:11:25 PM

I was thinking about doing this same thing sarah! weird.

All the same reasons too!

I tend to keep my pm box cleaned out. I don't like clutter

Must be a 30ish thing.

Cleanclean # Thursday, November 12, 2009 8:34:19 PM

* whew *

Made the cut again ...

Stardancer # Thursday, November 12, 2009 11:47:31 PM

Thanks for lettin' me hang around, Sarah.

Hope you and your family have a great evening.

TabTabmartel # Friday, November 13, 2009 12:00:16 AM

I could clear my inbox.. I have tons of messages and most of em are the same.."Nerak has just posted a message in your shoutbox"

KarenNerak # Friday, November 13, 2009 1:37:27 AM

...

TabTabmartel # Friday, November 13, 2009 10:38:05 AM

KarenNerak # Friday, November 13, 2009 7:25:07 PM

H82typ # Saturday, November 14, 2009 3:02:41 AM

I do have pics of me in my albums...

Sarah Dreamsangel292005 # Saturday, November 14, 2009 10:50:12 AM

Oh, sorry Dennis.

H82typ # Saturday, November 14, 2009 12:50:54 PM

And none of them are nekkid pics!

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Saturday, November 14, 2009 10:56:59 PM

Dennis is OK. He helped me with a tech problem last year and I didn't even know him at all.

I need to clear the decks on my own website, but I am sooooo lazy. I will get to it tho.... soon...

TabTabmartel # Saturday, November 14, 2009 11:05:01 PM

I don't know him, and he's helped me too!

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Saturday, November 14, 2009 11:15:16 PM

I am a tech dummie sometimes!

TabTabmartel # Saturday, November 14, 2009 11:59:49 PM

I have great use for tech dummies..I'm currently trying to convince my own to marry me.

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 2:48:25 PM

H82typ # Sunday, November 15, 2009 3:12:49 PM

Why does he need convincing?

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 3:18:16 PM

That one is easy! He is a man.

TabTabmartel # Sunday, November 15, 2009 3:25:11 PM

After 4 years, he shouldn't need convincing...

Gotta go with he's a man!

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 3:28:32 PM

Speaking as a Man myself, all I can say is that you will have to "shove" him.

TabTabmartel # Sunday, November 15, 2009 3:53:03 PM

How so?

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 4:01:59 PM

It is the fear of taking that final step I guess.

TabTabmartel # Sunday, November 15, 2009 4:16:59 PM

I guess...I know it's harder for men, even if I can't understand why.
Men and women are just wired differently.

He's a geek..should be able to change his wiring

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 4:39:49 PM

...tell me about it! My uncle does not think Men and Woman are different. He lives alone. (Not quite, but I am moving out soon enough.)

TabTabmartel # Sunday, November 15, 2009 4:55:46 PM

@ not quite

Got a place in mind?

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 4:57:21 PM

I am going down to Columbus for the winter. Tomorrow I am talking to the housing comminsion, to get on the waiting list.

TabTabmartel # Sunday, November 15, 2009 5:01:41 PM

Good luck..I hope the waiting lists aren't like they are here. It's about a four year wait here

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 5:03:20 PM

About two here, but I can jump the line a little because I am a veteran.

TabTabmartel # Sunday, November 15, 2009 5:08:46 PM

Well that's good...

at least somebody is doing something to help aid veterans.

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 5:20:36 PM

Not as much as you would think. The US Gov. has a bad habit of making promises that they have no intentions of keeping.

TabTabmartel # Sunday, November 15, 2009 5:58:28 PM

I realize that..
You risk your life to protect freedom, then get shat on by the Nation you were willing to sacrifice everything for!

To bad they don't offer a civilian pension to provide for the majority of your survival needs

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 6:49:52 PM

Once they don't need you, they don't care anymore.

TabTabmartel # Sunday, November 15, 2009 8:29:58 PM

That seems to be a common falicy...
Then they wonder why fewer and fewer men and women are signing up.

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 8:39:36 PM

Young people who don't know the history.

TabTabmartel # Sunday, November 15, 2009 10:28:22 PM

It's funny how little young people know of Canadian history here, let alone global history.

Tyler Parke YoungCaptivevet # Sunday, November 15, 2009 11:35:57 PM

All I know is: the Yukon gold rush, something about the British invasion, and the two times that the US invaded and got kicked back out. Not much.

TabTabmartel # Monday, November 16, 2009 12:27:52 AM

both Countries have very interesting hisories...My boyfriend is big on Canadian history and I just kinda absorb it through osmosis...lol