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Tuesday, 13. January 2009, 22:40:15

I don't understand why my kids can't follow simple rules like

SIT WHILE THE BUS IS MOVING

DON'T STAND AND YELL WHILE ON THE BUS

BEHAVE WHILE ON THE BUS

I mean, is it really so hard to do that? Is it? What sort of child would keep disobeying the rules
and pissing their parents off like mine do to me? One thing I don't see people blogging about is
bad ass kids. I have bad ass kids. They are all girls and they try to run over me and my husband...
they bomb rush us at times when we don't expect it...those brats are gonna get more spankings than
they can count on their fingers and toes if they don't straighten up like soldiers and fly right!

Two of the girls were kicked off for fighting each other and now today I get the report that one was
standing up and shouting to kids.

Why oh why can't I have more well behaved children?

:cry:

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Nerak 13. January 2009, 22:50

:love: I'm so sorry, Sarah! I have no idea why they're not behaving properly on the bus, but one way or another they will eventually learn a lesson, I'm sure.

Dacotah 13. January 2009, 23:09

I'm sorry. I know the feeling. My daughter wasn't the best behaved either.

DuckyChickenLady 13. January 2009, 23:19

You know what? At least you admit that your kids are misbehaving! So many parents say things like, "what? my johnny would NEVER do something like that!" I have had issues with my kids on the bus...and I KNOW that my kids did the things the bus driver complained about...they were disciplined accordingly.
Your girls were born from you and you know how to behave...so eventually they'll be able to control themselves, right? Argh..I do know how frustrating it is to have these battles. In this house, if it's not one thing, it's another... It's exhausting. But hang in there! We love you!
& You are NOT alone... It will eventually get better!! :heart:

angel292005 13. January 2009, 23:19

Karen...I don't know...with them they are so hard headed!!!

angel292005 13. January 2009, 23:21

Hey Carol, nice to know I am not the only one. :heart:

angel292005 13. January 2009, 23:23

Thanks Cheryl,
I am so happy that I have friends that understand. Of course my hubby is just like, "whoop em and forget it" but I know that doesn't work in the long run, ya know? I mean, they need to know that life doesn't always work that way. I am struggling with THAT issue....

DuckyChickenLady 13. January 2009, 23:25

Are there other things you can discipline them with? Like taking away internet priviledges for a month..or video games for a time?
That would kill my kids.. We use that often!! :heart:

Dacotah 14. January 2009, 00:00

:heart:

qlue 14. January 2009, 06:33

40% of children's behaviour is upbringing. 40% of children's behaviour is genetic. Unfortunately, it's the other twenty percent that's totally random and beyond anyone's controll. awww

only-a-yard 14. January 2009, 13:22

I just know I'm going to get a lot of stick for this but I'll post it anyway. If you teach your kids that violence is the answer to any problem then that's what they'll learn, non violent discipline is much more effective anyway.

angel292005 14. January 2009, 17:02

Cheryl,
I am starting to think it is in my blood and upbringing. I am feeling especially down this morning because I know that too much yelling goes on in the house, too much anger sometimes. I wish that we would NEVER be angry in this house. I want God's love to be in this home, I want peace, I want understanding between the girls.

I would love if they could hug each other and even be of emotional support for each other if they needed it. :smile: Guess I will just have to keep praying that it will eventually happen. I know that I need to look inside myself more as to what I am doing wrong.

What example am I setting for them?
Am I always calm when talking to them?
I expect a lot out of myself, because I don't want them to feel the way that I felt when I was growing up. I want them to be proud of who they are. I let the hot headed Italian side of me come out...and things can be hard....The older I get the more I recognize it has to stop...

:heart:

angel292005 14. January 2009, 17:07

Carol, thanks. :heart:




Aadil, Mmm I don't know where you got those stats...or how it is fact... but OK... 40 40 and 20. Um don't you think the other 20 has to do with the fact that we are all individuals? We are all different souls here and more than likely, most of us, have our own thoughts. And that when children grow up they become adults who will possibly take on their own religion and way of doing things?

We ultimately become our own person. I am going to stop there, I really could go on and on...

Anonymous 14. January 2009, 19:11

Susan writes:

Awe, sorry your having one of those kid days too!! They are just going through the "lets see how far we can push things" and sometimes they loose sight of that....

Most parents throw in the towel and give up! Glad to see that is not the case here :-) hang in there mom!!

angel292005 14. January 2009, 20:27

only-a-yard, I think that there is no cookie cutter way of giving a child discipline. I mean, either they take it nicely...or they stay stubborn. I wasn't a stubborn child until I became an older teenager. 2 of my girls are very stubborn and the other 2 are very sensitive and listen and learn for the most part. 2 of them need more spankings than the other 2! 2 of the girls make better grades! I mean, it is so weird, I can't treat them all the same for the simple fact that they are all so different.

I find it wonderful and beautiful that they are all different. :smile: I am proud that 3 of the girls will stand up for their self 9 times out of 10. I don't want anyone to take advantage of them. :wink:

angel292005 14. January 2009, 20:28

:o: Thanks Susan...MOM POWER!

qlue 14. January 2009, 22:58

Well those 'statistics' are just guess work on my part so they might not be accurate. It's just that I feel that upbringing and genetics does not account for the extreme differences between siblings. I have two older brothers. We were all raised the same yet we differ so much you'd hardly know it. :up:

Dacotah 15. January 2009, 00:17

You are welcome Sarah.
I know I went to a parenting class and it helped alot, my daughter didn't like it because it worked. :D
If you would like I could find out what it was called.

MsBeHaven 15. January 2009, 00:33

My heart goes out to you. I have three kids (boy, girl, boy) and the girl was BY FAR the most difficult.
She's grown now, but I have always joked with her that "If I had have had her first, she would have been an only child!!"
:smile:
Hang in there... you'll get through it; then you'll wonder where the time went and won't be able to believe they are already grown and gone.

only-a-yard 15. January 2009, 12:32

Sarah you're absolutely right I'm a parent myself and indeed I even have grandchildren now and parenthood is never easy and can be very difficult at times but if you do it well and with love you'll reap the rewards in the future, my point was and remains that violence only breeds violence

beimprimatur 15. January 2009, 17:33

our kids can't understand why do we have such idiotic rules and keep them :smile:

wickedlizard 15. January 2009, 18:59

awww my little one also disobeys the rules sometimes... maybe, in the heat of the moment, they just forgot the rules because they were fighting? :hugs:

They'll get it someday! :heart:

maddysman2003 16. January 2009, 01:57

Rules are for conformists. Just look at it as encouraging their individuality.

MsBeHaven 16. January 2009, 03:36

There ya go Brian! I like your way of thinking!!!!

Hermitess 16. January 2009, 13:02

Big Hugs Sarah!! :heart:

I don't have kids but after having our neice, 13, and nephew, 15, live with us for 9 weeks last fall, I can understand parental frustration. They behaved so badly & nothing we did made it better. They lost privileges, were grounded to their rooms, and did extra chores for 8 weeks. Didn't slow them down at all.

:wizard: I hope things get easier for you soon!

angel292005 16. January 2009, 14:49

Sooo nice to hear everyone's opinion. I have a lot to think about now. I think so far the base of their discipline is good, we are just still tweaking the heck out of it each day.

Parenting is like a bendable, never ending piece of piping. The possibilities are endless in which ways to go and do things. I make many mistakes, but appreciate all the opinions that every one shares. This is great therapy for me...

Thanks everyone!

wickedlizard 23. January 2009, 17:31

:heart: You're doing just fine! :smile:

maddysman2003 24. January 2009, 02:38

I find the best children belong to someone else. I am never apt to give out parental advice since I am not one. But I am becoming a Big Brother volunteer on Sunday, so I may be learning a few things myself.

studio41 27. January 2009, 23:01

40% of children's behaviour is upbringing. 40% of children's behaviour is genetic.

bummer, mine don't have a chance, then!

you are entertaining, even if you are frustrated :smile:

angel292005 29. January 2009, 16:21

@Issy Thanks!

@Brian, Good for you! Do you like it?

:o: Thanks

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