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wow, a very good topic sis, i do still remember my first love, and after discussing her with someone last week, i actually saw her for the first time in about 5 years, it was 20 years ago that i fell, and i still get that butterfly feeling in my stomach every time i see her, i was driving, she was walking, so we did not meet, but seeing her was enough to bring back those feelings, as i was 20 at the time, you could hardly call it puppy love, but for me it was a very scary feeling, being tongue tied, feeling shy, trying not to stutter my words as she first told me of her feelings for me, it was all very confusing to me, but a very very happy time once i got over most of my shyness. it did not last long, as you say, love blinds you to the true chracter of a person. and she found that she did not love me after all. but even now, i do still love her. that is why i get the butterflies in my stomach. it has left me untrusting, scared of being hurt again, but mostly, it has left me with a great memory of being special to someone, for those short months we were together. it is the best feeling in the world.

Hi sis, i have not heard anything from rachel, my first love, in 5 years, but the last i did hear was from her sister who came to visit me, she said rachel had left the father of her first 2 children, and was now living with the father of the 3rd and 4th children, when i saw her last week she was pushing a babies pushchair so she could have at least one more, and she was with the same person as she was with 5 years ago, so i assume this baby was his too, as far as i know she is not working now, but 5 years ago she was working with sarah, her sister at a nursing home for the elderly. i even gave rachel a lift to work one day, but she ignored me the whole time she was in the car, sarah was there too, and rachel only got in the car after sarah did, and when i said hello, she did not answer, she did say thanks" as she got out of the car, but that was all she did say. it left me confused, happy that i had seen her and spoken to her after 15 years, but upset that she had not spoken back. i guess time does not heal all wounds. when we broke up, i did and said things that now make me embarrassed, but then made me think, "i have to do all i can, not to lose her" i regret a lot of the things i wrote to her, words of pain, words of desperation, words that must have caused her to be scared of me, i did not threaten violence, i am not that type of person, but i found it very hard to just let go. i now believe that if i had let go straight away, we would have stayed friends, and we may even have got back together. it was the fear of losing her, that in the end, forced her to leave. unfortunately sis, i am a very romantic person, i am lead by my feelings, we have a saying about people like me, "they wear their hearts on their sleves" it means poeple like me show their emotions, rather than hiding them away. bye for now my sister, my lunch break is over, ha ha, i will reply to your other message at home in about 4 or 5 hours, i am sorry if you will be asleep by then, good night, and see you soon,

hello friend stop by here, sorry if my opinion some people not to your liking or my presence in this social network, but the topic is interesting, I believe that first love is platonic, it is that makes you dream, that everything makes you look beautiful, but at my age I could say that my true love was Alexander, who will love him all my life, that would give my life to see, hear his voice, but like all good things last long, but is eternal and that is a very special person in my heart as I am in your heart, our hearts will be intertwined forever, because we joined links, events of our lives, that made our relationship strong, despite the distance that's my opinion and a friend do not want to bother anyone, greetings and hope you're well and not forget me:p

hi sister, you are right we may not have stayed friends for long, it was just a thought, and thoughts are never as reality, i wanted it to be true, but who knows if it would have been? yes there was also the fear of her meeting someone else, if we had stayed friends, i would have had to watch her date other people. i am sure that would have hurt me and caused me to be even more angry. i do hope she is happy now, but then i wanted her to be happy with me, no one else. some times i wish i could change the past, but i guess i would probably just make it worse not better. it happened for a reason, now she has atleast 4 children, i have to assume she is happy. and happy we did break up, i have always said this too sis, "how would we know if we are hot, if we have never been cold, how would we know we are sad, if we have never been happy". you can not apreciate 1 without the other. this is just like your theory that you have to have a bad relationship, to fully apreciate a good one, and i agree with you, as hard as it is, as much as it hurts, it does give you a lesson, if you will just try to learn it, it is our good, and bad experiences that make us who we are today, we are made up of our past. and this should help us in our future. i am very sorry to hear you have not yet found someone to love you truely. having someone to love you is a great feeling, and just knowing you are loved, that is the very best feeling i have ever felt. but i only know this because i have felt the other side of it, the one sided love, me in love with someone who did not really love me, so you are right sister, i apreciated being loved by simplicidad, because i had felt unloved by rachel. i hope for you, it is the being loved one you feel, it is very hard to feel in love, but unloved. that is why i tried to help janet for a month before deleting her, i do love her, and did not want janet to feel the way i did when i lost rachel, i wanted janet to still feel loved. but in the end sis, it did not work, we could not be friends while we still felt love for eachother. a world without hope, is a world i would not like to live in, hopes and dreams are what make us human, they make us set goals, and do our best to reach them. without hope, dreams, goals, and ambitions, where would we be now? still living in caves if we had ever lived at all. our whole species evolved by having the ability to dream. and what better dream, than to dream of being loved? i can think of none. my day was great thank you. i hope yours was too. i enjoyed reading your comments sis, they are very true points you make, and do help me to put things into perspective. good night my su muoi, john xxx

hi janet, i hope you are feeling okay? xxx

for my true love is that which removed you the dream, which when these to alone you think in the beloved person and you only risk of thinking in, when you see the sky you think that you are doing in your life, is very sad love and not be loved, but most painful is to not try to fight for a love, I me not repent of having loved a single day of my life, because it is sad to live forever loving someone and not have enough valentia demonstrate or tell someone you love, as they say is best to ask perdon that ask permission

love with the weather changes, sometimes it is very solid as a rock, but sometimes is very weak, no one can say that is a unique situation, the routine is the worst ally of love, work is another cause who kill to love, because sometimes there are days in the couples think that you become a piece of furniture or an object more than decoration, but also true love can be to a friend, to their fathers, toward life, toward the music, love simply is a gift, that whoever gets it should get care as a treasure:heart:

hi su muoi, i am 40 years old and single, do you really think i know the answer to the question "how to find our beloved" ha ha, i wish i did, it is a very hard thing to do, if you look for it, it never seems to be around, if you wait for it, it never turns up, ha ha. i think looking for love does not work, as it is hard to go from not knowing someone, to being in a relationship. where as if you make friends first you can get to know someone while you find out if you are compatible. so my answer is make friends, then look at which one is most likely to be the one, even that does not work, as once you are friends, it is hard to go from just friends to dating, like you said sis, it is complicated, i feel in love 3 times, and so far i have been hurt 3 times, my first did hurt the most, losing someone who was a friend first, the second was just annoying to lose, not really very upsetting, then there was simplicidad, and as she will read this, i had best not comment, but yes it did hurt to lose her too. why was she not the one? not speaking the same language caused too many arguments, mostly my fault, i was the one doing the translating, but even now i still do not know why 2 people in love can fall apart so badly. i thought we were perfect together, except for the distance and the language, and we both thought love would be enough to bridge both. maybe we were not destined to be together, i hope you do find your beloved sister, and i hope you find the right one, finding the wrong one is just too painful to endure it too often, love, such a short word, probably the hardest word to define, have you ever thought you had found love sis? it is a wonderful feeling, but it takes over your whole being, and if it ends, you are left with just emptyness, i hope i have not put you off from looking sis, ha ha, it can be a wonderful thing too. i would not change a single thing about the times i was in love and still happy, it really is the best feeling anyone can have, xxx

hi janet, happy sunday, xxx

I do not believe me, someone I truly loved in opera, because you love someone who does not scorn it or ignore it, not change it in 2 or 3 weeks for someone else, love is real hard beautiful memories, but I'm just the bad taste of his contempt, it is very hard to read what you loved the person thinks about you, it's very hard to read that for making a mistake, we judge and condemn you, as someone in opera judge me and condemn me for that love I have given my life when that person came into my life gave me peace, to live, I felt reborn, but now to read how he feels about me, feel much pain, I feel that that person just play with my feelings, I read a lot of people who met online and married him, I saw people, but I did not gave me my only gave me pain, now that person is happy, I know, my heart is like a broken glass, her pieces together but with the mark, that mark said that the pieces never come together completely, so anyone who finds a love that fight, to defend him, to look after him, which protects like a baby, because love is so fragile, so susceptible, but there are people who never dare to fight fear, prefer to live in the past and miss the life, living in a past love

if the past is a happy past, then there is nothing wrong with remembering it with fondness and joy. sorry janet, your english is not translating properly. i think my sister minh may be having trouble deciding what it is you are trying to say.

hi sis, i think janet is using a google translator, so it will be very difficult for you to translate it into vietnamese or even english, i can only undestand some of it, hopefully she will write in spanish next time, then we can translate her words easier. i hope you are having a great saturday my su muoi, love your anh trai, xxx