China Jon's Syncretic Journal

I looked into the theories of "Soul Mates" and found that it is mostly a romantic notion, quite rebellious in nature with regard to society, often is linked to the idea of "True Love,"and usually limited in application. I found some art that I liked and some writing that was interesting. First, what I found, then how I responded:

To My Soulmate

"Somehow, out of all the twists & turns our lives could have taken,
& out of all the chances we might have missed,
it almost seems we were given a meant-to-be moment~to meet,
to get to know one another, & set the stage for a special togetherness.

When I'm with you, I know that I'm in the presence of someone
who makes my life more complete than I ever dreamed it could be.
I turn to you for trust, & you give it openly.
I look to you for inspiration, answers, & encouragement, &
~not only do you never let me down
~you lift my spirits & take my thoughts to places where my troubles seem so much farther away
& my joys feel they're going to stay in my life forever."

by Carey Martin
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True love is a modern idea and very Western in style. It is counter to the idea of what constitutes a "perfect" relationship in many cultures.

This statement struck a chord with me:
"Love isn't bound by time or space when our connections come from our heart."
by Melody Beattie

I did feel some appreciation of the idea of love, time and space being unlimited, but connected. The concept of the "Soul" must have a limitlessness to it or it would not be a soul. What good is the idea of "Soul Mates" if the soul itself did not exist. Also, it is often said that soul mates seem to respond to each other in ways that do not fit in to the accepted rules of Science.

Of course in the area of human love, our imagination is often motivated to see beyond the ordinary and into places only the poet can describe. The imagery and emotions thus perceived are no less real to us than what can be proven factual. Science has broken down love into three chemical states in the brain. These scientific discoveries might be factual, but they do not explain what people have experienced over the ages. There is more out there than fits the measurements of science. As some people say: "Life is not black and white, it is shades of grey." But love is not just red or green either. Love is shades of rose. Love is degrees of heat. Love is Art, not Science.

So, there is a connection between soul mates but it is not the same for each pair. As some liquids will mix together totally, others will not mix, but still interact if only briefly. And there are solutions where various mixtures create a limitless number of tastes from which we can choose our favorites. Every soul must have the ability to interact with any other soul. But the reaction can not be predicted in advance. It is one of the mysteries of life. I am sure you have heard statements like this:
`Why this one and not that one?
`I expected this one to be so "Right" but it was such a mistake!
`I never knew when I first met her that we would fall in love!
`We loved each other so much, but now, well... it's over.

And you have also heard this one:
`From the first moment we met, we knew we were 'meant to be' and we have been happy ever since!'
That is what I think romantic, sexual, soul mates feel.

But some relationships are neither romantic nor sexual. Still, they feel "Right" and can last longer than most marriages. But like diamonds, they are rare, and very valuable. If you find one, take care of it. It could be your soul mate. If they ask you to dance in the rain with them, don't be afraid to sing as well!