Flirting tips, please

Flirting tips, please

OK, I'm a 19 yr old college student(I'll be 20 in some months later, by then I'd being heading to University). I kinda had my 1st G.F not so long ago, I meet her on tagged.com, but I wasn't satisfied with her at the end, that's why I just spent less than 3 months with her. Now, I'm looking for some one better.
Can you guys they'll me about how to flirt with a girl you just meet, like if you are walking on the street and you just saw he walking by or if you are in a shopping mall

the best chatup line is this i think:
Walk up to a woman and say:

"Do you know any good chat up lines?"

It has worked for me.

Or say:

"Whats the best way to introduce myself to a lady?"

I'm not sure chat-up lines always work and meeting people on the street wouldn't give you the best chances. Shopping mall, classes, events you go to, anything where there is chance to spark up a mutual conversation will work.
Example: You can talk to people about music if you meet them at a music show or they seem lonely on a train listening to headphones.
I think this is the more crucial side to flirting, I'm not saying chat-up lines are bad or won't work, I'm just hoping to expand your mind. Always be yourself, using a chewed up line doesn't allow you to show your amazing qualities that a girl would be interested in.

Having had a life time interest in this subject I would say it is really quite difficult to have any sort of generality here at all. All sorts of things come into the equation making it wide open?

Originally posted by rjhowie:

Having had a life time interest in this subject I would say it is really quite difficult to have any sort of generality here at all. All sorts of things come into the equation making it wide open?

Huh?

Bigg, I've read your opening post and now I've got a question: With a user name like yours, shouldn't I be asking you for flirting tips????

On second thought, maybe not. The crowd I run with offline generally doesn't go in for sleezy, so I guess that would be a non-starter.

So, I guess it depends on the crowd you hang with. What works for one group of people won't work for another.

Originally posted by mjmsprt40:

Bigg, I've read your opening post and now I've got a question: With a user name like yours, shouldn't I be asking you for flirting tips????

On second thought, maybe not. The crowd I run with offline generally doesn't go in for sleezy, so I guess that would be a non-starter.

So, I guess it depends on the crowd you hang with. What works for one group of people won't work for another.

Hey, I'm just getting into the dating game, aite. And it's 'sleezy' not 'sleazy'.
Besides, this is about dating not usernames

Originally posted by TroyMclure:

the best chatup line is this i think:
Walk up to a woman and say:

"Do you know any good chat up lines?"

It has worked for me.

Or say:

"Whats the best way to introduce myself to a lady?"

That wasn't funny, in case you are trying to crack a joke

"Excuse me. Can you direct me to the Victoria's Secret shoppe?"

Originally posted by biggsleezy:

Originally posted by TroyMclure:

the best chatup line is this i think:
Walk up to a woman and say:

"Do you know any good chat up lines?"

It has worked for me.

Or say:

"Whats the best way to introduce myself to a lady?"

That wasn't funny, in case you are trying to crack a joke

I don't think it was joking. Those are pick-up/chat-up lines. The first one works by getting the woman to chat you up and the second is being all polite.
Chat-up lines, I find, degrade a woman. They're worth more than a recycled line, unless you're a degrading person I'd show them what you're like. I'm quite a jokey person, so I'll find common ground and make a light joke about it. Normally I get a smile or something back, even if I'm not trying to get someone. This can lead to a lot of situations where you might have a chance.

Originally posted by Jaybro:

"Excuse me. Can you direct me to the Victoria's Secret shoppe?"

That's it?

That's it. It works every time. If she says, "No!" leave the scene immediately. If she offers to show you the way, you've struck pay dirt.

I fail to see what you don't understand about what I said biggsleezy. How simple do you want it to be?

Originally posted by rjhowie:

I fail to see what you don't understand about what I said biggsleezy. How simple do you want it to be?

Originally posted by rjhowie:

Having had a life time interest in this subject I would say it is really quite difficult to have any sort of generality here at all. All sorts of things come into the equation making it wide open?

This simple maybe: I can't say what will work for you as everyone is different. It all depends on you and the target you are choosing. Anything can affect the outcome and your approach.

If you saw someone in a wheelchair, you wouldn't chat them up with: "Was it a long fall from heaven?". This is the biggest downfall of chat-up lines.

Be yourself! I met this Jamaican girl at Oxford during exile, pretended to be jamaican and lost the lady. So don't be someone you are not.

Originally posted by Thabotizz:

Be yourself! I met this Jamaican girl at Oxford during exile, pretended to be jamaican and lost the lady. So don't be someone you are not.

, I was even thinking of acting french, coz it's like average girls are into for french/spanish dudes

Originally posted by Kramab:

Originally posted by rjhowie:

I fail to see what you don't understand about what I said biggsleezy. How simple do you want it to be?

Originally posted by rjhowie:

Having had a life time interest in this subject I would say it is really quite difficult to have any sort of generality here at all. All sorts of things come into the equation making it wide open?

This simple maybe: I can't say what will work for you as everyone is different. It all depends on you and the target you are choosing. Anything can affect the outcome and your approach.

If you saw someone in a wheelchair, you wouldn't chat them up with: "Was it a long fall from heaven?". This is the biggest downfall of chat-up lines.

IDK coz every girl I try to chat up to ignores me for some reason, even when they respond they give all sorts of excuses which I bet are not true.... at least I think so because there's this one girl I fancied in my course and I suspect that she knew I was into her becoz she kept on telling me, "sorry I'm already taken" another time she told me she didn't like black guys and she was black herself, a few days ago we were on the bus chatting, she said "oh, I'm going to SouthEast London(where there's a lot of black people) to meet my boyfriend", that's when I suspected girls nowadays like to lie to turn you off, I'd rather prefer her to say that she's not interested.

Originally posted by biggsleezy:

IDK coz every girl I try to chat up to ignores me for some reason, even when they respond they give all sorts of excuses which I bet are not true.... at least I think so because there's this one girl I fancied in my course and I suspect that she knew I was into her becoz she kept on telling me, "sorry I'm already taken" another time she told me she didn't like black guys and she was black herself, a few days ago we were on the bus chatting, she said "oh, I'm going to SouthEast London(where there's a lot of black people) to meet my boyfriend", that's when I suspected girls nowadays like to lie to turn you off, I'd rather prefer her to say that she's not interested.

A man on a bicycle totally followed me for hours today. I first saw him when i was on a bike too, then while i was in the art museum he was outside, then i walked to Starbucks, and after leaving there to go home he slowed down to my walking pace and chatted about the weather...awkward/creepy much?

I'm telling you this because it really just happened about an hour ago and I feel like sharing it AND to let you know that you don't always know a person's situation. In my case, I do have a boyfriend who I love more than life itself and if it was this man's intention to ask me out he would have been told the same thing you were told the first time. And it is true. The best thing you can do is take the hint and move on. You seem like an intelligent person with a bright future so don't worry so much. You will meet someone and everything will fall into place naturally.

Too difficult I am afraid this one biggsleezy. We don't know you personally, know what you look like how you act. Whether you are confident are a communicator or what. See what I mean? May be hard for you but I don't see how anyone on the forum no matter how experienced can be a great help being a distant figure.

Originally posted by jessheartsben:

A man on a bicycle totally followed me for hours today. I first saw him when i was on a bike too, then while i was in the art museum he was outside, then i walked to Starbucks, and after leaving there to go home he slowed down to my walking pace and chatted about the weather...awkward/creepy much?

Just skimmed, did I take this out of context... call it in

Originally posted by jessheartsben:

Originally posted by biggsleezy:

IDK coz every girl I try to chat up to ignores me for some reason, even when they respond they give all sorts of excuses which I bet are not true.... at least I think so because there's this one girl I fancied in my course and I suspect that she knew I was into her becoz she kept on telling me, "sorry I'm already taken" another time she told me she didn't like black guys and she was black herself, a few days ago we were on the bus chatting, she said "oh, I'm going to SouthEast London(where there's a lot of black people) to meet my boyfriend", that's when I suspected girls nowadays like to lie to turn you off, I'd rather prefer her to say that she's not interested.

A man on a bicycle totally followed me for hours today. I first saw him when i was on a bike too, then while i was in the art museum he was outside, then i walked to Starbucks, and after leaving there to go home he slowed down to my walking pace and chatted about the weather...awkward/creepy much?

I'm telling you this because it really just happened about an hour ago and I feel like sharing it AND to let you know that you don't always know a person's situation. In my case, I do have a boyfriend who I love more than life itself and if it was this man's intention to ask me out he would have been told the same thing you were told the first time. And it is true. The best thing you can do is take the hint and move on. You seem like an intelligent person with a bright future so don't worry so much. You will meet someone and everything will fall into place naturally.

I know but, sometimes I used to wish I could have more dating experience, coz I'm not getting any younger. At times I used to get the feeling that there I do or have that makes women not into me.
No woman has ever asked me out(not even the ones I don't fancy, but if that happened that'll boost my confidence ) this makes me think that they expect to come to them, but when I do it, I end up gaining nothing and they ignore me like I'm a street beggar or a drunk.

Originally posted by biggsleezy:

I know but, sometimes I used to wish I could have more dating experience, coz I'm not getting any younger.

Dude, you're 19! Maybe your problem is you say these things that sound like you're 10 years older.

Originally posted by biggsleezy:

No woman has ever asked me out

Be glad there's no creepy women out there trying to fondle your behind or worse.

Originally posted by biggsleezy:

this makes me think that they expect to come to them, but when I do it, I end up gaining nothing and they ignore me like I'm a street beggar or a drunk.

Eh, everyone's walked a blue (Dutch expression). Nothing to worry about.

Originally posted by Frenzie:

Originally posted by biggsleezy:

I know but, sometimes I used to wish I could have more dating experience, coz I'm not getting any younger.

Dude, you're 19! Maybe your problem is you say these things that sound like you're 10 years older.

Originally posted by biggsleezy:

No woman has ever asked me out

Be glad there's no creepy women out there trying to fondle your behind or worse.

Originally posted by biggsleezy:

this makes me think that they expect to come to them, but when I do it, I end up gaining nothing and they ignore me like I'm a street beggar or a drunk.

Eh, everyone's walked a blue (Dutch expression). Nothing to worry about.

Yh I gess you're right

Learn to part your hair with your tongue!

one do not do is if she is reading a book or listening to headphones she doesn't want to be bothered. I hate when people hit on me and I obviously want to not be bothered.

I like Troy's suggestion , that would work for me and it's cute and funny.

Don't use a 'line' at all, you can say the truth like "I saw you from across the room and I just had to introduce myself, my name is.. what is yours?" that's really all you need to do.

Just say

hiya

I like Troy's suggestion , that would work for me and it's cute and funny.

See!!

Chatting up a girl should not be something you practice in front of a mirror, it should come naturally. And please aviod using those lines i dont know about other girls but i dont do street comedians.
You also need to study a girl's body language so you dont waste your time on who's not interested.
For a guy who 19 and about to enrol in a university, i would advice you to concentrate more on getting good grades. Girls should be the least of your worries. There's alway someone for everyone.

how about a chat up line for women.....what the best chat up line to use when a woman wants to approach a guy???????

how about a chat up line for women.....what the best chat up line to use when a woman wants to approach a guy???????

Do these look real?

Originally posted by TroyMclure:

how about a chat up line for women.....what the best chat up line to use when a woman wants to approach a guy???????

Do these look real?

nah Did you fart? Because you blew me away