Cricket Sounds

It’s coming up to our 18th anniversary this weekend and Ilove my husband more each hurdle we climb over. Our marriage has had its ups and downs and we have survived and I hope that we will grow old together and celebrate many more. This brings me to a topic close to my heart. Maybe I should start a support group or something. I mean there are so many people who are affected by bad choices made by their spouse. There are to many couples who don’t communicate. Me, I like straight talking and I like it when people tell me how it is. If Mark was staying with me because of the kids, I would truly throttle him. I just can’t believe how many men stay married because of kids. It’s not right; their wife deserves to find a bloke who would want to love her

I am truly saddened by the way husbands and wives treat each other. What the hell? - I mean if they are happily married, then why are they looking for illicit affairs?...And that’s behind their partners back.!!! Why can’t they discuss the missing spark instead of wasting all their energy on hiding their discretions? What makes men and women cheat? Here are a few ads placed by some married men and women

…..”Male, not long hit 40 (oh dear, another one, I know, I know...), happily married, gorgeous kids, but wanting to find that missing spark in life with someone special”

……”I am a successful businessman, am married with kids, ... and scared that life is going to pass by with such speed. Feel that i would love to experience a bit of spice and excitement in my life; i dont want a string of women (i should be so lucky!)just some one special to get to know; that is just for me ! Nothing to do with my work life nor my current personal life.
I am not looking to break up anyones world and would offer as much discretion as i would expect back.”

…..”I am a caring,affectionate,considerate male -stuck in a brother/sister type relationship with a wife who's physical disabilities make it impossible to have a normal loving relationship.
I can’t walk away, but i know i need something for me......
I have a physically demanding job, a wicked sense of humour, and a need to get the most out of every day. We are here for such a short time........”

……”Hi, I'm not looking to rock the marital boat, but like many people, I am leading an affectionless, lonely married life. I have 2 fantastic teenage daughters and would not want disrupt their lives.
I have my own business and play in a band so am busy, but never too busy!!”

……”am a married man who is finding that marriage is not what it used to be. I am hard working but fun to be with and certainly enjoy being with someone who enjoys being with me, a peck on the cheek when I get home from work just don't do it. I have little spare time but when I do, I enjoy the simple things in life, a simple meal out, a walk in the woods, drive to a country pub or relaxing at home.
Spending too much time as an aquaintance and not enough as a partner.
Feeling completely unappreciated and want the buzz of looking forward to seeing someone or that buzz when they call or text, just want to feel wanted again!”


…..”Squeezing a life into a few lines is tough but here goes, I'll try to be brutally honest.
Married nearly 20 years, 2 kids, stuck in a rut,
everything is soooo routine its driving me crazy.
I am well and truely stuck in my comfort zone and could never even dream of hurting my family so DISCRETION IS A MUST!”

…..”Hi, I;m 43 married with 2 lovely kids.I love my wife but I'm bored with my life.I need some excitment.It seems life is racing away and all I have done is work hard.I know it sounds selfish and it is!
I need to feel that buzz of excitment from meeting someone new, having a laugh, flirting and just feeling young again.”

….”Im a well built woman who stands about 5ft9ish, im in an on off relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years, i think its itch time! I don’t think we have as much magic as we did, and to be honest im a little bored, I don’t want to finish my relationship which is why this site is perfect, im just looking for a change at the moment and im not even sure how this will go!, but I will try anything once (within reason).”

….”fun loving female, married,but missing that something!!, need to feel alive again and not taken for granted!!!”

…..”I'm honest, friendly and chatty. I am trying to escape from the boredom of being in a long relationship.
I miss the spark you get when meeting someone new”

….”I'm 43 years old, married with 3 children the youngest now 14. I like to have fun but that seems lacking at the moment.”

Have you noticed the words used like:
-Happily married
-Missing spark
-Life is going to pass by with such speed
-Discretion
-A brother/sister type relationship
-Affectionless
-Lonely
-Just want to feel wanted again.
-Soooo routine
-Need some excitement
-It’s itch time???
-Bored
-I’m honest……(Yeah right!)
-Lacking

Hell, it sounds like a ME, MYSELF AND I problem. Poor me! me !me!me!me !me !me!
I am finding it really hard to understand why things get to this point in a relationship. Surely if things aren’t how you want them, you discuss it and work it out, even if it means counseling. I mean everything and anything to save your marriage. If you can't fix it, leave it. Seems simple enough….not

And to crown it all they say they are happily married. What is that all about? If you are happy why do you want an affair? I just don’t get it? I think these people are deluding themselves. They are missing direction in their lives or don’t have goals? What happened to happy ever after or till death us do part? Are we just possessions that when we get sick of playing with the one thing, we discard it and look for another?........ Nooooo, we love our old thing so we hide it out of the way till we get sick of our new thing. I guess that’s where the saying “What the eyes don’t see won’t hurt you” comes from.

I’ve read that scientists have discovered that these people have a flaw. They possess the “love rat” gene. Ha!! Yeah right. Any excuse eh!! Dream on. I have to agree that the latest piece of scientific 'evidence' is about as useful as a stiletto heel at a soggy garden party. Cheating is not genetic it’s pathetic. Excuses!! Ha!! Why do love rats always find excuses to cheat? What happened to integrity? One of the worst ones I’ve heard is, that we are not meant to be monogamous. Sure maybe so but we choose to be. Cheating is a choice pure and simple. Sure you are going to find people sexually attractive. So what do we do? We run into trouble when we attach ourselves to those feelings and start acting out of physical desire. You see Ladies and Gents those of you who blame the third party which is an entirely different story .Your man or your lady is responsible for their actions. Them alone.

It would be great to hear people’s opinion on this. Mine is It is wrong to cheat It is soul wrenching pain .People do it because they want an ego boost and there is nothing that will stop them having that thrill. Whether they are married and love their wife/husband .That’s why if they cheat more than once, it becomes useless. If you (the cheater) can’t learn from the first lesson then at the end of the day what is the point? Why are you married?