Intersex communication problems
Tuesday, 21. October 2008, 20:38:03
This is a really old topic. None the less I did some fieldwork and want to share my results especially with the male readers. I'm going to concentrate on one certain topic for which I want to cite:
"There are no stupid questions. There are only stupid answers!"
This citation is really incorrect. It should go like:
"There are stupid questions. There are just few intelligent answers to it."
Maybe stupid was better replaced with superfluous. So why am I saying this? When men talk, they do it for a certain purpose. Women do that too! But women often talk to ... to ... just to talk. So there is a discrepancy which can be poison to closer realtionships between men and women. A woman will never say to a men "Talk to me." nor will she use trite phrases like "The whether is nice today.". She will ask a question! No matter if she has any sensible question at hand, she will ask a question!. Let's have a look at an example of my fieldwork:
scenario: man stood up earlier than woman and has just finished having breakfast when the woman sits down on the table.
woman: Have you eaten something?
man: No, I just toasted some bread, punched it on my forehead several times to leave some crumbs on the table and mounted it in my San Andreas Rift to smuggle it to the toilet!
woman has a metaphoric questionmark in her face
man: Ah yeah, and I hauled the knife through my suppurative furuncle to make it look like used.
result: the morning atmosphere reaches the freezing point.
What has gone wrong here? The man is like "Wtf? Use your eyes and you'll know the answer!". And another capital mistake is the irony. Be careful with irony and women in general. There are many who have even darker humor than me. But be careful. Especially in the morning! What the woman wanted to ask was ... or better to say was: "Hey, talk to me
"
If you're not one of the lucky guys meeting a girl able to handle such reactions - or even better, not asking such questions - realize what you have! It's not contervailable with anything! For all other men: We have to learn how to react the right way in such situations.
You're now confronted with another scenario. We start with something simple.
scenario: Man stood up, went into the bathroom to get rid of some liquids and comes back. The woman is sitting on a chair in front of a mirror and busy with her hair. The curtains are all closed and it's darker outside than under Rosie O'Brians skirt anyway.
woman: Will it rain today?
a) man: Oh no, did I put that Haddad face on again? Stupid convulsions ...
b) man: Heck, how should I know?
c) man: Regarding the weather forecast it will rain a bit in the afternoon.
d) man: Hmm, I'm not quite sure. Better take a coat with you when you go out.
So ... what have you said? a, b, c or d? Think good about it!
You have taken a? Worst way to go. It was no answer to the question, offensive as it shows her how stupid this question was and irony in a morning. Your relationships will not last long if you get used to such answers!
You have taken b? Well, you're honest. But that's really not what she wanted to hear. She'll forgive you.
You have taken c? That's a good unoffensive answer. Unfortunately she didn't really want to know if it will rain.
You have taken d? THAT'S A HIT!
You're getting the concept ...
to be continued
"There are no stupid questions. There are only stupid answers!"
This citation is really incorrect. It should go like:
"There are stupid questions. There are just few intelligent answers to it."
Maybe stupid was better replaced with superfluous. So why am I saying this? When men talk, they do it for a certain purpose. Women do that too! But women often talk to ... to ... just to talk. So there is a discrepancy which can be poison to closer realtionships between men and women. A woman will never say to a men "Talk to me." nor will she use trite phrases like "The whether is nice today.". She will ask a question! No matter if she has any sensible question at hand, she will ask a question!. Let's have a look at an example of my fieldwork:
scenario: man stood up earlier than woman and has just finished having breakfast when the woman sits down on the table.
woman: Have you eaten something?
man: No, I just toasted some bread, punched it on my forehead several times to leave some crumbs on the table and mounted it in my San Andreas Rift to smuggle it to the toilet!
woman has a metaphoric questionmark in her face
man: Ah yeah, and I hauled the knife through my suppurative furuncle to make it look like used.
result: the morning atmosphere reaches the freezing point.
What has gone wrong here? The man is like "Wtf? Use your eyes and you'll know the answer!". And another capital mistake is the irony. Be careful with irony and women in general. There are many who have even darker humor than me. But be careful. Especially in the morning! What the woman wanted to ask was ... or better to say was: "Hey, talk to me
"If you're not one of the lucky guys meeting a girl able to handle such reactions - or even better, not asking such questions - realize what you have! It's not contervailable with anything! For all other men: We have to learn how to react the right way in such situations.
You're now confronted with another scenario. We start with something simple.
scenario: Man stood up, went into the bathroom to get rid of some liquids and comes back. The woman is sitting on a chair in front of a mirror and busy with her hair. The curtains are all closed and it's darker outside than under Rosie O'Brians skirt anyway.
woman: Will it rain today?
a) man: Oh no, did I put that Haddad face on again? Stupid convulsions ...
b) man: Heck, how should I know?
c) man: Regarding the weather forecast it will rain a bit in the afternoon.
d) man: Hmm, I'm not quite sure. Better take a coat with you when you go out.
So ... what have you said? a, b, c or d? Think good about it!
You have taken a? Worst way to go. It was no answer to the question, offensive as it shows her how stupid this question was and irony in a morning. Your relationships will not last long if you get used to such answers!
You have taken b? Well, you're honest. But that's really not what she wanted to hear. She'll forgive you.
You have taken c? That's a good unoffensive answer. Unfortunately she didn't really want to know if it will rain.
You have taken d? THAT'S A HIT!
You're getting the concept ...
to be continued
WIDGETIZE
Allan # 21. October 2008, 21:50
Deke # 27. October 2008, 23:29
Man replies "No, I'm getting all dressed up in case weather like that comes in here."
Woman never sees joke.
Sarcasm. It's a dying art.
Which reminds me, I have to get some new colour for my jeans. That's a dying art as well.
Women understand that one.