My Opera我為什麼戒菸 FACEBOOK（我什麼都做事後）
Tuesday, October 4, 2011 11:21:09 AM
There are two Big Things that really, really bug me about Facebook. There’s also one Big Thing that has been really great about using it. Let me start with the positive:
The Good: Facebook has made it dramatically easier for me to keep in touch with friends and family.
Facebook’s apps are rubbish and generate spam, its groups are occassionally interesting, but the number one killer feature for me is the way I am now connected with so many more of my friends and family that I’d rarely see or hear from otherwise.
Facebook got like this because, among all the alternatives, it was probably the simplest social networking tool to use, and the easiest to “get”. So, over time, pretty much everyone has found their way on to it, with the stragglers still arriving at a fair pace.
Among other things, this aspect of Facebook has put me back in touch with most of my cousins, and resulted in us hosting our American niece for a year. Life-changing, life-affirming stuff. Thank you Facebook.
But then there are the Two Big Gripes…
The Big Bad #1: Facebook sucks everything into itself
Once upon a time, people wrote each other emails. However, email is not an easy medium for many people to work with, and it’s no surprise—with Facebook becoming the focus for a lot of other online socialising—that people find Facebook’s messaging system a lot easier.
Another thing that is being sucked into Facebook is blogging and content posted on websites which aren’t Facebook. I’ll publish this blog post in about an hour, and I bet you anything there’ll be some comments on the link I leave on Facebook and hardly any here.
Now, I don’t really mind where dicussions takes place, or the specific tools people prefer for communication. I email and blog because I want to communicate with people. So, if that communication comes back in a different way, what’s my problem?
My problem is in recovering the valuable details of the communication in the future. Before Facebook, all the traces of my personal communications with people were in my email application. I’m not a prolific blogger, but I’d also quite like all discussion about my blog posts to be attached to them. I might change my mind about an issue because of a comment, and it would be nice for future readers to be able to see the arguments taking shape and the shifting viewpoints. But if you take half of the communication and bury it in Facebook (or anywhere else), the value is reduced.
Facebook could have made their messaging system so that I could reply to messages by email—then I’d have the record—but they didn’t. I have to log into Facebook to reply and leave my email app behind.
On the blogging/website issue, Facebook have provided some help—for the technically able. If I’d had more time and ability, I could have integrated Facebook Connect into my blog, and perhaps this would have syncronised some of the comments between Facebook and my blog posts. I don’t know if it would work the way I want it too—ensuring comments about my blog posts are fed through and stored on my blog—but it was a possibility.
But then there’s the second Big Gripe—the one that is bugging a lot of people at the moment…
The Big Bad #2: All our stuff belongs to Facebook, and they want everyone* to see it
*especially advertisers
Even if I did have half an hour to spare to review my Facebook privacy settings every time Facebook decide to change them, I now believe that Facebook have a great deal too much arrogance and a world view that holds my wishes in contempt. Take these two quotes, from Facebook’s founder:
“You have one identity… The days of you having a different image for your work friends or co-workers and for the other people you know are probably coming to an end pretty quickly… Having two identities for yourself is an example of a lack of integrity”
Mark Zuckerberg, 2009
“doing a privacy change for 350 million users is not the kind of thing that a lot of companies would do. But we viewed that as a really important thing… we decided that these would be the social norms now and we just went for it.”
Mark Zuckerberg, 2010
Firstly, it’s clear Facebook believe that people who want to keep their work and personal lives seperate are lacking in integrity. I would quite like it if Facebook would allow me to make some posts visible to only some of my Facebook friends—mostly because some of my more technical posts are found utterly boring by my non-technical friends. But Facebook don’t understand this. They crave a world where everything about us is visible to everyone else.
And then, when I combine this belief with their stated readiness to make radical changes to privacy settings because they (to paraphrase) “decide these will will be the new social norms”, I start to get scared. This is arrogance on a scale I’ve never seen before. They have no time for people who don’t see things their way.
The scales have tipped. I’m off.
I’ve always been careful with what I’ve posted on Facebook. I’ve never shared anything there that I wouldn’t want to share publically. So the privacy stuff doesn’t immediately hurt me. But I think it will, sooner or later, hurt some of the people I know, and it is certainly clear to me that this aspect of Facebook isn’t developing in a way that will help me filter the messages I send out to different groups of people. In the end, I can’t stand around and tolerate the inflexibility and unethical behaviour from Facebook on ownership and privacy. The lesser grievance, about Facebook hoovering up all communications from everywhere else and promoting themselves as the sole mediator in my relationships simply strengthens my resolve to put Facebook behind me and embrace new possibilities.
These are my reasons. But there are another 10 here, if you, kind reader, are also thinking the grass might be greener elsewhere.
So… what’s next?
The brightest star seems to be Diaspora*—a self-hosted, open-source, distributed social network. It’s being built by a bunch of lively child-geniuses (can you sense my bitterness?) and the public need is clearly great as they’ve been showered with donations which will fund them to get Diaspora* working by September 2010. Using it might involve installing some software yourself in your own webspace, from where you’ll be able to securely and privately communicate with your contacts on your own terms whilst retaining ownership and control of all your stuff. Installing the software might be tricky for non-techs, so I hope to see a range of service providers gearing up to offer easy access to the network to anyone. Diaspora* is certainly something I’ll be watching closely, and which I’ll be looking to help with—once it becomes available.
Until then, I’m going to use a mixture of other tools to replace the things I’ve been using Facebook for.
Email
Good, old-fashioned email. Particularly the Gmail variety. I’ll make sure I’ve got email addresses for my most valuable Facebook contacts, so that I may email them occasionally with some news, a few choice image attachments, or links to pictures online.
Twitter
Using this already, and finding it great. Not many of my close friends and family use it. Yet }
Posterous
I’ve been playing about with Posterous for writing which is too long for Twitter, but too random, varied and short to make a decent blog post here. It’s way easy to use, and great for networking.
This Blog
I’ve been neglecting it, but no longer. Even if Diaspora* doesn’t turn out to be the answer to all our problems, the combination of blogging and rss feeds were providing a distributed social network before Facebook’s founder was even shaving (wow, sense that bitterness again! I really need to deal with my age issues!).
Orkut and/or Google Buzz
Either of these will be fine by me, if enough of my contacts were using them. I’m starting up profiles in both, and look foward to seeing what happens. Personally, and without very much experience to back this up, I think Orkut is a little better as a Facebook replacement—for the time being. It’s certainly better.
Facebook!
While Facebook inevitably dies a death over the next year or two, you might consider keeping on a locked-down account there so as not to drift out of touch with friends and family. See LIfehacker’s How to Quit Facebook Without Actually Quitting Facebook for the lowdown.
Tammy
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Monday, 17 May 2010, 15:13
Very worthy and I’m sure well thought through. Not practical for non techies, I don’t think. Or at least, I wouldn’t want to give up facebook banter with friends unless I get a lot more irritated with facebook’s approach. (I don’t mind just ignoring the ads).
Will miss you Mark!
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Mark
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Monday, 17 May 2010, 15:20
“Not practical for non techies” - I can’t agree, Tammy. Twitter is very easy, as are Orkut and Google Buzz, and email is something we are all using.
On the other hand, if you are enjoying Facebook, and likely to continue to do so for the foreseable future, you might enjoy it still more if you use Firefox and the adblock extension.
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Elmo
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Wednesday, 19 May 2010, 12:20
My major gripe with FaceBook is anything posted there is inaccessible to those without an account. Having a locked-down FaceBook account (which I have attempted to have since signing-up in 2007) does allow you see things that others have posted, but doesn’t help the majority who can’t or won’t sign-up.
FaceBook is good at finding people and allowing people to find you, but regular e-mails and mailing lists are far superior for communication once you have found them.
See you in the Gardener’s whatever happens on the Internet.
The Good: Facebook has made it dramatically easier for me to keep in touch with friends and family.
Facebook’s apps are rubbish and generate spam, its groups are occassionally interesting, but the number one killer feature for me is the way I am now connected with so many more of my friends and family that I’d rarely see or hear from otherwise.
Facebook got like this because, among all the alternatives, it was probably the simplest social networking tool to use, and the easiest to “get”. So, over time, pretty much everyone has found their way on to it, with the stragglers still arriving at a fair pace.
Among other things, this aspect of Facebook has put me back in touch with most of my cousins, and resulted in us hosting our American niece for a year. Life-changing, life-affirming stuff. Thank you Facebook.
But then there are the Two Big Gripes…
The Big Bad #1: Facebook sucks everything into itself
Once upon a time, people wrote each other emails. However, email is not an easy medium for many people to work with, and it’s no surprise—with Facebook becoming the focus for a lot of other online socialising—that people find Facebook’s messaging system a lot easier.
Another thing that is being sucked into Facebook is blogging and content posted on websites which aren’t Facebook. I’ll publish this blog post in about an hour, and I bet you anything there’ll be some comments on the link I leave on Facebook and hardly any here.
Now, I don’t really mind where dicussions takes place, or the specific tools people prefer for communication. I email and blog because I want to communicate with people. So, if that communication comes back in a different way, what’s my problem?
My problem is in recovering the valuable details of the communication in the future. Before Facebook, all the traces of my personal communications with people were in my email application. I’m not a prolific blogger, but I’d also quite like all discussion about my blog posts to be attached to them. I might change my mind about an issue because of a comment, and it would be nice for future readers to be able to see the arguments taking shape and the shifting viewpoints. But if you take half of the communication and bury it in Facebook (or anywhere else), the value is reduced.
Facebook could have made their messaging system so that I could reply to messages by email—then I’d have the record—but they didn’t. I have to log into Facebook to reply and leave my email app behind.
On the blogging/website issue, Facebook have provided some help—for the technically able. If I’d had more time and ability, I could have integrated Facebook Connect into my blog, and perhaps this would have syncronised some of the comments between Facebook and my blog posts. I don’t know if it would work the way I want it too—ensuring comments about my blog posts are fed through and stored on my blog—but it was a possibility.
But then there’s the second Big Gripe—the one that is bugging a lot of people at the moment…
The Big Bad #2: All our stuff belongs to Facebook, and they want everyone* to see it
*especially advertisers
Even if I did have half an hour to spare to review my Facebook privacy settings every time Facebook decide to change them, I now believe that Facebook have a great deal too much arrogance and a world view that holds my wishes in contempt. Take these two quotes, from Facebook’s founder:
“You have one identity… The days of you having a different image for your work friends or co-workers and for the other people you know are probably coming to an end pretty quickly… Having two identities for yourself is an example of a lack of integrity”
Mark Zuckerberg, 2009
“doing a privacy change for 350 million users is not the kind of thing that a lot of companies would do. But we viewed that as a really important thing… we decided that these would be the social norms now and we just went for it.”
Mark Zuckerberg, 2010
Firstly, it’s clear Facebook believe that people who want to keep their work and personal lives seperate are lacking in integrity. I would quite like it if Facebook would allow me to make some posts visible to only some of my Facebook friends—mostly because some of my more technical posts are found utterly boring by my non-technical friends. But Facebook don’t understand this. They crave a world where everything about us is visible to everyone else.
And then, when I combine this belief with their stated readiness to make radical changes to privacy settings because they (to paraphrase) “decide these will will be the new social norms”, I start to get scared. This is arrogance on a scale I’ve never seen before. They have no time for people who don’t see things their way.
The scales have tipped. I’m off.
I’ve always been careful with what I’ve posted on Facebook. I’ve never shared anything there that I wouldn’t want to share publically. So the privacy stuff doesn’t immediately hurt me. But I think it will, sooner or later, hurt some of the people I know, and it is certainly clear to me that this aspect of Facebook isn’t developing in a way that will help me filter the messages I send out to different groups of people. In the end, I can’t stand around and tolerate the inflexibility and unethical behaviour from Facebook on ownership and privacy. The lesser grievance, about Facebook hoovering up all communications from everywhere else and promoting themselves as the sole mediator in my relationships simply strengthens my resolve to put Facebook behind me and embrace new possibilities.
These are my reasons. But there are another 10 here, if you, kind reader, are also thinking the grass might be greener elsewhere.
So… what’s next?
The brightest star seems to be Diaspora*—a self-hosted, open-source, distributed social network. It’s being built by a bunch of lively child-geniuses (can you sense my bitterness?) and the public need is clearly great as they’ve been showered with donations which will fund them to get Diaspora* working by September 2010. Using it might involve installing some software yourself in your own webspace, from where you’ll be able to securely and privately communicate with your contacts on your own terms whilst retaining ownership and control of all your stuff. Installing the software might be tricky for non-techs, so I hope to see a range of service providers gearing up to offer easy access to the network to anyone. Diaspora* is certainly something I’ll be watching closely, and which I’ll be looking to help with—once it becomes available.
Until then, I’m going to use a mixture of other tools to replace the things I’ve been using Facebook for.
Good, old-fashioned email. Particularly the Gmail variety. I’ll make sure I’ve got email addresses for my most valuable Facebook contacts, so that I may email them occasionally with some news, a few choice image attachments, or links to pictures online.
Using this already, and finding it great. Not many of my close friends and family use it. Yet }
Posterous
I’ve been playing about with Posterous for writing which is too long for Twitter, but too random, varied and short to make a decent blog post here. It’s way easy to use, and great for networking.
This Blog
I’ve been neglecting it, but no longer. Even if Diaspora* doesn’t turn out to be the answer to all our problems, the combination of blogging and rss feeds were providing a distributed social network before Facebook’s founder was even shaving (wow, sense that bitterness again! I really need to deal with my age issues!).
Orkut and/or Google Buzz
Either of these will be fine by me, if enough of my contacts were using them. I’m starting up profiles in both, and look foward to seeing what happens. Personally, and without very much experience to back this up, I think Orkut is a little better as a Facebook replacement—for the time being. It’s certainly better.
Facebook!
While Facebook inevitably dies a death over the next year or two, you might consider keeping on a locked-down account there so as not to drift out of touch with friends and family. See LIfehacker’s How to Quit Facebook Without Actually Quitting Facebook for the lowdown.
Tammy
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Monday, 17 May 2010, 15:13
Very worthy and I’m sure well thought through. Not practical for non techies, I don’t think. Or at least, I wouldn’t want to give up facebook banter with friends unless I get a lot more irritated with facebook’s approach. (I don’t mind just ignoring the ads).
Will miss you Mark!
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Mark
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Monday, 17 May 2010, 15:20
“Not practical for non techies” - I can’t agree, Tammy. Twitter is very easy, as are Orkut and Google Buzz, and email is something we are all using.
On the other hand, if you are enjoying Facebook, and likely to continue to do so for the foreseable future, you might enjoy it still more if you use Firefox and the adblock extension.
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Elmo
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Wednesday, 19 May 2010, 12:20
My major gripe with FaceBook is anything posted there is inaccessible to those without an account. Having a locked-down FaceBook account (which I have attempted to have since signing-up in 2007) does allow you see things that others have posted, but doesn’t help the majority who can’t or won’t sign-up.
FaceBook is good at finding people and allowing people to find you, but regular e-mails and mailing lists are far superior for communication once you have found them.
See you in the Gardener’s whatever happens on the Internet.
有兩件大事，真的，真的我關於 Facebook的錯誤。還有一件大事，已使用它真的很棒。讓我開始積極：
好：Facebook已經使我保持與朋友和家人保持聯繫，它極大地方便。
Facebook的應用程序都是垃圾，產生的垃圾郵件，其群體偶爾有趣，但對我的頭號殺手級的特性，是我現在這麼多的朋友和家人，我很少看到或聽到，否則連接方式。
FACEBOOK了，這樣，在所有的替代品，因為它可能是最簡單的社交網絡工具來使用，最簡單的“獲取”。因此，隨著時間的推移，幾乎每個人都已經發現它自己的方式，與散兵游勇仍然在到達一個公平的步伐。
除其他外，這方面的Facebook已經把我回到我的表兄弟聯繫，我們託管一年我們在美國的侄女。改變人生，肯定生命的東西。謝謝 FACEBOOK。
但是有兩個大的抱怨... ...
大壞＃1：FACEBOOK吸收到自身的一切
曾幾何時，人們寫了對方的電子郵件。但是，電子郵件是不容易許多人的工作與媒介，和它的沒有其他意外與 Facebook成為了很多重點在線社交，人們發現 Facebook的消息系統方便很多。
另一個就是被吸入到Facebook的事情是不屬於 Facebook的網站上張貼的內容和博客。在大約一個小時，我會公佈這個博客後，我敢打賭，你什麼我離開 Facebook上幾乎沒有任何這裡的鏈接將有一些意見。
現在，我不介意dicussions需要的地方，或特定工具的人喜歡的溝通。我的電子郵件和博客，因為我想與人溝通。因此，如果該通信回來以不同的方式，什麼是我的問題呢？
我的問題是恢復有價值的細節在未來的溝通。 Facebook前，我與人的個人通信的所有痕跡，在我的電子郵件應用程序。我不是一個多產的博客，但我也很喜歡我的博客要重視他們的職位的所有討論。因為評論的問題，我可能會改變我的心目中，和為未來的讀者能夠看到的爭論正在形成和轉移的觀點，這將是很好。但如果你把一半的溝通和埋葬在Facebook（或其他地方），該值減少。
Facebook可以有他們的消息系統，這樣我就可以回答，然後通過電子郵件的消息，我有記錄，但他們沒有。我要登錄到Facebook答辯，留下我的電子郵件應用程序背後。
博客/網站的問題，Facebook的提供了一些技術上能夠幫助。如果我有更多的時間和能力，我可以集成到我的博客周邊，也許這會 syncronised Facebook和我的博客文章之間的一些意見。我不知道，如果它的工作方式，我希望它太確保我的博客文章的評論，美聯儲通過和我的存儲博客，但它是有可能的。
但後來有第二大的抱怨之一就是竊聽，目前很多人...
大壞＃2：我們所有的東西屬於到Facebook，並看到它，他們希望每個人*
*尤其是廣告
即使我也有半小時至備用審查我的Facebook的隱私設置每次FACEBOOK決定改變他們，我現在相信，Facebook的有很大太多的傲慢和世界觀持有蔑視我的願望。以這兩個報價，Facebook的創始人：
“你有一個身份... ...你有一個不同的圖像，為您的工作朋友或同事，你知道其他人的日子可能即將結束，很快... ...有兩個為自己的身份是缺乏的一個例子誠信“
馬克扎克伯格，2009
“做一個 350萬用戶的隱私的變化，是不是很多公司會做的事情。但我們視為一個非常重要的事情... ...我們決定，這將是現在的社會規範，我們只是因為它。“
馬克扎克伯格，2010年
首先，它明確 FACEBOOK相信的人要保持他們的工作和獨立的個人生活中缺乏誠信。我會很喜歡它，如果Facebook將允許我做一些職位只有一些可見我的Facebook上的朋友大多是因為我的一些技術崗位都發現我的非技術性的朋友不厭其煩。但Facebook不明白這一點。他們渴望的世界裡，我們的一切是所有人都可見。
然後，當我把他們表示願意與這樣的信念，使激進的更改隱私設置，因為他們（意譯）“這些將決定將新的社會規範”，我開始害怕。這是我從來沒有見過的規模上的囂張氣焰。他們有沒有人看不到自己的方式行事的時間。
規模放倒。我關閉。
我一直小心我在Facebook上張貼。我從來沒有共享什麼，我不會要公開分享。因此，隱私的東西不會立即傷害我。但我想它，遲早會傷害一些人，我知道，它肯定清楚，我認為這方面的Facebook是不發展的方式，會幫我篩選消息發送到不同的群體的人。在最後，我不能站在一旁和容忍來自 Facebook的僵化和不道德的行為，對所有權和隱私。簡單的小委屈，FACEBOOK hoovering其他來自世界各地的所有通信和促進自己作為唯一的調停人我關係，加強我決心把我身後的Facebook和擁抱新的可能性。
這些都是我的原因。但也有另外10個在這裡，善良的讀者，如果你也想草可能更環保的其他地方。
所以... ...下一步是什麼？
最耀眼的明星似乎是散居*-自託管，開源的，分佈式的社會網絡。它由一群活潑的孩子的天才（你能感覺到我的辛酸？）和正在興建的市民的需要顯然是巨大的，因為他們一直在與捐贈將資助他們散居* 2010年9月洗完澡的。使用它，可能需要安裝一些軟件，在自己的網絡空間，自己從那裡你就可以安全地和私下溝通，對你自己的條款，同時保留了所有權和控制所有的東西你接觸。安裝的軟件可能是棘手的非技術人員，所以我希望看到一個整裝待發，準備向任何人提供方便地接入網絡的服務提供商的範圍。散居*是肯定的東西，我將密切注視，我會尋求幫助用一次變得可用。
直到那時，我將使用其他工具的混合物來代替的東西，我一直在使用Facebook。
電子郵件
好，老式的電子郵件。尤其是Gmail的品種。我有我的最寶貴的Facebook聯繫人的電子郵件地址，使我可以通過電子郵件與一些新聞，幾個選擇圖像附件，或鏈接到圖片在線偶爾，我會確保。
嘰嘰喳喳
使用這個已經，並且發現它的偉大。我親密的朋友和家人不使用它。然而，}：）
Posterous
我一直在玩約 Posterous寫這是Twitter的時間太長，但過於隨意，多樣，短到這裡做一個體面的博客文章。它的方式易於使用，並為網絡的偉大。
這個 Blog
我一直忽略它，但不再。散居*即使不打開，我們所有的問題的答案，博客和RSS feeds的結合提供了一個分佈式社交網絡 Facebook的創始人是前甚至剃須（哇，意識的苦頭了！我真的很需要處理我的年齡問題！）。
Orkut和/或谷歌BUZZ
無論這些將被罰款我，如果我足夠的接觸使用他們。我開始在這兩個配置文件，並期待看到發生了什麼 foward。就個人而言，並沒有非常支持這一行動的經驗，我認為 Orkut是一個 Facebook替代暫時好一點。這當然更好。
你的facebook！
雖然 Facebook難免一死，死在未來一年或兩年，你可能會考慮保持在鎖定的帳戶，以免漂移與朋友和家人保持聯繫。見 Lifehacker的是如何退出，而無需實際退出的內幕 FACEBOOK FACEBOOK。
塔米
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2010年5月17日，星期一，15時 13
非常值得，我敢肯定，以及經過深思熟慮。不適用於非技術人員的實際，我不認為。或者至少，我不會想放棄 FACEBOOK與朋友戲謔，除非我得到更多與 Facebook的做法激怒。 （我不介意只是忽略了廣告）。
會想念您標記！
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標記
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2010年5月17日，星期一，15:20
“不實際的，非技術人員” - 我不能同意，泰米。 Twitter是很容易的，因為 Orkut和谷歌BUZZ和電子郵件是我們都在使用。
另一方面，如果你正享受著臉譜，並且會繼續這樣做，以便為 foreseable將來，你可能會喜歡它仍然更多，如果你使用Firefox的Adblock擴展。
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埃爾莫
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2010年5月19日，星期三，12:20
我與 Facebook的主要抱怨是有沒有一個帳戶是無法進入的任何事情。有鎖定的Facebook帳戶（我曾試圖在2007年簽署以來）讓你看到別人發布的東西，但不利於大多數人不能或不會簽署，。
Facebook是在找人，使人們能夠找到你的好，但一旦你找到他們，定期電子郵件和郵件列表是遠遠優於用於通信。
在園丁的任何在互聯網上發生的。
Eli Rauf Tsikataelitsikata # Tuesday, October 4, 2011 11:22:19 AM