Learn to forget the memory
Tuesday, 8. May 2007, 03:52:33
过去的一些事情都会留下记忆，偶尔想起来也是正常的，而且适当地回想过去，也是一种总结。但是如果过分沉浸于过去的某个情境或某件事情，甚至因为此影响到现在的生活，就大可不必了。
就记忆而言，人要想活得快乐，不仅要学会记住该记的，也要学会忘记该忘的，特别是一些对自己并不理想的内容。
忘记过去的不愉快，简单有效的办法是重视现在和未来。以现在的时间为坐标，把你的关注点、关注力从以前向现在、向今后移动，多在现在和未来里找亮度，就能帮助人把现在过得愉快、过得有盼头。
具体的办法：下次脑子里再出现过去的回忆时，站起来走一圈、做点手工事情、找人说说话、大幅度活动身体比如抡抡胳膊踢踢腿等等，都可以帮你转移关注点，把思维拉回到现在。
未来的好日子还长着呢，不愉快的回忆不会也不可能影响你一生，除非是你故意想让它影响你。你想吗？相信你不会。
(Here is my translation)
It is very normal to remember the things before, from time to time. Memories can help us to make reflection and summary. However, if we immersed in the memory of one thing or one flame of mind, the memory would affect our daily life, and that would value nothing.
Not only is it very important to learn how to remember things to be remembered, but also to learn how to forget things to be forgot, especially those unpleasant.
The best and effective way to forget those unpleasant is to focus on the moment and the future.
Make the moment be your coordinate, draw your attention and energy from the past to now and the future and discover brightness in your life now, if do so, you will find that no one is happier than you and your life is full of hope.
Next time when the memory troubles you, here is some tips to make yourself be easy and back to now. Just stand up and walk around, do some things at hand, talk to someone or do exercises, for example, raise up your arms or legs. All these could help you get rid of tiresome memories.
Life is enough happy in the future, those unpleasant memories could not stop you, unless you want it do, do you? You DON'T.
就记忆而言，人要想活得快乐，不仅要学会记住该记的，也要学会忘记该忘的，特别是一些对自己并不理想的内容。
忘记过去的不愉快，简单有效的办法是重视现在和未来。以现在的时间为坐标，把你的关注点、关注力从以前向现在、向今后移动，多在现在和未来里找亮度，就能帮助人把现在过得愉快、过得有盼头。
具体的办法：下次脑子里再出现过去的回忆时，站起来走一圈、做点手工事情、找人说说话、大幅度活动身体比如抡抡胳膊踢踢腿等等，都可以帮你转移关注点，把思维拉回到现在。
未来的好日子还长着呢，不愉快的回忆不会也不可能影响你一生，除非是你故意想让它影响你。你想吗？相信你不会。
(Here is my translation)
It is very normal to remember the things before, from time to time. Memories can help us to make reflection and summary. However, if we immersed in the memory of one thing or one flame of mind, the memory would affect our daily life, and that would value nothing.
Not only is it very important to learn how to remember things to be remembered, but also to learn how to forget things to be forgot, especially those unpleasant.
The best and effective way to forget those unpleasant is to focus on the moment and the future.
Make the moment be your coordinate, draw your attention and energy from the past to now and the future and discover brightness in your life now, if do so, you will find that no one is happier than you and your life is full of hope.
Next time when the memory troubles you, here is some tips to make yourself be easy and back to now. Just stand up and walk around, do some things at hand, talk to someone or do exercises, for example, raise up your arms or legs. All these could help you get rid of tiresome memories.
Life is enough happy in the future, those unpleasant memories could not stop you, unless you want it do, do you? You DON'T.
WIDGETIZE
Michelle Beloshitsky # 18. May 2007, 17:24
Next should be a place for words as beautyful as far from real. A words about that these methods fights against effects, not against sources of the effects, however rightly is to prevent these "things to be forgot". But real life more complex and unexpected thing, and so your tips is very useful too. Thanx.
Ajit # 21. May 2007, 10:50
A professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see and asked the students, 'How much do you think this glass weighs?'
'50 gms!'.... '100 gms!'...... '125 gms' ...... the students answered.
'I really don't know unless I weigh it,' said the professor, 'but, my question is: What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?'
'Nothing' the students said.
'Ok! What would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?' the professor asked.
'Your arm would begin to ache', said one of the students.
'You're right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?'
'Your arm could go numb, you might have severe muscle stress and paralysis and have to go to hospital for sure!' ventured another student; and all the students laughed.
'Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?' asked the professor.
'No'
'Then what caused the arm ache and the muscle stress?' The students were puzzled.
'Put the glass down!' said one of the students.
'Exactly!' said the professor. 'Life's problems are something like this. Hold it for a few minutes in your head and they seem okay. Think of them for a long time and they begin to ache. Hold it even longer and they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything'.
'It's important to think of the challenges (problems) in your life, but EVEN MORE IMPORTANT is to have trust in god and to 'put them down' at the end of every day before you go to sleep. That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh and strong and can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!'
So, as it becomes time for you to leave office today, Remember friend to 'PUT THE GLASS DOWN TODAY'
By worrying so much, do not turn your life to hell. Good luck.
Ajit
Đinh Thị Phương Tâm # 26. May 2007, 07:29
Pfelelep # 31. May 2007, 02:27
One of my friend was complaning about about his great memory: he kust cannot FORGET things.
It was very strange to me to think he was complaning about it...
shakeel chaudhry # 11. August 2007, 10:41
Pfelelep # 18. September 2007, 14:55