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In my case she said, "Get Out!". .

Does 45 days count as a marriage? .

45 days??!!! Did you have a mail order bride? Maybe that is some kind of record. Poor qlue.

Nah, no record. Britny Spiers took care of that. .
We 'met' via cellphone dating. I don't recommend this though. .

I wonder what happened to the good old method of two people seeing each other, dating and getting to know each other?

In muslim culture, it's considered 'bad form' to become romantically involved with someone you're not married to.
In addition, as most married people have told me, you spend the rest of your life getting to know each other.
I do understand your view. I still believe I did the right thing though, both with getting married, and again later, in agreeing to the divorce. You can't hold someone hostage if they don't want to be with you.
I was willing to give it a chance. She had other plans. Her 'other plans' didn't work out though, so in the end, she ended up with nothing. I gained a little wisdom.
Culture makes a difference. Had we gotten together without marrying, she would have been ostracised by her family and the community. As usuall, there is a nasty gender bias there as men are not usually condemned in that way. Muslim marriage is a purely religious thing. It's not fully recognised by law. So it's similar to an 'engagement' in modern, western culture.
Let's be honest here, the only thing that changes in modern culture after marriage is a a little piece of paper, and a slight difference in your taxes. The average modern couple are already living together for five+ years, have two and a half kids, etc.
In muslim culture, (in this country) we first make Nikah, then, after some time, we would go to home affairs and register the marriage. Since a devout muslim does not consume alcohol, gamble, attend nightclubs etc. this is the only option. Of course, not everyone who claims to be muslim is devout in their observance of their religion. Many people choose to do pretty much as they please and only refer to their religion when it suits them. They often use the political divisions within the muslim community to justify their wrong actions.
Ironically, the American FBI has, themselves, observed that the greatest terrorist threat comes not from the devout muslim, but from those who mostly choose to follow a western lifestyle. (my apologies for not including a reference to this as it was something I read shortly after the London Bombing incident and I can't find it now. )