What Was She Thinking?!

Someone hold my drink while I climb down off my soapbox.

Let's Talk About Blow Jobs and Porn, Shall We?

Sunday, August 27, 2006 6:19:33 PM

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I just have to get this off my chest. I'm a pretty liberal, live and let live, do whatever you want as long as it isn't (1) hurting anyone but you or (2) bothering me kind of gal. And, just like every other red blooded female out there, I like sex as much as the next person. And I've been known to give a blow job or two, if the time, place and person are right. (I'm one of those old fashioned bitches who just puts out for the person she's in love with.)

So let me just make this observation: When a woman's eyes are bugged out of her head, when her mascara is running down her cheeks, when her eyes are wet with tears, SHE'S PROBABLY NOT HAVING ANY FUN. And .. there's a big, fat, humongo difference between a blow job and a throat fucking.

A blow job, IMHO, implies that the woman is somewhat in control. A blow job is a sex act between two people, and it should be between two people who care for and trust each other. I'm not sure you can say that about a throat fuck. Because the person who's on the giving end of it has to know when to stop. And these guys just don't. Because part of the point of the throat fuck is to humiliate, to degrade, to assert power over the woman. There's no love lost there. At least not that I can see.

So while, for the man I love, I'll gladly tilt my head back and let him give me all the inches he has, if I ever say stop, or don't or please don't or please stop, he better do just that. Stop. Now.

And what is it with you guys? You're willing to put your most precious organ into the one part of a woman's anatomy that can do it the most harm....

Another Foursome...Hold On to Your Dreams. Hold On to Your Mammaries...

Comments

Sarah angel292005 Sunday, August 27, 2006 6:26:28 PM

yeah, they don't know any better, doing what a man wants them to do...that is just sick and you know us Texas gals are not like that. Don't you just want to tell those girls to bite the fing penis off!!!! stupid girls, and this post came just at the right time, what is up with beautiful girls doing whatever the man tells them to? I swear to God this kind of crap makes me extremely sick to the highest degree!
geez!

CLOSED!Lee_in_FL Sunday, August 27, 2006 8:51:29 PM

I'm still trying to figure out why they call it a "blow" job! confused

Lagged2Death Monday, August 28, 2006 7:03:05 PM

For whatever it's worth, here's at least one guy who doesn't understand the appeal of this type of woman-degrading stuff at all.

Dexamalee Wednesday, August 30, 2006 4:41:52 AM

Great post I must say. But the last commenter guy? Really? Hmm. Anyhow, kudos to your post.

Red-blooded American female from Portland.

Nicolas Borgsmidtnopanic Thursday, August 31, 2006 11:15:09 AM

Must be our primate brain. Some need surgery:chef:

devansdevans186 Thursday, August 31, 2006 4:29:32 PM

BJ's should be given, not taken. doh

Dan DeVilledmfalmeida Friday, September 1, 2006 11:20:29 PM

Hi.
I got to say that (1) blowjobs are awesome - when given gently - and (2) I do let the girl take control.
Basically because I don't really think that men should feel good while the girl is, somehow, suffering. See?
Good one, Joni! wink
Dan

rogerleos Monday, September 4, 2006 9:06:56 AM

I think blowjob has nothing to do with porn. I don't get any hot by watching foolish movies.
I don´t ask for the blowjob if the lady doesn't feel like to do it herself to me. She has to be a good lover first. My warranty is always being so clean and ready. Clean every minute of the day and ready only if I want sex. In fact a blowjob is part of the prelude to special times with the best woman in the right moment. I never cum inside of her mouth as I have as much time as she needs to get an orgasm or two so I will wait for sync after the orgasm comes to her and me.
I am open minded too.

Anyway, I don't have to search for sex. I love first the conversations, the work, the friendship and confidence so a blowjob for itself has no sense at all. It may happen or may not. Who cares? Who knows? No matter how nice it feels to me it has to be nice and really desirable to her which always happen. I prefer women to take the decision so I don't have to show out my pretty thing at first.

I never critizice If she did it good or bad as some are more experts to others. If she's not too experienced I will thank in my heart why she does it rather than how she does it. I have noticed that women younger than 25 still lack of experience, oposite to 30's and 40's lovely ladies which I prefer. I go straight only. No gay sex is for me.

I know my self to have a pretty good sex appeal and it's enought. The rest is flowing. I also like to kiss that sweet hairy female thing and then, the natural. Boys and girls, please BE SAFE.

I like to ask her if she feels really good or no pain is going during penetration. I think to myself that woman thank for that consideration and it becomes a man to a gentleman in bed which woman loves to feel: Not only a sex machine but a lover mate.

Am I wrong sweet ladies ?

Jonijonimueller Monday, September 4, 2006 2:16:42 PM

The next sound you hear will be my suitcase snapping shut and me flagging a taxi to the airport to catch the next plane to Mexico! :-)

Sarah angel292005 Monday, September 4, 2006 5:45:38 PM

I wanted to see what others thought about this.....I have to say Rogerleos is maybe an expert on the subject. Talk is cheap, and actions speak louder than words. I can understand why you would want to go to Mexico Joni, lol

Richardmusickna Monday, September 4, 2006 8:57:24 PM

My wife is not in the least bit reluctant to use her teeth when she has had enough! And, I say, (apart from 'ouch'), good for you & I get your point. Mouths are highly desirable adjuncts; not the real deal. But we are dealing with love here. And porn is not about love; it's the money.

RuneSB Tuesday, September 12, 2006 9:27:24 PM

I think that a "BJ" is the most intimate, most delicate "thing", between a man and a woman.. (for me that is)
And is impossible without absolutely complete trusth.
So if enyone has got that wrong, blame it on them.
They must be filled with all kind of bad stuff. bomb

M W AKBARIwazinakbari Thursday, September 14, 2006 4:07:53 AM

'Bj' has no significance in life.Love is the important factor.Girl below 25 has no experience.Ofcource an experienced man above30 gets much pleasure in her.But at times she feels grief&agony whereas a matured woman above40's can perform any type of job.So friends€girls<25 is for love.friendship.affection.&then by mutual consent'BJ'.Woman >35's is the product of experiences.One can entain one wants

Kay FourKayFour Thursday, September 14, 2006 11:27:33 AM

Interesting blog and posts. I have always felt that blow jobs are GIVEN and not TAKEN. When I was younger and first married, I didn't know any better. I never enjoyed blow jobs then because my EX-hubby didn't know how to enjoy them... he was a throat-fucker (and a few other kinds of "fucker" comes to mind, too.)

Since then, I have learned the difference (and what a huge difference it is) and find it is very intimate and pleasurable to have oral sex with a man. Not a blow job. Not throat fucking. Neither are fun to me.

bobbyb Friday, September 22, 2006 1:55:31 AM

As a male who loves to give blowjobs , I agree to the extent that a blowjob comsists of mutual pleasure. I wouldn't do it just to please a guy, as I do not believe any woman should.

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