My OperaIt's not you, it's me...
Wednesday, November 9, 2011 6:13:55 PM
It needs to click. Simple as that.
And sometimes it doesn't...
Psychologically we want to fit in. Some people even change their accent depending on who they speak to.
It's good for our survival (looking at it from the "cave men" perspective) if the group wants us. We feel secure, we don't have to worry about food and shelter, we are safer from predators, it is easier to find somebody to mate ;P
It feels nice to belong. We are happy when others find us interesting and worth their time. It is truly great to be a part of the team.
Sometimes however we hit a brick wall and it's no longer nice. No matter how much we try there is no chemistry between the group members. Something just doesn't feel right...
The deal with the group is that they usually have common history and ways that have built up way before we decided to join it. In such situations our "impedimenta" clashes with theirs and something's gotta give.
Usually, as we are outnumbered, we change ourselves in order to meet other people's expectations. And sometimes we give up and look for a better environment elsewhere...
And sometimes it doesn't...
Psychologically we want to fit in. Some people even change their accent depending on who they speak to.
It's good for our survival (looking at it from the "cave men" perspective) if the group wants us. We feel secure, we don't have to worry about food and shelter, we are safer from predators, it is easier to find somebody to mate ;P
It feels nice to belong. We are happy when others find us interesting and worth their time. It is truly great to be a part of the team.
Sometimes however we hit a brick wall and it's no longer nice. No matter how much we try there is no chemistry between the group members. Something just doesn't feel right...
The deal with the group is that they usually have common history and ways that have built up way before we decided to join it. In such situations our "impedimenta" clashes with theirs and something's gotta give.
Usually, as we are outnumbered, we change ourselves in order to meet other people's expectations. And sometimes we give up and look for a better environment elsewhere...
