I simply don't understand...
Sunday, 9. November 2008, 19:53:48
... men.
Or even - only one of them.
I live with this hairy creature and most of the times it's cool and dandy, but sometimes I just can't stand the way he does not get why some things are important.
I am not talking about relationship etc. no no no... this is going to be about SOCKS!
Well - not exactly about sock, but you should get what I mean.
I mean that even thoughhe cooks and we split everything evenly - he still does some things worse. Like hanging laundry, cleacning the house - yes he's good in vacuuming, bleaching etc. but to plan where to put something, so it looks good, to make our house home... I think this is faaaaat too much for him:)
Poor little male. I am of course getting frustrated and I am not able to understand why this is not important to him, quality of life.. I mean - he understands when we need new "machine" (computer, microwave, blender etc.) but understanding why I like getting candle holders, vases, posters, paintings... may be a bit too hard.
What I am getting at is - men are living in a life that can be designed by women. They don't see it comint, they don't see it being done, but they use it to extent and they never understand why we're angry at them when they put CD on a wrong shelf...
Or even - only one of them.
I live with this hairy creature and most of the times it's cool and dandy, but sometimes I just can't stand the way he does not get why some things are important.
I am not talking about relationship etc. no no no... this is going to be about SOCKS!
Well - not exactly about sock, but you should get what I mean.
I mean that even thoughhe cooks and we split everything evenly - he still does some things worse. Like hanging laundry, cleacning the house - yes he's good in vacuuming, bleaching etc. but to plan where to put something, so it looks good, to make our house home... I think this is faaaaat too much for him:)
Poor little male. I am of course getting frustrated and I am not able to understand why this is not important to him, quality of life.. I mean - he understands when we need new "machine" (computer, microwave, blender etc.) but understanding why I like getting candle holders, vases, posters, paintings... may be a bit too hard.
What I am getting at is - men are living in a life that can be designed by women. They don't see it comint, they don't see it being done, but they use it to extent and they never understand why we're angry at them when they put CD on a wrong shelf...
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WIDGETIZE
Moesring # 9. November 2008, 20:04
julka # 9. November 2008, 20:10
Hermitess # 9. November 2008, 20:37
LorenzoCelsi # 11. November 2008, 15:16
julka # 11. November 2008, 17:52
That's good. Yes, yes, it's enough for some of you to try only at the beggining of the relationship and then leave it. Well - I am not a sweet fairy to make sure everything is arranged for his heighness. If he doesn't like it - he's not worth it. There needs to be hard work at both sides...
LorenzoCelsi # 11. November 2008, 18:37
julka # 11. November 2008, 18:47
(eg. remembering about important dates, thinking about what [input whatever] he would prefer, even when we're tired trying to be nice... trying to clean aroud the house just to feel good, like "at home"...)
and this is not only with regards to man-woman relationship. Women tend to put more energy to all relationships.
Men are closed at other people and can concentrate at one thing at a time...
LorenzoCelsi # 11. November 2008, 19:04
You can summarize in:
1. find a cave to keep the woman warm and out of the rain
2. hunt the mammoth and bring the meat back in the cave
3. keep an eye open if some predator approaches the cave
Once your man checks on you and sees you are safe, warm and you have eaten, he does not mind about stuff like "important dates" (ahahah) or what kind of fancy decorations you put around the cave, that is "home" only because you are there. I guess you have observed that man don't need to communicate much about feelings, that is because for us "feeling" is "I am hungry" or "I am cold" or "dear, there is a tiger at the entrance of the cave" while the other stuff is white noise.
Ok, today's kids look more feminine but in the deep they are still programmed with the above priorities.
julka # 11. November 2008, 20:18
I don't need or want a man, who wants to take care of my basic needs, I can take care of my cave myself. I am not looking for strong man, I am looking for intelligent one. And even if my inteligent one begins to act like a "cave" man - I can hit him in the head with metal spoon and he suddenly remembers how to be a civilised person:)
LorenzoCelsi # 11. November 2008, 20:22
That is why I said "poor man".
julka # 11. November 2008, 20:25
LorenzoCelsi # 11. November 2008, 20:27
julka # 11. November 2008, 20:29
LorenzoCelsi # 11. November 2008, 20:32
julka # 11. November 2008, 20:35