**Looking at Your Values**
Monday, 8. December 2008, 12:47:08
**Looking at Your Values**
“It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” Roy Disney
Values are principles with intrinsic importance to you. Taking a look at what your values are is a good start toward answering the question, “Who am I now?” and “To what am I committed?”
For example, what did I value prior to 1980? My list included: not being yelled at, feeling and being safe, no one making me feel badly about myself, safety, no one making me feel afraid, safety, support, protecting and providing for my kids, tenderness toward me, being seen, being nurtured.
What do you notice? Most of my values were self-centered ones. I had lost my ability to see that I had something to contribute to the world except for the bare necessities of keeping it together for my children.
Write down your top 21 values as of this date.
A List Exercise
COMMON PERSONAL VALUES
Accuracy Accountability Accomplishment, Achievement, Success
Adventure All for one & one for all Aspiration
Beauty Calm, quietude, peace Challenge
Change Cleanliness, orderliness Collaboration
Commitment Communication Community
Competence Competition Concern for others
Content over form Continuous improvement Coordination, Integration,
Country, Patriotism Creativity Customer satisfaction
Decisiveness Delight of being, joy Democracy
Determination Discipline Discovery
Diversity Education, learning Equality
Efficiency Excellence Fairness
Faith Family Family feeling
Flair Freedom Friendship
Fun Generosity Global view
Goodness Gratitude Honor
Hard work Harmony, Oneness, Unity
Honesty Honor Inner peace, calm, quietude
Innovation Integrity Justice
Knowledge Leadership Loyalty
Love, Romance Maximum utilization (of time, resources)
Meaning Merit Mobility
Money Nationalism Openness
Non-violence Patriotism Peace
Perfection (e.g. of details of work) Persistence Personal Growth
Pioneer Spirit Pleasure Positive attitude
Power Practicality Preservation
Privacy Progress Prosperity, Wealth
Punctuality Purity Quality of work
Rationality Regularity Reliability
Resourcefulness Respect for the individual Results-oriented
Responsibility Responsiveness Risk (willing to take)
Rootedness Rule of Law Safety Satisfying others Security Self- givingness, Selflessness
Self-reliance Seriousness Service
(to others, society) Simplicity Sincerity
Skill Speed Spirit in life (using-)
Stability Standardization Status
Strength Style Systemization
Teamwork Timeliness Tolerance
Tradition Tranquility Truth
Trust Unity Variety
Well-being, Health Wisdom
IT’S EASY TO CONFUSE YOUR REAL VALUES WITH THOSE VALUES YOU THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE. TO GET PAST THAT BIT OF EGO-MIND, DO THE FOLLOWING
“It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” Roy Disney
Values are principles with intrinsic importance to you. Taking a look at what your values are is a good start toward answering the question, “Who am I now?” and “To what am I committed?”
For example, what did I value prior to 1980? My list included: not being yelled at, feeling and being safe, no one making me feel badly about myself, safety, no one making me feel afraid, safety, support, protecting and providing for my kids, tenderness toward me, being seen, being nurtured.
What do you notice? Most of my values were self-centered ones. I had lost my ability to see that I had something to contribute to the world except for the bare necessities of keeping it together for my children.
Write down your top 21 values as of this date.
A List Exercise
COMMON PERSONAL VALUES
Accuracy Accountability Accomplishment, Achievement, Success
Adventure All for one & one for all Aspiration
Beauty Calm, quietude, peace Challenge
Change Cleanliness, orderliness Collaboration
Commitment Communication Community
Competence Competition Concern for others
Content over form Continuous improvement Coordination, Integration,
Country, Patriotism Creativity Customer satisfaction
Decisiveness Delight of being, joy Democracy
Determination Discipline Discovery
Diversity Education, learning Equality
Efficiency Excellence Fairness
Faith Family Family feeling
Flair Freedom Friendship
Fun Generosity Global view
Goodness Gratitude Honor
Hard work Harmony, Oneness, Unity
Honesty Honor Inner peace, calm, quietude
Innovation Integrity Justice
Knowledge Leadership Loyalty
Love, Romance Maximum utilization (of time, resources)
Meaning Merit Mobility
Money Nationalism Openness
Non-violence Patriotism Peace
Perfection (e.g. of details of work) Persistence Personal Growth
Pioneer Spirit Pleasure Positive attitude
Power Practicality Preservation
Privacy Progress Prosperity, Wealth
Punctuality Purity Quality of work
Rationality Regularity Reliability
Resourcefulness Respect for the individual Results-oriented
Responsibility Responsiveness Risk (willing to take)
Rootedness Rule of Law Safety Satisfying others Security Self- givingness, Selflessness
Self-reliance Seriousness Service
(to others, society) Simplicity Sincerity
Skill Speed Spirit in life (using-)
Stability Standardization Status
Strength Style Systemization
Teamwork Timeliness Tolerance
Tradition Tranquility Truth
Trust Unity Variety
Well-being, Health Wisdom
IT’S EASY TO CONFUSE YOUR REAL VALUES WITH THOSE VALUES YOU THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE. TO GET PAST THAT BIT OF EGO-MIND, DO THE FOLLOWING
WIDGETIZE