My OperaThe Robbers
Wednesday, February 1, 2012 3:24:23 AM
My parents are Egyptian Jews with deep seated cultural values and practices. I'm the youngest in the family who decided to make an appearance 13 years after my brother and 15 years after my sister. I was the pleasant surprise. Between the food and the guilt, and the extremely over protective parenting approach, you can easily think of the loving cocoon in which I was enveloped as a child. While I grew up thinking that I was everyone’s favorite, I instinctively knew that given the big generational gap with my parents and the cultural difference, I had to move away from the nest as a way to keep a tight relationship.
Now I live in Toronto, and they live in Montreal however the long distance doesn't affect our communication. I'm very close with them. I speak to them nearly every day on the phone and visit them several times a year. Having not visited Toronto in more than 2 years, they made a decision to come for a visit to make certain my life was in order.
That’s when my mother told me about the robbers:
"Do not leave the door unlocked when you're inside the house, there are robbers.”
“Lock the doors in your car, and don’t leave your handbag in the back seat, a robber can open the door while you're at a red light and steal it.”
“Don’t open your sunroof. A robber can jump in over the top and attack you.”
“Zip up your purse and keep it on your lap when you go to the washroom in a public place because a robber can reach above the door and grab it if it is clinging on the back of the door.”
So evidently my mother is scared of robbers. She means well and she is unquestioningly trying to protect me from the evils of the world. It is absolutely a sign of love but…
WHERE EXACTLY ARE ALL THESE ROBBERS???
My mother looks for them. And guess what? She finds them - in newspapers, on T.V., on the radio, in conversations with her friends, in conversations she overhears, and even in her dreams. She expects to find them and she does indeed. That is her reality. It’s what she focuses on.
Your world is composed of what you focus on and your ‘reality’ is a function of what you expect. If you anticipate bad things occurring, they do. If you look for drama, chaos, and volatility, it really appears. Even when you do not look for it, but wish it were gone, you are still focusing on that exact thing and so it remains to be a factor in your world and it usually grows. If you focus on what is lacking in your life, like money for instance, you obtain more of what’s missing - no money. If you focus on the fact that you are overweight, you stay that way – overweight.
Just imagine enjoying all that energy focused on the things you want, like generating wealth, wellness, and happiness, and imagine expecting it to come your way. The probability of it appearing is significantly magnified when you can visualize it and almost feel actually having it. The more you can see, taste, smell, touch, and emotionally experience what it is like to get what you desire, the closer you are to achieving it. The truth is, it starts to head your way.
The most incredible thing is that you can decide on what you like to focus on each day. Just like brushing your teeth in the morning, it can become a habit to wake up in the morning and choose the thoughts that you'll focus on for the entire day. Thoughts that bring you closer to the things which really matter in your life. Good thoughts, happy thoughts, thoughts of gratitude, excitement, expectation, love.
It’s really all about your Frame of Mind. What thoughts will you choose for today?
Kim Ades, MBA, President of Frame of Mind Coaching, is one of North America’s foremost experts on performance through thought management. By using her unique process of coaching through journaling, she works with clients to unveil and switch their thought patterns to ignite significant change and life transformation. She is now teaching this process to coaches all over the world for use with their clients. Visit www.frameofmindcoaching to sign up for your own free, secure, online journal.
Now I live in Toronto, and they live in Montreal however the long distance doesn't affect our communication. I'm very close with them. I speak to them nearly every day on the phone and visit them several times a year. Having not visited Toronto in more than 2 years, they made a decision to come for a visit to make certain my life was in order.
That’s when my mother told me about the robbers:
"Do not leave the door unlocked when you're inside the house, there are robbers.”
“Lock the doors in your car, and don’t leave your handbag in the back seat, a robber can open the door while you're at a red light and steal it.”
“Don’t open your sunroof. A robber can jump in over the top and attack you.”
“Zip up your purse and keep it on your lap when you go to the washroom in a public place because a robber can reach above the door and grab it if it is clinging on the back of the door.”
So evidently my mother is scared of robbers. She means well and she is unquestioningly trying to protect me from the evils of the world. It is absolutely a sign of love but…
WHERE EXACTLY ARE ALL THESE ROBBERS???
My mother looks for them. And guess what? She finds them - in newspapers, on T.V., on the radio, in conversations with her friends, in conversations she overhears, and even in her dreams. She expects to find them and she does indeed. That is her reality. It’s what she focuses on.
Your world is composed of what you focus on and your ‘reality’ is a function of what you expect. If you anticipate bad things occurring, they do. If you look for drama, chaos, and volatility, it really appears. Even when you do not look for it, but wish it were gone, you are still focusing on that exact thing and so it remains to be a factor in your world and it usually grows. If you focus on what is lacking in your life, like money for instance, you obtain more of what’s missing - no money. If you focus on the fact that you are overweight, you stay that way – overweight.
Just imagine enjoying all that energy focused on the things you want, like generating wealth, wellness, and happiness, and imagine expecting it to come your way. The probability of it appearing is significantly magnified when you can visualize it and almost feel actually having it. The more you can see, taste, smell, touch, and emotionally experience what it is like to get what you desire, the closer you are to achieving it. The truth is, it starts to head your way.
The most incredible thing is that you can decide on what you like to focus on each day. Just like brushing your teeth in the morning, it can become a habit to wake up in the morning and choose the thoughts that you'll focus on for the entire day. Thoughts that bring you closer to the things which really matter in your life. Good thoughts, happy thoughts, thoughts of gratitude, excitement, expectation, love.
It’s really all about your Frame of Mind. What thoughts will you choose for today?
Kim Ades, MBA, President of Frame of Mind Coaching, is one of North America’s foremost experts on performance through thought management. By using her unique process of coaching through journaling, she works with clients to unveil and switch their thought patterns to ignite significant change and life transformation. She is now teaching this process to coaches all over the world for use with their clients. Visit www.frameofmindcoaching to sign up for your own free, secure, online journal.
Abi$hekthedancingidiot # Monday, February 13, 2012 4:04:40 PM