My OperaThe Pink Slip…
Friday, February 10, 2012 4:31:35 PM
What would happen at work if…
1. You often showed up late.
2. You consistently put your responsibilities off.
3. You ignored your most important tasks simply because you attempted to accomplish everything on your own.
If you committed these infractions at work, your employer would definitely have cause for termination.
During my coaching sessions I usually ask the question; what is your responsibility?
In most cases, women answer the question with a never ending list, citing the numerable details, commitments, problems, schedules and bits and pieces that they're responsible for doing for their kids, partners, parents, friends, organizations, and nowhere in the list do I hear about how they care for themselves. Nowhere - it is astounding. If you abdicated all your obligations at work you'd be dismissed, and yet, again and again women place themselves last on the ‘to do’ list, neglecting to take care of their personal business at hand. Why is it tolerable to do this in your life? This is grounds for the pink slip.
Your number one responsibility is to look after yourself. The more that you put your own personal needs aside to take of everyone else’s, not only do you erode your self confidence, but you carefully deprive yourself of the possibilities to attain your potential and to enjoy the things that are very important for you. In essence, while you think you are creating happiness by taking good care of everything for everyone, you are allowing huge feelings of worthlessness and unhappiness into your own life. When your wants and needs are always in last place, when there never seems to be enough hours in the day, when you are micromanaging everybody’s lives, seriously you aren't managing your life in an appropriate manor at all. It is not effective at all, not even for the people whose lives you think you are supporting.
What does this have to do with sales relationships? Everything. Your primary responsibility in your life is to look after yourself first. By this, your relationships will prosper and become abundant rather than complicated and diminished. Whenever you put yourself in a position of priority, you are obviously making a statement that you've got value and worth. And that's really attractive, and it is human nature to be drawn to success.
Kim Ades, MBA, President of Frame of Mind Coaching, is one of North America’s foremost experts on performance through thought management. By using her unique process of coaching through journaling, she works with clients to unveil and switch their thought patterns to ignite significant change and life transformation. She is now teaching this process to coaches all over the world for use with their clients. Visit www.frameofmindcoaching to sign up for your own free, secure, online journal.
1. You often showed up late.
2. You consistently put your responsibilities off.
3. You ignored your most important tasks simply because you attempted to accomplish everything on your own.
If you committed these infractions at work, your employer would definitely have cause for termination.
During my coaching sessions I usually ask the question; what is your responsibility?
In most cases, women answer the question with a never ending list, citing the numerable details, commitments, problems, schedules and bits and pieces that they're responsible for doing for their kids, partners, parents, friends, organizations, and nowhere in the list do I hear about how they care for themselves. Nowhere - it is astounding. If you abdicated all your obligations at work you'd be dismissed, and yet, again and again women place themselves last on the ‘to do’ list, neglecting to take care of their personal business at hand. Why is it tolerable to do this in your life? This is grounds for the pink slip.
Your number one responsibility is to look after yourself. The more that you put your own personal needs aside to take of everyone else’s, not only do you erode your self confidence, but you carefully deprive yourself of the possibilities to attain your potential and to enjoy the things that are very important for you. In essence, while you think you are creating happiness by taking good care of everything for everyone, you are allowing huge feelings of worthlessness and unhappiness into your own life. When your wants and needs are always in last place, when there never seems to be enough hours in the day, when you are micromanaging everybody’s lives, seriously you aren't managing your life in an appropriate manor at all. It is not effective at all, not even for the people whose lives you think you are supporting.
What does this have to do with sales relationships? Everything. Your primary responsibility in your life is to look after yourself first. By this, your relationships will prosper and become abundant rather than complicated and diminished. Whenever you put yourself in a position of priority, you are obviously making a statement that you've got value and worth. And that's really attractive, and it is human nature to be drawn to success.
Kim Ades, MBA, President of Frame of Mind Coaching, is one of North America’s foremost experts on performance through thought management. By using her unique process of coaching through journaling, she works with clients to unveil and switch their thought patterns to ignite significant change and life transformation. She is now teaching this process to coaches all over the world for use with their clients. Visit www.frameofmindcoaching to sign up for your own free, secure, online journal.
