Kazuki's diary

Justification

Justification prolongs negative emotions. When you justify, you want to assure yourself and others that you have the right to have negative emotions.


For example, people often say things like this when they are trying to justify themselves:

I have a right to feel this way.

The reason I feel this way is because..

You'd feel this way if you were in my shoes.

I've been wronged.

I warned him."

I knew this would happen.

Solution:

Take control of your mind. A negative emotion will fizzle out if left alone. You can do this by:

• Refusing to feel entitled to have negative feelings about a situation.
• Refusing to be judgmental about the person involved.
• Excusing or forgiving the behavior of the person involved.
• Saying things such as:

"God bless (the person or situation)." Find compassion in your heart for the person, rather than make them wrong.

"I am responsible." Ask yourself what you did to cause the situation, and how will this person or situation benefit me? Then recall times when you done the same thing the other person has done. For example, if the person was rude to you, recall a time when you were rude to someone else. By seeing yourself in the person you are upset with, it is easier to feel less righteous and have more compassion and empathy for the person.

"I like myself." Saying this puts you back in relationship with you. Too often we are hardest on ourselves, and our own worst critic. Saying, "I like myself", reminds us to be kind to ourselves, as well as others.

Robert Kiyosaki
To be continue..