My OperaThe show must go on
Tuesday, November 9, 2010 8:57:36 PM
Lately, or shall I say over the past few months, I have noticed the group of people that I hang out with has become more and more exclusionary. In fact, it's gotten to the point of my questioning whether I am in a group of 40 year old + adults or a group of teenagers. And it's the women that seem to be the worst offenders.
Let me give you a bit of background: I work in a field where I am oncall quite a bit and my work happens at all hours of the day and night when I am oncall. Also, some of the deadspots in our location disallow me from attending coffee or meetings due to being out of pager range. this means that out of 4 meetings or gatherings a month, I might be able to attend 2. Lately there was an invitation that went out to the group as a whole (minus me). When I commented about it, the response I got was: "well, you work so much that I knew you weren't going to make it anyways so whats the big deal? And you wouldn't be interested if I did email you."
The point being: firstly, that I wasn't oncall that night and I would have been able to make it. Secondly, how hard is it to just send out a mass email to all the addresses and let the recipient decide. Thirdly, I have discovered that this same woman did this a number of times to other members of the 'group' a while ago and that eventually she made these targets feel so uncomfortable that they just stopped coming out.
WTH? Where do grown women get off acting like 2bit school bullies? Should I take exception to this treatment or just tell her that she's a 2 faced *itch, or just ignore the thing unless she does it to someone else? (and considering this seems to be the method of operation of this woman I am sure it won't take too long before she does try it on someone else)
Let me give you a bit of background: I work in a field where I am oncall quite a bit and my work happens at all hours of the day and night when I am oncall. Also, some of the deadspots in our location disallow me from attending coffee or meetings due to being out of pager range. this means that out of 4 meetings or gatherings a month, I might be able to attend 2. Lately there was an invitation that went out to the group as a whole (minus me). When I commented about it, the response I got was: "well, you work so much that I knew you weren't going to make it anyways so whats the big deal? And you wouldn't be interested if I did email you."
The point being: firstly, that I wasn't oncall that night and I would have been able to make it. Secondly, how hard is it to just send out a mass email to all the addresses and let the recipient decide. Thirdly, I have discovered that this same woman did this a number of times to other members of the 'group' a while ago and that eventually she made these targets feel so uncomfortable that they just stopped coming out.
WTH? Where do grown women get off acting like 2bit school bullies? Should I take exception to this treatment or just tell her that she's a 2 faced *itch, or just ignore the thing unless she does it to someone else? (and considering this seems to be the method of operation of this woman I am sure it won't take too long before she does try it on someone else)
